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>long distance relationship
>she doesn't speak English
You don't

So, what, you saw a cute girl on a train station and thought that you would date her? Can you at least speak her language?

>>17931676
We met at a comic convention. She messaged me on Hipstergram that I was "supper [sic] cute" in my costume.

We chatted for a bit, and we comment on each other's pics, but I'm too pussy to ask if she ever wants to meet again.

I don't believe you

>>17931654
>If I lose I'm dropping my gf for putting my in this shitty position
But... you put yourself in this position. You're the one who took a joke and overreacted

>>17931654
Jesus christ...what kind of advice do you want? I'm gonna call you dipshit for wanting to fight him and ? Not wanting to fight him? The fuck is your logic. I feel...a hook in my mouth but Fuck it.

>>17931636

yes. as you know girls never get promotions. they tend to work their first job until they die, or until they apply elsewhere, but they are never given a higher position than they had at their previous company.

anyone who claims otherwise is obviously lying.

>>17931636
Obvious bait or do you genuinely not realize how the world works?

No, its not. end of discussion

>>17931636
no. don't rely on men for anything. they will let you down.

>i dont think lvoe is real
>just some biologic ploy

how is that not real? the only way we can really define love is just as an intense feeling of affection for someone. beyond that there really isn't a definition.

each culture sets up different rules for how we shoudl go about love, but even within cultures there has always been conflicting ideas and opinions.

you'll notice that most cultures preached arranged marriages or bought women, yet most poets and artists focused on adultery. that's because its our natural instinct to CHOOSE a partner, not have one bought for us or pre arranged for us.

so yes, love is just the feelings you get because biology wants to make us have babies

however, why can't it be greater than the sum of its parts? and from any scientific standpoint, we can see its true. Despite people not being able to get pregnant, love persists. people will do great and amazing things to save a partner, or even to just make them happy. They'll also do terrible things to express themselves. They'll create great works of art to express their love, they'll give up their lives to ensure the other lives. Love was created to have us procreate, sure, but its done a hell of a lot more than that.

beyond it being feelings, there are no rules. some claim its not 'real' love unless it meets that persons personal idea of what love is, which is ironic because rules we apply to emotion are the least real thing imaginable. the couple who grows old and dies together didn't love each other more than the man who shot his wife because she was going to leave him, at elast not as far as we can prove. There is just more mature people, more mature relationships, but one love isn't 'real' while the other is fake.

the steady stream of 'happily ever after' fairytales aren't going to come true. you wont find the perfect girl and live happily ever after. those who do make it to death without divorce tend to do so at the expense of someone's happiness

>>17931639
Hmm. Good point. Separate from any 'memetic' identity, there is an emotion. Still, it seems like such a distraction to me. It's a chemical that makes me waste my life on some fruitless union. What for? To get more chemicals (happiness). I want off the hedonic treadmill dammit. But why do I still feel this emotion? I'm not trying to sound like the 'waah i wish i never felt love waah' posters on here, but if I did pursue it I wouldn't want it to be because I was compelled by the animal instincts I've been working so hard to overcome. When I meditate and watch my own thoughts pass by, I usually feel a certain level of indifference to them. But somehow it's harder to do when I get this feeling. It's like the emotion injects itself into my thoughts, forcing me to dwell on it. It doesn't happen often, but when it does it's annoying.

>>17931665

now you sound like a 2deep4you fag.

>its a distraction

from what?

>waste life on a fruitless union
>what for

children?

>to get more chemicals (happiness)

that too sure.

>but why do i still feel this emotion

cuz literally everyone does unless you have a disorder.

>if this happened i wouldn't want it to be compelled by animal instincts

thats like saying you don't want dinner just because you're hungry. its literally how life works.

>working so hard to overcome

ask any addict, they will say they still crave their vice every single day. over coming isn't about forgetting something exists, its about over coming the temptation that persists now matter what you do.

>when i meditate

okay, so romance is a fruitless waste of time, and a distraction, but meditation isn't?


>i feel indifference to my emotions

if your goal in life is to remove emotion, you're going to have a bad time. the reason you feel indifferent in meditation is that its reflection. in the moment you feel the real emotions, they're stronger.

again over coming is about controlling something ferocious. not changing human biology.

love is greater than the sum of its parts, and as i stated earlier, it serves as an inspiration for many great things. most great people who accomplished amazing things also did so while experiencing love and everything that comes with it. those hwo don't often keep up their good work in the hopes that it will one day attract a mate.

so you can either let your self experience what you're meant to experience so that hwen you work on yourself you know its genuinely for yourself.

or oyu can try to crush that feeling and go forward knowing that anything you do you do with the hope of wanting to get a partner.

choice is yours.

You don't even have a bachelor's and you're already planning to get a master's?

>>17931588
Also
>As long as I'm getting A's in my math classes do other classes matter as much if they do which ones matter the most?
Suggests that you don't have the right attitude for university

>>17931588
>As long as I'm getting A's in my math classes do other classes matter as much if they do which ones matter the most?
Cs get degrees. But frankly, the other Anon's right. You shouldn't have this attitude going into university. Yes, inevitably, you over extend yourself, and need to let some courses suffer in favor of others, but you should go in expecting success in all your courses, and should take all your studies serious. You shouldn't slack in anything just because you don't think it's relevant to your degree

>>17931583
I believe that the tendency to drink is present in intelligent people, not that drinking actually raises their intelligence.

Fucking retard.

>>17931583
No it kills braincells through suffocation and blackouts.

>>17931583

plenty of retards drink. plenty of geniuses are sober.

if you were actually smart you'd think about what those connections mean.

you can say 'sexually active people are prone to catch herpes' but giving yourself herpes won't make you sexually active.

Reno seems to have a pretty great police department.

Boulder City is beautiful and it's population is about 15,000 people. I lived in Henderson and it was great, but it might be too crowded for you.

>>17931511

Don't move anywhere but the Vegas area or Reno area. I promise you, you'll greatly regret it. This state is a ton of impossible wasteland outside of that, and I actually love it here.

Why are you looking for something under 20k?

I GUESS Boulder City would be okay, since you're not prohibitively far away from population, but anything else in the state is three hours away from anything relevant. But Boulder City may as well be Vegas.

I'd say move to Henderson, which is still in the greater Vegas area, but is nice, and one of the safest places in the country.

get the fuck off 4chan and mix it up with people

Keep posting on 4chan, don't dare talk to anyone.

What are you wearing?

Chat up other customers or the bartender?

By the way I was using a tenga toy and wasn't holding it tight.

bump for diagnosis

does it happen any other times?

>>17931480
if you live in a major world city then you don't have to go very far. just outside of your neighborhood you could meat thousands of new people every single day

>>17931487
But I don't "meet" them.

Basically I spend my days surrounded by thousands of people, yet I have no interaction with anyone other than the occasional "thank you"' to some cashier.

Please answer lel, I'm sick to be alone

>>17931445
Don't, I was a KV until like 23 or something.

Work on improving yourself.

>is it more pathetic to be a virgin at 21 or to have lost it to an escort
I think the latter. I'm a girl, for what it's worth.

yeah tee hee we're all grills here op. giving it up to a prostitute will feel awful. I know a couple people who did it. Just get yourself out there on a dating site already

>>17931431
Did it get out? Is it dead under a couch?

>>17931439
She gets out every day, but she's usually clawing at the door within 30 minutes.

>>17931441
not in heat/pregnant? cats go rogue when that happens

>>17931423
Be more persistent.

>>17931435
How so...? I've put in zero effort since being rejected because that's the answer I was given

>>17931444
What did you say, and how did she respond?

Practice self-love. I think it's a necessary phase of life, learning to being happy while completely alone. It allows you to not depend on others, and will make your friendships and relationships more successful and fulfilling.

Focus on yourself. Become more attractive, exercise, pursue your hobbies/arts, focus on advancing your career path, etc.

I had a bad breakup a few months ago and it really woke me up to how lost I was without my partner. I was forced to learn to love myself and enjoy my alone time. I have some red wine, maybe smoke a little weed, play guitar, meditate, dance, do pushups, etc. Really just being a positive person and doing positive things for yourself makes all the difference in the world. Love yourself, don't belittle yourself.

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>>17931408
Become your own friend (this may drive you to madness) but at the end of the day you'll never be alone again.

It's what I did, and now I always have someone to talk to.

Crippling depression, works great.

>>17931390
Halp please

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No porn and limit ejaculations to once every 4-5 days.

More foreplay.

Try some red wine during lovemaking.

Drink green tea daily.

Do kegel exercises, edge on days between ejaculations.

If I have sex daily and cum each time, after a few days my dick won't get diamond hard. If I keep cumming and having sex, eventually I just can't stay hard. Not ejaculating for a few days fixes the issue.

>>17931420
I've since quit porn a week or so ago, so I'm hoping that'll help.

One thing too is I was on an antidepressant that I stopped taking Monday or Tuesday night, and I'm hoping that'll help as well, but I guess the benefits of stopping the med doesn't kick in right away necessarily.

I'm starting to take about 200mg of gingko every day starting today, as I've read that it can help a lot with circulation and thus help with blood flow to my penis.

Will kegels help with staying hard? I thought it just helped with premature ejaculation? Either way, when I try to do a kegel right now, I can't hold it for more than a couple seconds before it gives out. Is this a sign I need it?

Thanks for the advice.