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Fuck bitches get money.

>>17795650
but thats what everyone does

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>>17796368

First of all, my condolences, even if she hasn't died just yet. If you know that it will be hard on you to see that, then you should stay away. Remember her as you knew her before the stroke.

As a caretaker, PLEASE don't let her die alone. Time passes slower when you're alone. Stay at her side, remember that it's for her. Not for you.

>>17795605
If you were close, then I'd suggest giving it a second thought, because once shes gone you can't bring her back to apologize.
If there has been a fair bit of distance, then you can step back a bit and breathe.

In either case, if you really don't think you have the emotional strength to handle it, then accept that you did say goodbye and she knows you love her.

>>17795590
Are you on the lease? If so no worries, break up and move out when lease is up.

Start looking for a room now on craigslist/trulia etc.

>>17795600
and just live side to side in the same apartment until I have something? I feel like a total asshole already Idk if I can do this.

But I guess there's not much options

Fucking shit and all this right before christmas. At least its a "soft breakup", that means we already knew it was coming sooner or later and we talked alot.
Still
This sucks so much
how do you do it
My heart will literally break but there's just no love left in me and I'm sick fo pretending

>>17795590
maybe give an acquaintance a call. maybe someone you hooked up with before living with a asshat

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Would heavily advise against seeking anything sex related on Craigslist. At best, it's just spam. At worst, it's someone wanting to rob you as soon as you enter the shady motel in the ghetto neighborhood they're located in.

Besides, sex isn't all it's chalked up to be. Especially if it's just the sex, nevermind the fact it's awkward Craigslist sex. It will just leave a bad taste in your mouth (possibly in more ways than one) and mess you up further.

Don't turn to hookers or hook up sites for sex. Become an actual better person and ladies will star to flock to you.

If in doubt

>Excercise/eat healthy/get fit
>Buy new clothes/develop new style
>New hairstyle
>Get better at socializing by simply just talking to people whenever you can
>Get educated
>Get a good job

>>17795532
Man fuck that shit, ive followed that advice for years and haven't gotten a fucking date

>>17795534
Fuck what the other guy says. Just get yourself a good sense of humor and a sprinkle of arrogance. Then just talk to women online and offline until you can make them laugh.

>>17795516
you WORK u lil faggot

>>17795545
I can't do that sorry. I need to know how to do it without working

>>17795560
Why can't you work?

The best way to talk to a girl, or make small talk with anyone, is to ask them about themselves. What their line of work is, or what they're studying in school, what they like to do in their free time etc. and then go off whatever they say. That's how you make small talk.

>>17795515

Depends on whether you mean any chick or a specific chick.
When getting to know a girl it's good to bring up a variety of topics and try to find common ground. Find out what they're into and what their hobbies are and express your own views on those things.
If it's a girl you already know a bit, then talk about things she finds interesting, ask about things she's mentioned in the past, bring up things you think she might find interesting based on the things she's spoken about, etc.

There's no formual that works everytime and with every girl. Just start with small talk and build up once you know which direction is best to take. Talk about things you find interesting, because if she doesn't find those things interesting at all, then it's probably not meant to be. Some common interests are good to have. It's not so much about what you talk about, rather than how. With some people (yes, even girls) it's easy to "click" and if that doesn't happen, then you'll just waste your time trying to force a conversation.

>>17795522
Firstly, thank you. I do those things but at some point, i cant find anything to talk about. I know she likes me, and I like her. I'm usally good with people but when it comes to someone I like my brain suddenly doesnt work.

>>17795529
Thank you, She founds me interesting and I find her interesting but I cant find anything to tell her, I'm such a mess.

>>17795494
Go see a doctor.
If you are female then congrats on your unplanned pregnancy.

>>17795494
doctor here.

pls tell me:
age
gender
major illnesses in the past
onset and development of symptoms
recent travel
country you live
psychological stress?

>>17795551
A 20 year old male viking who hasn't traveled within the last few years. The only sickness, and I am not sure if I may call it mayor, is pneumonia which I got a few years back.

The first thing that I noticed pretty recently before was that I got nauseous when exercising. It went away after a few months.

Right before this I only felt a bit like I was about to vomit. The symptom wasn't to noticeable, but it got worse as the time went. Apart from this I have been having a reoccuring problem with tonsil stones, but I am not sure if it is related.

I have been pretty stressed lately because of exams and such.

>>17795410
What do you mean 'our appartment' if you are on the lease she cant just kick you out.

>>17795417

I wasn't on the lease, but she guaranteed me it was "our home, not "her home"

>>17795420
Your an idiot, always be on a lease in the future. Its your legal lifeline to exactly this type of shit.

I wish i knew hahahaha

You flirt with her and see if she responds. Get a bit tipsy and give her a compliment, tease her, try to get her in a huff a little bit. If she reciprocates, take it from there.

If not, that's your no. If she's not interested in sexually charged banter she's not interested in fucking. You don't just ask someone for sex, you gauge whether they're willing.

Dont just ask, go out drinking with her or whatever. If she's a little slutty and likes you it will work out.

I haven't been in your situation before, but I think that getting backup from a doctor or counselor would make it much more effective. Firsthand accounts don't do well with administration.

>>17795389
Yeah, I went to a doctor, but I'm really not sure I can get a paper from him due to, well, angering him. In any case, I'll try to get a paper, but I think it's best to not count on it.

>>17795392
>fuck schools not fun, im depressed, ill just not go
>oh fuck they are going to kick me out, better go to my doctor
>woops i angered him too cause im a fuckup

theres a saying that i cant quite remember, something about a creek, some shit, and a paddle

>>17795357
Because he has a new girlfriend and got rid of her shit doesnt mean hes a stone cold killer

If you're not confortable with the person, no matter what she did or did not, you have all the right to distance yourself from that person.

About the murder thing... I wouldn't recommend investigating it if you're not with the cops... It might get YOU into some criminal activity.

About the signs, you should look for the ones connected with the killing m.o. If she was poisoned, check if he bought any poison the days before and so on... See why you should be a cop to do it?...

>>17795369
you're fucking retarded. im asking for other signs because obviously there's more information that i know about the situation than you could ever know.

>>17795370
im not talking about getting someone justice, because i already covered that up in the op. i wouldn't have any evidence. im just trying to determine whether or not this person is acting suspiciously or not. the way he could've killed her would've been through essentially feeding her everclear and inducing liver failure. (she was also a heavy drinker)

Sorry for the off-topic question, but how is your profession viewed there?

>>17795361
No problem.
As a psychologist I'm well seen, the profession itself is. Gotta keep in mind that there's still a bit of prejudice about it, as it used to be related to crazy people. But it's all ok.

About the clinical philosopher profession, I don't think we're viewed at all hahaha. When I say I graduated on it, people always ask 'and what's it about?' or 'what is that?'.

Good thing both of them work well together.

How can I leave a disintegrating friendship?

A friend and I were pretty close a while back. Lately, though, she seems annoyed by me talking to her and speaks briefly even when she's the one starting the conversation

Over the past year I've vented to her a lot about things that were going on. She was always really supportive, but I think my neurotic ways are taking their toll and she doesn't want to be dragged down anymore. I've tried to address that but she denied anything was wrong.

Problem is, we have a couple classes together and we were co-authoring a book (which I don't know if she intends to finish). I don't want to burn any bridges midyear. What can I do?

>>17795284
You posted this exact question a few days ago. Didn't you like any of the answers you got then?

OP, as someone who is just coming out of a shut in phase, I feel that the only way to get better at interacting with people is to just do it. Don't worry about being the life of the party, if you go and have one solid conversation with a stranger then you can consider it a win. Plus, booze usually helps with social anxiety.

As for the alcohol, just make sure you limit your intake. Dont have more than like 2 drinks an hour, one if you're really trying to stay sober, and try to drink water if you can.

I don't get it why you think you'll embarass yourself...

On ur question, you point out that "In the past" you avoided those parties. Not now. You WERE a shut-in, not now. You WERE socially retarded, not now...

If you are afraid to get drunk, don't drink. I stopped drinking 3 years ago because it made me feel real bad, health issues (didn't get any disease, it just made me feel unhealthy). There's no problem in it, I have more fun than most because I'm sobber...

Anyways, I don't get the reason you fear embarassing yourself, you seem well on ur way.

It took me 9 minutes to write a post

>>17795282
Go outside and make a short walk, every day. After a week or so, start socializing and becoming more active. Join a club, take up a course or get a job.
Anything that keeps you active and in direct contact with other humans works.

Godspeed anon.

Go outside NOW.

It's really important that you do it in the present moment. If you really want to break that routine, you'll have to do it NOW.

Why? Because when you want something, you want it for a while. Sometimes it's hours, minutes, days, even years... But still, you want it for a while. You have to stand still on that 'wanting' so you can do it, and the longer you let time pass, the harder will be to maintain that will.

So, go out NOW, while you want it, because in an hour, you might be wanting to spend your life on pc, and suffer tomorrow. So go and do it, NOW.

Walk, jog, sit on a square bench... Read something? Whatever. Just go man, seize the moment!

>>17795269
Get some fucking self-respect. Why do you want to waste your time with somebody who doesn't trust you?

>>17795274
He always said he trusted me but every time he would always show signs that he doesn't. It wasn't wasting time to me. He knows I would never do anything he knows what I do when I do it.

>>17795269
You want him back, but you're better off without a relationship with a guy who can't trust you.
You should accept the ticket out and learn to love yourself before entering another relationship.