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>>17793061
We've fucked over the phone. she can e extremely sexy. But no dude I dont have 600 dollars to fly to dublin. Not yet. We have sent every part of eachother. Ive never done that. Shown every part of me. Even me showering. She loves me. All parts. Fat and not. Thats crazy to me. Ive never had a girl so infatuated with a body I hate.

I mean, have you talked to her? Have you said that you would never do that?

>>17792427

On the pro side, she's loyal(the first girl I met that I have never doubted will cheat on me), she's honest and never hides anything, she's sweet, she loves me, she's always there to take care of me, she truly cares about my wellbeing and future, she truly feels I'm her soulmate, she shares and tried her best to build a life with me, she sees a future in us and truly believes in me.

She's got it on the emotional stuff...it's the stuff you check boxes on that she doesn't have

the one on the middle is so thicc hnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnggggg

>>17792427

It sounds like you already know the answer yourself. If marriage and kids are important part of your future plans, it's time to look for a better partner.

>>17792323
Girls, say your bf was more interested in a mmf threesome than a mff - what's your first thought? Closest case and time to break up with him or what?

>>17792323
Ladies, are my standards for girls unrealistic ?
Me:
>6' white dude
>Thin but putting on some muscle
>Face is a 6/10 I guess, 7 on a good day
>Reasonably well-dressed
>Slept with three girls, had a 2-year relationship with one
>Never cheated on a gf
>have my shit together study-wise
>Work out three times per week
>Hobbies include guitar, music in general, vidya, animu and talking to people
>Former alcoholic, been sober for two months
>Still drink a lot at parties but never piss-drunk doing embarassing shit
>Smoking cigs daily and an occasional joint at parties
>Decent humor and conversational skills

The girl:
-Mandatory requirements:
>Must never have cheated on her boyfriend
>Personality must click well with mine (I know when it does, it gives that kind of heart-boner thing)
>100% heterosexual. Already had two bisexual girlfriends and both cheated on me, so bi girls are out of the question.
>physically attractive for me. I don't care about race and have no particular physical requirements except not having her body covered in tattoos and piercings, no wild hair colors and not obese. A little chubby is fine.
> Must be honest.
Also, I don't care about the number of boyfriends and guys she has slept with. Then,

-Not an absolute obligation, but would be great:
>Passionate about her hobbies
>has a happy, talkative, social and humorous personality
>Likes cuddling
>Likes having sex (i.e. giving and receiving) and being a bit adventurous in bed. Not talking about pornstar shit or threesomes, but stuff like a bit of roleplay and not doing the starfish all the time in bed.

Also, bonus points if she has arabic origins.

>>17792367
>Closest
closet*

>>17791894
You're a creeper. That's what youre doing wrong.

Be less aggressive and funnier

Girls can pick up desperation so fucking well it's insane and a major deal breaker

>Iike today this cute irratating bitch I knew was following me and I kept feeling her up

>It's women's fault I can't get laid, I'm doing nothing wrong!

>>17784976
I gave up being really smart and promising to be shit at vidya and it was the biggest regret of my life

Three months ago I broke up with the girl who was ready to give her life for me. I was ready to marry her, for us to have kids, the whole lot. I'm a medical student, she's in a successful business venture, it all looked great.

I broke up with her because I had feelings for a girl who can't sustain me like she can.

I regret breaking up with her everyday. She doesn't know I broke up with her for another girl, so I feel like I could reconcile her feelings for me, but I always feel so terrible about it I just don't think there's a way to fix it.

She was my everything. And I let her down.

I rejected like 3 or 4 really obvious advances from girls in college that were all gorgeous and intelligent. I graduated 3 years ago and since then I haven't even met a women close to my age who was also single and I'm still a kissless hugless virgin.

Very vain, extremely hot, and exceedingly pompous. No-one will take seriously, will be called gay, and will be made fun of until he's twenty and becomes hot. Use with caution

Then go to the gym, find a dealer to buy gear from, take boxing classes and get therapy/meds to put your self esteem into hyper drive. Look in the mirror every day and tell yourself you're way fucking cooler and tougher than everyone ever. You'll punch anyone who tells you otherwise.

Then continue to take gear. Think angry thoughts. The angrier the better.
Let your testosterone take the wheel. You're set brah.

>>17794957

What kinda gear though?

I never had a girl friend in high school either. Once I was in college I finally snagged some. The fact alone that youre older is going to make you desirable. Just hit on 16 year olds that need a ride. BUT DONT get used.

Sit beside girls that seem to spark your fancy during lectures. Introduce yourself, try to make yourself seem appealing. Try get them to like you enough to want to study with you, etc.

My first time with girls at college were with those I studied with.

Getting girls is like fishing. Yes you need to cast your rod but dont go screaming at the fish.


I like to let girls approach me, its a confidence booster, and they wont do it unless they are interested. But some girls are interested and WILL NOT no matter what talk to you first, its just some stupid ass culture thing in their head, so you wait to talk to them but dont make it odd, like have a REASON. That's casting your rod, now you see how talkative back she is or isnt, see if she finds a reason to keep to conversation going or tries to talk to you again the next day.

You can never let your motives be known. Girls are delusional and think a guy will honestly open their mouth to them for a reason other than show me your tits.

You probably wanna get your core ready for getting punched. Core workouts.

>>17794661

There is only one thing that makes boxing god-tier, and that's slipping. If you don't spar, you don't box.

>>17794671
Got any good core workout ideas? I have a pretty decent core right now but not good enough to take hits honestly.

You have to be 18 to post here

>>17794729
I'm 21 mate and on my way to becoming a firefighter. I know my goals and shit sound immature or something to you or other people but it is what I want to do in my life and I won't be happy if I don't do these things.

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1. Any relationship that you are sacrificing your self respect for will not last, and being in one like that is a sign of desperation for affection. That's not how all relationships are. A relationship of mutual respect and trust is the ideal.

2.You can get a bike, walk or take the bus faggot. Cars are not that dangerous anyway. Probably more safe since you're in control + airbags and hunk of metal. Take extra lessons on "defensive/cooperative" driving if you're so scared.

3. Who's they? They can't jumpscare you if you know what's coming already. Become the normie with a twisted sense of 4chan humour. It's not like it's impossible to learn. You don't have to do drugs you weak willed pansy. Try: Succeedsocially.com

4. Do your best every day. Find your niche skill set and improve on it till you're uniquely useful. Make time for interesting hobbies. No one can love you like you can love yourself. Don't waste time hating yourself, cause it doesn't make you feel any better.

your daily outlook is basically "other people have better lives and/or life could get worse, so why should i even try to do anything"

and the answer is you should try to improve yourself because reaching your potential will make you happier, not because you have to be better than your neighbor

>>17794641
>What do you think about my daily outlook about life?
ok, let's give this a shot

>If you want to have a girlfriend, you must surrender your self respect
and I already stopped reading. you're an imbecile.

Currently getting a divorce. Will finally be over in January.

He lied about seeing another woman and constantly lied about where all his money went. I would always have to end up covering all the bills since he would be constantly broke somehow. I wanted to be a wife, not his mother, and no one deserves to be fed constant lies.

He had two kids from his previous relationship, but we had none together. Kids or not, getting divorced is the best choice. At least try counciling first of you want to try and mend it.

>>17794713
Im sorry for what you had to go through. Being lied to isnt easy, especially after marrying someone who you think should be loyal and trustworthy. I hope things get better for you soon.
Thank you for the advice. I feel so disappointed in him for lying over and over again. And in myself for allowing him to repeatedly disrespect me. I want to move on, but I know that's near impossible because we have a child together. I think I need to think more about giving marriage counseling a try.

>>17794594
I too had this experience >>17794713
But I am a bloke and it was my ex wife lying to me.
Its fucked. Its really fucked.

But I'll give you what I learned from the entire process.
Don't bother with counseling, don't bother trying to fix it- you'll need all your energy to fix yourself. Divorce whether everyone admits it or not, breaks people inside, and you need all the energy you have to rebuild your life and who you are, don't waste any more time and energy, they are a precious resource.

As far as the child goes, there are innocent victims in most marriages today. The truth is we are now at a point there's more children from broken marriages than functioning ones, so whilst there will be disruption, long term things will be fine.

Children mimic their parents not just in words but behavior. The longer your child is around lies the more they will normalise such actions.

Porbably get braces. My eyes are fucked due to years of contact use. Luckily glasses are sexy now, provided you dont get autism glasses.

>>17794538
Try invisalign, AFAIK they cost about the same and they're clear

What I mean is how do I start the process of getting braces.

Where do I go?

What do I do?

>>17794536
Id call in sick brah, say the turkey gave you the shits

Calling in sick when they need you the most is not a good idea. Also it'll be good experience for you.

Here's the options you have.
Call in sick when you're not and lose a sick day and also lose pay. Or go to work, gain a new experience, and gain money.

It's your choice.

>>17794473
>My biggest fear in life is accepting unhappiness
You have to accept it. Some people just have shitty lives. Take it from me, accepting it is liberating.

Accept it and adapt accordingly.

>>17794509
I mean not having any hope for happiness

>>17794473
was same position as you in 1st year, now 3rd year. Things are a bit better now.

Join clubs and make friends, go out and get drunk with them once in a while. Focus on your studies, thats what you're there for, enjoy things man

Yeah, seems like a healthy guy

>>17794467
haven't we already had this thread

no, it's not wrong for you to be disgusted by his world view. if he was a massive racist, but never acted on his hatred, he is still trash.

he probably believes what he believes, but is too much of a child to act on it. if he thought he could get away with it, i guarantee he would do it. he doesn't have the guts.

he's an idiot.

>>17794516
I'll admit this is repost, I'm just feeling insecure with it all. He's in my head and I'm questioning if I have a right to be upset. Thanks for the feedback. I agree with you.