ITT: Ask the opposite gender anything

>>17792323
Girls, say your bf was more interested in a mmf threesome than a mff - what's your first thought? Closest case and time to break up with him or what?

>>17792323
Ladies, are my standards for girls unrealistic ?
Me:
>6' white dude
>Thin but putting on some muscle
>Face is a 6/10 I guess, 7 on a good day
>Reasonably well-dressed
>Slept with three girls, had a 2-year relationship with one
>Never cheated on a gf
>have my shit together study-wise
>Work out three times per week
>Hobbies include guitar, music in general, vidya, animu and talking to people
>Former alcoholic, been sober for two months
>Still drink a lot at parties but never piss-drunk doing embarassing shit
>Smoking cigs daily and an occasional joint at parties
>Decent humor and conversational skills

The girl:
-Mandatory requirements:
>Must never have cheated on her boyfriend
>Personality must click well with mine (I know when it does, it gives that kind of heart-boner thing)
>100% heterosexual. Already had two bisexual girlfriends and both cheated on me, so bi girls are out of the question.
>physically attractive for me. I don't care about race and have no particular physical requirements except not having her body covered in tattoos and piercings, no wild hair colors and not obese. A little chubby is fine.
> Must be honest.
Also, I don't care about the number of boyfriends and guys she has slept with. Then,

-Not an absolute obligation, but would be great:
>Passionate about her hobbies
>has a happy, talkative, social and humorous personality
>Likes cuddling
>Likes having sex (i.e. giving and receiving) and being a bit adventurous in bed. Not talking about pornstar shit or threesomes, but stuff like a bit of roleplay and not doing the starfish all the time in bed.

Also, bonus points if she has arabic origins.

>>17792367
>Closest
closet*

>>17792369
Yeah it's unreasonable. Saying a girl needs to be adventurous but completely not open to other girls is a non-starter. Every girl I know who is 100% Hetero is an ice cube. And lazy

>>17792367
I would be happy he talked about it.

But maybe I'm weird. I wouldn't even really care if he had a piece on the side as long as I got first dibs and everything was above board.

>>17792323
Reasons why a guy doesn't want to have sex.

(When the girl is hot and willing)

>>17792376
Bullshit, my ex is 100% hetero and far from lazy in bed.

>>17792369
It doesn't seem so unrealistic, no.

>>17792376
That's not true.
I am mildly grossed out by the idea of having sex with girls, but I have tons of sex with my boyfriend, I am mildly kinky and I am probably the one who initiates more. I just really like cocks.

>>17792383
Lol. Then she is lying to you.

>>17792384
"Mildly grossed out?" Then you have never made out with a sorority sister to put on a show? That's bullshit. You and I both know it. Girls who are open to stuff are open to just about anything once.

Number of times we have sex has dropped to 2-3 times a week at the very most, more often it's about once a week. We've been together a year.

First started due to us being unwell then never picked back up again. I'm always the one instigating and normally get told that he's not feeling up to it.

Starting to feel like it's me, although I haven't changed at all since this started. Nothing at work/others areas of life has changed either. He's still masturbating.

When we do have sex, it's great, no changes in the standard of it. It's just happening much less and I can't remember the last time he actually instigated anything.

I've brought it up and was told it's nothing to do with me, he thinks I'm gorgeous and loves me dearly, most of which I believe. However it's starting to destroy my confidence and my trust in him. For example, never gave two hoots about masturbation before but now I see it as a direct threat.

Any input from the guys?

>>17792367
I wouldn't have a threesome because I'm too jealous, territorial and detest the idea of sex with people I don't care about - it's one of those things I fantasize about but wouldn't actually do.
I find the idea of the third person being a guy really hot. To me it has always been more about the roles we have (both me and my boyfriend tend to be pretty dominant in bed, so having a very submissive third person is hot) and not about the gender.
But I'd want him and my boyfriend to interact, I don't like the idea of "me being used by two dudes", more like "me and my boyfriend using third person as a tool to get off".

>>17792396
Nope. Never kissed a girl. Disgusted about the idea of eating a girl out.

>>17792406
Pathetic. Also boring.

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Girls,

How would I be able to show a girl that I have history with that I am trying to put the effort into being her equal? When we first dated (we were about 14) there was virtually no talk about the future for both of us as individuals, I wouldn't know what she had in mind but I know I was going with the flow of life.

She has recently, and out of nowhere, told me that there are expectations of hers that I need to meet (and she felt I was lacking) in order for us to be married. Although I have no right to complain because I should have had a greater plan for myself but I can't help but feel overwhelmed. She is seven months older than me so she was able to graduate high school first and she went straight to college. I graduated high school five months ago while being 18 early in the year, we're both 19 now. She believes I'm lagging behind but I feel like she is being too "speedy".

Two expectations she emphasized was being college educated and making as much or more money than her in the future. I tried applying to a university and major in aerospace engineering and I was accepted but coming from a poor background there is no way I would be able to pay for the out of state tuition. She told me she wanted to see me to go to college and get my "shit" together but how can I even do that, why does college = having it together? Its not like I didn't make excuses to not go other than being too expensive for me. I went to a technical school (because not only was I interested in it but I thought about learning a trade to earn money for us in the future) to learn how to be a technician but I started to doubt this path in my 3rd year as fear of not making as much money or more for that expectation she mentioned. I can also remember her texting me that she was worried for me turning into her sister's ex-husband who dropped out and I tried to emphasize the point that I was trying to make something out of myself through this school but she kept insisting I go to college

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>>17792478
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We are perfect together, everyone we know says this and she said she wants to be with me for the rest of her life. I had my issues but she stuck by me regardless. I've told her in the past that I don't think going to college would work for me so its not exactly like she didn't know but she kept pushing regardless and I gave in and now she is acting like I haven't bothered to try at anything in life and sit on the computer all day. Shes even said to me that her mom sees a lot of the negative traits in her dead dad in me such as being on the computer. I do not want to act like I am in the right completely but this honestly bothers me. I want us to be together, I don't believe in removing people from my life where I can work it out instead if they truly mean a lot to me and this girl does but there is a lot I feel she is aiming too high about but I can't exactly complain because she is human too. All my friends, both men and women, keep telling me she is being ridiculous and I'm the mature one but I don't want to think I'm completely in the right. She began saying some things about me but I'm afraid to challenge her as she might just throw her arms up and forget me because I wouldn't conform to standards she has and say I'm not worth it.

I'm sorry if this was a blog post, a long rant but I suppose the advice I'm looking for is how can I make this work? How can I get her to understand my point of view? Why is she suddenly acting like a different person to me and being an independent woman-tier type? How can I have a more positive image for me for her? Why does she say things like wanting to be with me but then treat me as any other guy despite all our time and emotions together for the past couple of years? Am I being too entitled? What do?

>>17792379
Tired.

>>17792369
>100% heterosexual. Already had two bisexual girlfriends and both cheated on me, so bi girls are out of the question.
I mean, most of your expectations seemed relatively reasonable but this just struck me as retarded. People cheat because they have poor impulse control, not because of the number of opportunities to sleep around they have. A population sample of two isnt exactly reliable.

>>17792495
Sure, but psychologically it gives me this impression. I became kinda paranoid about getting cheated on, and even being dumped for a girl would be a huge blow to my ego.

>>17792415
Anon I can't read her mind, but I can tell you what I did in a similar situation. I straight up asked her to go out, more than once, on Valentine's day. Initially she was reluctant to say yes and get into a relationship, but then agreed after the third time I asked. And so we went out, and it was great.

However, our relationship didn't last more than a year. She gave me various reasons like she was bored and stuff, and she kept asking me over for sex, but I think now maybe she really legit wasn't looking for a relationship from the start.

Following that when we were fuckbuddies, she would do stuff like ask me to stay the night with her when I had plans and she knew it, and I said "no, if you want to treat me like your boyfriend, you have to make me your boyfriend again". I'm still not sure whether that was the correct course of action because it never happened, we kept seeing each other casually for years, but never went out again. I think I traded not being single for not being pussywhipped. But now I have the freedom to look around for someone who won't fuck me around.

/blogpost

Maybe do something nice like give her a flower or take her out somewhere or something. Chase her a little bit, in case it's some kind of test to see if you actually care. But I think the most likely thing is that she means what she's saying. It's the simplest and most obvious solution.

If you're cool with being a fuckbuddy, you two can stay that way. If you don't want to be her fucktoy only and want a legit relationship, you're gonna have to eventually make the ultimatum to find out whether or not you're wasting your time.

>>17792481
For how long... Weeks? Months?

>>>17792415
also, git gud at eating pussy

http://www.youporn.com/watch/200577/pussy-eating-lesson/

>>17792495
>. A population sample of two isnt exactly reliable
Exactly. Never cheated, but very little off limits. Not the same subset of women.

>>17792537
No, just once in a while, of this keeps going something more serious is happening.

>>17792525
Get over your hang ups before going in. It's not her fault you picked shitty bitches before.

>>17792537
we need context here, is this happening to you?

>>17792542
He's not cheating. I know he's stressed at work (he's really competitive and great at what he does). I'm starting to feel like a psycho and wondering what a normal libido even looks like.

>>17792546
Yes *hangs head* It's probably been like 7 weeks? Lost 10lbs, bought new clothes/undies, got more aggressive.. Nada.

>>17792399
So he said it's not to do with you, but what DID he say? He's not gonna tell you? You might want to ask again in a non-intrusive way, make it as clear as possible that you don't want to pry, but that you'll try and be acceptive to the reason why, and that might get him to tell you.

I have limited info so I can only guess.
Consider the following possibilities, but please don't let them worry you
>worst case scenario 1: he doesn't find you attractive
>worst case scenario 2: he finds someone else attractive
>he doesn't want the relationship to get too close
>he has a fetish that you're not matching up to, you can ask what he's fapping to and maybe get in with the fetish if you're lucky and want to
>he doesn't find sex enjoyable (this was a problem for me at one point, because when I was a virgin I was used to my hand, and actual real sex didn't feel that good by comparison
>he's secretly gay
>he has some kind of self-esteem/bodily problem that makes him not want to have sex with you for fear of underperforming or grossing you out, like bad gas or bad sweat or a sexually transmitted disease
>he's recieved bad private news, which is turning him right off sex

also saying that you see masturbation as a threat, well sure I can see why, but that still comes off as a bit of a control-ly thing to say

>>17792548
Maybe this is relevant for you, it has a piece of advice at the end:
http://thelastpsychiatrist.com/2008/04/the_sexstarved_wife.html

>>17792553
So rape. **yaaaaas**

Feelsgoodman

So talking to this gal, and all seems to be fine. But then she starts talking about how she actively pursued shitty traits once upon a time (such as pursuing dangerous men), but now it's in her past. That she was entirely "in the moment" at the time.

Meanwhile I always had this same general template of what I wanted. I've gotten better at discerning traits and figuring out what's a dealbreaker, but overall I'm still after the same kind of woman over half a decade later. Admittedly, I have trouble taking her seriously now because of this. Anyone been in a similar position? I just find myself kind of annoyed because I can't help but feel it's just filling a stereotype.

>>17792579
You like what you like. People flirt with identities but only change with severe trauma.

Any guys here have experience with the thin/ultra thin condoms? Boyfriend and I are a bit reluctant to try them over worry of breakage. Also, how do they feel?

If I ask a girl out for lunch or whatever, should I explicitly say it's on me or is it naturally implied? I live in Scandinavia.

How does it feel to fuck a girl who's vagina isn't really tight?
I started to be a little conerned about my vaginal tightness since the last relationship. I felt like i was a little bit big for my partners penis (his dick was average), I noticed that when I get aroused my vagina expands a lot and in some positions I didnt feel much.
Does vaginal tightness really matters for guys?

>>17792678
Yes, it does. Try kegel lol.

>>17792678
Do Kegel exercises!
I had to do them for a while and I noticed a HUGE change in tightness.
I was never particularly loose to begin with, but right now I can hardly fit one finger in me if I'm not wet, and I gained some decent control on the muscles and can squeeze my boyfriend's dick when we fuck.

>>17792643
Me and my boyfriend used them for a few years before I got on IUD. They broke once because I wasn't really wet. Never had any other inconvenience.
We had sex 3-5 times a week for 4 years and just had one accident.
Can't tell you how it feels, tho.

>>17792643
I've never had an incident or breakage with one. If you use it properly it's generally just as safe as the normal types. They do feel a little better but wearing a condom always sucks.

Girls.

Under what circumstances would you never initiate a conversation with a guy, but would still talk for hours if he reaches out?

>>17792761
I rarely initiate conversations with my male friends (or with my female friends, if that's the point), but I enjoy talking to them if they talk to me.
With my boyfriend it was always pretty much 50/50, because I really miss him when he isn't around.

>>17792779
Ah. I was asking as a friend of mine never initiates conversation between us, but is willing to talk for hours on end when I initiate.
(FWIW, She probably knows that I do have some romantic interest in her.)


I would guess that in general you are more of the shy type? Seeing as you rarely initiate in general.

>>17792792
No, I'm just introverted. I'm not shy at all.
I don't really feel any need for constant social interaction, especially if we don't have much to say to each other.
If they do I try to accommodate their needs and talk to them as much as they wish (and I usually have fun while doing so).

>>17792797
I suppose the samething could easily carry over to those who are Shy or possibly socially anxious? Well at least the lack if initiation. The motive behind it can vary though.

AFAIK, this girl is definitely quite shy, and probably socially anxious. (Only has a handful of friends, and treats the professor as a friend. She did say that "I am just coming out of my shell")

>>17792663
Dunno about Scandinavian culture but offer to pay. Saying it's on you might come off as a bit of a dick move if she's a feminist.

I broke up with my fantastic long distance gf because of personal issues a week ago. I was in a bad place with my thoughts and made a very rash decision to break up with her. The reason was stress from my friends that dont really like me spending time with her (lol) and just the stress of the long distance. Its a 3.5 hour drive. I regretted it immediately. I reached out to her 2 days ago and said i wanted to talk about us. I said that if there was any chance we could try again, and i apologized and tried to explain my viewpoint of it all while taking full responsibility for my retarded actions. She said she was unsure but today she asked me to meetup and talk about us on sunday. This made me very happy, theres just one problem. She asked me to bring the stuff she forgot at my appartment. This seems to me that theres no fucking hope that shes even considering going back to my place. Do i have a chance bros? She really loved me and was very very upset when i broke things off.

>>17792367
I'd wonder why, but I'd be happy that he talked to me about it. I'm not into threesomes to be honest but I'm all for discussing fantasies with each other.

Am I wrong in thinking I have no chance with a woman? I'm only 5'8.

>>17792684
Agree with this, kegels have been really great for me. Not just tightness, just generally feeling good somehow.

>>17792954
My boyfriend is 5'7. I am 5'7", 135 lbs and not too terrible to look at.
There's hope, I guess.

>>17792495
theres not that many bi girls anyways so it doesnt matter

>>17792977
Are you a woman or a gay man? I've been taught by experience that women will not date anyone that they aren't shorter than in heels.

>>17792954
You are wrong, yes.

>>17792954
Try being a hunchback.

>>17792981
So your height vets out shallow and insecure women? What's the problem here?

>>17793006
I'm guessing he'd like to fuck shallow and insecure women?

>>17792981
... a woman.
I wear heels three times a year, who the fuck picks a partner over something so silly.

>>17793006
Maybe I need more experience, but it's all women that I've encountered so far. Latest example, a girl about 5'4 said I was simply too short to be taken seriously. And this was a girl from my church. I mean I could just be looking in the wrong places. But I avoid clubs and places of that nature. Am I supposed to look there?

>>17793010
Can you share your thought process that lead you to this conclusion? You're not the first one to assume this of me, and I still haven't received an answer as to why people think that.

>>17793029
Sure. I assume that because I'm guessing you're a male in your twenties, and the vast majority of males in their twenties want exactly that, easy sex.
No offense intended.

>>17793038
That's okay, I didn't find it offensive, I was just curious. You're right about my age (23). I don't want sex however. I recognize I am the minority when it comes to that. I think there might be something wrong with me because, growing up, all my friends appeared to want to do anything with a pulse. I never understood that. I don't want that. I just want someone to love. But when I try to ask women on dates or hang out etc nearly all of them just bluntly say my height is a dealbreaker. I usually ask women shorter than me, and if not shorter, then the same height. Maybe I'll try asking taller women. I'm not sure what to do anymore other than that. I avoided taller women because I assumed if shorter women thought I was too short than there would be no way taller women would see me as human.

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fitizen here, mainly looking for advice from guys.
The past few years I've been autistic with chicks, within the past few weeks I've gotten close to two, extremely .
For a laugh I thought I'd browse tinder and, well,
>Pic related
How can I settle for one when they keep throwing themselves at me. I'm not in a relationship with either, but don't want to fuck everything up.

This is a situation I'm new to so I feel lost thanks /adv/

>>17793056
Honestly that kinda baffles me. Never would I tell anyone I have a problem with his height (I wouldn't in any case until they're like midgets), but in any case I'm sorry Anon.

>>17793072
It's okay. It hurt at first but it's what I've grown to expect. I see/hear people talking about height like it doesn't matter but my experience in life so far has taught me the opposite. Maybe they're just lying to themselves, or maybe they don't realize it because they've never had to think about it.

I've mostly accepted that nothing I have the power to change about myself will be sufficient for a woman because height is the only thing I cannot change. I mean just the fact that you're saying you would have a problem with a midget is again proof that height is the foundation of a man's value in a woman's eyes, whether they realize it or not. It's not necessarily bad. People have standards. We are human. Well, except if we are short I guess.

>>17793093
It's not the foundation of a man's value to me, but it's certainly important. But 5'8, to me, wouldn't be a problem.
And don't be overly dramatic, girls being cunts about your height doesn't make you inhuman.

>>17792663
>is it naturally implied
It isn't

>>17793093
>We are human. Well, except if we are short I guess.

Not that guy, but just reading that made me feel sad
brb gonna call my 150cm friend to see how he's doing

If she tell everyone that she has a boyfriend and not me, it means something? She's in her home town during weekends and at uni during the week. It's a month that we speak every day about everything (even about her life) and never a single reference, she speak with another girl 5 minutes and I hear the word. I'm flirting with her explicitly. Maybe she likes that but she will tell me her status when I step up?

>>17793107
>overly dramatic
Another example, a woman told me to 'fuck off you little shrimp'. She literally referred to me as a different species. You do not understand what it's like, so you cannot say that I am being dramatic. We are humans, animals, and we are susceptible to the concept of 'survival of the fittest' just as much as any other animal. Short 'people' like me aren't treated like other humans. You don't understand because you don't experience it.

I don't care if my current height isn't a problem for you. If I were 3'8, it would be. You wouldn't be telling me these things if that were my height. And that's what I'm trying to get at. Whether you realize it or not, height is the foundation of a man's value. Without an acceptable height, they are viewed below all others regardless of all else. Again, whether or not you want to mentally accept this, that's how society works.

>>17793133
There's still gradations. Same as I'd date a moderately attractive man, but not one who looks like Quasimodo. Or a man who doesn't have a great sense of humor, but not one who jokes about gassing the kikes all day long.

>>17792678
>Does vaginal tightness really matters for guys
You can break a dick from being too tight. JS. Saw it in the ER once.

>>17792761
Fatties

I'm introverted but I will initiate with proximity if attraction is there. The only person that would have to seek me out is someone I'm 100% not attracted to (aka fatties)

>>17792979
Kek. Def a virgin.

>>17793016
**waves** It's not attractive to be physically stronger than the guy you're fucking. Unless you are just crazy built, height is proportionate.

>>17793029
>5'4 said I was simply too short to be taken seriously

She was a bitch. And a liar. And stop finding dates at church, weirdo.

>>17793198
Then again, that's just you.

Some female friends of mine are too nervous to reach out to guys they like (Even when they know the guy is into them as well)

So I was in a relationship for 3 months with this girl who's 19 (I'm 22)

Things were going great until she turned around and just said she wasn't feeling happy anymore. No reason as to why, got the whole it's not you talk.

It's been a month since we broke up and we've had several arguments since - mainly if I'd go away on a weekend. We've still spent most of time together besides this but she's said several times she doesn't see me as a boyfriend anymore

Anyway she likes to go clubbing which I hate because I know what the guys sre like there and her best friends a nymph.

She told me a guy came up to her at the club and they spooe for several hours (this was a couple weeks ago). They text daily, she messages him when we're lying in bed but was secretive about it and didn't have his number saved


Come last night and he pops up as a contact with a love heart next to his name. I told her she should just go home because I can't bear being there when she's speaking to someone else. She's flipped it and said she's done completely now.

Am I just a nutter ladies? This whole situation has me up and down in moods constantly

>>17793246
She doesn't like you dude, break it up.

>>17793246
>I told her she should just go home because I can't bear being there when she's speaking to someone else
*applauds* Never change. This is gold. Hold on to your self respect.

>>17793267
>>17793274

As much as it hurts, it's the best thing for myself.

She's said she doesn't like this other guy but I feel she's just trying to dodge talking about it with me incase it doesn't work for her I'd be her backup

Thanking you both

>>17793308
>I feel she's just trying to dodge talking about it with me incase it doesn't work for her I'd be her backup
You got it exactly right dude. It happens more often than you think.

>>17793324
That makes me really upset, how can you just use people like they were electronic utensils like this?

>>17793338
Send her One that's silly but also not 100% dressed (like a naked mile or a dude in a kilt). Tell her to get more product she'll have to pay in n00ds. Be funny and it'll work.

>>17793206
>weirdo
Why is he a weirdo for that?

>>17793341
They don't see it that way. Consider it a subconscious reaction to deep insecurities. If you actually called her on it she would probably stay with you to prove you wrong but no one wants that.

>>17793346
Because girls go to church to be at church. Not to get dick.

>>17793351
Oh fuck off. I'm sure he meant at social functions and shit, not literally during the service you autist. It's perfectly normal.

>>17793351
If you use that phrase unironically, you're an idiot. But I guess you fit in well with current society.

>>17793352
**taptap** (whispers) you wanna get it on over some communion wafers... U bring da grape joose.

>>17793365
>prepare for the second coming

>>17793365
>>17793367
>You'll be taking the Lord's name in vain a lot until we're done

>>17793367
>second cumming

>>17793395
>don't worry, the color white indicates purity!

this is fun

>>17793395
Keeping it holey

>>17793395
>Those knees are for more than prayin

>>17793347

Yeah I couldn't do that, I've dragged myself through enough of a emotional ride as I can deal with as is

Appreciate the insight

>>17792954
A towering personality isn't nessecarily on a 6'5" body. What you lack in inches, make up in personality. I've seen people towering over me but being so insecure and forgetable that renders them insignificant, and i've seen literal manlets with overwhelming presence.

It's not what you are, it's how you communicate it

t. 6'2" with the proper alpha mindset

>>17793204
I am not physically stronger than my boyfriend even if we are the same height. He's slightly stronger than me, I think.
Also - ultimately, when exactly does it matter to have a strong and big boyfriend? I literally never had to use strength for anything other than moving heavy things.

>>17792643
as long as you are wet/lubed and the condom is still fresh/within the shelf-life, they're as safe as regular condoms. buy a small pack and test them to see if they hold up, but be ready to stop on a break and re-wrap after every nut.
I've used them, they feel better than regular rubbers, but I am still wary of them

>>17793067
>The past few years I've been autistic with chicks
>don't want to fuck everything up.

You are guaranteed to fuck everything up. That is how you learn to NOT fuck things up.

No one comes out the gates swinging 100%. This is a social SKILL you have to build up over time through trail and error.

Get the fuck out of your head, stop trying to be perfect, and just play it by ear. The more you over think this shit, the less naturally you act and the less useful that potential learning opportunity will be.

>>17792643
>Any guys here have experience with the thin/ultra thin condoms?

Slightly better/less annoying than thicker condoms. There's not too much of an change or increase in break chance as long as you're using them right.

The only thing you have to watch out for is... for lack of a better word, gauge size (I.E. how thick the penis is)

Condoms actually come in different sizes (this is something I learned first hand the hard way). There is a smaller "snug" fit, the normal fit, and a thicker "xl" fit (And these aren't standard, different brands use different words to describe the sizes.)

http://www.condom-sizes.org/condom-size-chart/condom-size-chart

Because condoms are elastic, probably like 70-80% of people are fine with normal, but if you're on either end of the spectrum of gauge and you use the wrong condom size, you can have an increased chance of slippage/breakage (The first time I bought condoms, I bought "ultra thin, snug fit" condoms unknowingly. Every time I put one on it felt like my penis was be crushed and they'd always slip off. )

On the different between ultra-thin vs normal thickness, I'm going to say polypropylene vs polyisoprene vs lamb skin (warning: these do not protect against stds) and ribbed vs dotted vs whatever will make a bigger difference. My advice, Just go to a sex shop, go to the area where they keep the individually packed condoms, and grab and grab like 2 of each and see what you guys like better.

>>17793424
Ugh. Get your liberal feminazis shit outta here. If your chick can deck you, you a queen.

I've been seeing a girl for about 2 months now. Things have been going pretty well. However she did jump into a relationship with me a month after a breakup and now she says that she's feeling very confused and things have gone too fast.. She was the one who said she loved me first, dropped hints about marriage and that I was the one for her. Now she's regretting that we didn't slowly progress to that. I agreed and we went with the flow for two weeks, easing off - things have been going a lot better with less pressure. However now she's said that she needs space but that she doesn't want to hurt me. I said I understand, respect her decision yet I don't necessarily agree as things have been going well for us recently. I said I'd rather let her go than be left in ambiguity, especially if it involves other people. She says it's not about anyone else, it's just her head is fucked up due to everything going so fast and still somewhat reeling from her breakup (which she instigated as she was 'sick of his shit'.. she was giving more than he was)... I'm fine with giving her space and not talking to her (she's always the one who messages me first anyway)

What else should I do about this? She's messaging me right now as if nothing has happened.

>>17793419
You are looking at this situation as a man looks at his friends or peers, and within that context, you are correct that height is irrelevant. However, when thinking about someone within the context of a relationship, height does matter. Personality means nothing in this context unless you have sufficient height. 'Overwhelming presence' means nothing if you're shorter than all other men around you. Your advice is equivalent to a white person telling a black person that racism doesn't exist, 'it's all about personality!'. You cannot understand how women truly view short people, as you have not experienced it nor have you actively discussed it. I guarantee you that any woman you ask will have a height requirement. I also guarantee you that most women you've been with wouldn't have been with you if you were half a foot shorter. There's a reason the 6 ft meme exists.

>>17793424
If you live in a poor country like I do it matters a lot.

>>17793424
You are the EXTREME minority if you're not b8ing

>>17793445
Am I a feminazi for dating someone I like? Wew.

>>17793470
I live in one of the safest towns in my country, in a G7 country.

>>17793474
I'm slightly taller than average for girls and he's slightly shorter than average for guys.
We're the same height. It's not such a big deal. I am not even the only girl I know dating "short" guys. My best friend's ex is 5'5".

Doesnt even really have to be the opposite gender, my question doesnt deserve a thread so i wanted to post it here

I feel like my anxiety is fake because i never have the feeling that im going to die while having a panic attack. I have them so rarely that it feels like im just a pussy who needs to man up. I posted this in a thread last night and I wanted more opinions. I only have moments of intense sadness

>>17793485
There's a reason he's her ex

>>17793490
He took her virginity, cheated on her with another girl, gave her a STD and broke her heart.
I think that mattered more than him being an elf.

So, this girl comes every day to talk to me and spends like half an hour just kinda flirting and whatnot. Yesterday she made me lose the last bus home by chit chatting. I have her phone (she didn't gave it to me). I could ask her for her phone, or ask her out but Im lazy. Would it be weird if I text her some bullshit about yesterday? What you girls think? She's kind of cool (kind of a hippy gal whatever the fuck that means). Should I go for it?

>>17793495
Yeah you really are the extreme minority if you think that's the reason she's not with him anymore. If he was 6'6 I guarantee she wouldn't care about any of that. What country do you live in? Maybe wherever you live, women actually have souls and you're actually telling the truth. I'm willing to admit I'm wrong.

>>17792663
Swede femanon here.
Generally the Scandinavian mindset of girls is that everyone pays for themselves because we do not want to feel like we owe you something. Personally I think it would be an act of chivalry, but would in the end insist on paying my share no matter what. I do not want you to feel like you're getting used for your money either so that is why I pay for myself.

But I know some gold diggers that won't ever go on a second date with you if you don't at least offer to pay. But I also got raging feminist friends that won't go on a date with you again if you do offer so it's tricky.. You simply have to find out what kind of a girl you are dealing with.

I'd say offer but don't try and hassle if she wants to pay for herself.

>>17793485
>I live in one of the safest towns in my country, in a G7 country.
Precisely my point.

Girls

How often do you get hit on by guys?

>>17793504
Not really. She got back with him a few times over the last 10 years, still probably the one ex boyfriend she's crazier about. He's really great looking beside being short, has a totally handsome face and a very alpha personality.

I am from Italy.

>>17793524
For sure. But most of us come from first world countries.

>>17793526
Maybe twice a week when going out. Very very rarely in 'random' places like on the metro or a café (and thank goodness)

>>17793526
Pretty much never. But then again I rarely go out and avoid eye contact when I do. Plus I'm a fatty so.. I have nothing going for me.

>>17793526
Maybe a couple of times a week, if I go out at night.
Sometimes it happens while I am doing other shit, but it's mostly when I am out with my girl friends.

>>17793532
I might move to Italy then. Maybe I'm simply surrounded by shit people. If you've not been b8ing this entire time, you've actually given me hope. False hope perhaps, but still.

>>17793532
That's funny, sometimes I ask myself what the hell I'm even doing in this website, I live pretty much in a quasi-favela in Brazil and I can barely relate to these people.

>>17793446
Give her space as you've been doing now. Be supportive.
Maybe she won't be clear about it but she starts talking be ready to listen. Time will tell the rest.

>>17793543
There are shit people anywhere. But Italy is a cool place for sure.
I think that insecurity about your height might be a bigger issue than your height. If you make a huge deal out of something, it is going to be a big deal for others, too. I know how hard it is to get over complexes, but you should try and focus on that instead of being sad over things that you have no control on.
Anyway, no. I've been honest all along.
Good luck anon (:

>>17793534
>>17793540
My girlfriend kinda tried to threaten me saying "You know how many guys hit on me?" when I was stressed and being unresponsive to her and it really pissed me off. On one hand she says she is insecure but then she says that shit to me to get a reaction out of me.

Girls

Do you sometimes create drama or have fantasies of creating drama with your partner for him to "become dominant" and make you "stay in your place"/" punish fuck" you etc?

>>17793619
It's a pretty shit thing to say. But probably it's true that she did that out of insecurity, it is a shitty way to get attentions.
Did you try to talk to her about it?

>>17793619
That's retarded and she's retarded. Why would she say that?

>>17793622
Not really. I mean I have dominance fantasies of course but those involve no self-created drama, the hot part (to me) is that I'm getting dominated even though I didn't do anything wrong, except secretly wanting to be dominated.
But that's just me, I'm really more into the passionate/loving kind of dominance and not the "I'll show you were the kitchen is you dumb whore" kind.

>>17793448

5'7" male.
Almost all of my friends growing up were 6'2"+ (tallest two are 6'5" and 6'7"
I have dated a number of women taller than me.
I have never had a problem because of my height.
In fact, my girlfriend (of near 2 years) is 5'9".
The guy who has the longest relationship among us is 5'2".

You are full of shit here.

>>17793632
>The guy who has the longest relationship among us is 5'2".

Oh and his girlfriend is taller than me.

>>17793622
I don't create drama, but I do get my boyfriend frustrated just to get him to hate-fuck me.
Angry sex is the best.

>>17793628
>>17793631
She apologized about it later but it still bothers me. I always thought she was like me and just an average person, but her saying that ended up making me feel insecure. Girls never hit on me (or I'm too dumb to notice) or go out of their way to talk to me. I didn't let it show though.

Anyway she said that because I wasn't being as affectionate as she was being I suppose. But I was going through a bunch of personal/family issues and didn't feel much in the mood to. I told her I loved her but thats about it, guess it wasn't enough for her to hear.

>>17793640
During hate fucking do you need a lot foreplay or do you just want him to frustratedly penetrate you immediately?

>>17793632
>my experience is different so yours isn't real!

I can accuse you of being full of shit as well.

>>17793652
We tease each other back and forth for a while, I like getting him hard and acting sexy while making fun of him (which gets him incredibly frustrated). I am incredibly wet when he actually gets "angry" enough to take off my clothes and fuck me, I don't need foreplay at that point.

It's not like we are having an emotional breakdown, it's more... banter turning naughty. I feel like I'm winning the "argument" when he loses his mind.

>>17793632
Just scrolling past. New anon here. I read through the chain of replies and this guy said that women explicitly stated that his height was a dealbreaker. Now, can you explain to us all how he is full of shit for thinking this way? 5'9 here and I think he's absolutely right but I will concede he is wrong if you elaborate properly.

>>17793632
>In fact, my girlfriend (of near 2 years) is 5'9".
likely a hambeast and/or landwhale amirite? those don't count bucko

>>17793648
An average looking girl gets hit on much more than an average looking guy. Don't feel insecure about it.
It's normal that it bothers you, but it's not a huge deal.

She's still not justified for being petty and hurting you purposely, you should talk about this again if it made you hurt..

Femanons, what do you think of shaved pubes on a guy?

Recently I did it, and I admit it feels good but kinda looks weird

>>17793676
Weird as fuck especially if he's really hairy.
Trimmed pubes (around 2 cm) and shaved balls/shaft. That's the deal.

>>17793659
>>my experience is different so yours isn't real!
>I can accuse you of being full of shit as well.

Difference is, I'm not the one making broad sweeping about how an entire gender thinks--making guarantee's that this is how they think and literally trying to parallel this to the existence of racist discrimination.

Over-dramatic much?

>>17793684
>shaved balls

Isn't that hard to do though?

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I'm about to lose my glasses, going to do lasers.

I look like a dork and pretty much am one in my heart, should I reconsider?

Can't help but feel like glasses are seen as a defect and unattractive 80% of the time.

Opinions? Guy here.

How do I know if I should go for a kiss on the first date?

Is it at the end of the date?

>>17793694
well he's right mostly. that's how most women think. obviously there's exceptions. you seem to have met many exceptions. or you're just lying to make yourself feel better.

>>17793694
But it is the same as racial discrimination. Race and height are something that a person is genetically destined to be, and is something they cannot change. It is also something that causes people to feel like they aren't human when they're surrounded by other people that treat them differently because of it. Height and race are the only two things that a person cannot change about themselves.

All things considered, you're not being helpful. You're just providing something contradictory and argumentative for the sake of arguing, not for the sake of conversation. You don't seek to help this anon, you seek to tell it off.

>>17793702
Well, post a pic of you with glasses!
I personally find glasses pretty hot, and I think a lot of guys look good with the right frame.
My boyfriend looks much better with glasses than he does without, his eyes look bigger and his face looks more regular.

>>17793699
No clue, never had balls.
Greatly enjoy playing with my boyfriend's balls when he shaves them, tho.

How do I seal the deal with girls after they give me their number, add me on the booker or hooking up on the dance floor?

In retrospect I have lost painfully many opportunities after talking with chatting up girls, on their way home from the town on the bus, outside clubs or even in my in the fucking elevator in the student housing I live, when they say something like "I guess I have to walk home alone". Mostly because I'm blotto and don't catch such subtleties.

Also, does anyone have those PUA imagedumps? I found myself doing the shit in those subconsciously several times even before reading them and would like to try them out.

>>17793702
I have to wear thick glasses (myopia), tried to use contacts for a while and girls would always tell I looked way better without them. Unfortunately I have dry eyes so I couldn't use them for long.

Go for it.

>>17793716

I'd rather not, just looking for opinions and honesty.

People rarely say anything if it's outright negative, I'd like to hear from people who hate glasses.

>>17793699
Not really, just be careful.

>>17792684
>>17792681
>>17792681
Dude here, Been reading up on them. Not only secual health stuff, but bladder and prostate too, so it had me curious.

Just can't seem to figure out what i'm supposed to be doing. Im sort of puckering up my sphincter and doing the sort of reflex/sensation when i ejaculate.

Is this how they're supposed to feel. Allegedly i'm supposed to be trying to holding a fart, but can't imagine what that feels like right now. Is edging a kegle exercise?

>>17793702
I think most guys look good with glasses, if it's the right ones.

>>17793694
What country do you live in? Maybe your culture is different than mine. I'll admit if I'm wrong. But I've talked to multiple women (people that I knew were women, not anons here that I can't know the gender of for a fact), and all of them have told me basically what I said in that post. By all means, I would love for you to change my mind, I would love to see the world differently (no sarcasm). But from my discussions with women and life experience, what I say is true for the women where I live at least. I'm sorry you think I'm just making generalizations, when the literal entirety of women I've talked to about this have said the same thing more or less. I'm simply relaying what they've told me.

And I don't understand why you think I'm being dramatic unless you're applying certain inflections on my words that shouldn't be there. I'm not angry, nor am I upset. I'm just speaking matter-of-factly. The two places where I said 'guarantee' aren't exactly super crazy assertions either, but I do admit that I was wrong for using the word. I simply meant that any woman I've talked to would fit those guarantees, but now I see that's not how other people would read it.

Sincerely, accounts like yours, if true, give me hope and make me think that I may just be surrounded by shallow shit people.

>>17793737
I don't know if it's the same feeling for guys and girls, but what my doctor said to do is to try to stop peeing halfway through the stream to identify the muscles and then try to repeat the contraction.
I feel a pretty definitive pleasure when I relax.

So maybe yes, you seem to be doing the right thing. But wait for a guy.

>>17793760
I tried this, but didnt feel anything.

>>17792367
I think threesomes within a relationship are always a very risky move, and not worth putting a solid relationship through. But for dirty talk? Yes please.

>>17793761
ever get a boner and make it bounce up and down with just your muscles? do that a bunch without a boner. this might give you a boner. oh also, im a guy.

>>17793715

The advice he's giving is tantamount to "Give up, you got no shot."

How is that constructive? It's just being discouraging and spreading some weird ass insecurity, exacerbating what's already there and perpetuating a mentality that is directly HARMFUL towards OP's line of thought and his ability to achieve what he wants.

Are there women that focus on height as a priority quality? Sure. But there are guys that do the same in the reverse. Not every person is like that.

However, approaching someone with the mentality that you've already lost--or even worse, not approaching because you gave up without trying--will pretty much ALWAYS guarantee, even if you had a shot, you undermined and destroyed it on your own before you even took a step forward.

EVEN IF we assume whatever bullshit heightism (or whatever the fuck you want to call it) logic is true, if you act like it is and give up before you try, that 1 out of 2, 1 out of 10, 1 out of 100 chance (or whatever the fuck it is) that it might have worked out, instantly becomes a 0% chance.

Stop trying to look for excuses and reasons that you're "disadvantaged" and actually just fucking put yourself out there.

>>17793676
I want all the pubes. No trimming either.

>>17792761
>>17792810

Well, any suggestion what I could do about this situation?

>>17793772
With all due respect, that's disgusting.

>>17793684
What this distinguished lady said

>>17793767
Do this a lot with a boner since its pretty fun. But i'll give it a go without, thanks.

>>17793768
Who are you referring to when you say 'he'? I think you may have mixed some people up. Or maybe I have. But, it is my understanding that the anon that anon replied to hasn't actually given advice yet. He's just spammed about how his experience is different, which isn't helping.

Either way, what you're saying is accurate and I agree with you.

However, since you don't seem to have noticed, the 5'8 anon has indeed put himself out there. He has stated, numerous times, that he talked to women, asked them out, with most (or maybe even all idk) saying that he was too short. He's just relaying what he's been told according to one of the latest posts.

Your last sentence implies that he isn't trying, when in fact, he is. I don't recall ever seeing that anon saying that he's given up or that he's not trying anymore. Point that out to me if I missed it. Maybe I glanced over a key part of his posts.

If he is actively asking women out, how has he given up?

>>17793699
What about the gooch. I always feel silly with shaved balls and just trimmed pubes as well.

How do you guys deal with potential SOs and their previous relationship?

Like, when I was with my ex, it would sometimes come up things she did with her previous relationships and how she felt about them. And I would always feel bad. Then I would feel bad for feeling bad since I know it doesn't really matter since she's with me now.

Even if it's some nice, interesting chick I met online, I'd check out her Facebook and see pictures of her with some old boyfriend, and I'd instantly be turned off or somewhat insecure.

Anyone have a similar experience? Any idea where this insecurity is coming from? I wanna figure what is the reason for this so I can fix it and be emotionally healthier, guys.

>>17793798
Would like to help but unfortunately I'm the same. I feel like it's an insecurity of nit feeling good enough, as stupid as that may sound

>>17793798
I don't feel that way anymore, but it's probably because of an even more unhealthy reason, so I'm not sure I should even put the idea in your head.

>>17793798
I'm a guy and I feel the same. Tbh for my next relationship I'll come clear and say I don't want to know anything that isn't vital about past relationships and stuff. It's just a hassle.

Weird thing happened. There's a girl I met a few years ago. We talked to each other for a little while and she seemed fairly interested. I however did not realize about a few cues at the time. She was really shy and it was difficult to get her to talk to anyone.

About half a year ago, she asked around for my phone number not long after talking about her to another friend completely unrelated to her. It was unusual after a year of not seeing her and in fact I thought I wouldn't see her again. We texted each other and at some point we went to a funeral of someone related to us both. She didn't talk to me there but when I went back home she really felt like comforting me at least over text. A while later I tried a few times to ask her out but she would end up having plans on her own once and twice again. We didn't talk much again except for one time at which she put some status that indicated she had a bad time and was wondering whether someone would be there to help her out. I decided to tell her that if she ever wanted I would be there to comfort her the same way she did back some time ago.

Fast forward to today. Hanging out with some Guy I tell him again about my missed opportunity with her. I randomly check on my contacts list and I notice her status: <my name> you're the best thing that I have and I love you really bad

It might be that she's hanging out with some dude that happens to have the same name. But she always seemed fairly unsuccessful. What do you think?

>>17793834
Why don't you ask?

>>17793816
Seriously man. I think I will do the same. When I got with that same ex, I made it clear I wanted communication to be clear and honest and straight (at that point in my life, I thought clear, absolutely transparent communication lied at the core of every good relationship) Big mistake, at least for me. She would talk about old boyfriend, and then it'd irritate my mind. So i thought I'd ask more questions (i thought more information would mean more transparency which would make me trust her and sorta put my mind at ease). But no. She talked about weird one night stands and weird sex stories, and like a dumbass I acted like it didn't bother me and I asked her more retarded questions. It totally fucking bothered me and it made me feel absolutely awful. Guess I really couldn't handle the truth. Maybe she should've been a little more sensitive, idk, she was never the most caring or motherly person. Anyway, now I feel, generally speaking, communication is very important but I suppose I should also take feelings and emotions into account, more so than before anyway.

I wonder if this is something normal or is this some insecurity i have to eventually work past.

>>17793858
Because I'd rather look like an asshat who thinks he matters to someone else to this board than this girl in particular. It's so inconvenient that I can't really figure out whether she found someone in these last 4 months or not.

>>17793889
You haven't spoke to her in a while?

Play it casual and see how she's doing and you'll find out

Otherwise you can sit there and ponder on it which will just eat at you

>>17793903
Yeah... Haven't talked to her since july or so. Not for any particular reason, just she didn't talk too much herself.

Which makes this less likely to be directed at me... But then again she asked for my number one whole year after losing contact with her, just to talk to me.

>>17792323
Girls

My female friend invited me to eat dinner with her family today but Monday I confessed to her and she revealed that she had a husband(I just didn't notice her ring)

I declined because I wanted to eat dinner with my own family but was there any funny business going on there by asking me to meet her family?

5'8 anon here. I take your silence as meaning I was right. That's unfortunate. I was hoping to have my mind changed.

Guys, how do I get back with my ex?

So over a year ago, it had been a while after I broke up with him. When I started dating another guy he was crying and told me he would do anything to make us work out and I rejected him. I wanted to remain friends but he insisted on me blocking him from everything. He said we would talk again when he's ready. Anyway, my relationship with the other guy has been over for a while but I feel attracted to my ex again. He contacted me again and we're friends I suppose. He's changed so much since the phone call when he cried. His body looks a lot better, he goes out more, takes care of his face a lot more and I don't know I feel like I made a mistake.

I feel like he did this all for me because he sends me snaps of him doing boxing or whatever and other stuff to maybe show off. We talk like once a week, and when we do he still seems like the same guy yet different. How should I approach this?

>>17793918
You weren't. Whenever someone chimed in to say height is fine, you said it wasn't because some girls were mean to you.

>>17793934
Honestly if you broke up with him, then dated someone else and now want to go back to him because the other guy didn't work out and he's looking better now, he'll see through that. He's probably trying to look and feel better for other girls, not you - since you broke his heart.

hey girls if a guy asked you out but you said you only see the two of you as best friends but he had enough smug in him to say "but married couples call each other best friends all the time" would you think it was creepy or give him for credit to come up with a rebound

>>17793934
It's too late

>>17793934
This
>>17793952

You probably caused him to improve and initially he did it for you but that might not be the case anymore. Also, he might be sending those snaps to people aside from you

>>17793961
Wouldn't be creepy, but it wouldn't make me reconsider either.

>>17792323
Guys,

I meet a friend on the internet. I have talked to her (others) for about two years now. She goes to Columbia and I came down to NYC for Thanksgiving with my family. We were supposed to go to the hair salon on Sunday morning, and then I would leave and head back home.

Now, she wants to meet on Sunday at like 6pm. So I wouldn't be able to drive home that night. I would leave the next morning. My boyfriend is getting home late on Sunday.

I know I sound pathetic, but I miss my boyfriend.
I don't have anything important to do.
I also want to meet this person. It could be fun, it's only one day off.

Is it worth it?

Guys, do you sometimes accidentally sit on your balls? If so, does it hurt as much as I imagine?

>>17793981
i squish me balls and sound like a british man gurgling on gravel as my sack becomes nothing but soup

>>17792379
stressed

>>17793961
That's not creepy. Don't constantly bring up marriage though, if I had been dating a guy for a few months and he brought up marriage once a week I would be turned off.

>>17793916
Maybe she thought you were lonely?

>>17793963
Explain?

>>17793952
I don't like him just for that, I mean its a plus but he was one of my longest and best relationships. We shared a lot of good times and rarely fought.

>>17793993
Why did you break up with him? Depending on the reason you might be able to get back together with him I guess, but honestly I don't see it happening.

>>17793981
It never happened to me, the underwear keeps the nutsack close yo you.

>>17794002
But aren't boxers really wide and...flapping? Or do you wear boyshorts or whatever they're called for guys?

>have gf
>pretty fresh relation ship, just two months official
>mess up, drunkenly kiss a girl at a party
>a few days later gf says we need to talk
>tells me she was at a party and made out with a dude there(coincidentally on the same day)
>tells me that we are not going to work out
>feel kinda sad, because shes really nice and cool, but also feel incredibly relieved since now my little mistep isnt that bad
>tell her that i loved out time together and all that jazz, never tell her that im no better than she is
>years later she finds out about what happend
>calls me out on it

Was i in the wrong here?

>>17793997
Distance mostly. We disagreed on our future together I guess. We never had a bad time together though.

He initially wanted to stay near his family, but over that phone call when he cried he said he would choose me over them. I didn't think he was willing to but he's moved out since then.

>>17793992
I did tell her on Monday that I wish I could see my brother and dad more since they're out of town and she has like 3 brothers, a dad and a husband(she wanted me to meet) so maybe she thought being with the males in her life would cheer me up. I don't know if that's conjecture though, I don't really understand the female mind.

Though I was planning to go but she said that her dinner would've been cooked at 4, the same time my mom gets off of work.

>>17793977
On the one hand i dont know why you would want to meet this girl, on the other hand being away from your beloved for one more day wont kill you.

>>17794011
I wear briefs boxers, maybe with boxers it gets a little too free.

>>17794030
Odd. I bet it's nothing.

>>17794034
I wanted to meet her, because when I come to NYC I don't get to experience it as a young adult. I usually stay at home with my aunt and go on the computer. I get kindof bored.

Since I was staying here until Sunday, I thought it wouldn't be out of the way.
Now, I would have to stay behind a day, which makes it out of the way.

>>17793776
To each their own. But there's a reason why people lovingly refer to good sex "dirty".

>>17794049
Ah okay, fair enough.

>>17793676
It depends on the person.

I like them trimmed occasionally. No hair reminds me of a child. Too long of hair can get in my teeth.

>>17793948
>some
>mean
I said that all women I talked to told me that it mattered and that it was a dealbreaker. Most were nice about it. It's not my fault you misunderstood a simple concept. No one responded to my posts such as >>17793747, or even other peoples' posts like >>17793792. Again, I find that quite interesting.

>>17793676
I wouldn't mind it but I wouldn't ask any guy to do it

>>17792565
Joke. But from the female perspective how is this helpful? Am I too narcissistic?

Puzzled

>>17794090
hey look at that, still no responses. no one has provided a sufficient argument or reason for me to change my mind except the one girl that made me think that i possibly simply live in a shitty area and have therefore only spoken to shitty women. if only you people elaborated instead of spewing worthless platitudes. but i think it's because you know you're lying to me and yourselves.

>>17794128
I feel you. Maybe I need a separate thread.

>>17794078
The funny thing it's that I only find it disgusting in myself, I really don't mind a woman's bush.

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>>17792323
>go to lunch with girl
>she spends a lot of time on her phone initially
>we eventually end up talking and I get a few laughs out of her

I really really really wanted to ask her what she feels about me because we've known each other a long time, but I couldn't help but feel she was put off by me. This is after trying to sleep with me several times though, fuck I don't know what I'm doing wrong. I don't know how to flirt, I don't know how to express interest, how to tease, how to even talk to people. I try to improve myself by interacting with others but everytime... I just want to tie a noose around my neck afterward. I want to send her a text, ask her what she thinks of me, but I can't find any reason to think she would like me even though she has expressed interest in the past. I don't know how to do any of this stuff and I'm really at my mental limit. I just want to blurt it all out so she can stop talking to me and I can move on with my miserable shitty life, because it's obvious I'm incapable of establishing any sort of relationship.

How do I tell if something is a date or just hanging out?

Where's the line between hard to get and desperate? I just wanna be straight up with girls and say I like you let's hang out but it seems like I have to pretend I'm not keen, play it cool first. Every time I my attraction plain I see girls automatically become bored, like they were liking the do I or don't I game, do girls like to be kept guessing a little? Too much work to do I just wanna be straight up.

Decided a couple days ago that I'd like to date this girl I know.

Do I ask her out as soon as Thanksgiving break ends (which probably means our first date would be during finals week, assuming she's interested), or should I just wait until the start of the spring semester?

>>17794414
if he doesn't seem interested i stop caring immediately cause it seems like a waste of time to give him any more attention. also playing games is super annoying.
>>17794441
just keep in contact with her through out break and ask her out next semester

i am ugly and dress kind of like a dyke i have no idea why this guy is interested in me

he's kinda cute, funny but dorky i can see other girls liking him easily

so what could his motives be?

he asked to hang out a week ago and we had a nice time now he wants to get lunch this weekend and i honestly do not know what he could want from me and it's really bothering me now

>>17794591
D-Do you have short hair? I love short hair :3

>>17794591
>he asked to hang out a week ago and we had a nice time now he wants to get lunch this weekend

sounds like he wants to hang out with you
may or may not have romantic intent but he's definitely interested in you in some way

>>17794591
it just seems really suspicious
>>17794599
shoulder length

>>17794604


i honestly can not tell if it's romantic or not he's hard to read

i see him like every other day i don't get why'd he want to get lunch just for fun

it's really weird to me

there just has to be an ulterior motive

>>17794612
>i don't get why'd he want to get lunch just for fun
what do you two normally do when you see him every other day? if it's just class together, maybe he wants more time to talk to you as a friend and not as a classmate

>there just has to be an ulterior motive
maybe he wants to date you, maybe he just wants to be friends
he's not trying to humiliate you, if that's what you're worried about

>>17794617
we are in this club together at school that has this lounge area that we can go to in between classes, i see and talk to him all the time there.

yeah he doesn't seem evil.

but his personality is very contrived and really irked me at first but when we talk he seems normal

>>17794636
if when you're hanging out outside of the club, y'all do things related to the club, it's almost certainly just he wants to be friends

if you're doing totally unrelated things, then he's probably trying to date you and he's just too scared of rejection to say so (or thinks he's made it clearer than he has) (or could still just see you as a friend, but the only one who knows for sure is him)

if you like him, then make a move/give off signs that he'd have to be a moron or uninterested to not pick up on
if you don't like him, either don't hang out with him so much or when you do, make it clear it's just platonic

>>17794642
>y'all do things related to the club
the first time we hung out we did
but now he want get lunch which is unrelated

a few times he asks what I'm doing on the weekend like going to a show or something and if i want to meet up w/ him

he was with other ppl though

yeah I'm not going to make a move until he makes his motives completely clear

and I'm not really sure how i feel about him right now

How can I make it clear I like a girl without being blunt? I went to lunch with her today resolved to try something with her but me being so timid and emotionally crippled I let the opportunity pass. I couldn't even emotionally engage. I want to just text her to say something but I don't know what.

>>17794668
>make it clear
>without being blunt
pick one

i have the same problem as you, and i can't do it either, but you have to make yourself

>tfw when i ask a cute girl out, i get so scared of rejection that i make sure she knows it's platonic before she even has a chance to answer
(like, "do you want to get dinner this weekend, we could invite [mutual friend(s)] to come with us")

>>17794684
Well I don't go out of my way to make it platonic, it was a 1-on-1 lunch. I anxious and had trouble talking though, we kept it at shallow smalltalk and I think I was boring her. I just don't know how to move to the more emotional stuff.

>>17794694
i mean i can do the 1 on 1 lunches too
we just have different ways we're unable to tell our respective girls we like them

>>17794684
>>17794668
compliment her a few times

"you look nice"
"you smell nice"

"i really like your ____"

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This is superficial, but pls r8 me

>>17794726
normal white guy/10

>>17794700
>we just have different ways we're unable to tell our respective girls we like them
true that, good luck to ya though

>>17794711
>"you look nice"
>"you smell nice"
They want something more specific than that right? I dunno how to make it sound genuine even if it is. Any kind of emotional talk from me is so fake.

>>17794737
>They want something more specific than that right?

yes be specific about whats she's wearing and what it smells like

>>17794726
3/10 wouldn't fuck
unless your personality it's overwhelming

>>17794770
What should I fix?

My personality is probably meh unless I'm really up someone's alley

>Physics undergrad, aspiring towards PhD in planetary science
>Generally tries to avoid political discussion
>pretentious knob, listens to too much classical music
>travels and shit
>introverted and pretty socially autistic

This chick and I stopped talking cause she ended things saying she wasnt ready to open up with me but still said she had strong feelings for me.

Past few days she's been trying real hard to get my attention on snapchat, (I have a pc program to watch snaps without them knowing lol)

Should I react to her trying to get my attention or ignore it? I figure she ended things so she has to contact me first right?

I figure she misses me but as a friend and still isnt ready for anything, wants her cake and eat it too?

How do I convince my girlfriend to work out without making her think she is fat? She looks good, but she could look hotter with exercise. I believe everyone should strive to be their best, so I also put myself on that standard.

>>17794809

also just adding this, i do miss her

>>17794809
i would ignore her

but i am a very bitter person and do not handle rejection well

>>17793133
A woman telling you that means that she's a birchy cunt, and is also a reflection on her as either a) shallow or b) placing a high importance on height, but most likely the former.

I'm 5'6" and my height hasn't been a problem with finding a girlfriend who's a hot piece of ass, as well as having multiple women that were taller than me express interest. I don't give a single fuck about my height. You've got a height complex.

Any non obese whalelord femanons want to date?

Girls

If you saw your boyfriend get his ass kicked would you lose respect for him?

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Girls but also maybe guys: My gf has said she's fine with me having casual sex with other women, which I was really surprised by and asked if it was a joke or some kind of trick but she said she wants me to experience things, since she's had 6 partners and I've only had 2. She also doesn't want to go out and have sex with anyone since she's not very sexual at all. I'm really conflicted about it all. I know deep down I'd feel guilty about it but the other side of me is excited to be trying out sex with other people. I really don't know how to handle it all, I want to do it but I also don't want to at the same time.

What should I do? Has anyone else been in a situation like this?

>>17794928
No. I'd call for help/the police.

>>17794934
Would you be comfortable with her being railed by other guys? If no then don't.

Think for a moment why would she suggest that, women are cunning. She could be feeling guilty about something she did, she might use this as an excuse to do something that will leave you angry or hurt one day, she might not like you that much, etc.

>But she said
NO! Don't believe in words, only in actions, specially from women.

>>17794936
B-But porn has taught me that you'd fuck the guy who kicked his ass?

>>17794809

I'm literally on the same boat but instead of snapchat its facebook

anyone?

I got a buddy I'm fighting with and I am trying to tell him goatees are objectively shit.

Can anyone back me up or convince me otherwise?

>>17794961
Goatees are shit and unless he is a biker/gangster he will look like a female to male trans.

>>17794949
>women are cunning lying tricksters meme

i wouldnt listen to this guy desu

>>17794961
Depends. By goatee do you mean Walter White style or just the hair on the chin?

I have a Walter White style because I work at a police department and have recieved positive feedback

>>17794972
got exposed, lying cunt?

>>17794983
kek good let the bitterness flow through you

What do women think about men wearing fitness tights without shorts?

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>>17794977
Here's the facial hair in question.

Pass your judgement.

>>17794934
She probably assessed you're not bf material due to your lack in actual experience in meaningful relationships. A guy who's had two ugly 'ex' girlfriends is a loser with no standards who'll fuck any pig that moves therefore not worth keeping around.

>>17794998
If thats his face then it looks horrible. I have more hair and my hair is black so it helps it look thick.

If a girl at a bar spends 30 minutes interrogating you to find out where she knows you from, only to find out she was apparently in a class with you at uni, is that a sign that she thought you were attractive?

I didn't remember her, still don't in fact, so her having noticed me then makes me wonder.

>>17795008
I think he should try for a fuller beard, don't you think?

>>17794949
>Would you be comfortable with her being railed by other guys? If no then don't.
I said the same thing but she said for her sex is more of an emotional and intimate thing while she thinks I'm both the intimate and just for fun type for it. That being said, she doesn't considering it cheating but would count any emotional attachment as cheating or doing anything intimate/cuddly etc.

>>17795007
Considering we've been together for 5 years now, loved by her family, probably getting married in the near future and still do date nights, I doubt that I'm not bf material.

>>17795016
Definitely

Legit question,

would a 20+ virgin be better off to be open with his inexperience, or to pretend he knows what he is doing?

>>17795056
Honesty is definitely better.

>>17795056
Learn from porn and let instinct kick in is all I can tell you

I was a virgin and my gf wasn't but when we fucked the first time she said I was really good! Simple tips

1.) Don't fuck like a block of wood, move your hips
2.) Always do something with your hands
>rubbing her nipples
>running fingers through her hair during a blow job
>stimulating her clit
>pulling hair
>caressing her face/body
>slap her ass
>grope
3.) Don't let their be silence. Moan, grunt, sigh in relief

Sex is simple desu, people just over complicate it. Though the shit I told you isn't one size fits all, but most girls appreciate it

>>17795117
>Don't let their be silence. Moan, grunt, sigh in relief
Best tip

>>17792323
Girls?
What do you think is the perfect way for a men to seduce you and approach you?
What will creep you out?
Do you like being trated as a princess ehen you get approached

>>17795180
>being trated as a princess ehen you get approached
Elaborate

>>17795181
Like, me approaching you in the most cautious way where i make sure you see me as a supreme gentleman who puts you in a pedestal.
Give you flowers, hinting that i sm your to come and and pay for your dinner etc
Ama takyv it professionally and attempting to approach you like you are a distant sensible animal that need a to be tamed in a very specofic way

>>17795187
Dunno. I honestly don't believe in "seducing"
Sounds like attempting to trick someone into liking you for other reasons that are not who you are

And while I like flowers and free food, I wouldn't accept it from someone who sees it as a way to make me like him

Girls,

I've been feeling pretty bad for about 2 weeks now and i really need to talk to my significant other but I often feel like she doesn't care or wont want to listen to me talk about my feelings. Some - If not most - of the issues are caused by her and I think that she would feel more offended than willing to care. Should I try to bring it up with her? If so, how? or should I wait like a month or so to see if the issues go away before Christmas?

>>17795208
What are the issues?

>>17795203
>who you are
What am I? How does one show his power level without scaring away anyone? Aren't everyone acting differently around girls to avoid scaring them and instead impressing them?

Did i miss a chance?

At Campus, see girl behind me and hold the exit door open for her, we exchange a brief smile and walk shortly next to each other, our paths splits, I glance over my shoulder to her and see her glancing over her shoulder at me, i look away, next second i glance again and she glances also again. I look away and walk to car.

I should have just asked her, right?

>>17793246
Why are you still spending so much time with your ex?

>>17793619
But does she know how many guys hit on you?

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So you guys probably get this one a lot but here goes anyway: I'm in my early 20's and although I'm not a total virgin, I've never had penetrative sex. I recently broke up with my long term gf, and now the chances of me having sex in the near future are pretty high. Is there any way to make it not totally obvious it's my first time when the time comes? I don't need to be a sex god, but I'd like to atleast pretend to know what I'm doing.

>>17795339
>>17795117

>>17795280
That might happen again sometime in the future, with her or with any number of girls you haven't even met yet.

Dwelling on this particular instance will do you less than no good.

>>17795180
It's just a natural quality you're supposed to have. Something that is born with you, charisma or magnetism that comes in certain ways. U don't even have to be charismatic but fulfill the certain niche or requirements the girl has whatever it is. Since I'm assuming you're older when girls are around 17 or older they start to be more critical of their partners and hyperaware of their flaws of the man they're scooping out. Usually what man should do is be able to be receptive to whatever a girl wants and surprise them by exceeding their expectations and more. Try to get the upperhand and play with them a little, tease, that gets a woman's interest. Be a little distant even but don't be afraid to show your good parts. U also gotta make it sure she knows you like her without you outrightly telling her so it can keep mystery going


A man being overly pushy would creep me out, like talking about how beautiful I am and worshiping me (I'll assume he's some lame who does this with all girls and is ready to get on his feet and wipe the shoes of any princess who entertains his attention) or being really sexual for no good reason
Nah I don't really like being treated as a princess, save that for when you're my long term bf or husband

Would you be jealous if your girlfriend became overly interested in a male singer to the point of meeting him and talking to him on social media?

>>17795180
It doesn't really matter to me much save for two things: ability to take a hint (don't keep pushing it if all my answers are brief, I barely smile at you, keep my head turned away regularly etc) and actually talking to me, not rattling off a spiel.

If I think someone looks like a cool person to know and they're friendly to me, them showing interest in itself is pleasant and I don't need a song and dance. Don't get me wrong, it's crazily hot when a guy knows how to really flirt with you, but if you're not one of those I'd prefer that you accept that gracefully and don't try to stumble through the motions anyway.

>>17795208
Waiting to see if issues go away is always a bad strategy. If anything you can confront her with it and see if she's able to step up her game.

>>17795339
There's not much you can do wrong, just make sure there's ample foreplay and you make her feel hot (touch her all over like you can't keep your hands off her, compliment her and tell her how worked up she gets you, encourage her to enjoy herself and please you). You might cum quickly but that's hardly the most important aspect of sex.

How to tell my wife she's ugly as shit without offending her? It is embarrassing to be seen out in public with her because she's so hideous, also yes she's obviously a gook pig.

>>17795459
If you're not a troll, you should have realized this before you married her. There is literally no point in telling someone they're ugly.

Guurls,

>>17795335

What would you like to read in a cristmast card?

>>17795474
uhm.. hwat do you expect out of a christmas card? Its not valentines day... Write some shit like meryy christmas keep being awesome or smth. Most people are glad they get cards at all. (altough, i heard from an american friend that in the US cards are not valued as much and are not kept around, so if thats the case it matters even less what you write on it.)

>>17795474
The easiest is to do something like;
>a throwback to an inside joke
>a little bit about yourself ("I'm now staying at that vacation place I told you about")
>a little bit about her ("I hope you get x and y done like you were hoping you would")
>"I'll see you soon" / "hope we can catch up soon"

If you have an emotional bond with her, like she's your crush or a sincerely close friend, write something about how you hope she looks back on this year or how next year will turn out for her.

>>17795464
well she is annoying as fuck to be honest literally text book lower class gold digger which you wouldn't guess so easily because she's so ugly and awkward she could easily pass off as a potato that doesn't know how to shut up.
Kind of knew what i was doing because she's a cheap imitation bitch who is essentially a live in prostitute at this point.

>>17795503
If you are for real then it is entirely your own fault and you should stay with her to punish yourself. Maybe she will leave you on her own when she spent all your money and is fed up with your shitty personality

>>17795480
EU, christmast card are not that common and honestly even normal postcards are a bit out of fashion, haven't sent one since I was a kid.

Was kinda like wtf? when she told me she wanted to exchange cards.

>>17795480
That's smarts, we've got plenty of inside jokes.
Dunno if I can write that much tough, our postcard writing space is pretty much the size of the palm of your hand, I'll try to keep it short.

>>17795521
The stuff I listed was basically different options to pick from, choose the one you have the best idea for/that's most relevant.

>>17792539
>youporn
Damn, didn't know grabbing her by the pussy would be a valid sex move.

>>17795521
You can always draw something on it. I'm getting drawn postcards from my relatives for years and they are always hilarious because no one can draw for shit

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>>17795530
Coincidentally I saw this and I tought it would have been perfect and VERY relevant, but we're not that close yet.
But it's a good idea too.

>>17795525
I got that. I'll go with
"Wish you and your family a merry christmast, and a happy new year.
-somethink something original, please suck my dick-
Take care, A."

>>17795509
Lol she's useless and can't even financially support herself and i try to keep her cheap taste in tacky luxuries to a minimum as it is a waste of money.
Unfortunately being well expired she doesn't have the market value to "upgrade" if ever, she is already quite an old bitch so i highly doubt anyone wants to settle for discarded trash.

Girls

When you where young and entering puberty did you fantasize about cocks and giving blowjobs?

I remember walking in on my sister room when I was little, she and her friends where practising blowing on bananas when they where like 13 lol

>>17795547
When I was that age I was ordering Pokemon cards after color. I think your sister and her friends are victims to the sexualisation of the world around us. They think they have to be able to give blowjobs to be attractive

>>17795547
I had penis anxiety around that age, I was sixteen/seventeen when I first became interested in fellatio.

Having said that, I don't feel as strongly about it as the other anon responding. I remember trying to masturbate at eleven (which didn't work because I didn't even consciously realize what exact feeling lust was) because cosmo girl told me that it was healthy, natural and felt good. Yeah we live in a sexualized time but kids are also naturally curious and interested in doing anything adult, and I don't think that them being exposed to overly "mature" messages is necessarily more damaging than a negative stigma around anything sexual.

Also, girls do these things together, it's a form of bonding to be giddy together over an area of inexperience you might otherwise feel self-conscious about. They are practicing being adult women together. I wouldn't take her doing something like this with her friends as a sign that she has a deep-rooted investment in sucking cock. See it as a more radical variation on kissing a mirror.

>>17795526
where else are you going to upload a video about eating pussy

>>17795581
I didn't mean to quote the youporn part.

I need to know if this girl likes me or not because I'm confused as shit. Right so she lives in the same flat as me and we both go to the same Uni. She always wants to talk to me and sits next to me whenever she can and I keep catching her staring at me when she thinks I'm not looking. Right what confuses me is that a couple of weeks ago she fucked some dude she met at a club so I assumed then she didnt like me. But then the next day she was telling me how she really regretted it and only did it because she broke up with her boyfriend before coming to uni and wanted to feel something. I told her that people get over breakups in different ways but she just got emotional and started telling me hows shes not usually like that. Since then she hasn't tried getting with another guy and has turned down dates with guys who are better looking than I am. But for the pas week or so it seems like shes trying to avoid me. So does she actually like me or is this just me thinking too much into it.

>>17795557
Are you a guy? Because girls mature way faster, so that's normal.

>>17795584
Plus at 13, for most of human history, girls would be marrying already.

>>17795584
I'm a girl. And I wouldn't say that's "normal" being mature doesn't mean being into sex. I had my first time with 15, before that I was downright terrified of the thought of sex, because I "knew" there is so much expected of me to know (and I didn't know much besides that the penis goes in and out lol). So in a way, its probably good the kids get eduacted earlier and are interested, but what worries me is if they have actual sex too early.

>>17795588
I wouldn't worry, at 13 boys are too mentally infants do to anything.

>>17795593
Idk how old you are, but when I was 13, that might have been the case. But nowadays everyone watches porn and even if they don't know, thats even more dangerous. Thank god teen pregnancies are going back again

>>17795598
It's always been like this, it's just easier now. 15 years ago they might be reading a playboy magazine instead.

>>17795117
More tips please

>>17795208
I have a separate friend who I talk to when I have things about my SO that I need to verbally process. Or I talk to my mom.
A therapist also serves this role.

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Why do girls call people honey? It sounds dumb

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>Male
>Smart
>Perfectly thin
>Charismatic as fuck
>Makes everyone laugh and make their day
>have no friends
>Tried all ways to get any
>Still doesn't work
>doesn't know if Virgin or not

Both: What is purpose? All I do just to make me happy is just make others happy but I got none. And the only time I see them is at work. I live in the fucking middle of nowhere and I don't know what to do.
Advice?

>>17795705
You're not really that smart, honey.

>>17795705
What's up Elliot

>>17795706
Hey answer my question
>>17795693

>>17795547
No, I didn't even think about anything more hard-core than kissing at 13.
Penises/penetration didn't interest me at all until I was like 16.

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Girls,

How bad is my body? I'm 6ft and lost like 60 pounds over the past few months (250 to 190) but I still feel really self conscious and it's making it hard to put myself out there even though I feel like I'm being unreasonable.

>>17795826
You look good!
If you worked out a bit you'd look more tonic and you'd be pretty handsome.
Congrats on the weight loss.

>>17794888
But literally every single girl I've talked to has said a variant of the same thing. Some were nice about it, some weren't. I don't personally care about my height. Women do. How do I have a height complex when I don't have a problem with my height? Again, just because your life experience differs from mine doesn't mean yours is the objective truth. Nor does it mean mine is. However, my experience in life is different than yours, and you telling me that doesn't help, because I cannot change the way women around me feel about height. What WOULD help is if you told me where you lived because maybe I live in a shitty place with shitty people. But I know you won't reply back with anything helpful.

Nice digits btw

Girl contacts me online. Messages me everyday. Responds to my messages within minutes. Compliments me. Seems really keen. Then fucking blanks me completely for literally no reason.

WHY do women do this? Are you just attention whoring or what?

>>17795848
>Are you just attention whoring or what?

Yes, 100% of women purely work out of attention.

>>17795848
Maybe she met someone else she likes more.

>>17795848
You seem to be expecting human behavior from it. Why is that?

>>17795826
Not a girl and I browse /fit/

Its good you stopped being a fatass but keep pushing until you lose the muffin top! Good job by the way pal

>>17795853

Yeah I was worried about that. Fucking online dating sucks

>>17795860

Good point

>>17795480
>write something about how you hope she looks back on this year or how next year will turn out for her.

Wondering, why this particular thing specifically? any reason behind it?
Not him btw