I'll be a father of a girl soon. Question to you /adv/:

>>17739628
christianity, no pocket money, home tutoring, no internet connection or a proxy

No Feminism.
No SJWism.
Teachings of values, respect, integrity, and kindness.
Self Defense classes.
A good education.

But most of all - being there for her.

>>17739628

Wasted effort IMO.

You'll just end up turning douchebags, your creepy friend who likes younger girls, and wife-beaters into forbidden fruit.
She won't be able to resist the temptation, and shit, the more you're against it the more she see's it as an "us against the world" romantic load of bollocks.

And if you don't do anything, it's likely all that shit will still happen because cultural and biological influences.

The best solution I can offer is to simply not care for her. Harsh as it sounds, you can still be a good dad; taking her places, getting her into hobbies, raising her as right as you can.
Just don't get too attached. Care too much, and when she hurts, you'll hurt. As she'll probably knowingly hurt herself alot, you'll get hurt alot too. Just how it is.

>>17739641
>I was neglected so everyone else must be: The Post

>>17739637
How to go about the no Internet connection thing? I heard some dad was once arrested because he refused let his kids own a smartphone.

>>17739628
>sheltered from the vices of our modern times
That's how you raise social incompetent idiots who think that pulling out is a reliable protection against pregnancies.

Create an environment that encourages learning and asking questions, so basically be there for her. Don't spoil her but also don't come up with arbitrary punishments and most importantly show that she's loved. Also be sure that you and your wife are great rolemodels.

>>17739637
>christianity
>in 21th century

>no pocket money
A great way to make sure that she learns how to manage money after being evicted with a 50k debt.

>home tutoring
Yeah, who the fuck needs social skills anyway?

>no internet connection
Cutting off somebody from the greatest source of information and learning humanity ever created, clever. Though obviously kids these days do need an online crash course, and discouraging them from social media cancer is a good idea too.

>>17739644
Sounds weird, Internet is a human right but it doesn't have to be over smartphone.

>>17739628

You cannot stamp out traits you do not like, you can only help bring out the traits you do like.

Realistically, the only way to avoid those parts of the modern world you don't like is to move to an isolated community. If you don't do that you'll just be fighting the tide.

>notice bad behavior
>address it
>make the child respect you but also make them understand why what they did was wrong

There's no mistake, people who have healthy relationships with their parents do better in life, but they also have parents who are well balanced individuals.

>>17739641

>She might grow up without any discipline or self preservation

>therefore you should neglect her

Great advice, just because you have no spine for self-discipline doesn't mean nobody does.

>>17739628
>Has picture clearly made by a japanese sicko

Mate, you're going at it the wrong way. You can't shelter her from any vices. You can try, sure, but no matter what you do sooner or later she will bump into them and you won't be there to restrict them. By simply sending her to school you're making it impossible to control her exposure to different vices. Yeah, you can homeschool her, but that tends not to work well unless you find her a bunch of kids her age for her to interact with on a daily basis. She needs social interaction more than any education you can provide. Well that may be a slight exaggeration, but you get the idea.

Besides, trying to keep her from EVERYTHING that could corrupt her would result in her being a sheltered, weak-minded, unwise adult and more importantly a miserable child. You can't expect her to be content while she's being denied so many freedoms her peers have.

She needs to experience life and learn how to deal with it, not sit in a cage and wonder how the outside world is until she goes to college and has to face it all alone. So you must guide her for as long as you can. Don't restrict her anything that wouldn't be harmful to her, but explain what and why she shouldn't do. Every time you restrict her something be sure that she understands why she shouldn't do that thing. Don't just give half-arsed answers or "you'll understand when you grow older". Don't ignore those annoying questions kids ask and try to respond truthfully, don't give some white cute lies.

Try to treat her as an adult as much as possible. Only treat her like a child when she acts like a child. Make yourself available. If you want to raise a good kid you have to put it before your personal life and your job. If she needs you for something you must be there. Offer her attention and affection, but don't spoil her.

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>>17739712
When she makes mistakes you must let her that she's in the wrong, why she's in the wrong (that's very important, never tell her something is bad without doing your best to make her understand WHY that something is bad) and maybe even give her some sort of punishment, but don't overdo it either. Punishments should never be physical, you should never even slap her and any kind of punishment should be a last resort. You should never punish her for doing something she didn't know was wrong.

Teach her to be independent. When she ask for something minor, if it is possible teach her to do it herself, rather than you doing it for her. Teach her that asking for help is always fine, but that she should know how to deal with her problems by herself too.

Expose her to as many possible interests and hobbies and encourage them. Get her to do sports, to play instruments, to read, etc. But don't force anything on her. If she doesn't like it move on to the next thing.

Make sure she knows the difference between reality and fantasy. This may sound weird, but with how much entertainment kids (and adults) are blasted with today they can easily start believing that life works like movies, cartoons, fantasy books and whatnot. Don't deny her movies, cartoons etc. but make sure she knows it's just fantasy.

Make sure she trusts and respects you. You must be that person who can do anything and will do anything for her as long as its in her best interest. Never argue with your friends and family around her, try to always look happy in front of her, never complain when she can hear.

And most importantly, try to make her be honest with you. Try to be that person she can tell anything. Something wrong she did, something that bothers her, something that made her happy. Tell her since she's a young child that lying to her family will only make her and everyone else around her unhappy. Always listen to everything she has to say and reward honesty.

I think a sense of right and wrong is most important. That whole "us against the world" thing an earlier poster said sounds like a meme to me.

Just make sure the school is great, the kids arent niggers. A neighbor of mine has two great little girls, the only problem is the local schools arent the best cause we're semi-close to the projects on the other side of the tracks so a fair share of those children go to their school. They know all the nigger dances, rappers, etc. I think exposing children to good old music is important. You dont want her to be a normie faggot, or a weirdo metal girl. Music is an underrated component of it all, IMO.

>>17739657
that's how you raise dumb, lazy children that don't know how to read a book the right way. look at all those brats. they cry in malls, want horses, watch TV all day, want to become a princess, post their life on facebook, spend their money on dumb shit and suck BBC to punish their parents.

Sheltering kids is how you end up with heroin addicts who rebel.

Being honest with kids and trying to instill a sense of security, family, and individuality through a nurturing home life and education about the world instead of idyllic ignorance and wool-pulling is the way to go.

>>17739765
>lists couple example of shitty behavior without actually connecting it to parenting methods
Talking from personal experience then I take?

>>17739772
My parents raised me with love and I was free to do whatever I wanted. That's why I became cold after seeing how shitty their lives and that of my siblings turned out.

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>>17739657
>CURRENT YEAR
Christianity is good for your children, especially girls. It teaches then humility, devotion and obedience to their husbands.

>>17739657
>21th century

>>17739782
>I was free to do whatever I wanted.
Depending on age, this isn't the best approach. Besides, where the "encouraging learning" part? The freedom to do whatever you want can't be built on ignorance about the consequences.

>>17739784
I knew it was bait, no need to make it THAT obvious.

You chose to have a child in this day and age. There is no way you can keep her into an artificial womb. She is going to grow into a person who makes choice that you would not make, or would not want her to make. If you don't accept that you'll be a terrible father by default - have you forgotten that teenage need to grow into your own person and not be an extension of your parents' beliefs? She deserves to develop her own outlook on the world.

As for concrete answers, all the extremist shit like homeschooling and being superstrict will work until she has the age where she wants to rebel. Then she will want to break out of that cage and the idea of doing drugs and fucking randoms when you always had her locked up in a cage will be that much more tempting.
Moderation, always letting her feel that you value her outlook on things even if she doesn't get to have the last say, unconditional love etc will do more to keep her from becoming a "fuck mom and dad" teenager than keeping her on a leash will.

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>>17739784
>teaches then humility, devotion and obedience to their husbands.
>Christianity
In a multiple choice test, you somehow managed to select the absolute worst answer.

>>17739805
go be a heretic somewhere else please.

>>17739628
You can shelter her from everything, live in an isolated village with no tv or internet etc, but just remember. She'll start forming her own opinions completely by herself at some point. You cannot do anything about that. Even if you don't show her any media, she'll be able to watch things happen to others in the classroom or to herself and wonder "their actions/words/general attitude and behavior towards certain people/me is unseasonably mean compared to how they treat others". Even at a young age there are a lot of people who don't hide that they treat girls like dirt and that's noticeable when you're on the receiving end. She absolutely WILL eventually notice your strange attitude when it comes to somme topics and there will be a lot of tension. In the end, you likely won't win that battle. She'll grow distance from you because you don't believe she should be treated with respect like everyone else. Sounds like a bad thing to come from your own father, doesn't it?

Just teach her to be kind, respectful, and understanding so when she does go down that road, she won't act completely absurd.

>>17739793
>Besides, where the "encouraging learning" part?
I always had the freedom to do whatever I wanted, but that didn't mean that they kept their opinion for themselves. Everytime I did something wrong they ignored the consequences and encouraged me by lying. They dig their own graves with ignorance and optimism. By the time I realized that I had to face consequences by myself I began to punish myself and to overthink my every action. I learned how to behave myself, adapted the norms of society and reviewed the basic concepts of our world simply by learning from my families mistakes. Everything I did was simply for my own good and not to see their fake smiles. In the end all they got is a kid that never will love them back like they did.

>>17739810
>women
>understanding
a lesson in humility instead would be better

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>>17739628
>father of a girl
That is one of the greatest challenge a white man can face. Good luck.

>>17739831
If you think so little of women, if you ever want kids do that egg cell selection thing so you can avoid producing children you feel contempt for. And find a woman with no self-respect.

>>17739826
>Everytime I did something wrong they ignored the consequences and encouraged me by lying.
That's some weird ass parenting. Besides, giving a kid freedom to do whatever at early age is basically like giving the average person one million and expecting them to do something intelligent with the money.

- absolutely no tv
- bare minimum internet, supervised
- religious school (they are often really good and she doesn't get degenerate friends)

also google virtue signaling

>>17739969
>religious school (they are often really good and she doesn't get degenerate friends)

she will turn degenerate either during or after she has completed school. Religious schools go too far the other way and make kids want to rebel more.

>>17740019
that's often seen on /tv/, in my sister's cohort only one out of thirty girls became a porn actress.

>>17739628
no smart phones, actually teach her shit instead of just buying her shit, instill a work ethic, etc

>>17739628

This: >>17739705

Hope it's a troll thread.

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>>17740184
>>17739705
asasow is a good boy

>>17740194

>he didn't do nuffin

>>17739836

>ripped

hahaha

>>17739628
All families come down to is core values and respect.

You cannot cheap out when raising a family. Get to know your children and never stop. Really get to understand how they feel and stress the ok mportance of doing so.

Empathy is maybe the grestest thing a family can have.

Meanwhile teach her basic economics so she understands why not to go sjw.

First off, why are you asking fucking /adv/ on this? I bet barely any of us here have any experience parenting nor really fucking understand what it means to raise a human being.
Second off, get your priorities straight. There is always one goal a loving parent would want to accomplish, and that is doing their best to get their child to be an independent full-grown adult who can take care of him/herself. Many ways to achieve this, but most of these will make you a shitty parent and probably ruin your child's relationship with you.

The least I can give you is this: you won't be able to protect your girl for always, whether you want to or not. Be a good dad to her and give her the freedom to experience life once the time is ACTUALLY right, not after 20 fucking years when you may feel it is right (this applies to many parents believe it or not).
If you want to teach her anything, teach her that whatever she wants in life, she has to work for it. And teach her that she isn't more special than others (thus, also has to work for what she wants). Feel free to give pocket money, and support her financially here and there, but don't just spoil her.

On the bright side of things, as long as you'll be a decent human being yourself, she will absorb that. Be a good dad and be there for her.

>>17739628
If you live in the USA then you are fucked. She will probably do drugs and become slutty. Nothing you can do about it because it is her true nature unless you restrict it and keep it undercontrol like the middle eastern men do.

>>17739628

Instill a work ethic. Teach her to do things on her own.

Build her self-esteem without letting her turn arrogant. Make sure she's self-sufficient.

You can't prevent her from being exposed to things you don't like, but you can teach her the best way to react to them.

Move somewhere conservative and traditional

Women can only be controlled by a strong community which reinforces gender roles and will judge them

Hence why 1st and 2nd generation immigrant girls become decadent whores when exposed to western culture

Shit, I knew an honest to God Pashtun girl in High School who'd fuck you just for offering friendship

She took the virginity of like 1/3rd of the sophomore class

Develop a good relationship with her. It's the girls with daddy issues that turn into whores wanting make attention

>>17739637
This is terrible advice

>>17739638
This is great advice