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Having trouble with women /adv/
Not a bad looking guy and I keep fit, outgoing etc...and I just never seem to have any luck. Been on dating sites for over a year now and haven't had a single date either.
It's beginning to get me down. I'm not looking for "the one" but it would be nice to have a relationship or get a few dates or maybe just have something casual, but I simply cannot find anything. I don't know what else to do.
Think at this point the only option I have is to give up and live life, but that makes me feel as though the situation will never change.
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>>17416370
>fishbowl
Triggered.
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Stop using dating sites. Ask out 100 girls IRL you think you would have a chance with and come back.
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>>17416384
I don't meet women that often and don't feel comfortable cold approaching in bars/clubs. Never done it, was in a long-term relationship for five years.
I do speak to girls, usually at work or at parties when they've been invited by mutual friends, it just never leads anywhere.
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Many times when I'm at a club or dancing wherever with other people girls come and dance back to back with me like in pic but without looking at me or anything (I'm a guy btw). They move their ass against mine, move their hair so it touches me and other kinds of "incidental" physical interaction and keep doing it for a quite long time.
It's quite obvious that they are showing interest but I don't know what to do in this kind of situation, as they are usually with their group of friends and I'm with mine, and also approaching a girl from the back feels a bit creepy.
I don't know if I explained it well but I think many people will know what I'm talking about and will have been in the same place.
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>>17416355
Turn around, grind cock on ass.
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>>17416446
does it usually work for you?
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>>17416355
I used to live in Cancun
What you do is turn around and wrap your arm around their belly and pull them in so her ass is against your front, you're at a club dude that level of showing interest like someone telling you please fuck me you're being a pussy and they can tell
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Does the prostate harden when you're erect.
The other day I was fapping while putting a finger in my ass. No homo. I noticed my prostate felt somewhat hard, like a bouncy ball. Though obviously, I'm not a professional.
After I was done fapping, I tried to feel my prostate again and I didnt feel anything. I didnt even manage to find it.
So, I'm asking: Does the prostate get hard, like the penis muscles, as you get an erection? Cause that would explain my confusion.
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>>17416349
>putting a finger in my ass
>no homo
>homo
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>>17416358
Shit, Im not sure /adv/ is a SFW board, and I dont get the option to delete that post.
Sorry about that, mods.
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>>17416363
Just go back to /b/ and accept the fact that you don't have a prostate anymore.
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Guy here.
I am horrible at thinking up gifts for people. It's not that I don't know anything about the recipient, but it's just hard to know what is a good gift and what is a bad gift.
>It's the thought that matters
Riiiight.
Anyway, there's this girl who's leaving for college and I thought it'd be nice to get her a gift when she leaves. I don't want to overdo it, but I want it to be a -good- gift. She leaves August 23rd, I believe, so I have some time.
Idk, do any of you guys have experience giving good/memorable gifts? What's the thought process?
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Box of condoms.
She'll need it in college.
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>>17416328
This.
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don't give people gifts, they become reminders of failed social interactions years later that you don't know how to conscionably dispose of.
Buy yourself something OP.
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Okay how do I fix this shit? This shit haunts me since Im 13, I cant get outside because I feel ashamed wearing a T-shirt. Im so scared people would make fun of me because of my manboobs. I didnt go to the public swimming pool since 4 years. Im skinny fat atm, I workout since 3 months I really hope it goes away soon.
Will it go away or do i need a surgery?
Im 19 btw
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surgery
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>>17416286
Mate, I had the problem as well. But, truth be told, no one really gives a shit about how you look, they have their own lives to worry about.
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>>17416286
No one gives a fuck. Walk with confidence. Joke with the fuckers if they say shit. Keep working out and they will go away. Chest workouts
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I could really use advice of a doc now.
Since yesterdays evening (close to 12 hours now) I've been having this weird thing, if I press on my lower right stomach or raise leg and let it go, I feel pain, not even strong but still unpleasant.
Apart from that I dont think I have any other symptoms, today I took one shit normal and the other a bit on a soft side but apart from that nothing out of the ordinary.
I am living in a shithole with no good healthcare or even a timely way to get to a hospital so I really could use all the help I can get.
Do I have appendicitis or is it possible it just some minor digestion problems, is Blumbergs sign even work with simple digestion problems?
Please adv, I am having more shit on my plate than I can chew at the moment and now this, its like cosmos actively hate me or something.
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If you had appendicitis you would know
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>>17416445
Technically I know it suppose to be associated with strong pain but what about atypical cases?
Its just when I pull in stomach and release, push on stomach and release as well as bend and straighten up suddenly when it lower right stomach I feel short dull pain.
Could this symptom be related to some kind of digestion problem?
Today the only doctor we have were finished work 1AM so I cant even go to her and even then, she kinda doesnt care much anyway, few people were treated for years for some benning shit till the all died from cancer, she most of the time straight decline any further tests.
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>>17416477
You could indeed have digestion problems but it sounds more like a muscular problem. Any tough exercise or falls? Moving in a weird way can sometimes make a muscle hurt for days.
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HI! I set up an account on a local dating site in my country, put another City as my place of living (I will be moving there soon, which I also explained on my profile) and today a very beautiful woman wrote to me. She said her name is Maria, she will be moving to the same city soon too (from her work or something) and will spend next 4 years there and that she hope's I don't mind her age (I'm 24, she is 38). And that's it. Is it a fraud? She says in her profile she is a management / director worker (although it's just a pre-selectable option and it may be very vague) so IDK what to think about it. That's her BTW in pictures (I tried to back search them and google didn't found anything)
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>>17416199
just dont give her your credit card information
and ask for time stamp nude
problem solved, you are welcome!
LDR advice
My gf has been having online friends with benefits since she was 14 and when she was 15 I met her (online) and we really liked each other, Its comfortable for me to have a long distance relationship so long story short we've been together for a year now.
We've had a bit of a problem some time ago deciding if our anniversary was January or February, I said it is the day we met since we already agreed we will be exclusive that same day and she said she didn't think we were 100% official until a month later since we had just met.
Anyways recently Its come to light that she's been cyber sexing the entire time before we met as close as a day to when we met, and with the new information now more than ever it seems likely that she still did things with people while we were together for that first month, about a half year in I also found out she still texts and calls with a guy who she used to do these things with.
Now this girl is really in love with me and has been as honest as humanly possible during our relationship.. She says she is pretty sure she did nothing with others from the very day we met, I asked her why not 100% and she said that she doesn't want to get fucked in case there's a blank in her head and she did do something she'll remember later..
We've come to terms with her past online and she has changed since then, deleted everyone and said she's regretted it and won't do it again (for her own sake, not mine), but if she cheated on me (since she knows she agreed on day one that we're exclusive) even slightly I am not okay with it and will leave to find someone better.
I know her to be kinda slow when it comes to being social and disclosing information, my question is do you think that I should drop the relationship? and explain why yes/not, thanks
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Jesus christ buddy..
Let me start off by saying yes to your question.
There is absolutely no fucking way she stopped doing things when you "got together".
I would bet all my money on her still doing it. Women lie, man. Haven't you heard?
They fucking love lying.
If she can get away with lying to gain a benefit, she will, every time.
There is absolutely no way for you to verify whether or not she is "doing things"
and thus she can safely tell you she's not without fear of getting "busted", i.e. losing her
perceived benefits of "being with you".
Your gut feeling is obviously telling you that something is wrong, hence this post on /adv/.
If your gut can get that message from her even through the web, sent from X miles away, you better fucking believe it.
So you obviously know what's up, the question is will you actually dump her like you say?
Or will you just be fine with her showing off across the interwebs?
I believe you will, otherwise you'd be taking action instead of writing about it.
Trust me, or not, I'll be lurking a bit
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>>17416159
Thanks dude, I appreciate it
I do trust my instincts, and Its true that if I can feel this through the web it has much more weight to it, we've been skyping every single day for several hours the past year and month, if there is one thing I am sure of is that at the beginning of our relationship I felt as if she was keeping me on the down low, not caring too much, she's an american woman so her perception of relationships is different, the "friendship" with these people was "Harmless" and "just for fun" and "more than just sexual benefits"... She used to think it was okay to speak to these people while we're together..
Now alot of this I blamed on the fact that she's young and inexperienced and just learning, she IS a good girl, but again, she is a woman and knowing women they work on emotion, for some reason it disgusts me when a woman is swayed by a man to do sexual favors, I would much prefer dealing with an ex than with such people, it is so easy to engage with them, just call and drop your pants and here we go.
Now she's told me she told everyone about me as soon as we met because the fuckboys she was with encouraged her to go and get more sex.. She is a well educated girl, but it doesn't really hide nothing from what she did, and you're right, as much as I trust her I have nothing to validate she's saying the truth. She used to change her mind constantly and answer different things regarding questions I ask if I apply a bit of pressure, thinking that Its better to lie to satisfy me than to be honest.. We've been through a lot of teaching, and she's been learning and putting things to use which tells me she does care.
When she comes online I am going to continue the conversation with her, I would not come here to ask if I wasn't thinking about dropping her, she is not that important that I will let my own standard down, thanks again
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How old are you op
How do I get my life working again?
My life has been stalled for six months now. I'm stuck tending bar part time after dropping out of law school, with a Bachelor's in STEM from one of the top three universities in my country, which is apparently useless without a postgrad degree.
I dropped out due to a combination of health problems and burnout, and while those issues are mostly fixed, I can't decide what the hell I'm meant to be doing with my life. Worse still, there don't seem to be any jobs going for recent graduates at the moment, and everything I find has insane levels of competition, where you won't even get called back after an interview. Every job I go for, from office work to waiting tables, I'm told that my degree is the "wrong" one, and that I should've gone to school for the specific job I'm applying for (yet my friends with art and music degrees are all employed with better jobs than me). Every person I meet is shocked to hear I'm only working part time in a bar, asking why I'm not doing something "better" with my life, and honestly, I don't have an answer.
I'm sick of working nights and weekends, sick of being broke, and sick of feeling like shit/inadequate about what I do. No woman is going to date me when my life is this directionless, and I feel like even some of my friends are embarrassed by me (a lot of them can't find proper work either, but they all have ~some~ sort of direction. I'm the only one with no real grounding or direction, and I can't seem to find any, no matter how hard I try to find it or list my skills and interests).
My mother keeps telling me I just need to be patient and that my life will pull itself together, but I'm sick of waiting and feeling like half a person. Is there any way to kick this shit up the ass and start it?
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Save up, leave your country, go live like a king in Uganda or some shit.
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> redpill
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>burnout
https://www.1843magazine.com/body-mind/the-daily/the-way-out-of-burnout
Read this, and you need to quickly figure out what you want with your life.
If your life is really a mess and you can't focus at ALL. START throw away or give away your belonging.
http://www.theminimalists.com/
stop spend money, like just buy food, rent, internet, cellphone, and car.
I can see you have master your knowledge, but your social skill might be like shit.
PUT on your social mask and learn how to communicate with people. Dress correctly.
BE a gentleman (I live in Cape Town and went high school over there, those teaching are excellent)
Time for you to learn something that school will never teach you, the rich will teach their kid, middle class dying to figure it out, and lower class can't obtain.....the soft power of powerful and rich. They can't really be poor because all these knowledge and social skill they have.
You might be best at your job, but someone had better 1st 7 sec impression will beat you.
Life is hard, you fight for everything.
Now, stop sucking mom's tit and go out earn you life. that is how most man pulled through.
YOU DON'T HAVE A VAGINA.
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So I told my friend that I have feelings for her the other day and she says she doesn't have the same feelings for me. Last year when we met, we used to make out in my car and things were moving really fast for me so I kind of made some bullshit excuse saying I would rather date her in the future. We had a talk on the phone today because I was mad at myself for a lot of things I potentially did that made myself less attractive to her. She told me that after the first rejection and she got to know me that she feels we are better as friends, and she kind of hinted that dating isn't out of the question but I'm not sure if that's what she meant. She said she just really doesn't want to lose me as a friend because she is comfortable with me and can tell me anything she said she still thinks I'm very cute. We used to flirt all the time but I stopped flirting with her a long time ago because i wanted to be her friend. Is it too late for me? Do you think I could possibly over time turn this into something? Should I just move on to somebody new? ATM I'm hanging out with a lot of different people trying to get my mind off of her. I keep convincing myself that if I improve myself and subtly start flirting more that I might just win her back. Is that a bad mindset?
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Its not impossible to win her back, but its very unlikely. I'll tell you right now that if it does work, it'll take a long time. I dated a chick for 3 months, she broke up with me, and she said she just wanted to be friends, wasn't ready for a relationship, etc. I was really upset because she was perfect for me and I was being 'friendzoned', but I stayed friends with her and went after other chicks while improving myself, making sure she was aware of both. We've been dating for a while, now. So yeah, the friendzone doesn't really exist, in the sense that if she's into you in the very least, it can work. Just expect a big time investment, and make sure she's well aware you don't need her. Desperation isn't sexy.
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>>17416107
I kind of dropped the "I haven't had feelings like this for anyone in a long time" bomb on the phone. I feel like I fucked up there and that just dropped her attraction even lower lol. I'm going into the military soon so like that might have something to do with her decision? I would like to hear your story if you have the time. Any more tips would be appreciated.
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How the fuck are you supposed to have a relationship with someone and tell them how you feel if telling them is unsexy and makes you look desperate?
I'm 26 and never had a gf, haven't kissed anyone neither.
I'm tired of being a virgin. Is a hooker a good idea?
I was thinking about it a lot yesterday, and I'm guessing that kissless problem will be gone too, but I wanted to know what do you guys think of my idea.
Serious responses please.
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The real question is, is will having sex make you a better person?
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>>17416069
do you consider yourself ugly and/or un-date-able?
if yes, try a hooker, otherwise: no
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Go for it. It will help your confidence and help you demystify sex. Hopefully you don't live in Burgerland but somewhere where it's legal.
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I am a girl from Australia who really enjoys learning French. I would really love to have a language conversation partner, but I failed to find a language partner when traveling around France.
Now I am back in Australia. I realized that if I join a language exchange meetup group I found online/approach French guys at my uni hoping that I can befriend them, the French guys would just assume that I am looking for a guy to date/hookup with/etc. I just want a friend who can speak to me in French every day, but I don't see it happening anytime too soon. I assume that most French speakers in Australia are expats and I think most women in that age range will be uninterested in befriending a uni-aged girl and most men that age will only talk to a girl that young if he is interested in her. In other words, no one will probably want to befriend me just for the sake of language exchange.
Should I just attend these language meetup events and try to find a French bf? I don't want to find solely-online language exchange partners - it seems a waste of time to bond with someone you can never verify the identity of.
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You're assuming too much.
X probably won't because Y. I don't think A will because B.
Most people would be happy to help anyone with a new language, girl or guy. You gotta be more optimistic.
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>>17416016
I saw two guys chatting together in French at uni today. I approached them and they assumed that I was flirting with them. It was embarrassing.
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>>17416006
what's the problem with having an online friend to speak in french with?
it won't be a waste of time, you'll be practicing your french!
I have this friend that keeps cock blocking me
I told him I had feelings for a girl and he ended up getting in a relationship with her and later I told him I had feelings for his ex and he ended up fucking her and his current gf found out and stayed with him and after all of that I feel like shit and I want to kick his ass but I feel like he might be jealous that I'm starting to become the alpha of our group of friends ever since I lost weight. I need advice
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>>17415983
You don't sound alpha. Kick his ass and fuck both the girls. Or just don't tell him when you like someone. Both valid choices.
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>>17415988
Well I used to be extremely shy but now I'm starting to become extremely confident in myself and it's kinda easier to talk to girls now
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>>17415983
Your friend sounds like a cunt, being a cheater and all, but concerning you and him, the real question is whether he was already going for this girl when you said you had feelings for her. In my opinion, if he was already going for her, all bets are off. Its fine for two friends to compete, I've done it many times over the years (Not all of them won either), but I never let it destroy a friendship. If he had nothing to do with her, was told you were interested, and then went for her without discussing it with you, then he's no friend at all.
Overall I'd say he's not worth keeping around simply because he's a cheater. 9 times out of 10, a cheater holds very little regard for other people, and as much as they'll try to act like its just the women they don't give a shit about, they usually fuck anyone over when they can benefit from it. Food for thought.
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This is the last night I cry myself to sleep. Never again will I wish for death, or make excuses for why I can't be happy, why nothing good will ever come to me, why I can't do what I want to do. Never again will I let the voices in my head telling me to fail have any power over me. Never again will I believe that I can't achieve, that I can't be the things I dream about, that I can't be strong. This may be corny as hell but fuck shitting on positivity, fuck feeling sorry for myself, fuck being someone that never gets what they want.
I have reached the end of my rope and I have chosen life and you should too, I believe in you we can do this.
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Good for you, now what do you need advice with?
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>>17415970
Good shit op, good luck in your quest. Makes a nice change around here.
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columbine something.
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Some background info. We're both 23 and virgins by penetration. Both have had limited relationships. I have no close friends irl and no car. Been together 9 months.
I've been living with her over the summer with her parents. They offered and I was hesitant, but they insisted so I went with it. My apartment is only open during the semester.
I'm 5'11, 175Lbs, reasonable shape. During the semester I hit the gym 4 times a day and before summer I started getting nice results. I'm introverted and feel awkward in social situations. I have a receding hairline (family gene) that doesn't get worse, but it makes me look like I'm going bald. I've been working a full time job over the summer.
She is 5'6" 225 Lbs, she looks better than her stats though. She has a skin condition that makes her skin rough as if she always has goosebumps. She has anxiety attacks about her health and will cry for a whole night every other week. She is on meds for this. She has a car and her parents pay for a lot of her stuff. She has a part time job. She is very sweet when it comes to helping me out. She has been my transport to work (I'm 3rd shift) and aside from a few big things she treats me well.
Onto the problems. She has a low libido. We haven't fucked, she rarely wants to perform or receive oral, and a lot of time she doesn't want to kiss. She also doesn't like any kissing with tongue and is super uncomfortable with her body. The only thing she will want to do is let me use a vibrator I bought for her every couple weeks. After that I usually get nothing in return.
Her mom has also spoiled the hell out of her. She buys her mostly everything and even clips her toenails for her. Her mom is cheating on her dad with 3 guys. Her sister is beyond the point of return, as she literally has not left the house for 2 months and stinks like hell.
I'm wanting to get out, but I have things that are keeping me from doing so, I will continue in a reply (1/2).
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Only read part one, but you are fucked op. Sounds like it should be a horror movie. Please leave. You could also set fire to the house while everyone is asleep.
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We have both been doing bad things, talking and flirting with other people. I have tried to stop, but it is obvious I am happy right now.
Since I have no car and no friends (and was extremely lonely before I got in this relationship) I am afraid I will end up alone for a long time, and being with her is better than being trapped without transportation or some companionship.
I am also afraid that if I leave her that I will look like a freeloader. At least half of my money has went into my GF, but I still feel like it will look that way. Her mom can also go off the rails if someone does her kids wrong and desu I'm afraid she will do some batshit crazy stuff on me.
One option I am considering is staying for another semester. I'm going to be hitting the gym really hard and maybe I can motivate her to as well. I've heard losing weight can increase libido and it would make her more physically attractive. It also will make it seem less like I used her for free rent.
I really need advice on how I should approach this. Ask any questions and I will answer them truthfully.
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I meant to write unhappy and not happy.