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Nervous about hanging out 2017-01-05 11:41:02 Post No.17927064
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Nervous about hanging out
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2017-01-05 11:41:02
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I'm a 18 yo hs senior guy who got invited to hang out to play some clue and have pizza with 3 female friends tomorrow but I'm extremely nervous.
Background
>full honor student, valedictorian of the grade
>stay home most of time since 7th grade just studying/learn programming/gamedev
>isolating activities, basically home all the time
>allowed my social anxiety to strive, became really insecure, social skills died
>realized this summer how depressed I was, focus on rebuilding my social skills
>overcame first hurdle and starting talking to people, just be able to approach them especially girls (gave me most anxiety) without being a nervous rack (avoid looking at their faces/voice breaking/saying stupid shit/blushing randomly)
>been improving, can approach girls talk with them, eat with them at cafeteria table
>improved my likability, doing my best to avoid my superiority complex (that strove from inferiority complex), joined 2 clubs, basically forcing myself into social situations I don't want to just to improve
>improved to the point that I actually got invited to hang out like above (never done this before ever)
Now you guys can see how nervous I am.
Inside I'm dying to make an excuse to say I can't go but I'm not going to give into my fear, I want to improve!
I know that most of the fear is coming from my poor ability to be humorous and small talk, but I console myself knowing that it's group so it'll me less mental effort to talk and I should just chill as its to have fun not worry, but even so I feel extremely anxious about tomorrow.
What do people do when you hang out? How do you guys stay entertained? How long do you just hang out for? Ideas for when there's silence? Any advice/tips for me overall?
To make matters worst, I have a slight crush on one of them (the main reason motivating me to improve all my social skills so that I can later ask her out when I feel confident to prom)
Thanks for reading, I'm really eager to read all of your responses.
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Get in there and fuck those bitches op
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>>17927064
You wrote this like you were applying for a job senpai lmao
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>>17927070
I'm sorry, I even edited it to make it more concise. School trained me to being too over-anaylitical/detailed
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I want to have sex with an attractive female neighbor 2017-01-05 11:29:43 Post No.17927029
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I want to have sex with an attractive female neighbor
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2017-01-05 11:29:43
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Basically I have this neighbor/ family friend who is smoking hot for an older woman. Shes pretty cool too and into alot of newer trends and definitely is young at heart. Our families are cool but my relationship with her literally is just hello and goodbyes. How can I basically break it to her that I want to hang out with her without it being weird...also I know I cant just say hey I want to have sex so I will have to start from friendship I suppose. Shes like 20+ years older than me (im 24), but like I said shes totally awesome and honestly sex aside I wouldent mind getting to know her a bit more.
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But you won't have sex with her since you're here asking.
You will never stick your dick in her, sorry.
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>>17927149
As much as I would like to react with anger to your post I must admit its pretty much the more realistic answer. Gotta at least try right?
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>>17927029
>Our families are cool but my relationship with her literally is just hello and goodbyes.
try to go from the " hello and goodbyes." to a conversation. Get to know her and the stuff she likes. From there on out you might find a opportunity to find something you both like or just ask her to hang out or smth
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"Real Job" vs Creative Job?
I no longer enjoy computer science and have been looking for a new major. It's dawned on me in my sophomore year that maybe I'm not cut out for this kind of thing and need to take a creative path like I was told I'd be good at.
How much riskier is it to get a degree in something creative rather than say business or engineering?
Currently applying to classes and looking at summer internships for media companie but wanted to know what's the safest ways to "test the waters" of this kind of thing.
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>computer science isn't creative
>engineering isn't creative
You didn't understand what was going on, anon
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>>17927047
Creative as in arts.
Anon pls
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>>17927047
Most of the work in Computer Science won't have an ounce of creativity if he wants to work for a company instead of paying his own bills.
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My brother died in an accident on the 14th of December.
I'm not going to go though everything about what happened, how I feel, and his life because I don't thin it has any relevance
But just now I have gotten myself together to go get his things from the corner with my other brother. We came back to his house and inside what was found in his car was this medium size notebook. It has 12 words, Not seeming to relate to each other or anything that are crossed out then 12 other words written next to them. It also has what looks like pin's or passwords. But I have no idea to what.
It also looks like it was written maybe by someone from Europe because the 7's have line though them.
But my brother was very very private and didn't even have any "friends". He was kind of known for not speaking to anyone besides me or our brother including where he worked. He would just walk past someone and pretend he didn't hear anything or nod and walk away He didn't try to do it in a rude way, But he was not good at socializing and was a very anxious, nervous guy. So this is very strange he would have this in his car
We are all kind of stumped.
I don't want to post all it because I don't know if It's bank accounts of sorts or what....
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>>17927017
>corner
I meant coroner,
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>>17927017
I use Bitcoin, sometimes strings of words can relate to password resets.
Go on his computer and see if you can find anything like e.g
Electrum, Tor browser and so forth.
If he put money into bitcoins it would have been smart, they jumped from 1,100 AUD to 1,500 AUD recently
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>>17927017
Oh shit op your brother has a death note
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I found nudes of someone I knew IRL in a "girls of ____" thread on /b/. I had a crush on her in HS but she didn't like me so I made a fake FB profile, friended her on Facebook and posted it on her wall. It was deleted within minutes and my account suspended, but I used my real IP when I did that. Can anything bad happen to me?
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>>17927002
>crazy creep afraid of consequences
Fucking glorious. Send Jamal my regards.
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>>17927007
I mean is there laws against it? It should be free speech right? Has anyone ever gone to jail for this sort of thing?
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i doubt anything will come of it
.. but now you know what library computers and cafe wifi are for
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Turbomanlet seeking help.
I'm 18 and last time I measured myself which was last year I was at around 5'4 for you americans. Now I'm probably around 5'6 although I can't measure myself at home.
Despite my height I'd say I'm fairly confident in most aspects of life but have always been insecure with approaching people no matter the sex. Im terrible at picking up what's flirting and what's not and have had friends tell me stuff like "she was definitely flirting with you" on lots of occasions. I feel like I'd be enjoying life alot more if I was taller.
Can I actually do something about my height?
I'd love to hear opinions/stories.
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>>17927000
>He fell for the meme.
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If your growth plates have closed, the only way to get taller is with painful surgery.
The best thing you can do is accept that you're a manlet and wear shoe lifts or boots.
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>>17927000
Eurofag eh? I'm not much taller and it will harder for you since the average height is more over there.
On the bright side it's easier to make noticeable gains and you're less likely to get joint pain compared to the 6 foot+ lanklet.
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If you had a pretty good income (well above Cost of living) and could choose between
>A sizeable raise
>Work flexibility & ability to work from home most of the week
Which would you choose?
I tried asking on /biz/ but the entire board is just cryptocurrencies and scammers
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>>17926976
Depends on whether I did like the job/environment or not. If I do, obviously raise. If not, flexibility/working from home.
Unless it's a job I am planning to do short term, where the main purpose would be to stack money, then it'd be a little more complicated and depend on the factors above + current wage + goal.
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I would stick with the same schedule and invest in a gf ;_;
And also bitcoins. Its literally the future
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>>17926976
If you're ok with staying at that job all your life, and can't be easily subbed, then I'd take the flexibility.
If you want to get more promotions and shit, you have to take the money, it's usually easier to be noticed when you're physically there.
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Self harmed, stabbed about 5 cm deep into my arm 12 days ago.
Now, I have a sore throat coughing up mucus. It doesn't look infected?
What do lads?
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>>17926961
1. grow up
2. stop being such a faggot
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Sounds unrelated.
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>>17926961
>i have a cold
>surely i can use this to divert their attention and pitty to my self harm incident.
Your imune system was probably fucked that is why you have a sore throat now.
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I don't understand wtf is going on guys.
I used to smoke weed quite everyday for 2 years, it made me feel better and made me enjoy the free time more.
Then suddenly when I smoke weed I get fucking anxious, start panicking,my heart beats like tekno music and I can't feel my breath. I stopped smoking since 7 months, It would be nice to smoke weed again, maybe not everyday but occasionally but I'm totally sure that shit will happen again.
What do?
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>>17926947
Oh BTW, pic unrelated
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Maybe you've been smoking too much at one time
Or just that quality of weed have improved
Because that sounds like symptoms when ur too high
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>>17926970
I used to smoke mid quality weed, but not too much, just 0.3g and it felt like fucking dying
Now I moved in Tenerife where the quality is like God tier and I'm scared as fuck to start smoking again, even taking only 2 hits
I know this is not the best mood to smoke weed, but a part of myself want to get high like the good old times
Is it possible?
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Three weeks ago I posted on /adv/.
I'm a 27 year old virgin, with a decent job. When I was 21 I committed to staying single etc. as avoiding relationships and rejection led to my mood being far more stable than before.
I'd been having after work drinks sometimes with a girl from work, it was fun etc. She text me asking if I was single. I didn't respond. Two days later she text apologising for being inappropriate. Again I didn't respond.
I'd asked /adv/ for help removing myself from the situation as I don't ever want to have a relationship and I certainly wouldn't have one at work, risking people finding out my inexperience and appearing weak.
In the end I never responded as I really didn't know how to respond, yet stay outside of the relationship paradigm.
Today I was back in the office for the first time since these texts. When I walked past her desk it was clearly awkward.
How do I fix the situation and return to having enjoyable after work drinks, yet keep my commitment to never being involved in relationships?
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>>17926944
Are you comfortable with lying? Just say: "Sorry, I'm in a complicated situation with someone. I'd prefer not to talk about it right now."
Keep in mind that she might have been hanging with you because she liked you, so maybe she won't want to hang anymore.
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>>17926948
Not really I don't want to get entangled in a web of lies.
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tell her "hey sorry I didn't reply. My last relationship was shitty and I wasn't sure about jumping so soon into a new one"
She'll understand...But make sure you really don't want to be with her or else you'll blow your chance
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i hate my boyfriend but i can't afford to leave right now
HALP
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>>17926888
just leave.
You don't have ANY friends or family at all that would or could help you?
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>>17926892
i do but they all have cats
gross
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>>17926902
>gross
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Okay, so when I'm with a girl in an intimate setting I find it difficult to make a move. When it occurs to me something could happen I get all tense and shivery, which is a turn off to women.
Is there something I can do to make the whole thing smother? I've never really kissed a girl and the thought is getting scarier and scarier.
An example of my ineptitute would be this:
>At a pary
>talking with a girl i know is interested
>She wants to play the shitty question game
>Ask's shit like "who are you crushing on right now", u know, stuff to get the ball rollin.
I clamp up and deflect the questions becuase im emotionally insecure.
Idk feel like im not being very lucid here, just maybe looking for some advice on the issue. Im 21 btw
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>>17926887
Keep trying. You'll learn what to do by learning what not to do. When you learn enough, you'll feel comfortable on your own and it will get easier. Maybe you even get some action in the meantime.
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Breathe. When you're around hot girls as a someone with little female experience, you hold your breath and get neurotic without even realizing.
Breathe, damnit. Whenever you feel out of control in any situation, take a deep breath.
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>getting a gf and sex isn't that big of a deal
>you should get laid/get a gf to cure X problem
Make up your minds normies
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>>17926868
>you should get laid/get a gf to cure X problem
That's a lie. They are selling you snake oil. Sex doesn't solve any problems, man. Why did you believe that shit?
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No one ever said this to me IRL.
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>>17926870
I didn't, I was just quoting
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Just broke up with my gf after 1 year of being together. She broke up with me because she thought a didn't care enough for her. She always wanted me to be beside her. That means, I had to travel 20 km from city to city by car almost every single day. She had no real friends, her family lived in an other town, so she was basically alone. I was always there for her, I was driving while sick, with back pains, broken toe, on Christmas, family gatherings. She always kinda guilted me if didn't come or couldn't come.
So, today I was driving home. I was at her place last night and I stayed until 2 pm. I was shocked to find out that a friend of my dad had died in our backyard this morning, and that mom and dad were trying to reanimate him for almost an hour. We were all in a shock the whole day. Tommorrow's the funeral, and I said to my gf that I couldn't come. She immediately got mad and said that I didn't care about her and that I'm a piece of shit for leaving her alone. I don't know anymore, today's been a really stressfull day. Is she right ? Am I the one who's the "bad guy" in this story ?
Sorry for the messy writing. I'm kind of a mess myself here
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>>17926865
I've been in those sort of relationships. They make you feel like such a dick and asshole out of crappy situations. After months of being with them, you believe everything they say because they're you're "number one".
You done nothing wrong, bro. Some girls are just like that.
Sorry to hear of your dad's friend, op.
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>>17926865
she sounds fucked up to me.
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I know what you mean. But, the situation's like this. For the last month or so, she's been really stressed out, she was always getting sick, she had some sort of muscle spasms and she felt bad in general. She was on sick leave the last week and she felt much better after it. She got a new job also, three days ago. We both concluded that it was because of her stress that she was feeling ill. For new years she did a was really off the chart with drinking and getting high. Now she says that what if it strikes again with the spasms and whatnot. I told her, what about my family, they had a rough time already dealing with this today, what if they can't handle it anymore on the funeral, what if someone collapses or something. I told her that i need to be with them the whole day. And still, she wouln't understand.
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How long does it take for an unopened pack of cigarettes to go stale? I've had a pack of pic related in a drawer for a few months that I bought with the intention of smoking when I go out since I'm not a regular smoker, but an occasional social smoker, I haven't been out since I bought the pack and probably won't go out for a long time since I chose entrepreneurship over having a social life.
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>>17926848
Smoke one and find out.
Ive never had a box long enough to even notice stale cigarettes, so I can't say.
It's not like a stale smoke is worse than a fresh one. It's still bad for you either way.
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ziploc
freezer
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>>17926891
I'm not worried about any health issues. I'm concerned about the taste and quality, but I don't want to open it just yet. I want to save it for an occasion; any occasion, not just a special occasion.