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You're seriously considering dumping a friend of 8 years over a girl?

>>17934752
well if's lying to me, then he clearly doesn't view me as the friend i was 8 years ago

>>17934759
If a girl is all it takes to break down your friendship, it was shallow and superficial in the first place.

>>17934679
You just learn to accept that sad feeling. Theres no magicl words or device that makes it go away, you can only distract yourself with hobbies. Things like video games, reading, cooking, walking, etc.

>>179346799
>how do i learn to be alone


you just came to the right place boi

It takes practice, it's called self-love.

After dealing with heartbreak or loss of attachment, there feels like there's a void inside of us. It's easy to find someone to fill that void, but if you are an incomplete person, sometimes the person filling the void feels pressured and will let you go.

Form a relationship with yourself, become your own friend. Never put yourself down, become your own cheerleader.

When you're alone, enjoy the shit out of it. Be selfish. Drink a big glass of wine, listen to your favorite Enya song, get stoned, meditate, play guitar, etc. Find positive releases of energy that give you a dopamine rush without the company of others.

When I'm alone I like to make some guitar loops, catch up on the news and politics, meditate, do push ups, focus on strengthening myself mentally and physically.

Make self improvement a habit. Good luck OP. Being able to feel content while isolated is a huge sign of strength and discipline.

get a new job that pays 21.50 and work 40 hours a week

Sorry but 9.50 is not enough. Learn to like the other job.

Is it worth mentioning that after gas the second job only pays about 11 ish. And I have 3 other roomates.

Alcohol is a depressant. It's not going to make you feel better in the long term and it'll probably make it worse

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>>17934622
>he tried weed before alcohol

>>17934632
This

If you're afraid of the pitch of your voice, just look at how many women love singers like Michael Jackson, Bruno Mars, Kaleo, various boy bands, etc.

In the end, unless there is something really exceedingly weird (and I'm talking medical condition weird), people just won't care. If women give you shit about it, they're assholes and you don't want to date them anyways.

Instead, it's all about how you carry yourself. I see a phrase tossed around here a lot "Having X isn't a turnoff, but having a complex about it is." I'd say this is pretty accurate. Women love confidence. People in general are attracted to confidence. Chances are it's not as bad as you think.

If it's really that vital to your confidence, then you can get some vocal training. But if you do, it should be for your own self-esteem. Not because you think women want it.

>>17934662
Lower voice for males is more attractive to girls, it also signals more testosterone and make the guy sounds like a strong person.
Having a manchild voice is a no no.
Of course this doesnt mean trying to sound like a tryhard, but more like vocal training.

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>>17934620
Your insecurity about things like your voice is more unattractive than anything else.

Prudence, Trojan and Durex are my top best. Great to hear you're using a condom.

>>17934591
Where are you? Where I am (Australia) I've found that 'Zero' by Ansell works the best for my bf.

>>17934608
I'm in the United States.

remember that most other people feel just as bad or even worse than you

You need to dig deep within your own thoughts. Write down your insecurities then ask why you're insecure about them. Ask yourself what you can do to feel more confident about them

Also write down things you do feel secure/ confident about then ask why you feel secure about them. Ask yourself what do you do that makes you feel more confident about them?

>>17935539
This is really good advice. I would do this if I were you.

The book "How to win friends and influence people" really helped me learn to talk to people in a better way. I would recommend this once you have the confidence part down.

>>17934569
>. My question is am I making a mistake?
Yes.

Do sports science, or something related.

>>17934590
What makes you say that though? I Thought about it. Still doesn't interest me. If It doesn't involve me manipulating another person's limbs or involve my fist going into someones face/liver I'm not interested. I give 0 fucks about training other people or helping other athletes. I train from 3pm-12am. Every second in between that makes me anxious and jittery for my next training session.

>>17934624
Dude naw fuck all that, go for it. You sound like someone that needs to get it out of their system in the first place. Youre young, you can go back to school at 22-23 if it dosent work out. But you BEST not let that happen.

And in the sense that your going to school with the parents help passes while youre doing MMA, you are a physical dude. Youre not going to be happy in an office or at a desk or lab. Do trade school. I work as an I&E tech for a power plant, basically 60% of us are meat heads that know how to run conduit and troubleshoot process lines making stupid money. Its laborious and long hours but were not bored.

Theres other paths than college or poverty. I dont know for the life of me why that myth still continues.

she's in simultaneous conversations with several other people. She doesn't need to initiate texts because there's always a horde of people texting her

There's a million different reasons this could be happening. Just ask her out.

Texting is weak and can easily cause girls to lose interest. The only thing you should be using texting for with girls is setting up dates.

If you're texting with a girl and have too long of a casual chat, there's a huge chance she'll get bored and stop responding. This is because you are taking too long to ask her out.

If you text a girl and she responds, have a chat that last 3-5 messages max. Then say something like "we should get together sometime soon, what's your schedule like?" and arrange the definite date, then get off the texting. Since you have a date planned, texting is bad because you'll have less to talk about on the date and texting too much may turn her off and make her flake on the night of the date.

If a girl texts me, I immediately say "Hey! I'd love to see you, when are you free to get together?" then arrange a date on the spot.

Don't beat around the bush or you'll stop getting responses.

>>17934458
Being a bricklayer is not a bad paying profession.

>>17934458
>>17935001
Honestly?? Being a bricklayer is highly skilled labor and if you have someone willing to teach you for free then you should take them up on that. Even if you decide you don't want to make it your life's work, it's a job that would always be available to you in a pinch.

When I was eighteen I got a job doing maintenance at a state park that helped me get outside and develop social and life skills. It sounds like you have a similar opportunity.

Don't give up hope for your self you don't need no girlfriend to accomplish anything. I'm 20 and I have never had a girlfriend. I just do what ever you think is best for you. You can go to collage though fananchel aid (FASFA) like I'm currently using to go to collage if you want to purpersure any deggee. Please man be strong, life is work living.

>Call the pizza
>complain about driver
>get her fired
>demand free pizza
>???
>profit

She acted extremely unprofessional in that situation. I'm going to assume you were polite in telling her you weren't interested in the pizza, even though you probably didn't mention how long to took to get there being the reason why. I wouldn't have a problem calling the place, especially if you're a regular, to tell them how unprofessional she was after being extremely late. Plus, putting the tip in with the price just to trick you into giving it to her is very dishonest and a flat out lie for what you were told over the phone. But tl;dr, no, you are absolutely not in the wrong.

>>17934442
both have their faults. she is a beyond fucking bad delivery pizza person. the only onpy bad thing you did was call her a fucking bitch outside the street. even though it sounds quite justifiable given what she did, it's still a little wrong. but thats just it. call the pizza place and report it to them.

>eat less food
>excercise more

>>17934429
Cut sugar

>>17934429
Man or woman?

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Workout a bunch. Read a bunch. Take extra shifts at work for extra dosh. Use extra dosh to invest in self (do interesting things).

I'm doing it, although my everything hurts so I'm working out again 5 days a week (saturday cardio) and I feel better about myself already. More out of hatred for others and how I'll be better than them soon, though.

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p-pls more chi chi

>>17934404
Ask yourself the first question:

Why do you have low self esteem?
Maybe it's for a reason

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>>17934370

>>17934370
Just tell him and let him make the decision.
He'd probably dump you, unless he is a cuck.
Also I hope you have a painful death.

>>17934447
I don't want to break up with him. We've been together for 7 years.

>>17934365

its forty bucks, which isn't exactly small for a lot of people these days, but its small enough that you dont need to waste an entire year of your itme if you dont like it.

remember that time is money. how much is your time worth? if the course sucks and you can't get a refund, you'd be wasting more money by going than by quitting.

just sayian

>>17934365
Naw. It won't work as well as some sort of mental help.

>>17934398
I know but we don't have that much money for a continuous treatment when 80 bucks is the cost of just one appointment with a psychiatrist.

>>17934373
I only have 20 bucks so my dad was gonna help me with other 20. I don't want to waste his money even if it's just 20.