I got my first (yes, really, first) friends at like 14-15 when this girl group of equally awkward anime enthusiasts kinda took me in, and we've been hanging out doing weird nerd shit ever since, bonding over weeaboo stuff I've never really gotten that into, and observing in confusion how everyone we went to school with started getting engaged, married, pregnant and generally "growing up" while we're all 20-22 and still doing teenager shit. They're all kinda uncomfortable with the existence of men in general and keep making jokes that I "don't count". I mean, they all pretty much roast the shit out of each other anyway and I'm just as fat, ugly and hopelessly virgin as they are so that's comfortable.
Anyway a long samba starts with me getting sick, hospital runs and losing a fuck ton of weight, having to buy new, decent clothes because of drowning in the old ones, and letting my sister's pestering hairdresser-student friend practice on my hair, I've kind of stopped looking like myself.
And the joking has shifted tone a lot, gotten weirdly sexual and I'm not sure how to handle this gracefully. Like, they're my friends, I look at them pretty much the same way I see my sister, and even if I wanted to, dating one of them would shatter the whole group.
It could just be my anxiety talking but I keep getting this feeling of impending doom, like the situation is so fragile that a single thing I fuck up is going to ruin a social circle I've had a home in for almost ten years, and I don't know how to unwind it.
>>17790934
If self-improvement would shatter your social life, then it sounds like you've already outgrown your friends. This happens sometimes. Social "groups" naturally fall apart over time, you'll find out who the REAL friends are because they'll stick by you anyway and encourage your growth
>>17790955
It's not really self-improvement as much as my comfort-zone appearance-wise shifting somewhere more socially normative.
I just don't know what to do with them actually sexualising me.
>>17790968
So in non-Tumblr terms, you've become more attractive, which most people would consider "self-improvement."
You should just laugh it off as a joke when that's all it is. If one of them is taking it too far and really making you uncomfortable, you can just tell her that she's making you uncomfortable
Older but not wiser, the thread for the 25+ anons.
33yo oldfag here, extremely immature when it comes to feelings. I think I'll never sort my shit out when it comes to relationships.
Ill be joining you all in 15 days... im doing a masters in biology but i still feel like the 13 year old i once was
I always wanted to make a programmers guild on 4chan. Something where skilled programmers can get together and share skills. I planned on starting with a discord. I would prefer people who were older since I'm older myself. Anyone interested in such a thing who is already a worker in the technology sector? I know I could go to /g/ but meh, wanted to try my luck here since I'm looking for older people. I'm thinking to have algorithm tests that people have to pass to get in.
/thank/sgiving General!
For those of us who are trapped with our shitty families for at least 24 hours
How are you holding up? I had to come down a day early so I get an extra dose!
>>17790896
cancelled my flight the day before i was supposed to fly out. for some reason i thought going for a full week would be a good idea?
now im just staying home enjoying the comfy with my dog.
>>17790896
I'm gonna have to stock up on piss jugs and tendies for this one, gotta make a convincing sign. I have shit to do.
>>17790896
I won't even see my family, because everyone is estranged/doesn't care.
Do a lot of girls find "alpha" guys not attactive? I'm most attracted to submissive guys with small dicks and pleasant voices that are loud during sex. Most of my friends are looking for a strong, confident guy so I'm feeling kinda weird with that.
>>17790860
Well consider yourself lucky because you'll really get to pick and choose what guy you want with those tastes.
>>17790860
It's not common. Most women prefer men who know what they want and aren't afraid to get it.
Are you on birth control by any chance?
Yo my dad is always making fun of me. And always tries to put words in my mouth. Gets defensive and mad over the numbest things. If I ask him why is he doing that, he will go off on a tangentand start saying things that happened 5-15 yrs ago. He is like a thug. Gets in my business and shit. What could I do?
>>17790802
He is literally provoking me to fight him. Both he and my uncle.
Don't interact?
>>17790802
When you see him tell him be ducking down
That you not romping around
And that he better be ready and prepared to be stomped in the ground
Hey /adv/ this is my first time posting here, I am in dire need of help.
My mum was diagnosed with a brain tumor about 3 weeks ago after having a stroke at work, we are going in tomorrow to know whether or not it is cancerous or benign , because of where it's placed in her brain she WILL need chemo/radiation therapy . She is emotionally a wreck and the loss of her hair will make her miserable.
I need ideas in order to help her with boredom for the weeks she will only be sitting around with nothing to do. She can't move around well because half of her body is weak from the stroke and breaking bad is only doing so much for her. She likes to read and i bought her a coloring book but I really need ideas on what to do for her to help with the boredom and to take her mind off of all of this.
Thank-you.
Psp vita
Adult colouring book
Online course
Phone games
Puzzles
Crosswords
4chan
Writing poems or songs
Making a bucket list
Hope that helps
>>17790801
You bought your mother a colouring book? Why are you treating her like a child? Ask her some of her preferred genre's and get some stuff in that category, and as a side note perhaps you could read it along with her? It would give her somebody to talk to about it, which is almost as enjoyable as actually reading a book series.
>>17790812
Coloring book might be useful because it requires precise hand movements that might be affected after a stroke, so it's not a bad idea at all.
I'm a guy with above average looks and people usually like to talk to me and I've got some friends and all, but I can't meet a girl.
Where do I go? I'm in uni but there are like 3 girls in my classes (physics) so that doesn't work. I don't wanna meet girls at the club because they are usually really not my type.
Where do I find a girl to meet and date and all?
join some university club pertaining to your interests
get a hobby that involves other people, theatre, outdoors etc
>>17790805
There aren't really any clubs on my uni, which really sucks.
Join a sport/hobbie/interest group like volleyball, a photography class, salsa dancing, etc. Attend regularly.
My girlfriend told me she hired a personal trainer (male). I've seen too many pornos and read too many cuck stories to not know how this shit will turn out, so I dumped her on the spot and blocked her number. Now her friends are blowing up my phone. What do? Do I threaten legal action if she doesn't call them off?
>basing your sense of reality on porn
you're a huge idiot
I'm suspicious of every girl that works out.
>>17790786
Just block their numbers. You don't need to be harassed by people because you decided to break up with ur gf
How do I stop wanting deep emotional connections and transfer that desire into just hook ups.
When I want to get with someone of the opposite sex, I find that I always want to have some sort of connection first then ask or start dating. But when I find out they're unavailable or I/her break up I feel at a loss or fairly effected emotionally.
How do I just stop doing that shit and convince myself that non-super-emotionally attached relationships are a better way to go.
Basically how do I go from wanting just emotionally investing relationships to ones that, well, aren't
Why would you want to? Most people can't really have sex without emotional attachment, "hookup culture" is a meme. Most casual arrangements end in heartbreak for at least one person, and most one-night stands are awkward and mutually unsatisfying. Don't try to force yourself to go against your nature, you sound like a normal and well-adjusted person. Don't be discouraged that there's a lot of trial-and-error on the way to finding a good partner, that's normal too
>>17790809
I'll be honest, and i might just come off as a bitch about it, this all because of today.
i was so certain that this girl at my uni was totally as into me as i was into her. we talked alot and had dinner together, then when i told her how i felt she was nice about it but said she had a bf (idk if hes here or back in her country).
my problem isnt that she did or didnt, my problem is why im do i get so attached to people i want to date even when i tell myself i shouldnt get so invested in the prospect. why do i expect everything to turn into some big thing (not every girl i talk to of course, i mean just prospective people).
please pass the egg salad
I have a misdemeanor c and a DUI I would like to pursue a career in botany or horticulture after getting my degree would I be able to work at a dispensary or as a master grower in the future or will my past effect me getting hired as this?
>misdemeanor c - possession marijuana
>dui drunk under age driving
Can I get some in site?
You definitely sound smart enough to get a degree.
>pursue a career in botany or horticulture
Those are hard sciences, you are not cut out for them.
They are not "oh I water the pot and then sell it XD."
And yeah you absolutely will not be able to work at a dispensary with a record. How is that even a question?
>>17790852
Have you ever met some of the turds shit out by modern colleges?
I have to meet my brothers girlfriend today. What am I supposed to say after saying nice to meet you so it doesnt seem awkward?
compliment her on having a nice bag or her shoes or something. but keep it casual.
>>17790761
Ask about her work/school, talk about hobbies or TV or movies, basically just make small talk and get to know her a bit like you would with anyone else. Don't stress over the fact she's your brother's girlfriend, act like you got grouped with her on a class project or something like that, and talk like you would in that situation. Don't make a big deal out of meeting her
ask if she wants to have a threesome with you
Hey guys
Tomorrow there's a 90% chance that a bunch of people are going to gang up and have a go at me.
What's the best thing I can do?
Should I just blank them?
Depends on what you're doing
If you like to hear people shouting at you stand there and listen but don't say shit.
If you don't like to hear people shout at you walk away and go do something else.
>>17790750
Provide with context you faggot. Is it justified? Are they just faggots? Are you the faggot?
First times with alchohol I only have fireball whiskey I just need to know what I should or shouldn't do portion sizes whatever
Don't mix beer with tequila. By mix, I mean drink both. Drink 1 unless you wanna throw up. Then again this is your first time so you're probably gonna throw up anyways. Maybe you just shouldn't eat that much.
drink slowly and don't drink too much. it can take like 10-15 minutes for alcohol to fully take effect.
if you're drinking whisky i'd probably stop before you hit quarter of a litter, maybe less than that.
honestly i'd drink beer or wine first as its safer while you learn your limits.
If you drink too much in one sitting you really can die. You can collapse and then vomit while you're unconscious and choke to death on your vomit.
Hahaha you seriously never had any alcohol in your entire life ? How did That ever happend ? Did your parents not celebrate when you kid ?
A few years ago i used to wear a black hoodie with skulls and other stuff on it, i wore it for most of my highschool years until it finally started falling apart and i had to trow it away,
During those years i used to be kinda antisocial, i only really opened myself to a certain kind of really special people that became the best friends i ever had, i used to be nihilistic but in a good way, i never cared about pointless stuff, and i was happy with my group of friends
but then because of a lot of stuff i became a neet for an entire year,and i could only contact my friends over the internet because they had to move ,i started feeling really lonely
When my neet year was almost over and i finally had plans to enter college in a new city, i decided to change myself i started being more positive and caring more about other people, i changed my clothes to normie stuff, and i just tried to open myself to everyone and i also started working out to compensate my neet year
But over the past months i have realized that while i look way stronger and better on the outside thanks to the clothes and workout, on the inside i bacame really emotionally vulnerable and weak, i just don't feel like myself anymore, and now things that i never even cared about before have somehow managed to hurt me a lot now
i want to go back to how i was before when nothing could cloud my mind or overwhelm me, to how i was when i could talk and laugh about death and demons with my friends without giving a fuck about what the world thinks about me, back then i could really keep myself concentrated on important stuff and all my emotions where under my control
i just don't know what the hell happened to me and how to change it
>highschool.
It wasn't the 'dark n edgy' thing man, it was the fact you were in high school.
Those days are over and unfortunately that is immutable.
So you're scared of facing the real world and working out through your emotions, so you wanna wear black and be dark'n'edgy? Nah, don't wear black, wear a tutu and a shirt that says you're a giant faggot.
It wasn't you being dark n edgy. It was highschool.
You're fucked m8
Going to meet up with a 24 year old. I am 18 (guy) and meeting up with a 24 (girl). She has just broken up with her long term boyfriend and I met her online. She seems not to care about my age and she does seem pretty hot 8/10. I've asked her why she wants to meet up with me and she says age does matter to her and says I am pretty cute. Is this a trap? Meeting up with her at the mall
>pic related its her
>>17790707
>her
could be a man in drag, too
>>17790721
I hope its not a man. Here's anothet pic of her. She's 5'3
You might just be the rebound or the fwb guy. But also she could be a trap. That photo doesn't sell me.