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>two weeks
Kek just dump her if you feel insecure. Not youve invested much time into her.

Oh don't be sad cat!

You picked up a stray who wants to go home. That's all. But no, you are insecure and want to vent on a Korean Knitting Pattern Exchange Board.

If you can't trust her two fucking weeks into your relationship, how do you think that's going to work when she comes back from her little vacation? You gonna go through all of her clothes, sniffing for some foreign cologne, inspecting her body for marks, reading betrayal in her eyes?

Yes to all, son. Yes to all. You aren't mature enough for a relationship yet, probably due to some separation issues with a parent. You absolutely must get over that first before any relationship has a snowball's chance in hell.

Think about it.

>>17417509

Thanks. That is actually solid feedback, except for the separation issue.

Let's say, she is kind of flirtatious type of woman who has mostly male friends and aquaintances. Hard to say if he is just orbiting.

>>17417427
Ativan

If you can't get an RX you can try Kava Kava... stuff works pretty well with no side effects and is available at any whole food/sprouts

>>17417427
Have you talked to your therapist about it? You may change doctor or start going to a psychiatrist and start taking pills. Nevertheless I have 0 experience with therapy and pills but I think you should seek for help to a professional. Even though here there are a lot of people with anxiety problems, r9k is a board with lots of these people so they may understand you.

>>17417449

My alloted sessions have ended, I would have to go back on the list and wait another 3 months. Building up the courage to go to the doctor.

>>17417394
What do SO and LDR mean?

>>17417394
how long have you known each other/ LDR dated ?

>>17417440
Significant other; long distance relationship.

>>17417441
I met him about 2 years ago, and we've been dating for most of that.

Seems legit, might be an immigrant with only a decent understanding of the English language.

Dude, this is the like #1 internet scam.

They write a bad check
You cash it and send good money
Bank comes after you for bad check

Now's the time where you fuck with him.

I remember when I was feeling out a car ad job for Redbull, and then the dude dropped this scam on me.

Then proceeded to be like "I'LL HAVE YOU ARRESTED FOR STEALING MY MONEY" when I told him I cashed the check and am spending it.

But, I know better I ripped the check up and threw it away and trolled him until he quit.

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>>17417380
It sounds like pic related though.

Get that ADHD diagnosis and take all the funny pills

>>17417363
OP here, i'm not into drugs at all.

>>17417358
Kill all distractions. If you waste time on websites (like this one), get a browser blocker addon or go study in the library.

Go ahead

Sure OP

>>17417354
>>17417355
Thank you both. I'll try and keep it short, though some detail is necessary:

>be me
>23 years old last July / August
>working for a small company in a major city
>another small company moves in to the floor below
>we share a printer with them and it's in our office
>don't pay attention to them at first
>notice a girl who is attractive but only at a distance
>walk downstairs one day and she is talking really angrily with her co-worker about another colleague who keeps leaving early (the time I am leaving)
>figure it's her responsibility for that kind of thing so don't think badly of her, but still don't feel any way towards her
>look at the ground and walk between them
>go to the bathroom one day and she is at the bottom of the stairwell wanting to come up
>wait there and she leaps up two stairs at a time but I stare without expression down the stairwell
>I have to move seats to sit near the printer
>one morning she gets my attention by saying "excuse me" and asking if I know where spare paper is kept
>when I look up towards her our eyes meet and I feel like it lasted for ages
>maybe it's autistic but I got a strong sense we each recognised that we were each other's "type"
>she and her colleagues are all privately educated however and from a similar socio-economic background
>her boss is around our age and so are one or two of her colleagues
>I'm from a poor area and attended a shit-tier school
>I have zero friends and barely say a word and listen to music at my desk
>I help her with the paper and go quickly back to my desk
>she uses the printer regularly, at least twice or three times a day
>stands right behind me and waits there for like 10 seconds as things print
>every time I tense up and often feel butterflies (I realise it's rather pathetic at my age)

Cont...

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This fucker hurts a bit too.

>>17417135

The obvious answer. Stop drinking. Get help if you need it.

The way you're living right now is like a coward's version of suicide. It's bad enough that you don't care about yourself, but when your cries for help put other people's lives/safety at risk, then you're just being a bad fucking person. I hope they take your license away from you. You shouldn't be allowed to have a car or a motorcycle

go to rehab

Gonna give this thread a second shot

It's hard to say without knowing you whether you had some bad apples or (given that a few people had the same response to you) you're not that self aware and don't realize that there's a reason for you being the element these issues have in common.

But either way, you should look after what YOU want in life. If you are happy being single and don't feel the desire to get with someone, why would you care how others live their life? And you can still decide you want to try to get laid every now and then without having a relationship.

>>17417100

Like I said I don't really care for purely sexual relationships, I'm mostly a pretty sentimental guy when I get going that mostly desires mutual intimacy more than anything else

I guess I still have some kind of hope that I'd meet someone decent for me but I don't feel like putting any effort into finding them because there are a lot of other things I'd rather pursue and my energy and time are finite resources

Ultimately I sometimes wonder if I'll come to regret those choices but for now they seem right, but the 30 years mark has been kind of a wake up call for some of my insecurities I guess.

>>17416976

The first year or two of college are general education anyways. You can go to school and get an idea of what you'd like to major in after your first semester or two.

I changed majors two years in and still made it out in 4 years.

>>17416979
I've gone for two semesters, though, and I took general education in high school, and I still have no idea what I want. Should I just take a break and do something else with my life until I decide?

I went to college without knowing what to do as a career. I wasted a few thousand dollars and then dropped out because I still had no fuckin idea after a year.
Now I'm 26 and still don't know. I work in a warehouse and it's total shit.

What the fuck is life?

Try kickstarter
A dude loterally got 82 grands for a fucking taco roll and he only asked for 15 bucks

>>17417083
I think im too proud to beg. But not too proud to smoke crack and drink a pint of vodka straight...hmm

>>17416968
I coulda sworn fromt he thumbnail it looked an ass cheek spread open to show the anus.

those wasp are gonna fuck you up m8.

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>wasps general /thread

you're in the wrong part of 4chan you dirty nigger

>>>/an/

>>17416956
Im asking for advice you turtleposting cunt
end yourself

Be honest with her about how both of them mean something to you. You shouldn't have to cater to her. Say that you love her but you're not going to stand for an ultimatum between her and your best friend. Don't cater to her irrationality es and enable further situations like this. She's the type of girl that'll cut you off from family too if she thinks she can.

>>17416924
I already told her. I just want to go to parties, hang out etc. with both of them. Should I force that?

>>17416886
are you really this stupid? You cannot expect to continue with your hot best friend the same as you did when you were not in a relationship. Back it off some or choose one.

Don't try to off yourself using pills. Far too often it doesn't work and fucks you up for life.

>>17416873
I live in Australia and we don't have guns. I just really need this depression shit to stop.

>>17416873
This

If you really wanted to kill yourself you wouldn't be using pills.

If you're still just talking you aren't in a relationship

First off, an LDR without actually ever meeting each other in person isn't really an LDR, and people should stop pretending it is. You're roleplaying boyfriend and girlfriend, but if she truly lives across the planet, it's very unlikely you're ever going to meet, and ever going to be intimate. Your friend is right that you should be talking to other girls in real life.

As for the broader question, there's nothing wrong with talking to multiple people at once, but I've normally found that if I have too many options all at once, I get too indecisive and end up with nobody. You could be different.

>>17416884
Is it worth asking her to make it "official"?

>>17416885
I plan to visit her country next year though. Also to add, this is the last time I'll ever consider or get myself into something "Long distance".

Also before I have ended up in a love triangle over a year ago which also messed me up, so I worry about talking to multiple people.

cut some onions

>>17416829
But that's not the same thing

>>17416824

Dig up the video of the nog throwing boiling water on a cat. Make sure you listen too.

If that doesn't make you cry, I don't know what will.