My gf has said she's fine with me having casual sex with other women, which I was really surprised by and asked if it was a joke or some kind of trick but she said she wants me to experience things, since she's had 6 partners and I've only had 2. She also doesn't want to go out and have sex with anyone since she's not very sexual at all. I'm really conflicted about it all. I know deep down I'd feel guilty about it but the other side of me is excited to be trying out sex with other people. I really don't know how to handle it all, I want to do it but I also don't want to at the same time.
What should I do? Has anyone else been in a situation like this?
Protip: She's fucking other men
Well, I believe that if you feel like doing it, you should. BUT IN NO OCCASION SHOULD YOU EVER TELL HER ABOUT IT.
I'm not sure if she's fucking other guys, but that's not a good way to look at it (at least not without some clues).
>>17795259
This.
Is it possible to alter/lower your standards for sexual attraction? I've literally never met or seen a person I wanted to have sex with, and I want to change that.
>>17795253
Raise your test:
Fix your sleep
less fapping
exercise more
eat more protein
>>17795256
I sleep as much as I can with my irregular work hours and get a decent amount of exercise at work, though walking, carrying and dragging stuff around 8 hours per day isn't exactly deadlifting.
What counts as masturbating? Any attempt to stimulate the genitals at all, achieving a state of arousal, or reaching orgasm?
>>17795253
Are you sure it's because of your standards, and not your ideas about sex?
>Growing up I was a normal kid.
>Normal everything
>A little poor but nonetheless normal
>My mother was a little slut that got knocked up at 16
>I was likely the product of rape due to her story I heard in my early 20's
>I was a smart kid
>Mother emphasized school and studying
>Grew up super nerdy but with all the charm and good looks of my father
>Find out I have a sister at 14
>We knew of each other but rarely ever met
>Shes a year younger than me and we hit it off
>Dad starts becoming involved, picking us up every weekend
>We get a lot closer, start experimenting sexually
>Its clearly a phase for her
>I never really get over it
>It was about this time I start experiencing depression and doing weird shit
>I experience a gradual decline
>I try and be honest with my sister about how I feel
>"I think you're just confused"
>I wind up dropping out of high school
>Teachers try drastically to keep me in the system
>huge breaks in grading and changes to my curriculum to ease whatever the hell is wrong with me
>I can't tell anyone whats wrong with me
>Incest fetish buds to help me cope
>In my late teens I move in with a roommate and start working
>We party every other week
>Drink and get laid a lot more than ever thought I would
>have "girlfriends" but can't emotionally connect to anyone
>normal girls stop being able to get me off
>My best friends 12 year old sister starts messaging me over fb
>Shes like to write and wants some advice on stories
>At this point I know exactly how sexually depraved Im becoming
>I have every opportunity to not do what I did but I did it anyway
>Now 19, maintaining a sexual relationship with a 12 year old girl
>Feel sick every time we do anything not platonic
>I've tried to kill myself twice by now
>self my wrists didn't work, nether did swallowing a lethal amount of pills
>doc says its a nothing short of a miracle my body was able to metabolize everything
>fucking sweet
>wind up breaking up with the 13 year old
>can't handle the guilt
>>17795242
How does ingesting a high dose of Ayahuasca with shamanic guidance to help break your destructive cycles and reevaluate your life sound?
>friend finds out 6 months later that I was diddling his kid sister
>I lose my entire friend group
>8 years of bonding down the drain
>I fall into a deep depression
>more so than whats the norm
>my mother put herself through college and graduates as a RN
>makes enough money to support me while I destroy myself
>stop talking to girls
>just wake up, jerk off, play vidya and sleep
>3 years of this
>I try to shoot myself with the revolver in the bar I worked at
>spend 2 weeks in a psyche ward
>lie through my teeth to get out
>nothing inside of my head has changed
>anti-depressants make my dick stop working
>unfulfilling sex with my kind of gf takes priority
>throw out the pills and have unfulfilling sex for a few months
>she dumps me for being a fucking loser
>start banging 2 of the girls next door because jacking off to cp doesn't cut it anymore
>1 cucks me and the other pretends we never did anything
>move to florida for a year
> a year of drinking, beating off, and palying vidya completely unemployed
>move to illinois, no longer taking my mohters money
>doing sort of ok
>I dont even try to interact with women on any level but friendship
>I dont think im right enough in the head to develop meaningful relationships anymore
>I work paycheck to paycheck
>Looking to move back to NY to start over in my hometown
>I dont really feel anything anymore
>I still hold a flame for my sister, whos engaged now
>I cry a lot
>Still drink heavily
>Drinking right now
What do I even do?
>>17795255
Wow man. Life is hard.
Can any Australians here tell me what TAFEs like? Went to Uni once, but I hated doing academic write ups, don't think I could be a tradie though.
>>17795234
Well what the fuck do you want to do? Uni is better for some things, tafe for others.
TAFE is a college teaches you skills like hairdressing and hospitality staff. Hoping I got the right idea
>>17795234
TAFE is shit. All the teachers are from India or speak very bad english. The course work is tough. Meaning there's lots to do and learn in a short amount of time. Lots and lots of drop rates due to the high filtering rates. Either keep up or get left behind.
t. guy who did a diploma in IT
My relationship sucks right now. Give me a list of any kind things that you would like your girlfriend to do for you (real or imaginary).
I don't want advice to fix anything. Just a nice big list. I really want to go out of my way for him.
Did you cheat on him?
>>17795240
Of course not. I just want to put in some effort to get a spark back after fighting
I dont know if a magic "to do list" will make everything better.
May i ask, why did u guys fight?
Was it you being dumb or something along those lines, so you want to compensate?
How do I deal with having a ridiculously high libido?
Basically I masturbate 2-4 days a week, but within those days maybe 3-6x. After each orgasm I either feel slightly relieved for a few hours/minutes, or even more horny and I just give up. My boyfriend has a high libido for a man (imo), but it's still never enough.
No matter how hard I cum I'm still going to be horny within an hour or two, horny to the point that if I sit down in a certain way my vaj actually will hurt.
Even when I don't masturbate for a long time, like a month, all it does is give me a great orgasm but I'm just as horny all the time and want to orgasm again as soon as I just came.
I think about sex a lot out of boredom, so I know that if I occupy myself with more hobbies it can help. But even when I'm reading or doing something a lot of the time im dying from horniness.
Literally wtf do I do?
TL;dr
>Masturbate, have healthy sex life, hobbies, even when not masturbating so much too horny for life how to deal with insatiable puss?
>>17795221
You might have a hormonal imbalance.
Too much testosterone will do that
>>17795226
Yeah supposedly I do, I've been taking BC to help but really doctors haven't been too much help.
>>17795221
While I only have bad experiences of sexologists, I'd definitely consider seeing one. Your gyno might also be able to help, or at least refer you to a sexologist
Hey, high libido is a drag. Many men have it, especially from adolescence into 20s. How old are you? Maybe it will pass with time. PS having hobbies and keeping yourself active/occupied helps tremendously imho.
Is it worth staying at a job because you like a girl there?
>>17795204
How's the job?
How's the girl?
Jobs fucking shit
Girl i would like to talk to more
>>17795214
talk to the girl
make the job fun
how to stop having a crush on a girl that already rejected me and is nothing like me either
by doing something productive rather than swooning over girls
make money, dont bother with bitches until your rich then pick a 10/10 18 year old as the other women are all getting cats and transitioning to their final forms- the cat lady
>>17795160
kek
ok
Stop stalking her facebook, stop looking at pictures of her and try to keep conversation/contact with her at a bare minimum/zero.
My current SO of 3 years is different from everyone else I've been with. He seems to have no emotions at all aside from the occasional angry outburst whereas I am a constant emotional wreck. I love him with all my heart, and he is everything I want in a man. The only issue I've had with him is his inability to open up.
He outright avoids any conversation that could trigger an emotional response from him. If I pry, he gets hostile. Talking to him about my own feelings is like talking to a brick wall. I stopped altogether because it's obvious that he doesn't experience emotion on the level I do. He simply can't relate.
You may be getting the impression that he's boring, but on the surface he is charming as hell. Smart, funny, charismatic, and kind. How could I complain?
My problem is that there seems to be nothing beyond that. All he talks about are his interests, his hobbies, and our plans for the future.
He hasn't had the easiest life, and I'm certain there is a mountain of suppressed emotion beyond his walls. How can I get him to acknowledge this? How can I prove to him that this is unhealthy behavior? We joke all the time about how he has no feelings, but I don't think he understands that actually bothers me. He has blown off just about every attempt I've made. Some subjects are off limits altogether because he can't even handle thinking about them, much less discussing them.
Is there anything I can do, or are some people really just like this?
brb I'm recording a Vocaroo for you OP
>>17795129
Thanks.
And before anyone asks, he has never endured any sort of serious trauma.
Sorry it's taking so long OP. I'm having a kinda important phone call atm.
I'll be back in like 15 mins tops!
Hey /adv/, I have ZERO artistic talent; I'm all logic and if it doesn't help progress my career and/or make me money then I don't waste my time with it.
Well that's not a good mentality to have so I've decided to learn a music instrument; I've narrowed it down to three choices:
Guitar - Not sure if it's better to learn on an acoustic or electric.
Piano - Real pianos are expensive as fuck so it would be on a decent electric one
Drums - I hear somewhere that the world needs more drummers; I think they're cool but full kits are expensive so it would be an electric drum kit.
I have ZERO music experience or knowledge of music theory so I'm going in blind as a bat but I am committed to learning via lessons, self-instruction and endless practice.
Any pro/cons to each?
Piano is classy.
Drums would be the most difficult I believe.
Guitar is pretty vogue but I'd like to learn rhythm and lead then the bass.
Can you guys offer me any advice?
Any of the three would suit me just fine but someone told me that if you learn a certain type of instrument, it makes it much easier to learn others; not sure if it's true hence I'm here.
>>17795115
What kind of genre do you listen to? If you listen to metal for an example you're most likely to pick up a guitar. But if you listen to dubstep for an example you would rather choose keys because it will help you make your own music. Choose drums if you listen to no specific genre at all to be honest, drums are pretty neutral to any genre so you will get a musical taste depending on what you play.
>>17795115
I think you should learn the harmonica because I like harmonicas but I'm too lazy to learn myself.
Silent guitar.
So you don't disturb others.
From the moment alcohol touched my lip, I knew something was special about it.
After years of pretty drinking, I'm beginning to really realize how seceptible I am to alcoholism.
I come from Scottish and Irish background, 8th gen Canadian. literally my entire family drinks pretty hard but I've never seen them drunk. I once got caught taking liquor from my parents and got a long lecture about how I'm "genetically pre-disposed" to alcoholism.
I never really took noticed to this until I realised how much I craved the stuff, it makes me feel complete man. Even after months of not drinking my body will still scream at me to get drunk for no reason.
What should I do to cope with this alcoholism I can't really help? I'm not really that bad of a drinker who needs a bottle a day, but my body still screams at me that I need to drink.
>>17795059
literally the opposite for me
i tasted it and it was shit
im 24 and dont drink what so ever
I'm 25 and have never had alcohol . I think you need to stop being such a piece of shit. What does being drunk even get you?
I'm prescribing you a big load of man the fuck ups
>>17795063
>>17795061
Terrible advice you two
1. I need weight loss advice for a poorfag, how to lose weight while being poor, cause you got to eat healthy and poor people can't eat healthy easily.
2. I'm an antisocial fuck and I need help turning me into a social fuck. Please... I need to get some kind of other person contact.
3. I didn't finish hs because i had social anxiety and depression and would skip alot, what would be the best way to correct this or what job should I aim for and how will I do it?
>19
>5"6
>315 lbs.
Help in any way you can plz
>>17795046
>315 lbs
Jesus fucking shit.
>1
Veggies aren't that expensive and given your weight, you have to eat as few as possible either way. Water isn't that expensive either.
>2/3
Are complex fucking topics. Check >>17787072
For weight loss, try cutting sugars out of your diet. When you say poorfag, how poor are we talking? Like dirt poor where you have to eat ice soup every other night or you're just struggling with the bills?
But again honestly I think that sugars are the primary cause for obesity in the US and abroad. Its understandable because its in a lot of shit. Just try to eat more bologna sandwiches or whatever.
Also try going on walks more often. Say "Hi" to those which you pass. You'll get more and more used to talking to people. I was very awkward and shy, but I've gotten a tad bit better (still very awkward and shy though), after I volunteered for my local Democratic party this election season. I had to knock on doors and stuff and talk to tons of strangers. You'd be surprised how much it really helps just to say "Hi" to a stranger and maybe have a short conversation. But those walks would help you lose weight as well. You can even download Pokemon GO on your phone (if you have one) to play.
In terms of not finishing high school and how to correct it and what job you should aim for, I'd first recommend studying and acquiring a GED. This is a must. Get a job part time job. Once you acquire your GED you have three choices. Choice one is to just keep working at your whatever job with your GED. Choice two is to pursue a degree at a local university (community college first though!) to try and nab a nice job doing something that you're moderately fine with. Or you can attend trade school and learn a trade, such as carpentering or becoming an electrician's apprentice. I've heard that you can even make money while learning the trade. Once you graduate from trade school you can join a union and made some serious money, however I cannot say for certain whether or not you'd really "enjoy" the job you're working, but you might.
If you ever need a buddy, I can talk to you. I'm pretty lonely right now too lol
>>17795055
I know, parents were poorfags so cheap fast food was normal food.
Also can you be specific with the vegetables and portions?
I'll write it down and get them whenever I can.
If there's no excitement in a relationship, it grows dull really really quickly.
I have had relationships in the past where i was honeslty enjoying the other person more before it was official. Investing too much too quickly can be extremely dangerous, you need to have the excitement and interest to build a relationship on before it can continue throughout the relationship.
How to keep that sense of wonder and interest with intention to develop a long term relationship is something I'm trying to figure out myself. How do you do it, /adv/?
>>17795037
Be an interesting person.
Let's use an extreme example, somebody with limited interests and predictable schedule, say a gaymer who works at a dull job with minimal human contact. The chance that he learns anything new from that is minimal. After that he goes back to his basement, playing vidya or watching a movie with his gf. Every single day the same shit. Their activities don't expand the horizons of either person. Both would stagnate a people in the long run, and their relationship would too.
Learning trust and trusting yourself with emotions for them and how you view yourself. Sex usually destroys interest among most. Might have a sense of truth to it for yourself if it's lust or love but should be both
>>17795041
You have an absolutely great point.
I know for sure she finds me interesting, as our conversations drag out in essay long messages on Facebook, and non stop chatter in person (which is great when we're both admittedly heavy introverts).
We hold same interests in video games, music, politics, history, all sorts of shit. We've been friends for a year and there's always new shit to talk about. I just fear that I'm not mysterious enough to spark that romantic interest on her part. Is this right?
Is it horrible to be a male virgin at 27?
I've had opportunities to have sex, but I think I have too many issues with trust.
>>17795012
It's not horrible exactly but it can be a problem in some ways.
The older you get, the less options u will have. Usually young ppl use their early 20s to figure out the type of partner they want and by the time they hit 27-30, most people are settling and starting families or at least staying commited.
If you are one of the rare guys that could commit after one partner thats great. But most men, upon losing virginity have a burning curiosity to try others.
If you can stick with one girl, hopefully you will have done some research into how to pleasure a woman properly because she'll likely have more experience than you if she's your age range.
>>17795024
I think a religious upbringing fucked me up too much.
>>17795012
Nobody really cares except you.
Also it is supossed to be courtesy to tell your partner that you are a virgin however most virgins (of both genders) just avoid the topic until after the sex because some people dislike fucking virgins for whatever reason they might have, on the other hand some people do like taking virginities.
how do I get her off my mind... it kills me knowing she's happy with someone else.....
Realize you only get one chance at life and everytime the clock ticks you are closer to the moment your only and one life will end.
Realize that there is probably someone else out there who would love you very much, respect you, support you and want to start a familiy with you.
Realize that you should be worrying about building yourself a comfortable future instead.
>>17794930
Thanks anon... really needed that
>>17794919
Time will fix it. Find another woman if you don't want to be alone. Sounds like you got a bad case of tunnel vision. People date and they break ups, the majority of relationships don't last and you just learn from them and keep the memories and let her go and you go. Life isn't like the movies. People come and go all the time.