Archived threads in /adv/ - Advice - 2868. page

Have you considered medication? I was on some stuff for OCD for a few years myself and eventually I worked myself off of it, I understand how frustrating it can be. I also found exercise and working helped me out (especially jobs where you're responsible for organizing things, love it), even though my teenage self thought that employment and physical fitness were lame. That's what worked for me, anyway, and maybe for you -get out of the house and seek appropriate medical attention.

>>17933309
Is your brother a welfare queen or something?

>>17933340
no he's working
I'm talking about weekends and now he's actually got some leave because they apparently have a psycho boss in their company and the company owners told him to wait until they fire that guy
>>17933333
I am on medication. I stopped taking it a few months ago because we thought that can already manage without it, and had a giant relapse, so I resumed. Now I'm better but still struggling a bit.

As for the employment bit, I would love to, however I'm waiting after I finish uni to start. I've always liked sport, unfortunately I've had some health problems recently + I have some specific obsessions that make it harder to be active... I go swimming once a week though plus work out with body weight sometimes.

Religious background?

>>17933290

>I can't go a month with masturbating. A month no masturcation is the only way to reset though. FUCK!

What are you even talking about?

But anyway there's nothing unhealthy about feeling horny and wanting to have sex with 'really hot women'

>>17933314
I was talking about that no fap stuff. They say you need a month off of porn and nasturbation to reset your brain.

Also, I did not have a extreme religious upbringing.

>>17933268
If you fake it in front of strangers, they probably won't notice, but if you do it in front of people you see everyday, they will notice you faking it.

>>17933289
Is there really only way to improve upon this then with those people. I realized people like me but I also haven't gotten close with any of these people an I think this may be why.

>>17933268
The sad reality is that in most places, be it online or in real life, pandering is usually what works best. You can either sell your soul and make a fake you, or be yourself and have the odds against you.

>>17933169
That's bad. What is she thinking of doing in the future? Mooch off a wealthy man?

>>17933169
Well no two siblings are alike.

I'm the oldest and got terrible grades and fucked around in high school, but I have a stable job and my own place and everything is pretty damn good, even without my college degree.

My middle sister did GREAT in college, but is kind of dependent on someone else taking care of her (she's chained boyfriends for years and is moving in with the one that's going to law school so she doesn't really have to work ever again).

Youngest sister is all over the place, but she was the one that really took the brunt of my parents divorce (she was only 2 when it happened) so being in high school still, she's definitely of that age where she fucks around.

As long as your sister isn't getting into hard drugs or dropping out, she'll be okay, most likely.

She probably has interests and talents she doesn't even know she has yet, and that might not be exposed until after High School (a notoriously bad location for natural talents aside from fact memorization and homework dedication).

The absolute best thing you can do is support her with whatever it is she wants to do, and let her know it gets better after high school. Don't be so arrogant that you think that your way is the *only* way.

Likely she doesn't exactly feel great about it either. I suggest talking to your parents and asking them to let up on her, or make homework a more positive, rewarding experience somehow.

>>17933169
How are YOU in a predicament? This is something your sister and parents need to work out. It doesn't involve you

My mom passed me the schizophrenia gen and I fear everyday that I'll probably become something like her in a couple of years.

>>17933157
No its not the right thing to do. Painful truth is youre a defective human being whos being held together by medication. If you happen to have kids it will only get worse especially if youre a woman since the pregnancy playing haywire with all your chemicals will send your disorder into overdrive.

>>17933157
Please don't have a child knowing full well he/she will definitely suffer like that and I mean not even because he/she will probably experience a life of disappointment in themselves but because it is so fucking hard to grow up with a bipolar person (talking from experience here)
I don't wish what I've seen and been trough to anyone. It's hard as it already is.

The only situation where I see someone like you having a child is if you have enough money to support your manias and the manias your kid will probably have trhough his entire life. The child may even come out crippled but if you have money you could try.
Don't look for happiness in a child because a child won't bring you happiness like you seem to think, a family won't bring you hapiness.
Hapiness is something you work with yourself, you don't attain it like this.

>>17933143
The second issue is mostly a non-issue, unless you're an asshole about it and unwilling to to compromise because you "need alone time".

The first issue is big. Get in control of your emotions first and then worry about a relationship.

Being in control of your emotions is the basis of maturity. Once you can get a grip on your silly anger issues, you'll find that a lot of things in your life may just fall into place. You're doing nothing but creating your own hell.

Also, the "this is just how I am I can't help it" mentality isn't helping anyone. Your misplaced anger will do nothing but help you ostracize yourself from your peers.

Come to terms with the fact that you can't control yourself, then learn how to control yourself rather than acting like a toddler going on a temper tantrum.

>>17933160
>The second issue is mostly a non-issue
I disagree. The more serious a relationship gets, the more this is going to become a problem. What's he going to do when they move in together and start settling down? Just disappear?

I agree with everything else you've said though. I would also suggest some sort of professional help too

>>17933190
Professional help is definitely a good idea.

I suppose what I meant in my first post is that wanting, or needing alone is perfectly acceptable.

What isn't acceptable is brushing off your responsibilities to your job, friends, and your relationship because you just need some "alone time". That's a pretty weak minded mentality.

So basically alone time is positive and therapeutic, to an extent.

kill yourself

>>17933125
do it with the computer cables in the office

>>17933128
naked, with your op pic on the screen

>>17933109
Don't fuck around with your meds. You'll be in pain for days after this procedure, and will likely run out of medication before you're out of pain.
It's also easy to fall asleep on which makes it a total waste to try to "trip" on it, rather than using it for it's intended purpose.

>>17933124
I never took the hydrocodones they gave me when I got mine removed. I sold them.

>>17933109

you can OD and die on opiates you dumb retard, you're not going to "trip", you'll just pass out and might die in your sleep

What a lazy shit

>>17933039
I dunno, man. You could just try being yourself. Like, you have some common interests, right? Just build on those, and ask her out to some place you'd both like. Nothing fancy. Just some coffee or lunch.
And remember: The worst she can do is say no.

>>17933045
Hahahahahahaha 12/10 most under rated post of the day.

Ok?

Bitches be crazy, we already knew this.

What did she do to try to make you feel jealous? And why would she do that?

What is the advice youre asking

>>17932947
Or maybe you can not be an autist (or American) and stop thinking in black and white?

There is a time for being open about your feelings, there is a time where you don't waste the time of your friends as if they were hobby psychologists.

Rule of thumb is, it has to be something that at least sounds important to a normal person.

>>17932970
Of coooooourse. It's my fault hahahaha yeahhh

>>17933012
Ive found that blaming others for your problems is a fruitless effort. Acceptance of the world's unchangeable fuckery and adaptation to it will lead to a more content life.

>>17932909
Did you talk to the landlord
In a way that was very annoying

How to make a voronoi pepe?

You've gotta flip out on the guy and tell him he had no respect for his neighbors and if he wants to practice for school to get a practice room somewhere else. He has the control now you've gotta stop being a puss and take it

>>17932856
I think you made the best choice given the circumstances.

>>17932856
Indian studying abroad here.

IIT? Good? Hah! They are only as good as the student, not the teachers. Also, I don't think they break down how good they are based on discipline; for mining there are institutes of better repute in India.

And then there are the people you'll be studying with. For the majority of them, getting into the IIT is their life goal. Why because tons of cash when you graduate.

But most of all, which one? The older ones are way better than the new ones. And for all the hoopla, the goal of a college/uni education in India is to pass the exams, while that abroad is to understand your subject.

I am a biased. Did a master in India and in Germany. The former was a total and complete waste of time and the bad study and work habits I inculcated negatively affected my ability to excel in the latter.

And as to the cash-cow thing. India or abroad, you are a cash cow. But abroad, you'll almost always get what you paid for.

>>17933704
Obviously the old top 5 IIT that's why getting mining bothered me so much
Anyway why did you do masters in india? I thought it was common knowledge that postgraduate in India is worthless

>>17932830

No. If it does snow, it'll make it all the more romantic, and then just take your sweet time going home.

also, you don't have to bump so much, /adv/ is one of the slowest boards on this site and its one of the boards most people use the catalog function on.

Reschedule. If she isn't understanding or criticizes you then she isn't worth your time. If she's around your age she should understand. It's fucking cold outside anyway, even in Texas. I can only imagine how cold it is up there.

>>17932928
OP is a novice driver. He shouldn't be driving in inclement weather conditions putting other drivers at risk. Especially putting his date at risk. People become incredibly bad drivers when the weather turns to shit.

>>17932815

And she rightfully does so.

That's how it should have gone:

-Didn't we just have sex?
-Yes
-Do you want some more?
-No
-Hence porn

If she's fullfiling her dick cravings with you she doesn't have a reason at all. Unless you're just doing a half assed job fucking her...

>>17932847
You sir are clueless to the female perspective. Good luck in your future relationships.

OP how would you feel if you loved someone so much and thought you would last forever and have a happy life. Then to find out she spends half her days googling huge black cocks and buff male models because you arent enough for her? Takes the special out of a relationship for some girls and kills them inside. You're going to notice a change in her now. She's going to be a lot more suspicious, jealous and judgemental. I feel bad for her and any girl who goes through this. I know guys don't care and think it's nothing but most girls are different.