Please help me. I am 24 years old and almost 25. I had a pretty unpleasant life so far and I have been so lonely and depressed.
I can't focus on anything, I am just so damn broken and I want to tell someone my story and cry in her arms. Something that I never did.
I am so tired of having to hide the pain and so I am one of the most boring guys there is. I am also the weirdest and talking to me gets awkward because I don't want to talk about my life and have it spread all about.
I messed up so many things in my life. I can't even go into town without being threatend...
I don't know what to do anymore and it's all falling apart. My little empire that I have scrambled together in my mind. It all just seems impossible at the moment and out of reach.
I am so afraid of the responsibilities that the modern age brings... I am so afraid to fail and it's easy to say that you got to keep going when you fail, but will I ever be ready?
I don't want to fail and end up in an office. I would rather be a pilgrim.
>>17933636
Heyhey I understand where you're coming from, it's some where similar to my situation
So, exactly tell me what do you want the most right now
Even if I have someone, I will never find true happiness. Life has too many uncertainties and they are stopping me from progressing.
>>17933643
Tell me, what's your concept of happiness?
How do I not be clingy?
In casual, sex-based relationships, and in more serious ones?
I'd like guys' and girls' perspectives on this.
I already know not to text every hour or try to meet every single day.
I'll explain the context:
I was in a new FWB situation I was really excited about, but the other person didn't want to meet as often as I did, and was often difficult to contact. I got pretty upset about it, and, since we couldn't talk about it face-to-face at that moment (because of travelling), wrote some emotional messages and ruined everything. Not gonna do that again!
What else, /adv/?
Get more fwb
I'm definitely trying.
But anyway, what specific behaviors and mindsets should I avoid not to be clingy?
>>17933689
Its not mindsets you want to avoid, its mindsets you want to have. Speaking in positive terms is important to the brain psychologically. You want to reevaluate whats really important to you. What are your goals, aspirations, dreams. These should be seen as priority numero uno. Some slag should be far down the list after family and friends. Relaize that its just pussy and not supposed to be anything more otheriwse you would be dating.
A tip is that everytime that you feel the need to be super on her just jerk off
Am I missing out by not approaching girls around campus? I always thought the way to a relationship was through people you're already acquainted with, but I found out a couple of my buddies have found relationships by just walking up to girls and talking to them.
If this is a viable way to go, how do I make something like this happen?
Yeah it's viable and common, but I don't know how they do it, I already had a girlfriend in college and we didn't break up until the year after graduating
>>17933621
I bet your buddies are a lot more charismatic than you are
It depends on your charisma and appearance.
>theres that anon guy, hes really cute i hope he comes to say hi!
>oh god theres that anon guy, he just creeps on girls in the courtyard haha
If your SO asked if s/he could explore anal play on you because they knew they could work their way up to making you have anal orgasms, would you let them?
>>17933612
No. I like playing with girls' butts and buttholes, but when it comes to my butt being touched, the only parts you're allowed to touch are the exposed parts. If you're having to part cheeks to get there, then that's a no-go zone
Yes I would, but I would never ask
because of the implication
>>17933736
Femanon here. I enjoy anal sex, but a guy can only go as far with my ass as he'll let me go with his
How do I (man) deal with heartbreak in a healthy manner? I've been going insane the past couple of days. When is it going to stop?
Please help me /adv/, sincerely.
1. Alcohol and Women binging
2. Suicidal Attempt
3. Self improvement
Works every time
>>17933610
I don't want to kill myself.
>>17933615
Then skip phase 2 and go to 3
3 is gym, diet, hobby, friends, journaling, goals
How do I get my only two good friends to break up? I'm pretty sure I don't have feelings for her but I just wanna go back to us having good times and hanging out. I don't wanna feel like the 3rd wheel.
>>17933590
Look at you wanting to ruin the happiness of your two good friends for your own selfish reasons, can't really call yourself a great friend yourself can you?
Probably serves you right that you get more and more excluded.
>>17933632
I'm just trying to save our friendship whenever an eventual break up happens.
Get a fourth friend
No excuses fag
When I watch one of Hitlers speeches on youtube it just connects with me. Is there something wrong with me?
Adolf Hitler didn't become leader of a nation because of his fancy mustache. Regardless of your opinion of him, he had the talent to enrapture people with his speeches and manner.
>>17933580
This, dude is charismatic.
I suppose its a different question if you actually agree with the things he's done.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wAMgT8LuZaw
I wish we had a chemistry and /bio/logy board.
I need some /edu/cation and I'm asking 4chan of all places.
Is melatonin a real sleeping pill which can cause side effects if taken with 40% alcohol and/or other types of benzos and opiates?
i don't know anything about that but melatonin does work. it's like the only "herbal" type medicine that isn't bullshit.
Melatonin does fuck all with alcohol and drugs
Its more of a sleeping aid than a sleeping pill
And 3 mg is good
It doesnt really get more effective at higher doses
>>17933562
So it's neuro-herbal because it produces more substance which normally your brain would produce. Soo it shouldn't interfere with other sleeping pills and make you grow resistance towards other treatments and substances.
Do girls not like it if you talk to other girls? I was a fucking loser in high school who never spoke so in college I actually put myself out there and I speak to a lot of different girls now, but this one girl I like is aware that one of them rejected me and she always seems to avoid me if I'm around other girls. She even asked me if I still liked the girl who rejected me. She has been distancing herself to a degree too, and it hurts. Should I pay more attention to her and make it more obvious I'm interested? I have a habit of masking my interest.
Women are jealous creatures by nature.
>>17933489
I literally can't help some girl shouting my name form across the room if she sees me though. I've been making a lot of effort to let her know she's more special to me, but she's a rather cold, blunt person so it isn't easy... Plus I naturally fear rejection
>>17933483
Well, if you are interested you should definitely show interest in her and less in other women;
everyone gets jealous. It's a human trait.
She probably either thinks that you don't like her or that you're a fuckboy not worth bothering with.
My friend is blinded by her "love" she had with a guy. She met this guy online in another state. I all honesty he was very attractive. She was talking with him for a while then eventually went to meet him irl in his state. She came back and it went well so she started to save up money to go again. She went a second time and then came back a little early saying they broke up. She is asexual because of mental stuff and whatever so she has a low sex drive. He wanted more sex and she couldnt do it so they broke up. She kepts trying to make him sound like a good guy after that saying "We both didnt want to break up but we had to" Now in my eyes if he really loved and cared for her as much as she thought then he would look past that, but in her eyes its not his fault at all. She still thinks he's perfect and she still posts random shit about him online. This guy ruined her and she still thinks of him as the perfect guy. She was saying things like it was true love for both of them because they connected so well before even meeting which obviously wasn't true for his side, it seemed like he cared more for her looks then her personality if he lets her go for something like that. Am I wrong to think this guys an asshole and she is just blinded by how good looking he was? She is still so broken from that and it happened almost a year ago.
>>17933449
Like she would say things like it was fate they met and they belong together and blah blah blah but the guy hasn't said a word for months now and shes just sitting there still praising him
>>17933449
I mean thats what love does
I wouldnt call him an asshole by what he's done. A bit selfish yea.
My gf's friend at the time started seeing this guy which we both knew was the fuccboi type. We told her time and time again that he was just using her to no avail. Eventually we realized that it just had to let her figure it out herself. Some lessons have to be learned first hand.
>>17933462
I just don't get how she thinks it was mutual a mutual thing not wanting it to end. I don't have the heart to tell her if he really did love her he would of made it work but like thats the truth. I don't think he just wanted her for sex because they did text and talk alot but regardless if the connection was as strong as she claimed it was then it wouldn't of ended. I just feel so bad for her because its still tearing her apart that it ended and shes just in so much denile its making it worse.
How do I stop beating my gf? I know it's wrong but when I come home from work I'm filled with rage and she just pushes me over the edge and I beat her. It just feels too good to stop even though I know it's wrong.
>>17933422
Sounds like its time to break up. And quit your job as well.
Also don't be surprised if you get arrested.
>>17933422
Probably do the World a favour and jump off a cliff
>>17933465
How is it my fault? She instigates it. She is looking for it.
So I wanna hear what others think about this situation. Me and this girl who i've been friends with for a few years now would talk nearly everyday, we would talk about random shit we found, random shit that happened or whatever. Recently I think she found a boyfriend but I can't just straight up ask her. The signs are she never wants to hangout now she always just says im busy. When I would text her something i get a two or three word quick shitty response that seems like she wants to end convo asap, or just sometimes she just see's something and ignores it. New years eve I was next to her and saw her texting on her phone and as a joke i nudged her and said get off your phone your with your friends and I saw she was texting a number with no contact photo, but she has one for everyone in her contact list so this person was new, didnt get a name. But basically I'd like to know if thats some signs of her having a boyfriend so I can cut contact with her and leave her alone with him. I don't want to be the guy who is always spamming her text messages trying to get attention while she's talking or even with another guy and I come off as a needy despereate child. Like even now her texts take like 20 minutes in between to respond with something just really cold as a response. She was never like this before so idk what to make of it.
>>17933413
holy fucking shit man. she doesn't want to talk to you because you're acting like a needy, desperate child already
>>17933421
This came outta nowhere, we were talking one day then the next this shit happened. I was never needy I jsut text her random shit and she is giving cold responses with no clear reason why.
>>17933429
I was exactly like you are right now when I was in high school. exact same thing happened. I even dated the girl, and she just randomly stopped giving a shit about me in the middle of it, and that made me worry like you are right now which just led to me being needy and now we hate each other.
you're worrying because she takes 20 minutes to respond to a text? that is needy. you are probably used to her texting more often than that (the girl I was talking about would respond almost immediately to texts), but you have to understand more than 20 minutes between responses is normal. My current friends take hours to respond because we have lives that we are busy with.
Yes, she is getting fucked by a guy, and possibly replacing you with him. She already made up her mind and only responds to you at all out of obligation since you have been friends for a while, but the truth is that friendships just end for no reason over time and you have to let go
This will be more of a rant/blog than asking for advice.
I spent sooo much time on reading posts on r/getdisciplined and various articles on how to stop procrastinating and improve. I started doing things a few times, even stopped with games but I still manage to waste time on reddit/4chan/youtube. It's like I'm searching for the ultra best blog post on how to change but when I find it I just move on and do nothing. I feel like I need to find the ultimate solution but I actually know there will never be one if I don't take the first step.
I think I'm improving slowly but I still waste a lot of time by dicking around on the internet. So in a sense I know I should stop being a faggot and do shit.
Any advice on how to stop with this stupid behavior? How do I focus while on computer (want to learn web-dev)?
Should I stop going on 4chan? Honestly this seems like a shithole most of the time but there are gems from time to time.
Pic related, how I feel when I know I can change but don't do shit.
Bump for op, I feel u bruh
I never know if these are bait threads...guess I just have to unironically reply to them till the end of time...
There's no way to give you motivation on some text board over the internet. Either you want something or you don't. What yoda said is pretty true even if it's cliche. I can tell you that what made me push my life in the right direction was tragedy and impending homelessness. When you've been through difficult emotional struggles, I think it gives you clarity in your life. It shows you what you truly want.
It sounds to me like what you need is a person in real life to give guidance and/or structure, like a mentor. There is a surprisingly few amount of people who are able to completely pursue their goals wihout some form of support group or common interest friends - other people to inspire you on what you care about. Whatever you do, start small. You need to start small with your passion, else you will burn yourself out. I guess we can use starting a fire as a metaphor here - blow too hard and the flame goes out. 10 minutes a day for a week, 20 min the next, etc. Get yourself on a routine.
>>17933555
Oh and yeah you should stop coming to this website. Most of it is no good, and the small bit that is can be found in larger quantities out there in real life.
I moved into a new shared apartment and the doors don't have a lock on them. How do I stop roommates barging in? I enjoy sitting at my computer naked so this is really important. Can't install a lock as per landlord rules and placing a piece of furniture in front of the door is a hassle. Ideas?
People mention those rubber door stops but do they really work?
Why wouldnt they work?
But yea just sit naked and eventually theyll start knocking
>>17933382
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pCNUfOnqrkk
>>17933382
>Can't install a lock as per landlord rules and placing a piece of furniture in front of the door is a hassle. Ideas?
Talk to your landlord, im sure they'll likely let you. So long as you get a door lock that can be easily unlocked or give your landlord a spare key.
Also talk to your roommates. They ought to respect your wishes. State them clearly, completely and if they keep doing it then reiterate. At the very least you could make them feel guilty or have some recourse with your landlord as to the effort you put in.
I sent a girl a cock picture but.. I have a girlfriend. Right after, I regretted it. I'm stuck and can hardly speak, I can't even think straight. I'm weighing all possible options.
>>17933331
your gf will leave you, obviously
better luck next time. try not to be retarded in the future
>>17933331
why would you do that? if you're horny, you should of just sent it to your gf. i hope you at least made sure the girl is completely unaware of your gf and she doesent have any connection you
>>17933331
Delete proff. Then think "why did I do that" so you don't do it again.