What do you do when you have really strong feelings towards your best friend, like cuddling a pillow at night pretending that it's him, but you're scared to tell him because you don't want to lose his friendship, and value him as a friend too much...
What would you do in my situation?
>>17931321
Tell him, because more likely than not, he wants to put his penis inside your vagina
>>17931328
>>17931328
did you pay attention to the picture?
>>17931321
you bottle it up, try to channel those feelings in to other much gayer men, and one day implode and tell him how you feel. he'll reject you and oyu'll both decide its time to move on fro meach other.
sucks to suck.
thankfully my situation worked itself out in reverse
>see a cute guy at yogurt stop
>roommate convinces me to ask him on a date
>hes straight
>i had overheard that he wants to be an actor
>i write
>tell him we should just work together then.
>we work together
>three years later were still best friends
hes obviously aware i find him attractive but it hasn't been weird. he wasn't afraid to sahre a bed with me when we went to vegas, or change in front of me when were doing a costume change (he'll make a joke like 'dont get too aroused' at worst) and we have no problem talking about either of our sex lives without judgement. He even has me weigh in on his relationship and i help plan her gifts and such since hes not very romantic minded.
i happen to value friendship a lot more than romance, so its a very comfortable arrangement for me. as much as id love to cuddle him, i dont need anything more than the strong hugs he insists upon so its a pretty good deal.
we even discussed living together for awhile but i can make a lot more money subletting my spare room at a steal soo...
22 and I've started balding; not surprised, my dad and older brother have the same thing. Balding spot in the back, hairline isn't receding too much yet. My hope is to go for something like pic related. Will a bald spot be obvious with a haircut like this? Am I forced to go full shave?
Baldspots are forever obvious mate. What matters is how it looks with your current hairstyle. Cut your hair short.
>>17931298
I'm definitely cutting it short. I'm wondering if a buzz can look fine or I need to go 100% shaved bald.
>>17931307
If you can manage to grow a beard like pic related then I say go for it.
How do i get healthier?
I am Korean. 175cm. 54.3kg. 102/58 blood pressure. Resting heart rate of 95.
My work requires me to stay seated in office from 9am to 7pm.
M/F?
100 push-ups
100 sit ups
10 km a day
>>17931308
Getting healthy is like 70% diet and 30% exercise. You make and lose weight in the kitchen.
>>17931308
Male. Before someone calls me a manlet, I'm average height around here.
I'm trying out nofap right now, but I don't want to have to clean up a wet dream on a workday morning.
so from what i've learnt so far, more of the point is to not mess up your brain with too much novel stimuli of hot girls, so even pic related is apparently bad
but what if I fap to a girl at work that has been getting me half-horny everyday with just proximity and slight body contact? To a moderation, once a week or so just to stop wet dreams from occurring
>>17931145
Just make a situation where it doesn't matter if you have a wet dream. Sleep without clothes on and have a bunch of different pairs of sheets ready. Also, I think no-porn is a much better goal than no-fap. There's nothing wrong with fapping, but there's a lot 'wrong' with porn, in my opinion. Fapping is very natural and time-tested. Porn is this new invention mindlessly driven forward by money and people's desire to blow their loads.
>>17931145
Don't you take a shower in the morning? If not then start taking a quick shower in the morning. Problem solved.
>>17931145
That's fine.
NoFap is honestly pseudoscience, but letting your dick get un-burnt from porn is a good idea. Women you envision in your mind's eye is fair game.
I want to reform my life /adv/.
What advice do you have for self-improvement that you've found applicable in your own life?
>>17931056
self improvement is as the term implies, 'self' oriented.
figure out what improvements you want to make and then talk about them. we could of course help you with that, but we need to know whats actually wrong, or at the very least where you are.
but you already know basic self improvement advice
>GET FIT!!1!
>READ BOOKS!!1!
>GO OUTSIDE!!1!
>FUCK BITCHES!!!
>GET MONEY!
beyond that shit, self improvement is a personal journey. we can help, but again we need to know a little about the self were helping and where that self would like to go.
>>17931056
This may not be applicable to everyone, but my self-improvement journey began with a bag of psilocybin mushrooms.
That was the day I really, truly, became an atheist. I had given it a fair amount of thought, and and reasoned out how atheism was the most likely logical conclusion to reach (I know that people will disagree with me, and that's cool, but let's not hijack OP's thread ok?), and I had already started calling myself an atheist.
But when I was high as fuck on shrooms in the middle of the wilderness in Quebec, that was when I was confronted with the total emptiness and lack of divine presence in the universe. It was then that I knew, really truly knew, that this short life is the only time we have, and that I'm not going to be rewarded for shit after I die, and if I want to be happy I'd better fucking get on that myself because no god is going to do it for me.
So yeah, go take a bunch of shrooms in Quebec*.
*results may vary
>>17931056
"Just do it ™"
Most of self improvement is pretty obvious and with tiny bit of introspection, intelligence and self awareness, you should be able to tell your flaws and find ways to do something about that, and improve on the strengths. The part that matters is acting. Not overthinking this shit.
I've been close with this girl for a long time. She's a bit withdrawn and spends most of her days staying in on her own unless she really must go out. We haven't met for a while (though I try to and sometimes she does too), but throughout the day we keep close text contact. We're not sappy or flirty or anything, but every now and then it shines through that we do care about each other. Over time I've grown very fond of her, kind of like being interested but not exactly like most of what you see around here.
Details aside, a relative of hers passed away recently. She told me she was going to step back for a while and not text anymore in general. Sent her a supporting message telling her I'd be there if she needed me, gave her space, but felt worried for how she was doing.
So a few days after that I asked her how she was doing. She completely blew me off with a "fine", a few matter-of-fact and single-word answers and stopped responding when I got the hint. That's the last I've heard of her for quite a while now.
I'm bad with loss, both on the receiving and the supporting end. I care for her and want to be there for her in this rough time, but I have no idea what to say or do that I haven't said already and wouldn't seem like it makes things worse. She also doesn't open up to me and we're not in a position or relationship where I can just drop by unannounced and wave my magic wand to make things better.
What should I do?
Do I wait things out until she's comfortable enough to talk by herself, even though that feels like I'm giving her the idea the people close to her abandon her in a time of need?
Do I keep checking up, even though she doesn't open up and doesn't seem to like it one bit?
Do I try to talk like we used to, work around the elephant in the room to make her think about something other than the pain?
tl;dr recently grieving friend, how to support and act in general when you're a very close friend but contact is mostly over text
Bump. It's not a >tfwnogf post for once, guys.
>>17932026
As a girl it sounds like she goes through her own stuff.Maybe give her time while staying supportive. Has she any issues with depression or any kind of anxiety? Because I've been there as a girl, it reminded me of that.
>>17932074
Yeah, she never actually called it depression, but I get the feeling that it's around. She also makes a big point of being introverted and tired a lot, so most of the time she hasn't got much energy for being social.
What do you mean by giving time while staying supportive? I understand giving her time and space, but how can I best stay supportive?
My friend does a lot of coke and he told me to try it.
I did two keys(a little bump off the top of a literal key). I felt fucking great.
I can already tell I want to do it again, but how bad is it? Is it relatively harmless if I moderate?
Maybe once a month(No more than 2-3 lines)?
reeee answer me
Why is this degeneracy so widely accepted in this board?
>>17931042
I don''t do that much coke, but if its there ill do it and if my friends are buying ill pitch in.
My girlfriend is trying to kick a habit.
The main thing is to do it in moderation, be cautious. A lot of people get over confident because unlike other drugs it doesn't fuck you up so much the next day.
Just keep it max like once a week, maybe two nights on a good weekend.
Honestly i'd say try a few drugs, don't do anyone drug regularly (more than once a week or once a week for a sustained period) and don't ever just take a drug for a casual night in or at a bar with friends, it doesn't normally go well to start mixing powders with everyday things, keep it somewhat special.
Probs more than you needed to know, but just be chill basically, and remember, shit's expensive.
lets just skip the part where Im a dirty cheating asshole etc. etc.
Besides the basic stuff ( not taking them to the same places, not bringing both of them home etc.) what are some more advanced do's and dont's one of them is wife material till she proves otherwise, this new one seems p cool so far we just got done with our first date. If she turns out to be crazy I drop her, if the primary turns out to be crazy I drop her. Thats how it is, any tips anons?
>>17931041
Your asking a bunch of people who cant date one woman one time.
>>17931098
I mean I figure theres gotta be at least some people on here who can right? With the sheer numbers theres bound to be diversity... right?
>>17931142
Don't expect a wife to be there for you at then end, you just gotta juggle them both until it all blows up in your face
I don't know why, but I can't form strong emotional attachments to people. I have a very loose view of people and prefer to be alone, I'm like a neet but I'm not a socially inept retard. I've never told anyone publicly because I still live with my parents while I get my two year degree (and I don't want to get prescribed 'crazy people' drugs).
But my boyfriend recently talked about how 'committed' to the relationship I am, and I'm just not, I like the dude but if he broke up with me tomorrow then I wouldn't really give a shit.
I don't know what to do at this point. He's the one who had the hots for me and wanted to date me, and I don't want to break up with him, but I just don't know if it's even possible to hold a relationship with my general attitude towards it.
Sure you're not just uninterested in this bloke?
>>17931030
I am, and I like him a lot, and I can see spending my life with him. But I just don't grow attached to others and I thought that would change after dating someone, but it didn't.
>>17931058
But at the same time you wouldn't give a flying fuck if he just walked out of your life tomorrow?
What is the key to happiness?
I find it difficult for me to be excited to just live yet very easy to be lathargic and self-loathing for extended periods of time.
I've tried expressing my problems to people who insist on helping, never works.
I've tried medication (zoloft) and that made my depression worse.
I've been doing things for self-improvement but I've gotten to the point that my progress isn't satisfying anymore.
How can I feel happy when I know that there will be more negativity than positivity?
>>17930984
It might be useful for you to try therapy. Medication can be life-changing for some people, but it's not always what everyone needs. A therapist might be able to help, or, failing that, point you in the direction of someone who can.
>>17930992
I have tried therapy on several occasions to no avail.
>>17930984
Lots of people much smarter than you and I have pondered these questions before. Maybe try reading some Eastern philosophy. They deal with this stuff frequently.
If you ask me, I think a good way to get out of a self-loathing mindset is to stop thinking about yourself. Right now, you're very self-centered. I'm not calling you narcissistic, or anything like that. What I'm saying is that your perspective is shifted inward. Try looking out every once in a while. Do small random acts of kindness, and do them wholeheartedly with sincerity. Don't think about yourself. Just think about what you can offer for others.
Again, this isn't me accusing you of being a selfish prick, and that you need to suck it up and put others first. I'm just saying that you need to go out of your way, and offer help for others when you can. It's going to change your perspective. Trust me.
What can I do to leave 4chan for good? I have plenty of stuff to do at home, but it's when I have small downtime (like during lunch break) that I crawl back here. What can I use to replace it besides Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, Tumblr and Reddit?
>>17930955
>What can I do to leave 4chan for good?
nothing. there is no way out.
enjoy
>>17930955
Why do you want to leave? Is it too distracting, you are disgusted by something, etc?
ultimately you can simply block the website on your computer or router
>>17930955
>making a thread on 4chan asking how you can leave 4chan
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oGoj2RiyIV8
So I was asked to come up with 30 things that I could do with my spare time. It would be better if these things cost little money and that I can do for a long time. I am looking for classes and things that I can sign up for. Does /adv/ have any ideas.
I already have the thought of getting a gym membership, but I can do so much more, since money is not an issue.
Wait, is money not an issue or do they have to be cheap? Pick one
>>17931008
this. getting some mixed signals here OP.
>>17930941
consider illegally downloading various softwares and learning how to use them.
make a comic. or an animation. or a radioplay. all virtually free activities depending on how you get the software.
>>17930941
Strength
1. Weightlifting
Stamina
2. Running
3. Rock Climbing
4. Rowing / Kayaking
5. Hiking
Spirit
6. Yoga
7. Meditation
8. Qi Gong
9. Occult shit
Creativity
10. Drawing
11. Painting
12. Music Lessons
13. Writing
14. Crafts (leatherworking, woodworking, needlework, etc)
Constitution
15. Baking
16. Cooking
17. Foodie shit
Dexterity
18. Lockpicking
19. Parkour
20. Gymnastics
Charisma
21. Singing
22. Toastmasters
23. Social clubs
Intelligence
24. Chess / Boardgames
25. Poker / card games
26. Reading
27. Programming
28. Build electronics
29. Learn a language
30. Learn math / science
How to completely give up upon women?
I'm so tired of being called short, ugly, or being considered as too poor, and never good enough for anyone even if i improve myself always, have friends and an active social life.
I'm just too tired of being rejected over and over again.
How can i just leave my desire for a partner?
Is there a pill i can take so i can leave any romantic interest behind.
No i'm not desesperate.
No, i don't go around chasing women, just try to hit on some.
Also how can i have sexual relief without fucking up my brain or something from too much masturbation.
I don't like whores.
lower your standards to similarly ugly, short women
or, get plastic surgery
or, work on getting into the sexbot industry and developing more realistic proptotypes
or, embrace 2D
or maybe all of the above
>>17930932
I already lowered them but that makes no difference.
I'm 182cm but a turbofemlet at 160cm told me i'm too short. she literally called me a manlet in 20 differente ways before dumping me.
What can I eat for a snack that is healthy yet filling? I get hungry later in the night after dinner and just eat random junk
Cottage cheese with some jam
Celery, Carrots.
>>17930893
Gross lol
>>17930897
I do eat carrots with ranch, but just not as much as I should
I sleep from 7am to 2pm every day. I want to sleep from 10pm to 5am every day
What do?
1. Take Tylenol PM or 10mg of melatonin/ benadryl and immediately wake yourself up with a shower and coffee until you get used to the routine.
Don't eat too late, don't use electronic screens an hour before your "bedtime", if you must have an electronic on. Set your tv to go to sleep in an hour and put on the most boring channel imaginable at a low, but audible volume.
2. Get a prescription for lunesta, doxe, ambien etc.
I'm a huge insomniac, but 1 worked when I had to go from 3am-11am schedule to a 9pm-4:30am schedule for work
>>17930894
Does pulling all nighters work to reset my schedule?
Easiest way is to slowly change your sleep pattern. Slowly start sleeping later and later. Or you can be hardcore and force yourself to sleep at 10. A couple of sleepless nights but it works.