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I'm sorry to hear that this happened. I know it hurts. I've been through the same. It feels almost like a betrayal doesn't it? As if she anticipated it.

Here's something though. A lot of women I meet and a lot of women I have dated were like this. It's a defense mechanism. She is torn about the breakup as much as you are. But the way she deals with it is different, ie replacing that comfort and love with a quick fix (which, to be honest, will probably not last long). Anyway, it's a rebound.

It's best you just not dwell on the negative. Hang out with friends. Meet new people. Take up a new hobby. And know these feelings aren't going to last that long. You're in the initial stages of 'grief' over your relationship -- it may take a few weeks, a couple months or may be even a year or two. It'll end, just know that.

Best of luck.

>>17932115
>how can she move on so fast?
She moved on way before you thought, she even gave you hints but you denied it.
>How did you handle break ups? what is the best thing I can do?
Put in your mind that is over and there's nothing you can about it, she gave you good moments and that's it, on to the next one, work on self-improvement, learn from the past, and get a better girl next time, you're still young and in college, don't overthink about it, you have plenty of time left before settling down, go and enjoy it.

Women usually a back up guy lined up.

Go to exhentai and go wild.

>>17932088
All women have rape fantasies, probably just comes from your daddy issues.

>>17932088
Being raped is not a good thing, believe me, you probably just like the idea of being dominated and fucked roughly, do you have a boyfriend of something?

The cycle has started
There's some underlying issue(s) that you guys aren't communicating to eachother. Unless one of you steps foward then yall fucked
Ask her if theres anything else thats bothering her or do MDMA together and let the drugs do the work

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>>17932043
Break up!

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>>17932046

Why the fuck can't you druggies go into any thread without talking about drugs?

leave it be.jesus. creeps everywhere.if she wanted she would say yes. for fucks sake,every horny dude giving us headaches

>>17932063
Ignore this ho, its their job to be annoyed

Keep pursuing until you get a definite no

>>17932063
Is it not on the realm of probability that She actually needs to study and os to shy to make a move ?

Do you jerk off to a lot of porn
If yes would you say that your tastes in porn have escalated into more kinky territory over time

>>17932038
are you a virgin, and do you want a lot of porn?

if yes, you might just feel this way because vanilla porn has become boring, and out of desperation of getting no pussy. i felt the same way until i had sex a handful of times. now im not attracted to cock at all.

>not a virgin
>extremely experienced in a wide variety of straight sexual encounters over many years
>late 20s
>watch a lot of quite vanilla porn (lesbians, threesomes, 10% tranny, 2% gay)
>have had sex with a woman multiple times as recently as 3 weeks ago
>currently have another girl on the boil, within a week of bedding her

>still kinda wanna suck cock, because it just seems hot having a cock in your mouth.

>>17932027
WEW
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jesus you dun goofd hard this has to be a troll

>>17932030
I'm not trolling or baiting. I honestly don't know what to do. I was trying to be sweet, but I think I might've fucked up.

>>17932027
You pretty much opened your heart to her, and she said "lol aw"

She's not interested. Trust me, when I was a lot younger I made that mistake. Didn't get a 'lol aw" though, she pretty much explained to me that she just wasn't interested, which was nice in retrospect, she kept it mature.

But a "lol aw" means that she's not interested in you and wants to avoid breaking your heart on this. Not mature, really, but she's trying to avoid outright saying no to you.

Best of luck buddy, but it's just not in the cards for you.

>>17931935
>I can't do cashier work anymore
Why not?

>>17931951
Customers. I can handle helping them through the aisles and such but I can't take line after line of serving people like that. It's not that it's hard or that I can't fake my way, it's that I just don't want to deal with it. Too many terrible people, drama, constant small talk, and it drains on me. Even worse is if a customer is threatening.

>>17931955
I hope you enjoy stocking or warehouse work for a long time then, it really doesn't teach you many transferable skills compared to being a cashier.

Bail, dude.

Part of me thinks this is doomed to fail, but the other part of me wants to see it through and try to correct whatever is going through her mind. She has some does been really thinking about committing, she even told her parents she wanted that several times, but then has flipped both to my face and others.

>>17931933
>i thought maybe she learned her lesson but she hasn't it seems
I would have thought maybe you learned your lesson but you haven't, it seems.

>know that alcohol causes problems
>drink it anyway
???

>>17931911
>everyone knows alcohol is bad for you
>drink it anyway
???

>>17931918
If you want to be a fuckwit, you're free to do so, but don't complain when something that's perfectly foreseeable happens. This is like cutting yourself and being surprised you're bleeding.

>husband plays violent games with no regard for the effect it'll have on your son
Sounds like you married an immature manchild. Any person fit to be a parent would save those sorts of games for when the kids were asleep or otherwise not around.

Your husband needs to grow the fuck up and not play them when your son is around

>>17931907
>>17931908
he's not immature besides this. i can't wrap my head around it.

anyways, he won't just stop being a manchild when it comes to this till tomorrow. and i really don't like the mood this sets when we could have a cozy saturday.

i told gim that kids that age don't have enough selfdiscipline to do stuff like that. his answer was "well, then he will have to learn".
i asked him to play in the evening but he said "i want to spend time with you then and i also want to be able to play vidya when i feel like it".

>>17931755

id want a gift given to me that wasn't based on stereotyping old people.

jokes aside, im not joking. you're their son. get them something based on conversation. and if htat doesn't work, just think of somethign they might like and leave the receipt in case they dont like it.

but the truth is that a gift to show you care can be literally a certificate saying 'i spent this much moeny on this paper saying i love you'.

because thats what it is.

to give someone somethign based on the fact that they're old isn't really that thought ful tho

What kind of dog doesn't have much longer at 9?

>>17931775

the kind you dont feel like driving to the very for the last 4 years of problems.

>>17931730
I get it dude. I've felt this way for a few years. Work, friends, relationships, objects etc just do nothing for me. It's like something is missing or there's something more that I'm not doing but I have no idea what it is.

Babys first existential crisis?

Just keep yourself busy until you die.

We all feel it. But what can you do aside from run from it?

>>17931700

yes.

>i know you're not happy with where you're going, and to be honest I'm not either. I want both of us to be the best we can be, not just for each other, but for ourselves. if you're willing, I'd love to work with you to get you back on track. We can monitor each others diets, keep each other in check, and then celebrate together when we do great jobs.

if she doesn't take that, then jump ship. but if you're already just ready to jump ship, dont worry about it. just go.

do what feels right to you.

>>17931700
how fat?

I feel like not much you can do unless she wants it too. Otherwise if you bring it up you are worse than Hitler and totally in the wrong for wanting her to take care of her body.

are you encouraging their self harm? that is pretty fucked up.

>>17931694
>are you encouraging their self harm? that is pretty fucked up.
No, I'm just into bdsm and breathe play. Sometimes I ask about what their previous boyfriends have done with them.

If anything, it's the 1% who get pissy that are in the wrong here.

Assuming you're not encouraging them to self harm, there's nothing scummy about it at all. Do you think you're taking advantage of these emotionally vulnerable women? The truth is that orgasms rock and sex is cathartic. These girls are sexual beings looking to get off just as hard as you are. You're not using them, you're sharing an experience with them.

>>17931667

man makes up 50% of the population. across every culture, state, city, sub city, the different ethnicities within that city, familes, and branches of each family there are entirely different concepts of what masculinity is.

there are places where having facial hair is considered a gay trait (not feminine, but gay) and there are palces where shaving is the most feminine thing you can do.

whats that tell you? well literally none of them are right.

masculinity isn't a competition of who is the most man. in tribes and packs of any animals, including humans its not just an alpha and then betas as people assume. there are many many different jobs iwthin the pack and each member plays a specific role. you have the alpha, then his beta, then you have the contacter, and the aggressor. it goes on and on.

but by your logic of masculinity being comparative, only one person in the entire world can be the alpha, that would be the president. doesn't amtter if you're alpha in your own pack if some other man can come along with his man posse and out man you, does it?

the point im getting at here is that you are a man. literally, no matter what you do, you are still a man. thats all there is to being a man is being born one.

beyond that there is only machismo, which is masculine pride, which as we stated earlier, is unique to pretty much every single individual. each generation tries to improve upon the last, even in manliness. no one grows up saying 'I WANT TO BE LESS MANLY THAN MY DAD'.

>>17931667
>>17931685

next time you have a mental break down, consider doing whatever needs to be done anyways. this is not a masculine issue, this is a human issue.

most of the traits associated with masculinity involve overcoming something difficult. if its easy, its not particularly manly. so if you can do something despite having a mental break down, thats manly. guys who are all worked out don't live leisurely lives. their workouts just get harder and harder and harder and harder.

guys who fight fires or go to war aren't lacking fear (and the few who do are essentially retarded). they choose to fight despite fear.

and as for your sex life, if you're having fun doing it, then do it. nothing will ever be more manly than saying 'i dont care what you think, im a man and i do what i want'.

its true. how manly is it to avoid somethign you like cuz other people tell you its not okay? that is the least manly thing you can do by anyones logic.

>>17931667
>>17931685
>>17931690

and finally,

>I'm scared I'll never find someone and jsut end up alone.

welcome to earth. the only reason marriages lasted so long before was because divorce wasn't an option. Even when divorce became an option many people didn't seperate out of fear and financial issues.

people who make it to death while still married don't tend to do so out of some pure fairy tale love. by then they are more like brother and sister, two people who are forced to live together. they somehow manage to hang out every fucking day, but they also want to fucking murder each other.

generally if they last til divorce its because one partner is sacrificing a lot to keep the relationship going. a balance can't exist.

we are entering an age of independence. you will be alone a lot. but you will also have many different kinds of partners in life that you grow and develop with as the need arises. and when you can no longer grow and develop together, you will move on.

learn to love yourself, to trust yourself, and take care of yourself, to masturbate out of appreciation rather than a guilty need, to eat out not because someone invited you but because you want to treat yourself after a hard day at work, to massage your own scalp at night because it feels good and you're able to, so why not.

learn to do this for yourself and you'll always be loved, and you'll always be happy. and when you meet someone else who wants to love you too, you'll just happen to be even happier.

also, la? id love to breed you.