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>>17930927
Having personal space is a vitally important part of any relationship. Make plans to go out with friends without him every once in a while. Encourage him to do the same.

Sit on the toilet for an hour or two.. very therapeutic.

>>17930945
I would like time by myself to do things by myself. I have no issues going out with friends.
I'd like to just sit in the apartment and play games by myself or watch TV by myself.

>>17930844
>I used to drink vodka but ended up getting a bit of a gag reflex from it
Put a lemon in it or something. Also experiment, even on low budget there is quite the variation from "brake fluid" to "kinda alright".

grape crush+vodka. thank me later.

I have no idea what that is

Bars. At work.

>>17930800
if at university, why are you even asking.

if at work, locate at least one person in the office you actually get on with and hang out with them out of work

also, couchsurfing.com has meetups for 'travelers' who need to meet locals, when I went most people there had actually just moved to the city and were using it to meet people.

Other than that any random interests you have, just google a club or some shit for it in your area

Volunteer.

Also, Bumble has a "BFF" mode which is like tinder but for making buddies

You in it for a caereer or college?

Ignore fembot shit. Was gonna post on r9k before i realized how much of a shit show that would be.

>>17930724
Im taking it for experience. Im joining as a combat medic in the reserves.
>life experience
>can take part time job as emt
>can make extra money while in army

>>17930665
uni parties.
The thing about those is, you get flirty with a girl and move faster than any of you will be able to comprehend, kiss her and make out with her as soon as possible and as soon as she shows interest.

she'll not feel guilty if she has no time to think about it, most of them are all slutty anyways.

>>17930665
>>comp sci major
Good luck till the cash flows in. lol. Just messin.

Anyway, you can still make friends. I'm going to assume you live within the vicinity of your uni, walking distance would be preferable for what you want.

>>17930691
It takes me about 20 minutes to drive there. The campus is huge and my major is a sausage fest.

>>17930688
How do I get invited to this shit? Nobody in my classes are very sociable except one other dude, but he's indian and I don't understand what he's saying.

Just give him some space for a bit, it sounds like you're smothering him.

Instead of spending days you see him "just hanging out", try to figure out cute dates. Make the time more quality. Do things that are new and exciting.

You sound adorable as fuck btw.

>>17930620
A mutual friend of ours invited us to go to a waltz class and dance thing, which reminded me of when I went to formal waltzing events as a kid. I invited my boyfriend to go. That's a quality thing do right? Should I be worried if he says no (because of me rather than because of not liking waltzing)?

>>17930625
That sounds nice. It's okay to be a little hurt if he says no, but know that not everyone likes dancing. I don't.

In between normal chill hangouts, try to schedule some more cool dates. Keep them varied and interesting.

If things don't start improving soon/he doesn't take any initative for dates, then I'd move to plan B. That being sitting his ass down and telling him you're unhappy.

If that doesn't work, then break up.

>>17930549
Very bad friend-o,
with that attitude you are just going to waste actual time of her life.

>>17930566
How so?

I don't think she'd really find anyone better than me if she tried. She's a jerk magnet.

>>17930645
How do people think like this? You're a narcissist.

>>17930470
>I hate that guy so fucking much.
Fair and normal and completely understandable.

>He ruined me life.
Only true if you let it be so. Yes, he inflicted pain upon you. Yes, he took something from you. Whether or not that determines the course of your entire life is not on him, it is on you.
This is the only truth that will set you free from him.
Forgiveness is not for the benefit of the offender, it is for the benefit of the offended.

I know that's not an easy thing to hear, and you have my sympathy for all of your hardships. Who do you want to be in control of the quality of your life? Things can and will get better for you, anon. Not because of what he did or does, but because of what you do now and in the future.

>>17930497
Fuck that. Bad people shouldn't get away with doing bad things

"The day Bison graced your village, it was the most important day of your life. But for me, it was Tuesday."

You guys were kids. He probably doesn't even remember at this point. Of course you recall all of it. The best thing to do would be to let go. Release his power over you.

>>17930422
Many people. They just tell you go to school, get a degree, then get a career.

What is your degree? What is your family's business, and why do you resent it?

>>17930461
Commercial music, so I've gained some basic skills in business and marketing.
And my family run a few small deli/greengrocers and I've been doing it since 14, and I can't stand it. Its been fine as a part-time/Summer job but, I want a job where i can just go home and have it be a separate part of my life instead of having all these expectations and obligations on me because i'm one of the family.

Imagine how bad you would feel if you were 23 and not going to uni lol

Stop wallowing in these negative thoughts and stop listening to them.

You're fine there's nothing wrong with you. Now stop holding onto baggage that has no place to judge your or decide your future and go out there and fuck someone. You're more than deserving and capable of getting some hot juicy pussy my friend.

All these feelings of being ignored and bothered by women and whatever will go away when you're balls deep in her and hearing her moan and looking into those eyes of hers

I guess it would be good to explore the reasoning behind the feelings of contempt. Why are you angry?

>>17930357
"but personality is incompatible with women"
No such thing, sounds to me like you hate your friend and loved his girl friend and then when that either derailed or continued to fuck itself up you couldn't let go and still haven't let go even if you don't see them anymore. You've done the work physically but not mentally to make yourself appealing. See a therapist and consider outpatient programs if this persists.

Different for everyone, but for most people having friends and family you love and are loved by, and spending a good amount of time with them.

Set goals.

keep progressing. everyone i know that is miserable has remained stagnant for too long. always be moving forward in life.

>>17930298
From what you say, he has some kind of problem with you.
Offer to pay your share next time you go out.

>>17930316
That's what I tried to do today... My current theory is he's just a huge dick.

Thinking about it, last week I asked him if he would give me a ride to post office. The car situation has been a nightmare with all the family in town for the holidays and on this particular day the only car at the house was a stick shift, which I can't drive but he can. He said "What's in it for me?"

Like I said, huuuuuuuge dick.

>>17930358
Most people I know who have some sort of job offers to pitch in for gas or some other compensation.

You're taking time from his day to drive you to where you need to go. The least you could do is offer a few bucks for the drive/time/gas, or if it's that important you could always walk.

My advice is to help pitching in as often as possible in situations like that. If you have a job and don't have money to pay for your own things, it's not his fault and maybe you should consider saving more of your earnings or finding a higher wage job.

>>17930272
Have you never heard of Uber? Or Lyft? Or a fucking Taxi?

While you are there getting your asshole blown out you should go ahead and ask for a lobotomy.

>>17930272
Ask a coworker?

What city are you in?

>>17930277
He said that wasn't an option, faggot.

>>17930271
That's completely wrong, enjoy your jail time.

>>17930283
What does it mean by "does an act to effect the object of the conspiracy"?

So… who you planning on killing?

>>17930248
Kill yourself

>>17930270
Okay

>>17930248
He's telling you to lie because he wants dosh from you being recruited. If they find out later he will have gotten whatever bonus for recruiting and you will be SOL.

Also depends on how bad you want into the military. Per standards of fitness:

2-27d. Current mood disorders including, but not limited to, major depression, bipolar, affective psychoses, depressive not otherwise specified, do not meet the standard.
(1) History of mood disorders requiring outpatient care for longer than 6 months by a physician or other mental health professional, or inpatient treatment in a hospital or residential facility does not meet the standard.
j. History of suicidal behavior, including gesture(s) or attempt(s), or history of self-mutilation, does not meet the standard.

you WILL be discharged if they find out.