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I did a lot of stupid hippie shit like you. There's so much stupid meditation stuff out there that you'd have an easier time finding legit Viagra on the internet. I'd recommend looking up self-hypnosis, since it's the same thing except not wrapped in stupid Eastern mysticism bullshit. All in all, it'll just teach you tap into existing willpower. Practice at it and you can start fucking around with your brain's root files like being able to fall asleep super easy and unblocking a blocked nostril. I'd recommend it.

>>17743006

I think you should define your own meditation, I like going for walks with my dog in the sunshine around a nice creek with lots of wildlife and stuff, it helps me clear my head and relax. I think anything where there is silence and you're not thinking about much can be classed as meditating.

I notice positive effects in that I feel happier afterwards, the sunlight and environment helps with this too. Any solo activity you do can be a good form of meditation, lifting weights, running, surfing, sunbaking etc.

>>17743013
Well I watched this video https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wirV265ZYSw and it seems a lot easier than self hypnosis. Did you ever succeed with self hypnosis? I mean did it help you with your problems in any way?

You shouldn't have to lie for her to get over you.

Don't respond to her messages. Don't respond to her messages. Don't respond to her messages.

>>17742973
This and only this.

>>17742973

It is not lying. It is the truth. I like, installed Tinder three days after I broke up. I just hoped she'd get over me better if I confront her with the thruth and what a shitty person I am anyways.

>>17742936
Accept it as temporary condition and start fixing it. At least gross is fairy easy to handle.

I've been called a creep more often than I can count. I know how painful it is, and how it keeps us from approaching women. But I'm 30 now and eventually got a wife and my own place. Even the dudes from high school who were WAY creepier and greasier than me are now married with kids. It's all gonna be okay, man.

>>17742936

Maybe assess the reasons why you think you might be these things and try to work on them. Do you actually believe you are gross and creepy? Or are you allowing a negative experience or two to dictate your personality.

>>17742858
fuck.. I forgot this wasn't /b/
lol

>>17742861
Wow dude just fuck her right in the pussy

Remind her of why she liked you to begin with. Think back on how you attracted her, and improve those qualities.

Find someone else.

Nothing, you fucking degenerate.
Find a single girl or a whore if you wanna bang.

>>17742859
>>17742860
ok I'll try to get her

>>17742850
No but I have discovered someone was a lesbian and therefore didn't pursue. Do a little homework instead of seeing a girl and going in blindly

>>17742850
Several years back, I got dumped by my fiancee who I'd been with for almost 5 years after she decided she was a lesbian.

>>17742891
Beat me to it

I was in a 5 year long relationship with a woman who is now married to another woman. Early twenties gone round the u-bend.

>>17742792
Well I've been coming here for years and this is one of the more fucked up things I've read. Congrats op.

>>17742792
Nothing. If you get off to that shit, good for you.

>>17742818
> been coming here for years
I have a hard time believing that. You can find more fucked up stuff in almost every thread.

>>17742792
Is it 2003? Do you think this still passes for acceptable trolling? Grow up.

>>17742789
Well - what languages do you know? Where are you from? What do you do?

German, French, Spanish if you want to keep it relatively easy.
Arab, Russian, Mandarin/Cantonese if you want to go for something more complicated.

>>17742789
French, Spanish, Mandarin. Everything else is just having fun without much practical use. Purely for /lit/ Russian is a decent choice too.

>>17742794
I do mechanical engineering and I know english and italian. I'm searching for a language that would be useful in a professional environment.

>>17742795
Really, no practical use? Why is that?

Also, I think I won't pick mandarin because I've read a huge rant of a guy here who had to work with chinese entrepeneurs and they were the worst of the worst so I think I'll avoid that.

Saudi Arabia.

>>17742785
Why don't you stay wherever you are and start dating guys from churches, purity groups or mention it really early on?

>>17742785
>>17742793
The sad reality is that the whole world is sexualised. Some areas you will find some more % then others but its still a tough game.

My best advice is to live in a way that reflects this way of life.
Do things that like minded people value: men who are like this value a good mother: caring kind, stable, go and babysit or do organise kids activaties. Build this character, build skills like cooking and being a good listner, being a support, etc
Surround yourself with like minded people.

Goodluck women,,

Yours Sincerely,

A male muslim in the same situation

>>17742782
Help yourself idiot, we wont go to a therapist for you, atention seeking cunt

>>17742782
>When is it time to go to the hospital
Whenever you want to, nobody's gonna tell you "Oh no, you're not sick enough, we won't treat you."

>>17742996
Actually some places do that.

>>17742772
It takes two to tango. If the ship is going to sink, your girl's friend needs to sink with it. That's the only way this can be done.

>>17742772
Some day your GF will need her friend to cover for her and will not burn that bridge. The only time a woman will rat another woman out is if they wanted the same guy.

If you expose this girl your GF will consider you the bad guy in this whole situation. You cannot win.

Both are responsible but the engaged person has more responsibility. One made a promise and is breaking it, the other is taking an opportunity (still wrong but initiating cheating on someone you love is worse).

Dont risk it, theres plenty of fish in the sea

>>17742731
Is there a safe way to go about this though, if I were to decide to go through with it?

>>17742740
Be in a relationship just don't have sex with her or else you *will* get herpes.

I was in loss. My whole heart, my whole life was for her. It all came crashing down.
Months went by and she didn't let know anything.
The date of her party vacation neared, and I didn't know if she would go through with it or not. I emailed her to warn her that if she decided to walk this path in lilfe, i could never see her as the same again.
Then more months later, adding up to a total of 4 mounts, she contacted me.

I was so delighted, this was the moment i longed for. This was what i thought of every second of every day the last couple of months.

She did go to the party island but told me she only went for the nature and stuff.

I believed her and was so happy to see her again. We decided to see each other again.
The moment she opened the door her beautifull eyes caught my breath away. I literally ran to the door and lifted her up and she smiled intensely. It felt like i was alive again after long months of being a zombie.
Weeks filled with love go by and I begin feeling like life is awesome again.

Then one day we stumble upon her vacation there, i she told about some things she did and slipped that she was hanging out with other guys aswell. I never heard that part of the story so I was curious as to why she hid that fact.
She became very closed and didnt tell what was in her mind. I had to dig for answers and she uncovered that had kissed a guy. Then it were two, or maybe vagely more... She explicitly assured me it didnt go further then kissing.
I had no more energy to dig for more.
I was devestated, all these weeks full of love, i had hope again, i thought it would work out again. And now i uncover this?

I go home full of sorrow but before we leave, I tell her we really need to talk about this as it is important to build trust. And things like this may not happen anymore. She begins to repead words i heard before: "Its no use, there is no hope for us etc."

I go home and reflect how i can trust her again and make this work...

cnt,,,

>>17742729
Goddamn man just drop her.

I love this girl so much. We were there for each other in many difficult moments. She told me we would find a way through anything and I would walk around the world if needed to see her happy.

I decided that i would not let this ruin our love, if she cincerely regrets and vows not to do anything like this again.

I began to feel hope again even through the sorrow and at that point miraculously I get a call...
Its her. I am eager to tell about my reflections and to fix this, but then i stop. I hear her sobbing, I ask her what there is. She keeps on mumbering and sobbing, so I feel for her. I tell her we are going to fix this, we can do this. Then it happened, she told me that she lied to me. She did more then kissing, She fucking played with the dicks of more then one guy.

I had so much hope after i felt lifeless for months, i was ready to forgive her after my heart was broken. And now i hear this...

>>17742682
Well have you tried keeping your mind occupied? In some cases you can get into a trance were you get into a kind of autopilot mode when doing lots of work. If you can keep yoursef occupied enough to not have time to go down the darkness could that work?

What do you like to do?

Go for a walk, try to sleep it off, go on a marathon of a fresh new show from 2016 (stranger things and westworld are good), order your favorite food, try to get through a programming tutorial, read a book you wanted to read at some point, start a language course on duolingo, download a video game you've been wanting to try for years, join a chatroom and get to know some new people.

>>17742685

Thanks anon.

I've actually got a stack of books, and a videogame set up to play on my PC as a distraction. I put a puzzle out on the coffee table.

It's not doing a great job of distracting me, but I am trying to load up on stupid activities.

>i do understand that shes my mother and only wants the best for me.
>im not going to break up with my gf because my mum doesnt like her.

tell your mom exactly that

i just dont know what the fuck to do now? how do i tackle this?

...and give it at least a couple of months of enjoying the relationship before you make any decisions.

put it out of your head, dude. you like her, just roll with it for a bit.

Your mother is never going to accept your girlfriend. You need to decide if you're okay with this, and if your girlfriend is okay with this. How old is your girlfriend, btw?

>>17742656
>give it at least a couple of months
we've been together for 11 months

>>17742657
i do respect my mother and value her opinion highly. im not going to break up but i dont want any hard feeling between mother and i because she doesnt like her. my parents marriage has pretty much fallen apart and i feel shes worried about the same happening to me? im not sure. im not even thinking about marriage at this point. ive told her how i feel and that im happy with her but mum isnt having any of it. she was crying and even went to throw up