Long list of things going through my head

Continued.

Aside from suggesting things to do, I used to do cute things for them.

I would buy them little snacks that they liked and write little notes for them before work, and before we lived together I would make their bed or whatever. Little things.

I put in an effort.

I since then stopped doing those things to see if they would start putting in effort.

Nothing.

I tried talking to them about it. Said how I didn't feel appreciated or special to them. They turned it against me saying I didn't notice anything they did.

Made it seem like I was attacking them. They weren't good enough.

So I stopped. Didn't go any further with that.

Nothing has changed since then. We play video games together and watch shows but we never go out and do anything.

I don't /want/ to be the only one trying to make an effort.

The other day I was upset about something unrelated that my SO did, and they suggested we go out to eat.

Because I was mad. The time they suggest things is when they feel they need to. Not because they want to.

Tried bringing it up again today. Same thing happened, less hostile, but it didn't get anywhere.

So basically I go to work, cook, clean, come home and spend time with my SO.

On weekend they do their thing for a day, then spend time with me.

My time on the weekend involves cooking, cleaning, playing video games, and reading. Just being bored.

>get hobbies
>have a separate life

I get that. I really do. I'm getting a nice camera for christmas to try and pick up photography. Going hiking places and taking nice pictures that I like. I also though about getting a dog for companionship. Taking them hiking with me.

But I want to have fun with my SO too. I want to feel like we're still dating.

Basically I'm just looking to see if my thoughts are justified. Maybe some advice other than getting hobbies or getting new friends.

TLDR to come next

Get a hobby or something, go to a gym maybe? You can bond with people there, and even if you don't I find it works wonders taking your mind off things.

>>17741517
The only thing I can suggest for your SO is play a little hard to get, distance yourself ever so slightly and see if they fill the gap. Either that or suggest spreading out the house chores between the two of you if you feel overworked.

TLDR

>live with SO
>only friend is SO
>Love them with all my heart, but feel as though they aren't putting in a whole lot of effort into relationship anymore
>try to talk about it, can't get the point through
>trying new hobbies in future so I'm not so empty feeling/alone
>still want to have fun with my SO and go do things together, continue the feel of dating

>>17741532
Perhaps you could find a mutual interest with your SO and share a hobby?

>>17741519
Mentioned the whole hobby thing in the next part. Only thing about the gym is I've been a little underweight my whole life, tall skinny thing. Whenever I work out I lose more weight. Weird but I do get where you're coming from, I appreciate the suggestion anon

i refuse to read

>>17741537
True. We do both love video games and I enjoy doing that every now and then. Its just every weekend it contributes to the depressed, cooped up feeling I get. Will think of other hobbies though

>>17741526
I've been trying that damn tactic. Its my first one. The little distance, stop doing stuff for them are if they catch on. But it didn't get anywhere So that's when I tried talking to them about it. And with the housework, honestly I like to clean. Its just the fact that they don't even say thank you or acknowledge the fact that I do all of that for them. It just goes unnoticed.

>>17741551
See if they catch on.**

Thank you for the advice though. Maybe I'll see if they can do a couple of chores here and there