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>>17933996
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4tQOlQRp3gQ

Start there.

>>17933996
stop wanking.
learn a martial art.

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>>17933996
Hit the gym OP

Dolf believes in you

>>17933982
I work for a huge enviormental company, even though I'm biochemistry. Anyways people without their pHDs only make it into management where they make like 120k+ annually. But we have a lot of people who come to our company to do research and get their pHDs, they usually get inserted at a decent place in the company afterwards and have job security but get less than management.

My suggestion is scan big companies that are willing to pay for your pHD while you work for them and make sure you like the company and college. Not sure though.

>>17934052
What this guy said. And if you can't find a job yet have a research gig lined up at the uni then take it for the time being (as long as you're getting a stipend and you're not paying out of pocket)

>>17934052
>>17934067
I have been sending my CV here and there, but I can't find reasonable companies for my field, much less ones willing to pay for my PhD (I am from Portugal).
Like you suggested, I intend to take up the research position (includes stipend) during the next 2 years, but won't this make it harder to get a job after, if I decide to not pursue the Phd path?

what's your social security number

>>17933979
i knew thatd be the first one
tht dfalls under "bad for me"

>>17933976
why do you drink on your own. I dont understand why people do that. Isnt drinking a social thing

*bump*

>>17933965
Yes

Depends on how your personality is without drugs and acohol
If you dont need those to have fun and people think youre fun than youre good

But the fact that you made this thread makes me doubtful of that :(

Wash your dick

I've also heard before that I should just talk to her about it but anything too personal or serious will make her shut down and she just says she doesn't know. I can't even talk to her about life because she just gets quiet. I'm her man and I've put her on a pedestal but I just can't get her to open up and be comfortable with me and I don't think I can do this much longer

>>17933961
Try to 69

>>17933952
Go to the local churches and socialize until you find a girl. Only He can bring you true happiness.

>>17933952
You're equating sex with morality and that's your first mistake. Just because you believe sex is sacred does not mean that's the morally correct definition. Sex is an act the lowest beast does in order to propagate its species. Sex as an act is looked at as more of a casual transaction than it ever has been so you're going to want to find either a girl who was home-schooled or a religious loony.

>you're going to want to find either a girl who was home-schooled or a religious loony.
>>17933967
See what I mean

Idk if youre a virgin or what but having real sex with someone is something that is incredibly difficult to capture on screen. When youre watching porn you're seeing the women as a product, something thats packaged, plastic, void of life. When youre intamite with someone you feel the heat from their breath, their flesh rubbing on yours, that connection that feels like lightning down your spine into your cock you have when you make eye contact. Things that can only come from actually knowing, courting, loving someone in person. I dont know when we will be able to capture this fully, maybe with vr, but until then porn will never truly encapsulate the experience of what having sex truly is.

"The lie" LOL

Yeah people are lying to virgins to keep them down and feeling unfit for sex

Stfu and off yourself

>>17933934
Have you thought about getting an escort anon?

I wouldn't risk it. If guys feel uncomfortable they'll report it to their boss.

>>17933896
Is he friendly towards you? Does he talk to you when he doesn't have to for work-related reasons? Is it common for people in your office to socialize after work, get drinks, etc?

>>17933903
Its a girl trying to have sex with a guy not the other way around

>>17933826
My only problem is the fact you decided to get married after 5 months. You should wait at least a year if not longer.

But aside from that, if you love her, who cares who she had sex with? Watch clerks (on Netflix now), they tackle this exact issue.

And I have no clue about the mental illness.

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You seem pretty smart desu

More like useful ignorant cuck


The way it works nowadays is that girls get really fucking horny from hormones and being in prime fuckable age where their value is high as fuck. They take as much cock as they can during this time to make themselves feel better and feel like they have purpose. They realize that all these hot chads are either stupid or unfaithful and that there child bearing years are coming to an end so they panic and find a nice little cozy safety net to land on. Youre a safety net op. A cozy one, but still a safety net. And there will always be that temptation when the right chad comes along for her to re-experience her peak value emotions and fuck her with that big dick she's been craving since she married your boring ass.

just don't, mate! u'll be haunted by these thoughts forever and ever! unless u wanna live a life full of misery, don't!

>>17933823
Uhhh... Are you muscular? Tomboys are really hard to get.

Look for ftms or ftm trenders.

>>17933840
>Uhhh... Are you muscular? Tomboys are really hard to get.
I'm a tad more muscular than average, but still not very much
my issue tho isn't about how to get a tomboy interested in me as much as it is about where/how to find one
like, I am confident I can make a girl interested in me enough, but the last time I met a tomboy has been some 2 years ago

.... Often better than a master of one.

Why does everyone want to be a savant?
There's nothing wrong with being a jack of all trades. Just keep developing your skills because you never know where your path will lead.

I'm the same way. The only thing I learned is that if you try to tell people this "yeah I can do any new thing at a competent level I just don't have the skills or drive to excel" then everyone thinks you're arrogant afaik.
You just need to literally do everything you can think of, then pick whatever you liked the most and do more of that, and hope you have a natural click to it. Jacks exist only because we haven't found an early passion

Choose one that youre pretty pk with more than other skills and pursue it

I forgot who said it but he said that mastery of a skill brings greater appreciation towards it always. Imagine becuse you have the knowledge of all the subltle intricacies of the skill that it turns into a sort of art form at the highest level. Watch Hiro Dreams Of Sushi to really get an idea of what mastery of a skill is and why it can be valuable. Its on netflix

>>17933799
Sorry opie, if you're having boring sex, it's probly because you're a shitty lover. Admittedly there have been girls that are better or worse, but people can be taught.

>>17933799
Spice up your life OP. Pin her down one day. Start getting into kinky crap, or acting like you want to get her into kinky crap. Go to your local sex shop buy crap and put it where she'll see it. Talk to her about. Go see a marridge counsler/shrink. Sex is great OP. If sex isn't great for you, its never to late to figure out how you can make it great for you.

>>17933799
Average doesn't mean anything - you date a singular person, not a statistical group. Even if on average males and females want different things (and I'm not so sure it is even true) you can still meet one person who fulfills your needs.

>>17933784
Street game is kind of a meme unless you're uber confident.

A better idea is to join a social group where women will be more receptive and welcoming to being approached.

I'm not going to give my number out or go on a date with a complete stranger, and neither is any other woman who's not retarded. Does that answer your question?

Youre not the cold approach type (at least not currently)

It is real. I used to fuck around as a teen on 3rd street in Santa Monica just going uo to all the girls with my friends and sometimes solo. When youre confident and attractive you can pretty much do whatever you want, trump was serious. Of course you gotta let rejection bounce off of you like a weakly thrown water ballon which why I dont think youll be able to. If I were you Id focus more on the traditional routes of meeting women like work, school, friends, events etc
Tinder even

Good luck my nigga

What do you mean by stepping out of your comfort zone?
You probably have the wrong idea about it. I'm thinking here you think it's about suddenly going 3 days a week to the gym when you haven't done 3 pushups in years.
Take baby steps, don't rush it.
Also when you take a single step out of your comfort zone (it may be just going out to a new place) make it your new normal. That is, expand your comfort zone, rather than think of it with a bubble with defined boundaries.

>>17933885
I mean, whenever I try something new my inner critic tells me I will faiil anyway
Be it learning something, trying out a new hobby or doing sports
I instanly give up and fall back into all patterns

>>17934011
Your giving up because you are trying these things with little to no knowledge and want to be instantly rewarded almost to the same level as if someone put time and effort into what your doing.

You need to understand the reason you are trying new things, its to change your way of life for a long time possibly forever and you need to understand that things will take time and effort before you get a sense of gratification.

Most chilled sweetheart girls are lonely, so they become crazy party girls because there's no other way to meet guys except at parties and clubs.

>>17933766
So have I missed my chance? Have they all converted? Where can I find em?

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>>17933755
Just to sort of summarize, I have a real idealised perception of relationships, with the whole idea of soulmates and shit being very attractive to me, and I want to meet mine but I feel it's too late, and want to know whether to abandon this idea (and how) or how to find my soulmate. The same idea applies to friendship.