I got jumped randomly and haven't been able to sleep over it for a while now. Everytime it's dark out and I'm on the sidewalk my heart fucking stops as any van is driving on my side of the road like they could easily pull up and beat the shit outta me or something. Lost all my sense of security, dunno how to cope.
Get treatment for mild ptsd.
>>17928760
thank
>>17928759
tell me about it anon, it can help by talking about it. How exactly did it go down?
How does one properly build confidence and not be affected by negative comments?
>>17928753
Bump
>>17928753
Build your confidence on real skills and knowledge. That way you know you deserve to have it.
By just going to tourneys and giving other players the smash dick. And not giving a fuck.
Anyone ever conquer premature ejaculation?
I'm a 25yearold who's only recently developed the problem and need tips.
I have the opposite problem. Be thankful you can actually cum with another person.
My advice would be to fap to porn and start edging, that's how most people do it. It's a slippery slope tho.
Try breathing in big breaths. Then slowly exhaling. Sounds ridiculous but it definitely helps a little bit.
http://www.risingmaster.com/the-masters-and-johnson-squeeze-technique/
I was wondering if someone like me will high likely get AIDS even with a condom on?
I've hired 4 hookers in total for the past two years and I'm planning on hiring more hooker in the future for a more active sex life, but still I couldn't help myself but worry that I might get contracted with STDs. Just two nights ago I went to the nearest massage parlor and went all the way with my therapist, she said she's been doing her job for more than a year, which is a trigger sign that I had to put a condom on no matter what. I've read that you'd be able to tell if she's infected by smelling her vaginal parts, but I was too embarrassed to do that.
I heard that possible signs of AIDS includes smelly penis, signs of swollen penis etc. and even though I don't have any of those symptoms, I wanted to be at least 99.9% sure that I don't have STD without checking a doctor. You can definitely tell I'm a very paranoid man and I would definitely hate it if people found out I had AIDS since most people who knew me would say I am a kissless virgin.
as a medfag, if you dont want to pay money, some organisations have free tests, mostly for gay people, here in germany they can be done anonymously.
But as long as you use a condom you are on the safe side, period. And as long as you dont live in a third world contry or africa in general, you should be pretty safe, because not many hookers have it and they often get controlled
>>17928733
>3rd world
There's my problem.
I live in the Philippines and reportedly we have a very low HIV-infected population. All women I've had sex with are from massage parlors. But even if I had a very low chance of contracting one, I wanted to be very sure I don't have any kind of STDs because I don't want people near me getting infected from my stupid acts.
I did, however, consider getting checked on hospitals, but the problem is there's no anonimity, they want my name, address, contact no. etc. and I don't want being quarantined for this shit.
If you want to make sure you don't get STDs, don't fuck hookers. I don't know the statistics, but condoms don't protect you 100% from STDs, and I would NOT bet my goddamn life on a little bag of latex.
About the other things you mentioned: No, you can't tell if someone is infected by smelling their genitals. Those might be symptoms, but it's obviously not a reliable test, otherwise doctors would use it. Besides, many people are infected with the HIV virus but don't have AIDS, which is the disease caused by the virus, because it's dormant. That means many people carry the virus around in their bodies and can infect others and feel perfectly healthy, sometimes for many years.
Look online and get informed:
https://www.optionsforsexualhealth.org/sexual-health/sexually-transmitted-infections/can-i-get-sti-if
im addicted to (You)'s. i cant get enough of them. i spend hours on 4chan everyday because im so addicted to them. i post useless replies just to get more (You)'s. it effects my life because i waste all my time here, on different boards, different threads, all day, everyday, more replies, more (You)'s it doesnt stop. help me
(((((you)))))
it's ok anon, we're all just attentionwhores
>>17928704
thanks man
i appreciate your (you). i can get the donations here if anyone is willing -since op cant get you's
>>17928711
>>17928697
(^^)
Baka.
my bf already has a bunch of very clichée tattoos.
i tought "yeah, well, everybody does stuff that isn't tought trough as a teen" and didn't give it much tought.
now he want's to get some more tattoos and what should i say... they get worse with every new idea.
do i tell him my true opinion about them or just nod and cringe?
pic sadly related
Oooh boy.
Uh, maybe take a look at popular bad tattoo websites/tumblrs like you're getting into tattoos and start laughingly showing him some like its no big thing.
>>17928686
i tought about this, but in all the "cringe tattoo" compilations, there are a bunch of tatts he already has. i don't want him to feel bad about those. that wouldn't be any good. i just don't want him to get more sad and bad ones... i know it's basically none of my business, but i have to look at them whenever he's naked...
>>17928689
Well he might learn something and get good cover-ups? But I see what you're saying. I don't know. I can't imagine having that converstion, but I also can't imagine letting my bf get that kind of tattoo.
Does he respond to low-key stuff? like
"That's pretty cool but I a lot of people have it and I think we can come up with something waaay cooler than theirs!"
>meet shy introverted girl on tinder
>speak for a few days
>we both spend new years eve alone in our rooms texting eachother
>after a few days she asks me for my number
>text nonstop until that night
>next day she stops replying
>she hasn't opened whatsapp since (last online sunday night)
>still matched with me on tinder
can't tell if she's just freaked out and anxious about meeting a new person or has decided she's made a mistake. I've messaged her twice on whatsapp since, and once on tinder to ask if my messages are coming through. I haven't messaged her in over 2 days now though.
It just confuses me because our conversations were great (she was saying as much herself) and we have loads of similar interests as well as personality types. She seemed really into me and I made sure to show the same back.
When I get a message from someone I don't really speak to it can take me hours/days to even open the message, so I can't quite tell if she's ghosting me or just unsure about things. Either way it fucking sucks to be stonewalled after thinking you've met someone cool.
Maybe she just needs to pay her phone bill? It's happened to me simply talking to friends.
>>17928676
I doubt it but I guess there's always the chance. She could easily find me on facebook because I have a very distinct name and use the same pic that I do on tinder/whatsapp, who knows?
Been using this piece of shit app since August and it took me til this point to find someone who seemed like they wanted to speak to me as much as I wanted to speak to them. All other women would stop replying after a couple tepid conversations. Maybe I'm just a pussy but the radio silence hurts and I'm not sure if I should embarrass myself further with more messages. I usually just move on when they don't reply but I've been speaking with her for days and it really pains me to think that's the end of it. I usually "get the message" when people stop replying, but this time it's just so confusing that I'm grasping on every possible reason why she hasn't messaged me yet.
I should probably add that she's 18 and I'm 25, so maybe she's just had second thoughts. I dunno.
Just forget about her for a while. Be chased, don't chase.
I was basically raised by my sisters growing up. My father wasn't much of a fatherly figure in my life -- let alone teaching me how to act like a man.
That being said, I feel too feminine for my liking. I constantly get questions of whether I'm gay by girls. Guys are always bantering with me, too.
It feels really repressed, and that it's something about me that I'm only just starting to realize.
I mean, hell. My sisters would dress me up, put make up on me, and make videos of me telling my mother I love her and kissing the camera. On top of that, I remember always singing and dancing with them a lot when I was younger.
Except it's kind of caught up to me. And I hate it. I hate that I'm too feminine. Or that I get along with girls more than guys. I'm 100% straight, except girls will only hangout with me if they think I'm gay. But if I tell them I'm straight they'll stop hanging out with me, which sucks because I actually enjoy myself around them more than with guys for some reason.
What do I do /adv/
LIFT HEAVY WEIGHTS
>>17928623
That's really all that it takes?
Looking fit?
>>17928633
It's not about looking fit (although that helps), it's about raising your testosterone level.
My gf is kinda pagan kinda not. She grew up woodsy and subsistence so nature-worship shit comes pretty naturally to her. But she's also really smart and says she can't really believe any bullshit wholeheartedly.
But I notice she's waaaay happier when she goes on a spiritual kick. I don't know how much she really believes, when I ask her answer is basically "well the placebo effect works even if you know it's a placebo." She seems right, at least for herself.
I have no idea how to encourage her. I think it's cute and nifty but I'm dead inside. Sometimes she tries to get me into it "Tell me about that time you thought you saw a ghost as a kid!" "What illogical stuff do you kinda believe even though it's stupid?" and in the moment I get frustrated and shut her down because I don't really enjoy going along with it all.
Is there a way to actively support her and encourage her to follow stuff she herself admits is bullshit since it does sooo much to improve her mood? Even when I'm super bad at participating?
>>17928605
And believing there's one/no God is much more logical because it's for smart people?
>>17928614
kind of this
>>17928605
how you know she is not right? she seems self criticizing in the healthy level so instead of treatin her like retarded, be open and express your thoughts. you are hiding yourself
>>17928605
i guess it makes her feel empowered and alleviates concerns surrounding death, and it generally fun to her.
if i was in your position, i would probably be like "well, if it makes you happy then i am happy for you but i personally dont believe in any of this stuff".
paganism isnt that bad anyway, it seems like quite a fun belief system. i had an ex into the new age.. now this is a fucking crazy belief system. my ex became really fucking nutty in the end and i had to stop being with her because she was becoming really retarded.
F/39,,,,,M/ 37
We've been married for 15 years, kids are grownups and independent. So these last 2 years we've been going to parties and bar hopping with friends but my Wife has a PROBLEM....she can't control her Drinking..she gets sooo wasted she pisses herself ,pukes and her new thing is taking all her clothes off all while either in the bar or any place this seems to be getting worse...How can i make her pass out or fall asleep faster?? (Tired of Baby sitting her)
Anything would help Thx.
>>17928556
100 year old vaudeville joke:
PATIENT (moving arm or something): Doctor, it hurts when I do this.
DOCTOR: So don't do that.
Your version:
YOU: When I take my wife bar-hopping she gets sloppy drunk.
DOCTOR: . . . . . . . . .
>>17928565
Lol 10/10
You'll have to divorce her.
I feel no purpose in life.
I've come to a point where I'm just going through the motions, so to say.
I recently finished university with a bachelor's. Now I'm in a full time job making a decent salary. I've come out of a pretty bad relationship, but I've been in worse. Except, none of it phased me -- it was nothing new. It's almost as if I just expected it to happen.
Anyway, I've started to dabble in drugs to see what the culture/lifestyle was like. And even then I don't feel any really tug toward it. Neither did I feel this with alcohol.
I can't find a lifestyle I want/like that I want to have for the rest of my life.
To top things off, I don't really fit in with any groups of people -- you know, groups who hang out and do specific hobbies. Even in that case, I just don't feel I belong anywhere, really.
I'm not depressed per se, but I just don't feel like committing to anything in life -- I'm apathetic about most things, but I'll try it out just to experience it.
I mean, my next thing I want to do, just out of my boredom is join the military until I hit my 30s (21 right now). Then, may be I'll travel the world.
But I fear nothing will stop this constant feeling that I will never have anything in life that I truly enjoy or will captivate me.
I don't really know how to explain this /adv/
>>17928535
I want to explain myself a bit further. I've tried a lot of hobbies, hiking, eating out for the sake of trying new things, reading, coding, learning a language, working out, etc. And nothing just felt right, and neither did the people that did it. Nothing against it, I just didn't feel like it was me or that I belonged there. If that makes sense. It's not that I didn't try things out because I'm afraid of it or afraid of trying new things -- it's I didn't feel any different or experienced emotions because of it.
I'm just trying to live a life that I can enjoy /adv/, but I don't know why nothing is working
>>17928535
Bump. I guess what I'm asking is how to get rid of this feeling that I don't fit in anywhere while also trying to be happy in life
>>17928535
You are just suffering from the "What Now?" syndrome. You spent years devoting your energies toward specific goals - getting a degree, getting a job, having a girlfriend. You've done all those things and suddenly find yourself goal-less. All that creative and disciplined energy, and nowhere to put it.
The answer is obvious but not simple. Find new goals. The not-simple part is figuring out where you are in life (not a bad place, as you describe it), where you want to go next (this might mean job advancement, a new romance, or something sideways, like exploring a hobby or interest), and how to start the process of getting to the goals.
And then, in two years, or five or ten, you'll do it again. Life is a journey of setting short-to-medium range goals, reaching them, and then setting new ones.
/adv/ help please.
my boyfriend recently told me that his mom had him circumcised when he was a youn-ish boy. the way it happened seems really messed up and it makes me really angry/unhappy. apparently he asked his mom how to clean underneath his foreskin properly and she responded saying they could make it so he doesn't need to clean it anymore and had it done. the doctor messed up leaving a very sensitive area attached and cutting part of the head, leaving bad scarring. after that he said his dick remained painfully sensitive for years and even now he can't wear underwear with seams.
am i wrong to be upset about this? it seems really messed up.
how do i get over it?
he also told me that he got cosmetic treatment painfully over the course of a few months for a viral infection. the treatment was only removing lesions but leaving the infection so he'd have to come back multiple times. i feel similarly to this as well because the procedure is recommended against for children.
In what way are you upset?
Like...I'd have some kind of feeling about this too, but you're going to have to clarify what you mean.
>>17928515
like, angry that his mom is so irresponsible(for the first part, especially doing it without explaining what it was) and annoyed at her slightly but more angry at the doctor for doing it.
>>17928519
You should be angry at the people who push the circumcision industry. The doctors and lawyers who prop it up.
Did you know that your boyfriend's neurological chemistry has been permanently altered due to the circumcision? People who made this study were then taken to court by numerous lawyers representing medical institutions who rely on this kind of procedure.
I need advice, I have been dating my boyfriend for 2 years now for the first year we weren't official lately I've been getting really annoyed by my boyfriends snapchats he has been recieveing from his bestfriend (he's known longer) that's a girl and its starting to put a strain on our relationship. Now I'll admit I am a Clingy, Insecure, and Easily Jeoulous Person which is why I need third Party Unbiassed opinions as to whether I am crazy or I do have a valid point as to why I am getting angry with my boyfriend cause he says I am making a mountain out of a mole hill and then I end up feeling shit and just accept it. The first snapchat I had seen was his bestfriend had sent him a pic while she was peeing on the toilet she was fully clothed it was from the waist up and just had I'm peeing on there now that i write it doesnt seem to bad. he was like if it was a guy bestfriend it wouldn't matter. The Second Snapchat I seen was her sitting in a bath you could only see the foam no bodyparts at all I dont even think her knees were showing but I got upset that she was sending her pics while she was in a bath. Again he was like I am making a mountain out of a mole hill. The third snapchat she was sitting on the floor in her undies she had hurt her groin and had an ice pack resting on her inner thigh. Again I got angry Seeing some girls polkadot undies on my boyfriends phone does that. but again my boyfirend was like im making a mountain out of a mole hill who knows how many other people she sends that too im probably not the only one who she sends that too, she also sends ones of her in the shower from the cleavage up. he says if he went to the beach he would see the same thing, there's no actual nudity but is this really what dating is all about now. Is that all ok or do I need to get over it or as my boyfriend says "stop making a mountain out of a mole hill over complete and utter shit"?
>>17928510
It doesn't seem like they are doing anything weird. You're worrying too much.
The only pic that would bother me slightly was the undies one, but it doesn't seem sexual.
Wait what, she sends your boyfriend what are essentially sexts and expects you to be okay with it? It's exposed body parts. Obviously it's meant to be sexual.
Girls who are just friends don't send pictures of themselves in sexual ways.
>>17928510
It's his best friend.
Be a good GF and have a threesome with them. It's the only way to make it right.
Rush will start in around a month, being able to become friends with fraternity guys is basically the final frontier for me, everyone else I'm basically good with now, but fraternity guys still seem like a challenge to me
Is total frat move good for it? Any other sources? I've gotten to the point where I feel fine around normal people and can get them to like me just by immersing myself in their culture and by interacting with them, but you can't interact with fraternity guys outside of rush unless you are in their fraternity
How do overcome the final mental blocks I have and feel totally relaxed and at ease around them?
You're asking 4chan on how to rush a fraternity? Are you retarded? How many people here do you think are at that level of Chad?
>>17928500
I feel 0 anxiety or uneasyness around normies now, the same way I feel about chads (anxious, nervous, etc) is how I used to feel about normies, granted the level of unease around chad's has gone down but I can still feel it, I know it's still there
I try to keep telling myself they are all just drunken frat dude bros who just wanna fuck around and have a good time, and as long as you act normal and have a life you are cool with them, but I really feel like they are on another level beyond just standard normies, so I'm worried that having mastered talking to normies =/= being able to get along with chads to the point that I get a bid
>>17928500
I'm in a top house at a big state school. I don't know why everyone thinks you have to be "Chad" to be in a frat.
Long story short: I was with my GF for 6 years. We moved to another city to get better jobs. I new job sucked and because I had no money at that time, I keep working there. I was depressed for 3 months untill I left. I was still talking to my GF, but communication was dying. I was trying to give her something good to live for, but everything was up to me. After I left job, she told me, she isn't in love with me anymore and she wants to be alone. I spent my xmas with parents and new year with friends. Never talked to her again. She told me she wants more time. I came back yesterday and we talked. She isn't in love with me anymore and wants to move from here. I don't know what happened, tried to talk to her. She was mostly silent and cried few times. I got new job as teacher, starting this monday. Trying to prepare, but after all those years, it's so hard. What should I do? Sorry for my english, eurofag.
Been through this several times.
it hurts, but ive found the best solution is time and/or replacing her with a superior girl
>>17928461
Screw that slav bitch, they are easy to replace.
OP here - worst thing about this is - I wanted to ask her, if she would marry me - this year. We were like brother and sister, doing everything together and everything was just great for me. He wad problems like normal couple, but the main stupid thing from her was - she never told me about her problems, I was guessing most of times. Even before she told me, she doesn't love me anymore - she was talking only with her friends. Well, I feel betrayed after all those years.