my husband expects our 5yo son to have the selfdiscipline to

>husband plays violent games with no regard for the effect it'll have on your son
Sounds like you married an immature manchild. Any person fit to be a parent would save those sorts of games for when the kids were asleep or otherwise not around.

Your husband needs to grow the fuck up and not play them when your son is around

>>17931907
>>17931908
he's not immature besides this. i can't wrap my head around it.

anyways, he won't just stop being a manchild when it comes to this till tomorrow. and i really don't like the mood this sets when we could have a cozy saturday.

i told gim that kids that age don't have enough selfdiscipline to do stuff like that. his answer was "well, then he will have to learn".
i asked him to play in the evening but he said "i want to spend time with you then and i also want to be able to play vidya when i feel like it".

>>17931917
Was this something that you discussed before you had kids or while you were pregnant? Violent games wouldn't have been a recent thing.

it also buggs me that a few of his froends share an apartment right next door to us and he could go over there and play whenever he wants. there would be a lot of solitions to this in my eyes but he insists that out son "has to learn this". his reasoning is that he "used to play alone in his room too as a kid and let his parents be".
but my son does this. he can play silently and happily for a very long time, but the tv is in the livingroom/kitchen area and sometimes he just wants to be there too. and ofc he know that he isn't supposed to look so the temptation is even bigger to come out of the room and sneak a bit.

>>17931920
not explicitely. i mean, it never even crossed my mind that he would think it is ok to play those infront of a kid...
ofc we talked about changes that need to be made, but this was so obvious to me i didn't think i needed to spell it out

This is why you don't hang around guys that still play games like there's no tomorrow.
They are more fixated on a damn screen than on their own son. Feel bad for you and the kid, a man should know his boundaries.

>>17931954
Yep its video games, totally not about his upbringing /s

>>17931923
>his reasoning is that he "used to play alone in his room too as a kid and let his parents be".
I'd really stress that's very different from what he's expecting. He's not playing mature video games in his office and expecting some privacy, as I understand it he's playing these in the common area and expecting the kid to look away.

>i asked him to play in the evening but he said "i want to spend time with you then and i also want to be able to play vidya when i feel like it".
Nobody is even saying he has to stop playing games

Like I can really sympathize with you here, but I'm not really seeing any solutions aside from a come to jesus talk.

>>17931968
>I'm not really seeing any solutions aside from a come to jesus talk.
In the first sentence of the post you just replied to, OP says that his friends live next door and he could go over to play there. Plus there's the basic common sense solution of only playing while the kid isn't around. If you can't think of any solutions, I find it hard to believe you even tried.

>>17931960
I'm pretty sure it's video games that keep him from his upbringing.
There's plenty of incompetent parents because they can't keep off their useless hobby. Are games making you defensive because you probably feel useless yourself? Stop trying to put video games in a good light, you are the same as people who constantly feel the need to defend smoking weed.

>>17931971
>In the first sentence of the post you just replied to, OP says that his friends live next door and he could go over to play there.
Yes. But he's refusing to do so apparently. There are no solutions when someone refuses to negotiate, it has to be a two way street.

>>17931929
Send the kid out? He doesn't need to hang out around you guys 24/7.

>>17931975
>Compared to control participants, those in the shooter video game con- dition show faster and more accurate attention allocation, higher spatial resolution in visual processing, and enhanced mental rotation abilities (for a review, see C. S. Green & Bavelier, 2012). A recently published meta-analysis (Uttal et al., 2013) concluded that the spatial skills improvements derived from playing commercially available shooter video games are comparable to the effects of formal (high school and university-level) courses aimed at enhancing these same skills. Further, this recent meta-analysis showed that spatial skills can be trained with video games in a relatively brief period, that these training benefits last over an ex- tended period of time, and crucially, that these skills trans- fer to other spatial tasks outside the video game context.
These training studies have critical implications for education and career development. A 25-year longitudinal study with a U.S. representative sample (for a review, see Wai, Lubinski, Benbow, & Steiger, 2010) established the power of spatial skills in predicting achievement in science, technology, engineering, and mathematics (STEM). STEM areas of expertise have been repeatedly linked to long-term career success and are predicted to be especially critical in the next century (Wai et al., 2010).

http://www2.apa.org/pubs/journals/releases/amp-a0034857.pdf

You can't be serious.

He doesn't actually think this does he? If so, it's ridiculous.

If he doesn't want his son to see violence, then your husband should be setting an example (ie not playing games in the room or in front of your son).

It's really that simple.

>>17931986
he doesn't. see
>>17931923

when your husband is gone gather all his video games/consoles and sell them and put the money in a savings account. you'll wake up from the coma he puts you in just in time for the family friendly nintendo switch to come out. buy that and then there will be fun for the whole family to enjoy together

>>17931987
Yep, again. You're not the first person trying to defend video games by some article that proves nothing.These studies mean shit, because from what I've seen most people just stay in their basements and develop anti-social skills to the best.

It's like saying ''Bill gates didn't finish school and he is a self-made billionaire!'', doesn't mean everyone who quit school became one. Do yourself a favor and stop pretending you know what you're saying, because I've heard every excuse in the book.

>>17931987
Nobody is saying he has to stop playing video games you dweeb, just that it has an unhealthy obsession with them. Any benefits of playing videogames is entirely unrelated to the topic at hand, and it makes it utterly transparent how insecure you are about your hobby.

>>17931999
>from what I've seen

Alright man lol
Have a good day

>>17932009
Yes, exactly. I have not just met one or two, I knew hundreds of people like you. It's pathetic.

i dont see what the problem is with him watching?

It's his responsibility, not the child's. Tell him to play some kid friendly games.

Shit, my roommates kid came up for a month and we didn't pay anything except Marvel Lego Superheroes.

Am I the only one here whose parents allowed them to play Doom, Mortal Kombat and such when they were kids?

It just seems weird to me see people panicking about kids seeing or playing games like these. Just keep them off multiplayer.

>>17932295
>>17932323

he's 5...
i know your memory is bad but you pornably were atleast 8 when you did that. and i'm sorry but i'm not going to raise my son white-trash-style

Your husband is an absolute pathetic, worthless cunt and should be ashamed of himself

>>17932340
>you pornably were atleast 8

That is one of the phrases that gets you on a watchlist of sorts.

And I was probably like 5 or 6. And I remember watching my siblings and cousins playing similar games that I found too difficult.

Only thing my parents didn't let me watch was movies that were super gory but I never wanted to see those because I couldn't and still can't stomach them.

Why do stupid parents think that keeping the knowledge of violence is in any way sparing the child? What the fuck happened to martial arts and kids learning discipline properly, with honor? I guess all that shit it out the window.

>>17931917
> i also want to be able to play vidya when i feel like it

he should have thought about that before getting a fucking child.

>>17931904

your dumbass hubby is addicted to video games

kids are kids - not adults - and need adult supervision and training if they are to grow into mature responsible people

good luck dearie - that is a real mess

try couples counseling or something, your hubby reads like a jerk = marriage problem now and worse later

redpill

>>17931904
OP seriously? Grow a spine and tell your manchild husband to quit being fucking stupid. The kid is curious, all kids are! Why can't he play his games at night when the kids in bed?? And if anything this could be a bonding experience for the husband and kid, find a game they can both play together. I don't wanna be that anon, but how old are you two?

>>17931904
Teaching a 5 year old kid its shameful to look at a fucking screen is far more damaging than him 'seeing violent video-games'

>>17932323
Nah I played doom when I was 4 and resident evil and mgs when I was 6 or 7. My parents didn't care about the violence just maybe swearing. I was more scared of the spooky music and monster sounds.

>>17931904
>son wants to spend time with parents
>"Fuck off I'm playing video games"

Yeah you really know how to pick em OP