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If you mean walking just to think, then yes, I often do that, and it's a great idea. It goes you time to reflect upon your lie and be more peaceful. I honestly don't know why you took this to 4chan, but yeah. I agree with walks. Especially long ones.

>>17744111
life* lol OCD

>>17744094
I love wandering and just taking walks by myself or with people I really like. I live in the city, but really close to nature and to a few parks so I have the possibility to just leave my flat and be in the mid of the forest. But still I only get around to it every few months or so. A ton of things can get in the way of that and it can make you forget about it for a while. So I could see how it never even ocurred to you to just take a walk, if you're a busy person or if you have other hobbies that take up a lot of time.
You should try it out though, it can be a spiritual experience.

>>17744010
Also, as you can probably tell, I'm a kissless handholdless virgin who has never had a girlfriend or been on a date, or even asked a girl out.

1. Depending on the girl, this might be her initial action. If you want to avoid awkwardness, consider saying something along the lines of 'hey, is it cool if we split the bill? I only have a card/insert cash amount here'. It goes without saying, but don't just outright tell her to pay her part of the bill.

2. If it's good, sure. You don't want to go TOO fancy on the first date, especially if you don't know where you're at yet. Just avoid fast food and go somewhere in the middle--that way if she's not your type you won't be out of too much cash and if you DO see each other again, then you can go to a fancier place.

3. Depends. What's interesting in your area? What do you like to do? I find grabbing a quick drink or playing pool or something is pretty fun, but it all depends on what's around you and what she's interested in. Don't fall for the whole 'meal and a movie' trope--you'll wanna do something where you can chat a bit more and get to know her better.

4. Just ask her when you see her--sooner the better. You want enough time to ensure she's free the day that you want to go out. For example, if you want to do something on Saturday, ask her on Monday or Tuesday, not Thursday or Friday.

5. Again, depends on her. Mention Saturday night and work around that. If she's busy that night, lock down some other time and place.

>>17744040
>4. Just ask her when you see her--sooner the better. You want enough time to ensure she's free the day that you want to go out. For example, if you want to do something on Saturday, ask her on Monday or Tuesday, not Thursday or Friday.

We don't have any classes together and I only know her through a mutual friend. We've spoken for maybe two hours throughout the semester, counting today for maybe 10 minutes, which is why I want to make a move soon, since for all I know I could never see her again, since it is pretty random. Would asking her through text be alright?

Also, I forgot to mention that she lives like 30 minutes away from me. Would it seem desperate to ask her at all, since I'd be driving that distance just to see her?

Look better (fashionable), take care of yourself, etc etc.
People think that they'll start doing that shit when they've found the one that makes them happy
Bullshit
You reap what you sow. Put effort into your looks, confidence, etc and you will prosper. Also, treat yourself better. There's nothing creepier to a girl than a needy guy

>>17743931
Yeah, whenever I ask for advice it's pretty much met with "you just gotta be better man".

I get what you mean, and I know you're right, it just "fixing myself" seems like such an overwhelming task, and something I can just never wrap my head around

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>>17743889
ugh, this might seem counter productive, but in my case making more female acquaintances has actually increased my confidence and decreased my natural incline to get attached.

Try looking into it, it's been working for me. Now I can talk looking into my classmates' eyes pretty close and not feel like going insane because I can't have them.

>>17743879
>My problem is that she cant seem to get over the times where I had broken up with her.

Seems pretty fair tbqh. To break up with her that many times over nothing, sure seems like you don't give a shit

>>17743879
I think you have it sort of right. You need to just give it time to rebuild your trust. Don't blame it on BPD because as you say that's just not gonna work (and I also don't think it's BPDs fault).

You fucked up by breaking up with her all the time, now you have to hope you have enough time left to salvage things. Don't give her shit for mistrusting you, for now that's absolutely fair. And don't break up with her over this.

>17743896

Yeah i know, it was fucked up but im willing to do anything to make it right.

im looking for advice

>>17743851
Say no

>>17743960
ok, somehow you're right with being harsh. I hope she will stop asking if I keep declining.

>>17743851
>so I can go into the library and actually study
>What would be a polite way to decline her offers
are you retarded?
>i can't go, i need to study
you fucking retard

>>17743755
If he has constant access to Internet:
Chromebook.

If he needs it for school, he can use school computers. You don't need a laptop for school, and if he's really that poor, he's better off saving that money.

>>17743837
>>17743844
Basically this. Chromebooks are great for college and they'll cost around 150 bucks, but schools should have some sort of lab he could go to.

>>17743690

Then do it. But you aren't going to enjoy it - mainly the health conditions and how morbidly obese you become.

People make your life shit, but it's up to you to do something about it - instead of complaining to anonymous strangers and saying you'd rather get fat and die.

>>17743690
just make sure you die at home fatty. Don't need your fat ass clogging the hospital hallway.

You use food to self-medicate. I know people like that. If they can't get the happiness they use they turn to the little bit of reward your brain gives you from eating. It's almost like using drugs for happiness, it's doing something harmful that gives you a mental reward because you don't get enough reward out of your life.

First step is to see a mental health professional. See if there's something like depression that is affecting you, and take steps to fix that. If you find yourself unable to take those steps or find that the steps taken don't improve anything, then you'll likely need medication.

The friend of mine who used food to self-medicate all stopped relying on it when their mental health issues were treated.

>>17743629
Unfortunately your country considers a weapon to be anything anyone can call a weapon. You could brandish a pen as a joke freak out someone and get charges.

Best bet is a not obviousness conceal carry.

>>17743640
So can i carry a pocket knife or what? Obviously, i'll conceal it and only bring it out when necessary.So can i carry it if i do all that? Your answer was not clear.

>>17743645
You can't carry shit. Move out of Britain or wait for Brexit to fix everything.

>>17743608
use a condom.

never trust a girl who "can't take birth control" to deal with contraceptives.

>>17743608
>long story short she can't get birth control
You have to be 18 or older to post here.

I have not heard of sponges (other than as natural tampons) but I have looked into female condoms once for similar reasons.

Personally I would never do it. The good thing is that they are deep inside the vagina so you don't feel them. The bad things are primarily:
>they need to be manufactured individually, and if the person making it fucks up and doesn't 100% get the shape right sperm still gets through
>some women have anatomy that is laid out so that when their bowels are full, they press up against the "condom" and cause it to tilt and become worthless

In both of these cases, turns out you only really find out that this applies to you when the surprise pregnancy comes.

Another factor is practicality. Using spermicide is recommended still more pressingly for female condoms than for male ones. So basically you don't just have to interrupt foreplay to insert this thing deep inside yourself (which is something you need to get the hang of), you also have to use gross tasting/smelling stuff on it that makes any cunnilingus afterwards pretty much impossible.

Then again, condoms also have a failure rate (not with perfect use, but this means checking them under a light source beforehand which barley anyone does) and I don't think female condoms score much worse. But at least when a condom breaks you can get plan B. If the female condom doesn't work there's no telling really.

>>17743577
>or sometimes men
Eww faggot.

So, you have a girlfriend but "fall in love" with any bitch that gives you a bit of attention? Do you even like the friends you have?

>>17744064
I mean, I only have a fee but yea, I like them. They can be assholes sometimes but whatever, yunno?

Never heard of this store, but one of the first things I saw when I googled it was "The Assassin's Hoodie". That alone tells me you're paying exorbitant prices for cheap Chinese shit.

>>17743516
The assassin hoodie is only like 30 bucks. That's not terrible considering they do free shipping. Anyways disregarding any of that, is there a way to report something like this?

>>17743518
Contact your credit card company. Also my point was that you're going to be incredibly disappointed when you get it, nothing you buy from any site that resells things like that hoodie is going to be worth the money you paid, especially if it's the sort of place that gives you free shipping with every order. If anything, you got scammed more because you spent $100 instead of just $30.

>>17743482
no, you should come get with me so we can MAGA together

>>17743482
Even though this is fake, it won't matter because you "bf" will probably kill himself tomorrow anyways for all the oppressed illegal immigrants

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>>17743482
No. You should hook up with me so we can make your vagina great again.

Unless you're a faggot. In which case, stay there. The NSA is already tracking your proxies. Enjoy your FEMA relocation camp.

Find something you like or at least will be successful in.

Accept that life sucks and select the shit sandwich that you think will suck the least.

>>17743453
that's the thing, i've never really liked or enjoyed anything

I don't have any goals in life, i really don't even want to be alive, i just sort of exist and i go to college because it's expected of me.

>>17743422
And I really getting sick of TI area, I do not know what to do or career I should take.. some adv?

>>17743422
Start looking for another job.

You fucked up. You were probably high and thinking about virgins at work. Why do you think you should keep your position, when someone who wants to do a good job is just waiting to fill your spot?

>>17743422
wow , ehglish bad
i hope you not loss job !

>>17743409
Not at all.
Pic related looks really hot.

>>17743416
Good to hear, I have a very similar hairstyle except mine is much longer. I'' thinking though of getting it down to this and more squared so it accentuates the spot less.

>>17743416
Given that it isn't a male model though, would a somewhat bald spot on the side like that would bother you in a potential mate or be a turn off?