How do you stop things that you can't control, such as sexual orientation, from putting a dent on your self-esteem?
you must accept who you are
alternatively repress who you are until you blow up
>>17935291
How do you repress wanting to be loved?
>>17935306
become a sociopath who cares more about money than people, I guess.
You want to be loved? You must love yourself first. Do you? If not you risk a lot by pursuing a relationship
this isn't just some self help bullshit either. it's not fair to a potential partner having them provide all this extra stuff to the relationship to help you overcome your lack of self love. it's taxing, draining, and could even ruin a good relationship
who else here /unlovable/
>girls find you repulsive
>no wants to be friends
>parents consider you a disappoint
>relatives give no shits about you
>neighbours call you names
>good grades, but professors find you insufferable
>store employees treat you like dirt
>anyone you meet at a bar or in public tells you to fuck off
>boss goes on about how replaceable you are
>even your cat tries to avoid affection
all I really want is to be myself. and this is what always happens. even in childhood.
>>17935225
Why?
>>17935229
because I don't want the stress of constantly acting and putting up a front. I just want to be me and not have to put any more effort into it than I am other things in life.
>>17935237
Yeah but what kind of personality is "you"? Nobody wants to put up a front.
>depressed as fuck
>no enjoyment in anything anymore
>haven't showered in over a month
>constantly just sleep
>under eating
>think about suicide as a good solution
I just wanna be happy again. What do I need to do to fix myself?
>>17935208
what made you unhappy
>>17935215
Not getting the dream job I wanted
Not getting this girl I had a crush on for months
Constantly getting in situations where I fuck up my own life
And just overall feeling stagnant and worthless
>>17935224
you can still pursue your dream job maybe at a different place. what is your dream job?
girls.. bleh, plenty of fish etc. why do you want that one?
what bad situations you got yourself into? you haven't been homeless yet like me bruh
Once you share "too much" of yourself with someone, do you become less to them?
Sorry for lack of detail. I'm looking to turn this into a potentially enlightening discussion, but unwilling to dump another depressing story onto the board
>>17935199
I don't know what part of yourself are you revealing to your friends, can you be more specific?
>>17935199 i feel you man. my only contact w a girl ever has been very brief, but we really hit it off (at least i thought we did) but i just told her basically everything about me. ( i have bad memory, so i dont remember all of the stories of my life) but after all of that, i was just blank. and she just blew me off after that. so i do think what you said is true.
why do you care about what other people make up in their imaginations about you so much?
I thought guys liked memes as I do. I was wrong. He never answered since that.
guys like memes, not memers
you were 2fast2meme
No but seriously that was very cringe, wait at least a little more than the second text.
>>17935203
No sex for first night, no memes for first text.
>>17935190
Not on the first text. Make your own jokes, lazy.
I've rarely posted on 4chan (although I have been enjoying the comments for years) and I've never asked for help before. Two days ago I found out that someone quite close to me molested two children at Xmas and the forces of law and order can't (or won't) do anything about it because the two girls won't step forward and testify because they're afraid of the repurcussions if the case fails. The person in question has daily access to the two girls. I can't sit by and let this continue.
I'm guessing that anyone who actively molests children has probably got a fairly substantial store of child porn on their computer. I don't have the skills to hack his computer myself.
I am sufficiently desperate to ask of you, of any of you that have the requisite skills, to find out if my suspicion is correct. I am happy to take it from there. I have a fine baseball bat for his creep face.
I don't know his ISPN but he does live at 2a Argyle Street, Cambridge, UK, CB1 3LR. if you are up for this mission and can deliver the goods please tell me his name followed by a YES or NO regarding the allegation I have made.
>>17935178
Autism. Pure autism.
I feel you OP.
If you are really serious about this ask the deep web.You can pay people to do this for you, but it will probably cost at least a couple hundred. Start by downloading a tor browser and going to the hidden wiki. Here is the address:
http://kpvz7ki2v5agwt35.onion
>>17935178
what is the dude's name?
are there any actual ways to make your penis longer and thicker without hurting yourself in the long run? anyone here actually done it some how? if so, what changed? I'm average but I might want to make it bigger some day.
pic not related
Nope it doesn't exist. Maybe one day but right now no
If there was a way, you wouldn't have to ask.
>>17935174
Are you between 5.2" and 6"? I honestly don't know why you virgin's still think needing a horse cock is optimal.
Im going to have this girl finger my ass, whats the perfect amount of washing and how should i do it? Should i just go get a douche?
The aroma lady is gomna finger your ass?
>>17935157
take a shower a be sure your anus is clean, don't put water inside. Everything will be ok.
>>17935157
There's going to be "you know what" regardless. Hopefully you're both super into each other so no one cares or is bothered.
Kinda wished I pegged the last before we went our separate ways. So jelly of you op.
Hello, I am an agnostic, I used to be very anti-religion, due to being a very logic based thinker and heavy interest in science, and the violence and war that has stemmed from it all throughout history, however in light of recent revelations I am opening my mind to the possibility of religion, despite still being very skeptical.
This thread's purpose is not to start any sort of hateful arguments, but I would really like for an intelligent, logical thinker, preferably someone interested in science, to try and sell me on it. If you don't believe in Evolution or The Big Bang, this is not for you.
Though i've understood the concept for a while, it only recently just hit me thoroughly, if there is a god, it would not be limited by logic, or at least not ours, due to our limited perspectives. In understanding this, it's suddenly become abundantly clear, that all of my logically picking apart the bible or pointing out flaws and circular logic is utterly worthless. So I want to experience god. I really want to have one of those experiences everyone says they have. I'm open to it.
Listen, religion exists to guide faith. Faith in whatever an individual chooses to believe. Be it a higher power, reincarnation, aliens etc.
Religion will give you what you put into it. If you're "open" to it, then you don't need to be sold on it. You just believe or you dont
>>17935155
then why would I choose one over the other if they are all bound by illogic? The reason I say to 'sell me', is because they all sound as reasonable as the next and I don't feel particularly compelled to one or the other
Though I have believed in reincarnation for a while, because it would seem obvious our energy is recycled all throughout time, it can neither be created nor destroyed, we are the energy of our ancestors and in the future we will still be, but in different bodies. I don't really see it as religious though, I just feel its a logical prediction based on science.
I'm in the same boat as you. I've come to find that it's such an important social institution because now a lot of atheists are just retarded leftists who don't get married and have kids and live as degenerates because "no invisible sky monster telling us what to do man".
Atheism and agnostics sell to you easily when you're young, but the importance of religion shows as you grow up. Personally though, I don't see myself ever actually following a religion, but I wish atheists would stay as an intelligent minority (but that really isn't the case at all). I am very much against antitheism because religion encouraged the traditional family lifestyle and doing things for a higher cause than otherwise possible, doing things to please God.
ugh why cant i be a girl....
>>17935103
We all go through that. You'll be fine. Just learn to embrace your feminine side. You'll probably enjoy that and be satisfied with it.
Don't give up anon.
>>17935103
You seem to have enough of an aching vagina for it.
you can be a girl with enough surgery
Girlfriend broke up but still wants to be friends. How do I deal with this? I'm broken up about it and I have to get over her. If I continue to talk with her it will feel like torment. Should I suck it up and pretend everything is okay? She was almost begging for me not to ignore her and never see her again. I don't want to hurt her even more.
>>17935102
You grow a spine, stand up for yourself, and remove her from your life entirely. You shouldn't take any torment for her. Put yourself before her at every single moment. Be an egoist fuck.
>I don't want to hurt her even more.
Two things for you to think about. Firstly, she didn't consider your feelings when she broke up with you. Secondly, she isn't precisely hurt.
>>17935111
>Firstly, she didn't consider your feelings when she broke up with you.
She did. She didn't break up with me, we broke up together because we knew it wasn't going to work.
>Secondly, she isn't precisely hurt.
I don't know what this means. She is definitely hurt over breaking up.
>>17935113
>She didn't break up with me
That's what you implied in your OP.
>we broke up together because we knew it wasn't going to work.
Tell the whole story.
To put it simply I have an addiction for gaming. I think I have potential to be a good person but it's all wasted on fucking League of Legends - and half the time I don't even enjoy the game. After coming home from lectures I would log in and just immediately enter matchmaking or take a 3 hour nap. I would describe myself as a NEET I guess but I definitely don't enjoy being one. I'm a first year at University of Toronto in life sciences, hoping to enter pharmacy, but I've also taken interest in programming (learnt python over the summer) and finance (just recently started reading about the stock market and investing). I just finished 1st semester of my 1st year with a fucking 2.8 GPA.
As soon as I feel like I'm doing something productive this gay fucking game lures me back in. As a result I feel like I'm/I've wasting/wasted my life and I think I have mild depression; though nothing serious since I'm pretty conscious of it and it's on and off. Any advice /adv/? Anything helps.
Addictions exist for two reasons.
1. You are trying to fill a hole in yourself. You found something that numbs the pain of whatever you feel you lack so you of course lead to number two.
2. Habitually doing something until it's how you think and how you view yourself.
If you want to cure your addiction you need to both meditate on the fact that you will never be able to fill that hole and you WILL fill that hole with some other addiction. Perhaps it's one that more productive or that you can manage better. I find it helps that when you get a craving to just sit and try to be aware of all the ways your brain is trying to trick you to engage in a behavior that you are unhappy with.
The second thing you'll need to do is start building up a different habit. Which is easier said than done, I know. But the best way I've found is to find something new to obsess about and then GET INTO A COMMUNITY WHERE OTHER PEOPLE CAN RELATE TO THAT THING. I will tell you right now that you will NEVER break your addiction unless you involve yourself in a activity that has other people to support you.
But most of all you have to want it. You have to make a lifelong dedication to yourself. You're going
to have to change and there is no easy way to do that.
>>17935116
Thanks anon, I almost cried like a little bitch. I'm going to start planning this as soon as I wake up tomorrow. Just a couple questions
Do you have any tips on how I can motivate my self? I know I sound a bit over-confident but I've already set a goal post-vg addiction but I lack any motivation AT ALL.
>>17935172
Well I'll say this, motivation is a beggar. Discipline is what you seek. Motivation says "you FEEL like it, so do it", Discipline says "Do it, until you feel like it".
That said motivation is important in the early stages. I'd say get into a community or group asap (nothing will motivate you as much as a feeling of belonging" but for those times when that's not possible you can do self visualization meditation. Imagine where you could be imagine who you WILL be. if all else fails go outside for a walk. 10 minutes minimum. If it's too late at night or something then go the fuck to sleep! Never underestimate a good nights rest
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>>17935077
With that sort of name, I'll be honest, it will attract some very conservative people. So with that in mind you will have to cater to the demographic that is generally very conservative -- older white males. If you don't, you won't have much success with views, monetization, etc.
I like the look of the channel. Perhaps you could do some short commentary, opinions or maybe even short research to give arguments about specific topics, policies, forms of government. There is a lot to be said with politics, and you're just getting into it.
News and entertainment are kind of mutually exclusive, don't you think?
holy kek i hope youre (by youre i mean the person that actually made that) at least 40 op.
Do exes come back?
they do but then you reget it
Sometimes. I hope mine does even though I know I'd be fucking stupid to take her back.
Nope.
if my boyfriend has a degenerate family full of cheaters, can i trust him to be loyal?
he seems pretty honest, smart, sweet and hard-working. he often talks about marriage, and i've been thinking about it too.
the thing is i absolutely do not tolerate cheating of any nature, and i know for a fact that his brother went to a strip club before marrying his wife. i know he would try to get my bf into one too when his time comes. his brother is a forceful and aggressive guy by nature... like he doesn't take "no" for an answer.
what do?
>>17935061
statistically speaking children of cheaters are more likely to cheat but this is a generality rather than a rule.
You're assuming that just because his family is like that, he might be too. That's illogical and a huge sweeping blanketed fear. Everyone is unique and makes their own choices. My family is super conservative. By your logic, youd probably say I am too. Truth is, I'm not. I'm my own person. Your boyfriend is his own person. Give him a chance to be himself. If you can't trust him now to be who he says he is and to make his own decisions, then you've got deeper issues that don't have to do with him at all.
Don't look at what happened outside of his control. Look at how he responds to it. Maybe he saw the hurt from up close and it made him all the more determined to honor marriage. If he shrugs and says something akin to "shit happens", run for the hills.
If you can't seriously discuss this with him like adults, your potential marriage was bound to fail anyway.