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Jeez just fap when you feel like it. regular ejaculations appear to prevent prostate cancer, too.

>>17928975
But people who do nofap are saying that's a lie.

And I saw an another website saying occassional ejaculations are good for preventing prostate cancer.

>>17928971

NoFap is a complete meme. Is has absolutely no scientific basis in reality, and is used primarily by NEET losers who attach the shame of their failed lifes to touching their dicks.

If you jerk off so much that it starts to interfere with your real life obligations, then sure, do something about it. Otherwise, do whatever.

Bumping because I am also curious

jus ignore him

>>17928490
bi curious?

>>17927501
If your fat, yea probably
If not, probably not

>>17927530
Not fat. Kind of weird looking though, mostly because I never learned how to try to be attractive. I mean I think my foundation is, you know, OK but I don't know how to wear makeup, do my hair, or dress to be attractive.

I don't get asked out often, but I find out down the line that guys used to have crushes on me.

But I can't imagine dating someone I'm really into and then telling them all of this. It's so rare to find someone my age that's available, cool, that I like, and who likes me back. So rare that it's yet to even happen.

>>17927501
nobody else? I was kind of expecting to get attacked

How old are you? 18? 19? You've barely begun to live.

>>17925167
Almost 28.

I wasted 10 years trying to be an artist, and now I want to kill myself for throwing away my youth.

Why is it a waste? No money? NO friends? No GF?

it makes me really happy people are using my incredible poor quality jpg of this.

>>17923523
lol

I'm haunted by you, K. Every single idle moment is invaded by you, and I fixate on it and I can't get you out of my head. I lie awake at night unable to sleep, because I am haunted by the fact that it isn't me making you smile anymore.

I loved that smile.

idgaf

i give a much bigger fuck if he has a history of having sex with a lot of different girls. makes me question his values concerning intimacy, sex, commitment and relationships. i don't need all that garbage.

sure, it might come with autism, anxiety, selfesteem issues, yadda yadda
but i can deal with those better than the stuff above.

besides, i think it's insanely hot to be able to experience the excitement of someone feeling a warm, tight pussy on his cock for the first time

don't stress over it. it's not worth it

>>17918824
I don't care about virginity itself, when it comes to a partner. I don't think there is anything shameful about it. I wouldn't make fun of a friend for being virgin or think less of a partner because of it.

When it comes to a partner, it gets a bit more complicated. To give some context - I am thinking of someone virgin in his mid 20s (my age).

I can work around inexperience. I am willing to learn how to please my partner and to teach him how to please me. If he's willing to listen and get good at fucking me, not really an issue.
I'd be concerned about the reasons why he's virgin in his mid 20s. Why is he virgin? What made it so hard for him to have a normal social and romantic life?
I'd be concerned about the consequences of his long celibacy. Will he be insecure? Will he be jealous? Will he shame me for having had sex before? Will he leave me because he wants to experience and fuck more girls? What effect does this have on him as a person and on us as a couple?

>>17918864
I was 23 when I lost my virginity. I was just very shy and never even talked to girls growing up, and was never in social situations where I had to talk to them until I started working.

When I was dating my first girlfriend, I did indeed wonder what it would be like to fuck other girls, and I put a slight strain on me. Not her fault at all.

I am a bit insecure and jealous, but for various reasons. My family suffered growing up due to my mothers infidelity. Both of my girlfriends cheated on me, and one got pregnant with someone else's baby.

The dynamic of dating someone who had had well into the double digits of sexual partners and wanted to "train" me gave me the perception of a lack of respect on her end, and I resented her belittlement. It's been over a year since the last time I had sex or a girlfriend, and I honestly just resent those things and view them as something that's going to make me miserable.

shits fucked

I would tell me to kill myself

>>17917492

Don't get married.

Pretty shallow reason to feel bad desu

>>17931247
It's just the fact that she broke up with me for not making a move, and everyone is ridiculing me because I didn't as well.

>>17931250
Holy shit, did you ever dodge a bullet.
If she didn't communicate to you what she wanted and broke up with you for not reading her mind, that was a shitty relationship and you should be glad you're not in it anymore. The idea that men always need to be the ones to initiate sex is fucking bullshit.
If she had told you she wanted you to initiate, and you still didn't, that would be good grounds to end the relationship. But if she didn't ever tell you she wanted to have sex, then fck that noise

It's possible that you just have a very low sex drive. Alternatively, you might be asexual - that is a thing.

>>17931227
I've known that for a good while now, but what's the point of being gay and asexual? Why can't I just like girls and be done with it?

>>17931244
I don't think I understand your question. What's the point of being gay and asexual? There's no point. There's no purpose. There's nothing you're supposed to be doing. Why do you wish you liked girls? Why don't you just do what you want (even if that means not having sex)?

In regards to what situation?

>>17931136
Many, many situations. It's not a rule, of course, but I think it applies to most fields and areas of interest. The conventions and guidelines are extremely helpful, up to about (let's just say) 90%, and after that it's time for you to decide the remaining 10%.

>>17931141

well yeah, if there was a formula for getting pussy there'd be no virgins.

there's a reason they are called pick up artists, not pick up scientists. every painter can draw a house, but each would look completely different.

>>17931119
You may want to seek out a therapist. If your uncontrollable jealousy is preventing you from having meaningful sexual relationships, that's pretty severe.

>>17931134
I used to see one. I could never be honest with her.

Is this not normal?

>>17931168
>Is this not normal?
That's the wrong question. A much better question would be "is that not healthy?"
And the answer to that is no, no it isn't. What was stopping you from being honest?

this is basically gonna be /thread in terms of the factuality of the situation


you are worried because thoughts about cheating increase when time away from the partner increases. you're "paranoid" in a sense.

there aren't any connections to be made between all the facts you just gave us

another reason you might be worried is that clubbing and partying are obviously high-risk scenarios for cheating, so your worry is warranted in that way


but from a ((c b t)) vaporwave aesthetic standpoint, what is the worrying doing for you? is it gonna make her more loyal? is it going to help you accomplish anything?

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>>17931051
oh and she has fuckbuddies? so your worry is double-warranted. but 1.) you haven't found anything incriminating here, and 2.) your worrying is still useless.

maybe count your blessings. her being a slut does not necessarily mean that she is okay with cheating or that a single night fling would have any impact on your relationship.

>>17931051
He may become woke to the truth of his GF's slutty ways.

In a culture as homophobic as ours, yes, it is totally normal for you to internalise that homophobia and apply it to yourself. That fucking sucks and I'm sorry you're going through it, but you seem very self-aware, and that's going to crucial for you while you work on overcoming this needless shame.

Yes it's normal, but you can get over it!

>>17931010
accept it yourself before openin up to people. comin out is not even necessary.

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>>17931027
>Our culture is homophobic

Well memed friend

>>17930988
>Not an option thanks to brilliant moves on the part of gun control proponents who think someone who wants help is more of a threat than someone who can't get help.
Can you explain this?

>>17930997

Not OP but: presumably American, and gun laws over there frequently disqualify the mentally ill from gun ownership. Sucks.

>>17931006
Yeah except getting therapy doesn't mean you're mentally ill. Lots of people get therapy for lots of reasons that aren't related to mental illness. Mental illness is usually treated with therapy, but it serves lots of functions.

Seriously, OP, therapy can be wonderfully helpful. I recommend it very highly.

>>17930975
Yes. It's much easier to change your life into one that's more suited to you if you get out of bed.

there's no base reason to get out of bed anyway. If you aren't doing what you want, then try to find a way to do what you want.

by the way, what are you doing and what is it you want to do?

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>>17930991

I work in IT. I regret not following my dreams and becoming a published author of both fiction and non fiction. I have to stay in my job for the next couple of years because I'm broke and lack employability. Moving back home isn't an option because my parents are both ill and having another person in the house would be a huge burden on them (one has mesothelioma and the other just had a stroke).

I'm still pretty young, almost in my mid 20s. I am irritated that I am taking what feels like a needless detour on my path towards what I actually want to do.

I find organizational work to be boring, tedious, and mentally deafening. I have also been fighting off the anxiety of becoming gradually stupider and less talented as I get older (despite reading and writing more than ever before).