I need genuine help here. How do I quit coming to this website for ever? It's very hard
Get a real life
>>17796843
You cant, I have tried, is impossible.
>>17796843
I actually thought it was hard a couple of weeks ago, but then I just decided to not come for a day, and so the next one, and so on.
By the end I realized that my fixation to this site was meaningless and that there was nothing holding me to it, therefore I could quit it whenever I wanted (as I did).
My ''obsession'' was nothing but me over exaggerating something that wasn't even a problem to me, but a made up evil by my imagination.
Give me tips on how to genuinely enjoy life more
Read "Happiness" by Matthieu Ricard
>>17796757
Do enjoyable stuff with people whose company you enjoy. Eat good food, go new exciting places and do stuff that makes you think "I can't believe I did that" a lot. Appreciate the things and people you have in your life and tell those who are important to you that you care about them. When it rains, be grateful that it isn't snowing and when it snows go skiing. The small things and the way you take them makes all the difference.
You could be the fittest, most attractive, richest, most adventurous, most widely coveted person on the planet, and still be unhappy.
Happiness, True happiness, comes from your outlook & your values.
You could have all thr things I mentioned, but if you believe things like Nothing matters or Life is inherently bad or Love is a lie or the Self is all there is with nothing and no one else to answer to, you will be fundamentally unhappy no matter what.
I came to believe it was a meme, but after hard, repeated lessons, I came around: Wickedness, Sin, Selfishness, Evil, whatever you call it and best understand it as, isolates you, destroys all that is good in you, and fills you with lies and ignorances. You must choose to turn away from wickedness in its every form and foster Goodness. You must know that you cannot do this alone, because you will fall prey to deceptive corruption without God. And you must know that God wants what is truly best for you and will help you there, but you must Choose to let God guide and help you. It's all in your choosing. Please consider.
Bros!
Me and this hot chick have been talking back and forth for a day & a 1/2 now. I'm gonna ask her for her number, and I typed out this message to do it.
Is that way too try-hard? Does it have enough sly humor to make it work? Anything to add/remove?
help bros!
>>17796718
Bump
Just say you have to go out and she should give her number to you so you can continue the convo
When you overdo asking for a number, you show you're nervous
Post results btw
Looking for people willing to talk and learn stuff with me, more in the sense of accountability partners, although if we share interests on an area we could couple our efforts to double our productivity.
In other words. I am lonely and need friends.
Please respond.
>>17796704
M8 how about you list some things your into, and like minded people will join .
>>17796708
Ok fine.
Math (Calculus mainly)
circuits / electronics (theory and DIY things)
Programming (C)
Languages (Russian)
Uh, those are the things I like and I am learning. I have many goals but its hard to keep up when you are as autistic and dumb as me.
>>17796708
I did what you told me and it didn't work anon! What do I do?!
>be over 30
>never had girlfriend or date or even kiss
>5/10 looks AT BEST
>shit personality, probably suffer from some kind of social phobia, maybe autism
>no friends since high school
Is there any way of getting out of this mess or am I too late and basically fucked and I should either kill myself or become some creepy loner hermit?
Basically I just to hear if its even possible to turn my life around. I am sure that there are people who have it bad as me or worse and would like to know its possible to turn things around
Also, as an aside: holy shit /soc/ and /r9k/ and fucking terrible. Tried to use those two to get some possible advice on dating or maybe even land some qt internet gf but I was greeted by a wave of dicks and thinely-veild underage desperation
Yeah you can turn your life around. At the 30 mark you need to go looking for hands to hold with a fury and vigor like you've never had before. On the other hand, your magical powers have been growing for 30 magical years, it would be a shame to throw it away now.
>>17796667
It's possible to do a 180, yes, but it will take hard work and probably outside help, so most people fail.
What personally worked for me when I was atmy lowest point was making a clear definitive list of things I wanted to change about myself and my life. It's easier to work on something that you've a clear idea of in your head. Then just star working on the items in the list one by one. Also, therapy helps. A therapist can detect that poisonous ways in your thinking and point them out to you. Thing you may not even notice that are dragging you down are easier to get rid off, once someone dares to mention them.
Also, physically changing yourself or your life (by moving for example) helps create that feeling of turning around, which makes the change feel more concrete.
>>17796667
That's a cute bird. Eastern blue bird perhaps?
Convince me that suicide isn't the best option.
I've had problems since I was 12. I was mad that girls don't hug me when greeting, but I thought "it's okay, I'm going to get better in the future".
Three years later I was the only guy who didn't have a girlfriend and put all my effort into understanding how to function in the society.
When I was 16 I tried drugs and discovered how autistic I really am - incapable of speaking, my confidence is an artificial wall I created to appear "cool". I discovered that I will never understand some things because I work on a completely different plane. Also I learned that I don't enjoy partying and drinking.
Now I'm 20. Have one best friend, he fucks different girls each day of the week. I'm here with an okay job and my virginity. Taking drugs makes me more depressed. Alcohol makes me want to kill myself. Meeting people is tiring. Movies are predictable. Videogames are shallow. I don't even know what I want to do. If I could I'd just sit under my blanket listening to bad music and thinking about stuff "I'll do in the future".
>inb4 you can change
No, I can't. I tried to get some help and they told me I'm completely fine and "it's going to be okay". I didn't choose my face, my body. I didn't choose my tastes in things, my body language and way of thinking. I was born with this shit. People acting positively about it make me want to puke.
>inb4 it's going to get better!
What's going to get better? Everything's fucking terrible, I'm just trying to cope with worse and worse shit every year.
>inb4 stop whining because some people have it worse
Who the fuck cares if some people have it worse? Some people have it better. Almost all people have it better.
Also saying "a-at least you don't live in Africa and die from hunger" is like forcing someone to drink piss and saying "you should be happy it's not cyanide".
>>17796657
You're willing to kill yourself because you're 20 and a virgin?
The fact that you're posting this suggests you don't want to die. Give it time man, there is a lot of societal pressure to not be a virgin, but does it actually matter? Actually think about what you're willing to do here.
>>17796657
>Convince me that suicide isn't the best option.
Nah, I'm good. The pity machine is out of order today, kid.
>>17796681
>The fact that you're posting this suggests you don't want to die.
No, it means that I have nothing left to do other than whine about it on the internet. I don't care if it sounds edgy, but I wish everyone shared my pain. I fucking hate all these goody two-shoes running around telling everyone how they should be happy about who they are.
It's not about being a virgin, it's about being completely unfit to live in the society.
Three years ago I was on an orgy and it was my turn, but I didn't fuck the girl. Why? Because I couldn't get hard. I didn't find her body interesting at all, it wasn't exciting. The only thought going through my head was "I need to fuck her or I'll regret this later".
>>17796689
That's great, I prefer people agreeing with me than mindlessly saying "LOL IT'S OKAY CHILL OUT DUUDE"
Anyone here have experience with extreme dieting?
I've been heavy since age 10 or so. I'm 19 now. It really is time to get to a healthy weight.
I'm thinking 1 thousand-calorie meal a day for 3 months.
Sound good?
>>17796613
Sounds like a good way to die
>>>/fit/
>>17796613
No. Crash diets fuck up your metabolism because your body thinks you're starving. Once you start eating again all the weight and probably more will come back. Also, eating a few meals throughout the days is better for controlling hunger than one huge meal.
If you will not consult a doctor before dieting, at least do some research online first.
How about
500cal lunch
1k dinner
Over maybe 4 months
Anyone here have experience treating depression with hallucinogenics? I've heard they can be extremely helpful in fighting depression.
My thoughts were, ween off my long list of SSRI's, smoke weed in the morning as an antidepressant (More effective than this bullshit) until I'm off my meds and comfortable again, then dropping acid for a permanent fix.
>>17796610
Good luck with your psychosis
If hallucinogenics were any good at treating depression, they would be monetized and marketed.
Everyone on 4chan is beta as fuck
How do I quit playing video games?
Watch anime
>>17796601
Thats the trick
You dont quit, you just reduce the time spent playing
Moderation is key.
Learn why overindulgence in anything is bad, but especially why it is bad regarding screen-interests. And I mean REALLY learn it, get it through your head. A zen saying states that "To know and not practice, is not really to know."
how to play piano
>>17796586
Press on keys until sound comes out. Repeat.
learn basic chords (ex. A,B,C,D,E,F,G) and then litsen to songs and try to mimic them
Extend the pointer finger of your left hand outwards.
Pick one key and press it in a way you desire. Listen to the sound that plays.
Upon hearing this sound, feel what kind of sound you would like to follow it with, in a timing that best expresses the relationship between the 2 sounds you most desire.
Do that last step again. And again. And again. And again.
Eventually after becoming comfortable doing this with one finger, do it with 2. Then 3. Then 4. Then 5. Once you understand this concept with at least 5 fingers simultaneously, you will have fundamentally given yourself the ground to master sound-expression of your self.
I have found this to be the truest way to make music. Remember that the goal is not to play the instrument; the goal is to play Music.
A lot of women, old and young, will call me handsome, though not to my face. They'll usually mention it to friends of mine when I'm not around: "He's a very handsome man," or "Wow, he must have a girlfriend -- he's attractive." Things of that nature, you know?
Thing is, I've never really thought it true myself. And even if I was, I know my personality is bland -- it wouldn't be any use to sleep around.
What do I do /adv/?
stop hanging around your mom and her friends
>thanksgiving
anon it doesnt count if its your cousin
>>17796573
>>17796581
These are women I usually meet through friends, mind you. It's not pity compliments, otherwise I might've picked up on it. I mean, if they were they would be saying it to my face.
My girlfriends mother cheater on her father when he was in prison for 3 years (for political reasons). My girlfriend says she understands it and thinks it was justified because firstly they have never been a happy married couple and 2nd that she was very stressed, lonely and unhappy so needed it.
As much as i try to see it from that point of view, to me cheating is cheating and i just can't justify it by any way. So to me its coming up as a red flag in her.
Should i be worried?
>>17796558
id side with the gf. he got arrested. for 3 years. thats not a long distance relationship. unless he did it killing the man who molested their daughter, it seems kinda unreasonable to think she'd wait around 3 years.
>>17796561
He pissed off the government, it's a corrupt country, he didn't do any real crime by western standards.They must have been together for about 15 years by that point.
>>17796599
im not saying she was 'in the right' but im not saying she was 'in the wrong' either.
So I asked a girl out for a date that I work with...
She said yea and gave me her number I asked her if she was being serious cause it was kind of weird and I always joke around she said yea but she cant tell if im serious etc etc...
I callled her later to make sure we were all good and she said instead of a date she just wants to "hang out" cause dating goes no where ....
What does this mean? Is she into me or am I wasting time??
>>17796519
You blew it by being an insecure fag. Should have just taken her yes and rolled with it instead of questioning her which in turn made her question herself.
Dunno, hang out with her and flirt and see what happens. Still more promising than a no.
>17796528
eh thats what i figured oh well .... yea i was being insecure lol i flirt with every girl i work with though I wasnt sure if she was taking me seriously and she was just saying yes to say yes as a joke :o
>>17796519
>I asked her if she was being serious cause it was kind of weird and I always joke around
rip
Hey /adv/
>be me
>23yo khv
>kinda robot, kinda normal, semi /fit/ and /fa/, 6'4''
>gonna be 24 in three months
>Lots of school work, assignments and exams ahead of me
>stressed as fuck
>feel like shit because, well, I'm still a virgin and never had a gf
>can't stand the thought of losing my v card after 23
How the fuuuuck do I do this? If I get to be a 24yo virgin I'm strongly considering kms. How the hell do I do this without getting a whore?
You're not alone. Same story for me, but very /fit/and definitely /fa/.
Doesn't help me not feel not shitty, but helps me be less consciously bothered by it; for Canada and the USA in the 15-24 range a bit over 1/3 are virgins (not much gender discrepancy)
I've thought a lot about an hero, too
Go to a bar and when you see female by herself or with one friend ask if you can join them. Then talk and in the end ask her number. Might not work right away but keep doing it and it probably will work.
Or get tinder and just swipe like on every girl. Some of them will like you too and set up a date. Again first one might not be successful but keep trying.
Same. Will turn 24 soon. Wanting a deep relationship but have no courage to socialize. I feel lonely as fuck. Used to fall in love deeply to a guy but he ditched me like I am not a human being at all. Still hurts cause I am still into him. I thought loving someone genuinely and deeply could pay off, but it isn't. Thinking to just fuck it off, but I can't. I have horrible self-esteem, don't have anything interesting to say about myself, people always leave.
What does it mean when a girl breaks up with you and calls you shit but keeps trying to talk to you?
It means she's shit and you shouldn't talk to her.
>>17796492
Middle school was rough, I feel for ya anon.
>>17796520
We're both in our twenties, I'm still confused.