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Invest all of it and get an education and career. Then when the investments turn around, cash them out and re-invest. Do this a few times and by the time you're 35 you'll be rich as shit and can stop working and deal with investments full time, maybe start a business.

you're a woman, you're going to waste all of it anyway

>>17740569

For one, we don't kow how much eh left you so a "good" amount of money doesn't mean jack shit.

First, just pay off your loans and debts with it and then worry about luxuries after.

For a car, buy a nice used one. /o/ is really helpfun in this aspect, go look at their sticky. If you buy the car from an individual ALWAYS get it inspected by an auto shop before you seal the contract. New cars are overrated and are a luxury. Just get yourself a car that can get you from Point A to Point B without it breaking down or costing thousands in maintenance.

After you pay off your debts and get a good car, you could always look up things such as investments, daytrading and whatnot and see if that fancies you. You could also start a small business as well after looking at that too, or use the money to get certifications if you want to be a trainer/teacher/coach, etc.

But the most important thing before you do anything is to become debt free. It takes a lot of pressure off of yourself.

You have major depression. Depression isn't "boo hoo im really sad :(" all the time. It's much more often a complete disinterest in everything and a lack of feeling.
Go see a therapist.

>>17740540
Yeah, I actually had two sessions in last two months. We tried two medications, neither helped. Next session is friday.

OP, do you have a job right now? Or are you producing something you want in your life? Sometimes you are missing the feeling of accomplish something or to contribute for something and it is totally understandable.

You don't. Life is not an anime. You like a girl, you ask her out.

>>17740348
I've been out with her but it wasn't a date, what to do to enter a relationship?

>>17740348
bump

>>17740312
OP, maybe you should go on a diet?

I know this isn't helping much, but it's about the only way I can contribute. Try other positions, too, like doggy. Could work better.

>>17740312
Maybe do doggy style and suck on your own tits

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I'm about the same size, although I was mostly muscle until I got older, and have a gut now. My wife is even smaller than your gf.

The pillow thing helps. Periodically getting up on your knees, straightening her legs out and putting her feet close to your shoulders helps, too. You can return to missionary without too much interruption after a minute or two, and she should be good for a few minutes too that way.

My wife and I both practice stretching- she does yoga a bit, and I have shoulder and back issues (I'm in my 40's), and we both do some exercises specifically to keep sex fun for both of us. Her hips cramp and my back gets sore if we don't stretch, and that interferes with sex.
If you've got a gut or need to up your muscle tone more, go walking and do low-impact stuff together. Any change is positive.

>>17740290
I mean if you want to try it. But you could always just become a kinky ass dom and pin her next time she asks

>>17740290
You are basically me. I've been with my girlfriend for 8 years and still wouldn't let her do this. There is only one good reason to allow it, but too many potential risks that you listed.

Only do it if you get to bring 1 more female then

>Text a girl I know that recently broke up with her BF
>Gymnastics instructor, cute, bubbly
>Totally out of my league
>Actually agrees to go on a date with me
>I have absolutely no fucking clue what to do, I've never gone on a date
>Bring her to a fairly nice restaurant, we eat, people watch, it's kind of awkward as we never struck up real conversation
>What do you wanna do now anon?
>Can't bring her home because I still lived with my mom, would be fuckin weird
>Didn't think this far ahead
>We sit around in a parking lot, she's obviously very bored, I want to offer to just bring her home
>Suggest a movie instead
>We go see After Earth (god why)
>For some unfathomably reason I ask if she's paying for her own ticket
>Joke about how the movie was bad and drive her home immediately
>Don't speak to her again for four months
Only date I've ever been on. Huge reason I'm terrified to ask girls out is because I know it's going to be a repeat of that.

>>17740266
The trick anon is to not be scared of silence or awkwardness. Be confident in being able to laugh off awkwardness or things not going to plan.

(I cheat on my girlfriend. Get over it.)

>Be 26
>Meet 21 year old on Tinder
>Talk for a couple days, she sends me nudes
>She lives 30 minutes from my city, but she'll be near my school for a doctors appointment
>Ask if she'd like to meet at the mall right near my school. She does.
>I drop my girlfriend off for class, and rush over there
>I'm standing inside the mall, telling Tindergirl where I am
>she says she drove by and didn't see me
>I say I promise I'm here
>She says she is going to leave
>I say if she came all this way it would be a waste not to see eachother
>She says she doesn't believe I'm really here
>I send her a picture of me outside the mall, where I said to meet
>Then I see a girl sitting on her car in the parking lot
>I ask her if she is still here
>she says yes
>I ask if she is wearing a pink hoodie
>She says "It is a spirit hoodie, but yes thats me."
>I ask if she wants me to come say hi or if she wants to come inside the mall with me
>She says she doesn't know
>we text for like 15 minutes, while knowing very well the other is like a 30 second walk away
>I'm starting to get wierded out, thinking I should just leave. This is one of the weirdest meet ups I've ever had.
>I ask if she is nervous, she says yes
>I say "I'm nervous too." she says "nervous your girlfriend is going to find out?" touche, but I don't respond to that, just ask if she wants me to walk to her and say hi.
>she says its up to me
>in my head I'm like fuck this. I'm going back to the campus.
>as I'm walking to my car I take a second look at her and my dick gets a little hard so I'm like fuck it, pussy is pussy, right?
>we just chat in the parking lot. For the first five minutes she just stares at me blankly (even though she is wearing sun glasses) and making nervous gestures with her mouth
>I keep askign if she wants to go inside, she keeps saying "I'm fine out here."

Continues in the next post, if anyone cares.

>>17740015

also ITT: discuss or recommend other books

-I've been reading lots of Vonnegut like the good millennial I am
-Slaughterhouse Five and Cat's Craddle were both good but I couldn't get into Mother Night
-I think the book I've enjoyed the most in the past year would be the Virgin Suicides or American Psycho

>>17740015
Be courteous of others even when they show you disdain. You'll find that he makes a compelling case to be a genuine person, rather than to use subterfuge as the title would leave you to believe.

>>17740030
Worth reading or no? I've heard differing opinions. It's difficult for me to get into self-help books, but this one is so overwhelmingly recommended it's hard to ignore.

>>17739924
You have to be 18 or above to post on ths site.

>>17739927
Im 18, ive never been caught masturbating before. What should i do

Not care, she knows you do and she is probably as embarassed as you are.
Move on and don't lie about yoru age anymore.

>>17739852
You don't convince; you ask. If he says no you break up. Simple.
Leave if you're wanting sex and find it to be an important part of the relationship but he doesn't. There's no point in dragging it out just because you enjoy the emotional stability he provides you.
Or, ask actually. It will ruin the relationship. Post results.

>>17739852
He's already fucking someone else or you are just a substitute for some unattainable girl, trust me, been there, done that. It's already half open.

>>17739852
End it. Those never work out

>>17739628
christianity, no pocket money, home tutoring, no internet connection or a proxy

No Feminism.
No SJWism.
Teachings of values, respect, integrity, and kindness.
Self Defense classes.
A good education.

But most of all - being there for her.

>>17739628

Wasted effort IMO.

You'll just end up turning douchebags, your creepy friend who likes younger girls, and wife-beaters into forbidden fruit.
She won't be able to resist the temptation, and shit, the more you're against it the more she see's it as an "us against the world" romantic load of bollocks.

And if you don't do anything, it's likely all that shit will still happen because cultural and biological influences.

The best solution I can offer is to simply not care for her. Harsh as it sounds, you can still be a good dad; taking her places, getting her into hobbies, raising her as right as you can.
Just don't get too attached. Care too much, and when she hurts, you'll hurt. As she'll probably knowingly hurt herself alot, you'll get hurt alot too. Just how it is.

He's black, huh? No wonder he likes thicc girls

>>17738507
Are you white?

>>17738692
Yea, I'm white, he's black

>>17741530
I dunno, but you don't need actual evidence to diagnose yourself with conditions. Do it anyway, and then start a tumblr blog about it.

Though it might be easier to diagnose yourself with something that doesn't manifest physically, it'll be harder for people to call you out on your bullshit excuse that way.

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"There is no one test to diagnose FAS."

"Abnormal facial features," "Growth problems," "Central nervous system problems."
"Confirmed alcohol use during pregnancy can strengthen the case for FAS diagnosis."

http://www.cdc.gov/ncbddd/fasd/diagnosis.html

I have no way to get to a doctor for a proper diagnosis because my family doesn't care.
I'm looking for advice on how to obtain disability.

What color is it? If it's bright red and looks fresh, it's probably just hemorrhoids. If it's dark, you might have some intestinal issue.

bloody sharpie

you know where

Most likely hemorrhoids or a fissure.
See a doctor if it's persistent, both typically go away eventually, but if you're really prone to them like me it can seem constant.

Continued.

Aside from suggesting things to do, I used to do cute things for them.

I would buy them little snacks that they liked and write little notes for them before work, and before we lived together I would make their bed or whatever. Little things.

I put in an effort.

I since then stopped doing those things to see if they would start putting in effort.

Nothing.

I tried talking to them about it. Said how I didn't feel appreciated or special to them. They turned it against me saying I didn't notice anything they did.

Made it seem like I was attacking them. They weren't good enough.

So I stopped. Didn't go any further with that.

Nothing has changed since then. We play video games together and watch shows but we never go out and do anything.

I don't /want/ to be the only one trying to make an effort.

The other day I was upset about something unrelated that my SO did, and they suggested we go out to eat.

Because I was mad. The time they suggest things is when they feel they need to. Not because they want to.

Tried bringing it up again today. Same thing happened, less hostile, but it didn't get anywhere.

So basically I go to work, cook, clean, come home and spend time with my SO.

On weekend they do their thing for a day, then spend time with me.

My time on the weekend involves cooking, cleaning, playing video games, and reading. Just being bored.

>get hobbies
>have a separate life

I get that. I really do. I'm getting a nice camera for christmas to try and pick up photography. Going hiking places and taking nice pictures that I like. I also though about getting a dog for companionship. Taking them hiking with me.

But I want to have fun with my SO too. I want to feel like we're still dating.

Basically I'm just looking to see if my thoughts are justified. Maybe some advice other than getting hobbies or getting new friends.

TLDR to come next

Get a hobby or something, go to a gym maybe? You can bond with people there, and even if you don't I find it works wonders taking your mind off things.

>>17741517
The only thing I can suggest for your SO is play a little hard to get, distance yourself ever so slightly and see if they fill the gap. Either that or suggest spreading out the house chores between the two of you if you feel overworked.

>>17741468
They are all fake as fuck circle jerking 100% of the time and constantly on their phones since they are addicted to ego and social media.

common insterests

You'd probably consider me to be a 'normie' but I've never understood how large friend groups work either. Every largeish friend group I've been part of has been an amalgam of several smaller ones.

As for finding things in common, you just do. You generally have a lot more in common with someone than things you don't