Before becoming an hero, what would you use your money on?
>>17736601
(800) 273-8255.
>>17736601
Professional help.
>>17736613
What about the rest of your money?
I've been home schooled all my life, but for my final year of high school I decided to go to an ACTUAL SCHOOL. I'm a total nerd.. so I joined the "electronics" club. Which is exactly what you'd think it is. Pretty much /g/ irl. I'm the only girl in the club, and I'm getting harassed like everyday because all the other girls think I'm doing it for attention, when really all I'm doing is trying to make some fucking friends.
So like are you gonna ask for some advice or somthing because that's what this board is for OP?
To be honest, I can't really speak to this from any personal experience.
I'm a guy.
I was shy and anti-social growing up (I had crazy social anxiety desu)
I've never been bullied (I was small, unassuming, but also had about a decade of martial arts in me, looked serious as fuck,and would practice forms during lunch breaks and shit... <.<)
I've never given any fucks about being popular. and I kept to exactly 5 friends that i'd known since middle school.
But my girlfriend was in pretty much your exact scenario, except she joined her sophomore year... She doesn't remember those years fondly, AT ALL.
From my own experiences, as someone who broke out of his shell I can only tell you that, if you go to university, things will be fairly different. You can rebuild yourself anew without all the dumb cliques, because that doesn't matter as much when there are literally tens, if not hundreds of thousands of other students around you.
From her experiences, I can tell you that, it might suck, and it might be tough, but those girls don't really matter. Don't let it get you down, don't feed in to their stupid games. In a few years you'll look back and realize how childish it all was.
Do shit for your own self, and fuck what other people think.
And as a last resort... I honestly have no idea if this is a good idea a lot of times if you make things real for people, they'll realize for themselves what's what.
Something like a simple and calm, "Honestly, this is my first time in high school, I know no one, and I have no friends. I'm just want to make some and not be alone." might be sobering as fuck and get them to step off. Or it might do the exact opposite... No fucking idea though (MASSIVE grain of salt here...once again, I'm a dude, and I've got easily a decade on you, no idea how high school girls think).
Keep on keeping on though. If there's anything I've learned in life, is that if you keep trying and keep pushing, maybe not now, but in the long run, you're better off
>>17736599
Well they're bullying you to make more friends so fuck them.
Girlfriend wants to stop having sex and become closer with God. I think all organized religion is complete bullshit and thoroughly enjoy fucking. She also wants to move in with me but my homeboy and my bro wants me to move in with them in Austin Tx so we can further our careers in music. Should i dump her and move to Austin?
>>17736589
Both ideas are retarded OP.
>>17736589
Point out to her that David had over a thousand wives, lovers and concubines and still was God's favorite.
And don't be a fag, faggot
>>17736592
So youre saying i should kill myself?
Whenever I meet a woman I immediately begin fantasizing about dating and falling in love with her. I'm 28 and it hasn't stopped. It's been this way since I was a kid.
Most recently I've "fallen" for a friend's apartmentmate. She's cute, has similar taste in literature, is an old school feminist like myself, not a SJW tumblr idiot, but we've only hung out a few times. It feels strained because I don't want to approach her because if it didn't work out it would be awkward between myself and my other friends that live in the apartment.
On top of that I may bump into another woman in a few days and "fall in love" with her too.
I want to be a strict monogamist, but this mental problem kills my chances.
stop identifying as a feminist first of all, makes you sound like a fag
>>17736571
I apologize that my politics scare you. Please forgive me for unsettling your testosterone levels. They'll return to their normal levels as soon as you leave the thread.
>>17736562
As someone who has female friends he thinks of as little sisters (, who's best friend is a lesbian (she's not hyper in to feminism though her girlfriend is), who's girlfriend is a feminist, and who been called the "most effeminately masculine guy ever", as crass and misguided as he's being, there's probably a grain of truth in what he's saying.
I have a feeling the root problem with why you keep going through these things is because you're--as they say--putting pussy on a pedestal.
I think you've got a little "white guilt" syndrome going on combined with inexperience, and it's making you not see women as normal, everyday people, and instead as objects worthy of veneration and fantasy.
Women are regular people too, they're ever bit as fucked up as men are, and basically no different.
Stop drawing lines in concrete sand and stop living in a fantasy world and go see that for yourself.
TL;DR I cheated while in a committed relationship that has been on the decline, where do I go from here?
I've been with my current partner for roughly a year and three months, but recently things have been shitty. For school and work-related reasons we barely see each other anymore, which makes maintaining the relationship difficult for both of us. We've fought dozens of times as a result, once or twice to the brink of ending things, but we've always come back and reconciled with one another. Still, I haven't felt "right" about things for the last month or so.
In the last week, I've been talking to a friend (whom my partner doesn't know about) in a way I haven't before, and tonight it culminated in us making out on her couch for a while. I feel like absolute shit because I've been trying to mend things with someone I'm still in love with, but my basic instincts are telling me that what I did was going to happen no matter what I do to try and save my relationship.
I can't tell my partner about this because it will destroy her and ruin any chance of us permanently fixing things, but I don't know how long I can keep going on knowing that I've done this. I really fucked up and I don't know what steps I need to take from here on out. What do I do now?
Already cheated. Its over. Might as well cheat More until your partner finds out
>>17736552
Part of the problem is that my partner has gotten absurdly close to my "close" group of friends, and if they find out I cheated on her, I could lose all of my friends as a result, no matter how I spin it. It's fucked.
>>17736554
I've been in a similar situation. I'm gonna go out on a limb here and say that your "close friends" are only closer with her now because of her vagina, though it may not be the case with all of them.
It's fucked with your girlfriend, honestly. The best long-term choice is to just own up to what happened, break the relationship yourself on this fact, any """friends""" of yours that can't deal with you making a mistake are better left behind.
is there really a point in trying in todays world if you were not born alpha?
>While some women only use Tinder to seek long-term relationships, the truth is that many of us are actively trying to find no-strings attached sex and even more are at least open to the possibility of it on an initial meeting. It is understandably non-negotiable for many women that this meeting take place in public because the law does not look kindly on us if we are assaulted after showing up at a new man’s home nor is it any kinder to women who welcome new men into theirs. I am one of many women who has upgraded these initial encounters into sex and have grown increasingly skilled at selecting for only the most exceptional sex with every swipe.
>Dick is abundant and low value.
https://medium.com/matter/the-dickonomics-of-tinder-b14956c0c2c7#.cfyl2dadh
It seems that less men is having sex most of the women
And womens STD rates are rising. So a few alphas are having sex with all the women.
Whats the point?
http://www.independent.co.uk/news/science/sex-millennials-study-young-people-turning-back-on-sexual-intercourse-in-record-numbers-a7167946.html
if you're buying into that alpha bs, you've already lost. Grow up
>>17736489
The kind of women you're describing shouldn't be the ones you're seeking for a relationship anyway. So not being "alpha" shouldn't really impact your ability to have a relationship, it might affect your success rate with hookup apps like tinder, but who cares about that.
>>17736501
Opposes the natural order of feminism!
Dick is abundant and low value.
As the title of this says, one of my best friends hung himself yesterday morning at 22 years old. I don't think I'm going to ever forget the day this happened or the phone call I got from another friend when I heard the news. I knew him for 6-7+ years, lived with him, travelled with him. Always hung out with him. Here's the problem..
After I got the phone call with the news, I told her I'm on my way over to come see the friends group be with everyone. It's been about 36 hours since I found out, I haven't cried yet - although I've come rather close, lost my temper, broken down, nothing. Each person I know has cried, even my friends I haven't seen cry in years. Everyone is mourning and grieving his loss and I can't stand to be around it; not that I can't handle it... but it for some reason erks me.
I don't know what the fuck is wrong with me, it's like my mind won't accept it. I want to cry, and breakdown, and fucking snap. But it won't fucking happen. I want to grieve, but it just can't let myself and I don't know what the hell to do. I had an older friend that i grew distant with that hung himself 3 months ago, and balled my eyes out at the funeral. It's just like this time, I'm keeping myself from feeling anything. Like it never happened, and I feel emotionally numb. All that happens now is I've been getting really bad headaches, if I'm reading my mind will imagine how his mother found him and I just get depressed, last night was all nightmares, and I'm so tense I physically hurt.
Honestly, I don't know what to do. I just want to breakdown, but even writing this
It's shock, may be?
How close were you two?
I mean, the fact that you're almost crying is one thing -- it's just you're holding it in for whatever reason. You'll let it out, believe me -- nothing's wrong with you. There will be a day, some day, when there'lll be some sort of trigger that make you bawl. You're not some aspergers or sociopath, don't worry.
>>17736478
It's still very raw, give yourself time alone to reflect on things and think of the good times you two shared. It's not as if crying is something that needs to occur for the grieving process but you should still come to terms with things in whatever way you can.
Just try to remember your friend and what he brought to your life, what kind of person he was, maybe do something in tribute to him like get his favourite food to eat or play one of his favourite games etc.
cying is not mandatory dude
maybe you are on help others through it mode or on first take care of bussines mode
ive seen people who saw war and didnt cry for 20 years. but the tears came evebtually
How do you write a good suicide note? What is important to remember?
How do you prevent other people from feeling responsible and how do you make them just move on as fast as possible instead of futilely dwelling on the past?
Please don't derail.
>>17736417
Do you have a will?
>>17736421
Yes. I pretty much only own money and it's divided evenly among my siblings.
>>17736417
Give it a positive tone with humour. Also why do you want to pull a hero?
>How do you prevent other people from feeling responsible
Point out how it was totally your decision on reasons absolutely not related to them and that there was nothing they could do to prevent it, etc, etc
So I decided to room with a pretty good acquaintance of mine this year who had hung out with a bit before and figured was a cool person
turns out he has a few annoying quirks but I'm sure I do as well so who cares, the main thing is his lack of motivation when it comes to solving personal problems
an overview:
so I'm usually pretty good at going to sleep in adverse situations so long as someone isn't actively trying to keep me awake. However, my roommate is a pretty avid league of legends player, and I used to be too so I'm not really too mad about it, but he also has a habit of skyping his friends during games even though he knows I'm trying to sleep during. This part kind of really bothers me since when I played I would always try to be quiet or just type as to not disturb my roommates. Perhaps this is my fault for expecting others to be as considerate as I am? In addition recently he's been refusing to turn the room light off during this since he would be planning to do homework afterwards (even if its 2am and he should have been doing this before marathoning league games)
Every now and then he would bend and turn it off and I'd be able to somewhat sleep with the cocaphony of clicks but last week he flat out refused. The reason? His desk lamp was flickering every few minutes. Pretty fair, and he was fairly frustrated about putting in a work order (at my suggestion admittedly) at the start of the semester and it being little more than a temporary solution. So I suggested he put in another one and bring up that they did a poor job last time.
His response?
"Why? They didn't do it correctly before so why waste my time?" This process takes under 30 seconds and when I told him this "Then why don't you do it if it bothers you so much?"
I pointed out the flaw in this logic and how he was assuming that there would be a uniformly zero chance at success no matter how he informed them of the issue or their previous failure. He did not budge. He continued to play league deep into the night while I tried to sleep for a very early class I had.
The only solution I could think of short of being physical was to return the favor, so one day I got up at 5am while he was still sleeping, turned on the light, turned on my very loud fan, and played music from my laptop. He questioned why and I gave flat nonchalant answers just as he did. He was fairly annoyed but later on the day he seemed to have gotten the point I was making
Nope. Today when he was mentioning that he wanted to turn off the light to go to sleep, I obliged and turned on my desk light and he made the snarky comment "well its a good thing your desk lamp works" to which I replied that he could simply fill out a work request again since that has a better chance of solving it than nothing. He got very indignant and when I pointed out why this was silly he went "Well if it bothers you so much why don't you do it?" So, I heavily implied that I would do the same thing I did the other morning should his habits interfere with mine again he got pretty miffed about it and tried to go to sleep. Then he commented on me needing to get closed ear headphones and I bent the argument around on him suggesting that he should buy me them if they bother him that much. He called me a dick and refused to see the analogy I was making.
I've been getting really shitty sleep for the last 2 weeks up until Thursday and struggling to find the reason why so the potential that it was his fuckery behind it all is making me really indiferrent to his feelings, but am I actually being an ass? I don't know how else to resolve this.
Do you guys not have private rooms and you're just in a big loft type area?
That sounds terrible either way. Having a roommate always ends badly from my experience. Nothing is worse than having your sleep fucked with.
I can't do my customer service job anymore. I had to explain someone that ice turns into water when he asked for water and I pointed out an ice machine.
I need something I can do alone, preferably at home and self-employed. I'm not an artist or coder unfortunately. I can however build computers, edit video, write, and am a quick learner. I'm desperate to find something I don't dread.
I'm an autistic INTJ and even with disability, I only make $1200 a month. I'm in school if relevant; pic related is resume. This job is absolutely killing me mentally. Please help with suggestions, even if it's just telling me what you do for work and what you think about it. I'm super curious.
>>17736398
Maybe he wanted water, not ice. You know about physical states of matter, right anon? I don't think you're as intelligent as you believe.
I think your problem, the "dread" will almost certainly follow you (because of that autism) no matter what you do. Nearly everything has a human component.
Work toward some empathy.
>>17736398
>I had to explain someone that ice turns into water when he asked for water and I pointed out an ice machine.
Was this supposed to be a "can you believe that idiot?" remark? Because it just made you look like a stupid asshole.
I hope you get hit by a car, and you drag your mangled body to the emergency room and ask for help, and they tell you it's not worth their time because everyone dies one day anyway.
>>17736408
>Maybe he wanted water, not ice.
Maybe he could get some fucking ice and let it melt into water.
>You know about physical states of matter, right anon? I don't think you're as intelligent as you believe.
...What? I never said or implied that I think I'm hot shit.
>I think your problem, the "dread" will almost certainly follow you (because of that autism) no matter what you do.
It's wonderful to have someone here who knows me better than myself just from a eleven sentence post on an anonymous image board. You think I had dread before this job? No, I didn't.
>Work toward some empathy.
I'm too empathetic. I genuinely care about my guest's problems and it stresses me out. You know what I did for the ice man? I brought him two bottles of water and four extra paper cups, one with ice, to his room. So fuck off, retard.
TL;DR i have an insanely huge crush on a friend of mine. I have absolutely no idea what to do. Thing is though, i have no idea if she feels similarly. I like her enough that I'd like to become a thing with her but I also like her enough that i enjoy her friendship. Yes, i know i cant have it both ways but, it is what it is. Im afraid to ask her out because she might stop talking to me altogether should she not feel the same.
So, how can subtley indirectly get her to tell me how she feels toward me? We arent so close that we see each other everyday 24/7 but whenever we do see each other we hang around each other
>>17736377
Just ask her.
Think about it like this. If she's such a good friend, and your positions were reversed, and you didn't like her... and she asked you - you'd let her down easy and stay friends, right?
So if she stops talking to you altogether, write that bitch off and move on.
>>17736386
Well hiw do i ask her out then? I can't just go up to her and ask out of nowhere. It has to be casual and not forced at all. I learned my lesson the last time i tried to tell someone i liked her
>>17736427
>I can't just go up to her and ask out of nowhere.
Yes, yes you can.
Again, if the situation was reversed and she went up to you out of nowhere and asked you out, what would you say?
>I learned my lesson the last time i tried to tell someone i liked her
What lesson? That she might say no? That's a good lesson. That's where you go "Oh well," - that's how you find out, and move on.
I've had a crush with this girl since high school, I think she probably knows this, but that aside, we hangout every so often usually in group settings, but sometimes only us.
when it's only us it she'll bring up more intimate subjects (sexual stuff, her personal life) and visit more intimate/romantic places (roof tops, overlooks) and she'll flirt with me a bit more, but if I try to flirt back, I get just to the feeling with her that something exciting might happen, and than she'll act like she's really questioning it than back off, happened that way about twice now
What I find most angering in is that she'll move heaven and earth to spend time with one of my buddies who's a broke college party boy, who's confessed to me tons of times that he doesn't want a relationship with her, doesn't really like her at all, and just uses her.
It's really just sad, I find her so interesting, and funny, and generally just such a great person that i truly enjoy spending time with her. And she'll blow me off for a guy who won't even talk to her in the morning after he fucks her.
and it's not like I'm some neckbearded basement dweller (no offense)
I'm a seriously fit, fun guy, who has a lot of exciting hobbies with a great well paying and attractive career.
I just don't get it, I can't understand it, and I think that's what really hurts me the most.
Any comments?
Feels good to let it out.
Girl is stupid, anon, evident by her choice of guy
Find a new girl.
>>17736373
Ask her out.
When she says no, get over it and move on.
It would be nice to just get some instant straight up closure, God though what do I do after, completely stop talking to her like a giant douche? (Granted that seems to be her type lol)
Cheated on ldr girlfriend of one year 3 months, confessed shortly after. she forgive me but can't forget of course, and I'm just a mess over it.
I'll never do it again but I can't overcome my feelings of guilt and remorse. I'm so sorry that i did this to her. I don't know how to forgive myself. I have become a person of self-loathing.
Please help me.
>>17736333
Well, I guess you could take solace in the fact that your remorse demonstrates you're a decent enough person to feel shame over utterly betraying someone you claim to care about.
What do you want from us? Go do something good, like volunteering or spending an afternoon or two picking up trash in public places. Give yourself reasons to realize you are a good person.
>>17736342
I want something that doesn't exist. I want to fix this somehow. I want to take the pain away from her.
perhaps it's time to realize that you aren't fit for LDRs. Why put on the self-imposition of long distance when you can't otherwise control yourself from getting the same benefits
Where's the best places to meet girls IRL?
>>17736327
Social gatherings.
>>17736327
Places you like to do shit where people go.
Chances are you will find people, some of them girls, doing shit you like to do.
>>17736327
Outside? what kind of question is this?
Hey I am almost set on going military or navy.which one has the best benefits and would be most worth it.
>>17736295
... Military or Navy huh?
They all have the same GI Bill there Killer.
I'm going to go out on a limb here and say you don't qualify for the Air Force and the Army is probably where you belong, no offense to them. Navy... maybe. The Marines will probably fuck your dumb ass up.
>>17736295
Ask your question again, and this time put some thought into it. Like, where the fuck do you live, and what do you want?
>military or navy
Jesus...
>>17736299
That's why I'm asking,all recruiters seem sly like one is better than the other