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Hey adv.
Long time lurker.

My question is about college. I'm a 21 yr. old, second semester college student. At my college it's required that we take 3 language classes to graduate, I have only taken 1. All my friends are normies and underloading this semester, ad they have job prospects and whatnot. I am taking 6 classes to graduate with my 2 majors and one minor. Even after this semester I won't have the 3 language classes.

I also have no real job prospects. This compounded with the possibility of not graduating is really fucking with me, and making me super anxious.

Can I speak with anyone to get out of the 3 language reqs? My mom and brother got cancer during my time at college, could I use that to get out of the requirement citing I was stricken with grief or something?

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How exactly does one build self esteem? I mean seriously, not just "brush off negative thoughts and insults". I mean literally LOVING yourself. Telling yourself that you CAN and WILL do anything? I wouldn't consider myself good at anything. Yet everyone else in the world gets to be good at something. Sure I'm 18, but everyone else is doing amazing things or are way ahead of me in things I'm working in

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Should I settle for letting a cute boy rub my dick or wait for a girl to like me for once? I'm 18 and drunk and really horny and possibly bi? Maybe? Maybe we're all bi if we shut our eyes?
Also can anyone get it if it's grindr

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How does sex... happen?

How do you go from point A (inital conversation) to point B (sex) with girls. This shit has been eluding me for 23 years. Whats the missing link I don't see?

Guys uglier and more awkward than me are getting mad pussy while I'm still a virgin. I stumble across gossip about how people I know at work or school casually have hooked up with each other (read: not necesarilly dated)

Can anyone please help me?

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OK, so it never really occurred to me until recently when I dug up one of my ex's photos from many, many years ago. She was my first gf and I met her while we were in high school. It was also the first time that I had any kind of intimate contact with a girl and I remember that even smelling her was enough to give me a raging boner back then. When we met she was 16 and I was 17 but I was grades ahead. By the time we were 17 and 18 we had become official.

So this photo was when she was not quite 17, and she was wearing a summer dress that her aunt had passed down to her. She definitely looks like a high schooler.

Now, when I see pictures of other teens in swimsuits and etc. and it's supposed to be "jailbait" or whatever, I feel pretty much nothing. All I see are skinny kids.

And my ex from back then was skinny and relatively shapeless too. She was flat as a board, skinny, maybe had just a little bit of hip and a cute rounded butt. But looking at her photo really gets me going, Like here I am almost 30 years old and I'm looking at an old pic of my ex at 16 and getting thoughts like

>>Goddamn I want to wreck that little teen
>>Just need to fucking pound that little body!

Is that fucked up? Is it only because I'm attempting to relive memories of my youth or some shit?

Pic kinda related - derpy teenager. Not my ex, but not too far off either.

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>finally start dating super cute coworker after being single for a few years
>kiss and fool around all the time
>always precum in my underwear
>finally ready to have sex
>already precame, and then could no longer get hard enough to put it in
>this has happened to me before
i honestly dont know what to do anymore

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I can't really get rid of performance anxiety, when it gets to penetrative sex. Why? Well, my girlfriend and i have tried a couple of times, which didn't work out for several reasons.
One being that i couldn't get a condom on properly. I know how one is used, but trying it, i could barely roll it up at all. This makes me unsure if it was too tight or something, so i'll probably test it out myself soon.

However, i just kinda lost my erection, which feels weird. I feel aroused and excited, I feel like I really want it, but my body just disagreed. This felt very strange and I just can't explain it.

On the other hand, we tried and regularly do a bunch of other stuff, handjobs, oral, things like that. My other problem is that I'm usually premature, quite a bit. But going for 2-3 time is also on a regular basis because of that. How can I build up stamina/last longer/relieve tension?

Now, since I've never had penetrative sex, that's probably one factor of my anxiety. The other being my prematureness, but there is one more thing. My girlfriend also tends to occasionally joke about my fails sometimes, presumably to "tempt" me, to arouse me. However, it just makes me more conscious of how I'm failing.

I need help on getting rid of this problem, of dealing with this anxiety, and all the generic posts found on google just don't seem to help.

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>talk to girl art party
>she's at my side the entire party
>get her number, FB profile
>leave later

what do I do after getting her number? How do I strike up a conversation? What am I supposed to talk about after the initial introduction and initial getting to know her?

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Question for my anons: had a date yesterday, went pretty good, was just coffee. I asked her if she'd like to catch up again and she said yes, and I asked how she felt about ice skating. She said something about falling when she tried which I made a joke about, then sent her a picture of the board game we'd talked about briefly during our date. This was last night, and she didn't respond to either the joke or the pic. I'm usually pretty good about getting back to people the same day about texts, but I understand people have different texting habits, or maybe she just didn't have anything to say about either of those things. That being said, I've been dating for a little bit now, and this wouldn't be the first time a girl has just disappeared into the void without rhyme or reason. How long should I give before I assume she's not interested?

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How to completely give up upon women?
How can i just leave my desire for a partner?
Is there a pill i can take so i can leave any romantic interest behind?

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Alright guys i need some serious help , i'm almost getting a girlfriend which is kinda awesome , but there a big ass problem, She wants to be my girlfriend but also want to meet other people , and this is kiliing me because she says she love me and said she will think about it more. What to do ? This is really killing me , i can't even breath correctly or do stuff

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How can I tell my friend group that I have autism without them making fun of me for the rest of my life?

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With every day I'm sinking deeper end deeper into depression. I am 20 years old and have a very underdeveloped face. No cheekbones, no jaw, very narrow and long face, saggy skin around mouth, lacking facial muscles and volume overall. Under light hitting my face directly from above, my face resembles a skeleton.

I wanted to kill myself a long long time ago. But one thing is keeping me going, I want to give it my all, I'm not going down without a fight. I will get a job and surgeries, and try to combat the shitty genes bestowed upon at birth. The problem is, I know I need like 5+ procedures done to my face to sort of look like an average, healthy person.

But deep down I know, that even all these procedures will in the end bring nothing more than a below average result... and this is tearing me apart with every passing day... I can't talk to anybody about this, no one knows how it feels being a 20 yo virgin with a face of a grandad/hungry african child...

I know that I will kill myself after the procedures fail, since you can't change the nature. This is who I am. I don't know what the fuck to do, I'm fucking broken. And add to all that social anxiety, lack of friends, moving to a new country on my own in less than 2 months and all that good stuff...

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How do i break a computer addiction,
When im not at work or uni i'm always on 4chan/facebook/whatever.
Its been taking up my free time, i spend up to 3+ hours online and its been draning me.

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>today
>go on date with girl
>she has an awesome personality, and is smart as fuck, get along great
>she is just heavier than I thought she was
>I still smash anyways

Now what do I do? I feel like I should not have smashed. I really like her, but I'm just not that into her physically, but she is still literally the most tolerable female I've ever spent time with in my entire life personality wise.

What does one do in a situation like this anons? Was it a dick move to smash her regarldess? I know she enjoyed herself, but I just don't know what to do.

I really don't want to hurt her feelings, but fuck...