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This is an interesting question. Anyone you pay to kill you would insist on payment upfront, but if you pay the hitman already, why would he bother to do the job?

>>17417672
I'll schedule a wire transfer (or bitcoin) and unless I specifically call them to stop it, it will go through. It will then be in their interests to kill me.

>>17417664
Ha ha ha .
Qs?
Why ?
Personal info?
You going to donate your organs?

Please answer or you wont get my Solutions

What was this amazing thing that was brought into your life and how was it taken from you?

Happiness is a choice.

By relying on another person to provide your happiness, you are giving up your own agency to control your happiness. It's not at all healthy, and you should do whatever you can to reestablish your control over your happiness.

>>17417529
listen to this OP

Self bumping. Anyone? Maybe I am wrong and beijg too rejective with her? Even I thing this is the only ocassion I have been more 'rejective'.

>>17417430
Anyone please? Similar experiences?

Please

>>17417387
faggot

>>17417387

did the same 4 years ago. She was so hurt that she cut all contacts with me. I still miss her as a friend.

>>17417389
Why?

>>17417400
Isn't it enough time that you could hit her up again?

>>17417346
I realize this probably is the hardest part, but the first step to realize you haven't been fucking up is to stop thinking that you've fucked up. Typically it's a self-feeding pattern in which you do well but still try to find a small fault with what you've done. Just try to get better and ignore the faults.

You try really hard not to fuck up and eventually you might get lucky and it works out then it will all snowball from there. Maybe. Not everyone gets lucky, I guess. I'm in a similar boat. You might as well get out out there and roll the Bones anon.

practice metta for yourself and others

Sounds like you need a good dicking.

>>17417312
Let scientists examine you. Maybe they can figure out how to make all the other Arabs in Europe feel the same way.

I'm going t tell you the trutg before tgis thread becomes PC bullshit.
Race science is 100% not real. Made up. It's no arabs that are barbaric. It's muslims. The reason you feel this way is because most white people are brought up on enlightened liberal secular ideals. Most arabs are brought up in the most barbaric amd disgusting belief systems still present in the modern day.
Tell Mohammed to fuck himself amd start believing in liberal values, gays and women are equal, free speech is unlimited. Violence is bad. And non believers are probably just people who are better educated than you undeserving of a violent treatment.
If yu are already atheist, christian, or whatever you are probably fine to begin withOP.

Why are you trying to force it? Why's it so important to join a frat if that's not really your crowd?

lol
american culture's so fucking weird

>>17417305
set them up with some silly freshman pussy before the silly freshman pussy figures out to be real popular she needs to blow the whole house.

>>17417245
Haven't you already taken piano lessons? Having played the piano myself 10 years ago I actually picked up some sheets recently at a relatives place and played some. Most of it was just remembering all the notes and then practicing playing with both hands. Do you still remember how to read notes? In that case just try to find some sheets which fit your level or you really like.

The internet's full of resources to learn. Stop being so fucking lazy and go do some research. Get your music on, OP.

>>17417249
I remember how to read notes but I had never got fast reading them: usually it was faster to me to learn the song by memory and then play it, I would really love being able to just take a sheet and play it

I don't understand OP. You've clearly already decided to cheat on your girl with this older woman, so I'm not sure why you're here. Were you looking for someone to tell you you're not a total cunt?

Because dude, you're a total cunt.

>>17417156
Gross

The most disturbing part of this is that you're willing to cheat on your girlfriend.

If you want to break up with your girlfriend and fuck old cougars, then go ahead. But I don't think that you could just fuck her once and be done with it, unless you're so disgusted with her that you're turned off by it.

>>17417128
Op here, maybe I should note aswell that I get moments of EXTREME claustrophobia. My room is very small, and when I start thinking and introspecting I feel like the walls are too close and that I can't get enough air.

I get this even in wide open spaces to a lesser extent and it's more of a feeling of the world is collapsing on me.

Usually can take deep breaths or do some type of activity and it goes away. Working 2 jobs helps me keep my mind feeling useful because the activity prevents the claustrophobic feelings.

These events are usually accompanied by despair and loneliness. I have friends, family, and a lover but I've never told anyone about it. It's such a despairingly lonely occurrence, and think about things like "people will feel annoyed they had to be at my funeral."

>Growing way too fast?
Nah, I'd just say you're getting your shit together.

The problem is with the girl.
My only solution I can offer is this.
A) Go for a long distance relationship (I don't recommend this)

B) Save some $$$, and move in with her. If you have to, come up with an excuse so she doesn't think you're weird.

B) is a drastic option.

But this is your happiness. Come on. Money shouldn't be a huge deal here.

However, before you take B), I have to ask you:

Are you absolutely, 100% sure that she's also crazy for you? Are you sure this is not a phase.

I"m only asking because I don't know you. I don't know anything about your relationship. So I want you to ask yourself instead.

As for your claustrophobia, I'd recommend only telling a doctor about it.

But for now, move into a larger area.

But it seems that you feel like you can't do anything right. Or that you aren't being useful.
If you're not feeling useful, you feel the world collapsing.

I can tell already that you're better than 95% of college students who do nothing but party, get wasted, or play video games all day without doing anything.

You MIGHT have imposter syndrome.
It means that no matter what you do, you're not good enough.

Anyways if you need something to talk about just reply here.
http://www.fastcompany.com/3036006/hit-the-ground-running/8-practical-steps-to-getting-over-your-impostor-syndrome

>>17417292
After reading that article I definitely think I might have imposter syndrome. I always call myself stupid and say I suck at my hobbies. It's almost beyond being humble. I always compliment my SO on how damn smart she is because she really does impress me with just raw intellect even without as much schooling. I always call myself stupid with enough knowledge forced into my brain that people will pay me for it. I really do think I am stupid, and I can't accept compliments or gifts. I always talk my way out of them.

My SO keeps telling me though that I'm very impressive, mature, old beyond my years, a deep thinker, intelligent, but I always brush it off in a playful way. I want to find it flattering but I find it makes me feel not good enough when I get complimented. Like what people perceive about me is way to high.

I mean just some examples, she asked me to take an pattern is test online to show me I as intelligent. I scores a 145 which is bullshit, the likelihood that I am that smart is so miniscule not to mention it being an online test.

I was practicing a piece on my guitar called "preludio triston" and she wanted to listen. Told me she loves listening to me practice because my playing is beautiful.

I don't think my problem is necessarily with the girl. I think it's just making me realize how fucked I am in the head. I do think she is crazy for me, she's told me thing like I thought no guy could offer me anything but money until you came around. Obviously we still have to grow and find out if this is it.

I'm thinking about going to a campus counselor, this might be deeper running than I thought

>>17417127
>detailed rundown
wat

you really expect me to write "detailed rundown" about a thing that's meant to be random?

>what do you do?
I simply wait a bit and find some topic to talk. It's not rocket science.

bump

>>17417139
it's not random. i gave an example scenario. it's actually super difficult to judge what to do in these situations when you have social anxiety and freeze on the spot. I tend to get a bit too clingy with the people i know even tho I want to enjoy the party just as much as they do

>>17417127

>there's only 2 people you know somewhat well
Don't be that guy who tags along with the only people they know. Get out of your comfort zone and talk to other people.

> there might be free beer or something but you barely know the host

Don't mooch off the host. If anything, offer your own beer and/or weed to the host.

>who seem intimidatingly cool
Nobody is intimidatingly cool

If you don't go out and initiate talking to people, people are going to think you don't want to talk

Well these are women who have been driven to using dating sites so there's gotta be something wrong with them.

>>17417010
>It's retarded how much effort a guy has to put to get a women to respond, and all they have to do is just be there.
It's also retarded how much effort a woman has to put in to find a decent guy among the 100s of blatant "I'm 6.5 inches" she gets daily, in addition to the flood of beta "hey"s, until finally reaching posts of substance and trying to sniff out the insidious douchebags who actually seem okay at first only to turn out to be a waste of time at best.

It's hard for everyone. I don't really understand why you're having this issue when all 3 dates you've been on so far have been amicable.

And yeah, surprise, a website that requires you to advertise yourself attracts and nurtures narcissists. Don't forget that you're only trawling through the women, you'd probably find the same levels of narcisism in men (literal hunderedds of whom message women daily, as I said).

I've met a couple of girls off of dating sites and all of them, with the exception of one, were fucking crazy. One girl I met off of Tinder lied to me about being on the pill and could have straddled me with a kid had I not been smart and used protection all the time with her.

Another got mad at me when we were only on the second date because she went through my phone when she stayed round mine and saw that I had been messaging other people, I promptly kicked her out of my house at 4 in the morning even though she lived in the next city over, because if you're going to invade my privacy you can get fucked.

I did meet one girl off of OkCupid who was a really cool girl who I dated for a couple of months, but she was a little bit insecure in herself I think but nothing that makes her bad to be around.

>And is it safe to put a plastic sandwich bag up my ass?

Just buy some condoms man, come on

>>17417000
I don't feel like going to the store

>>17416963
Guy or girl?
Age?
Finger yourself

OP - Continued

>>17416957

So how do i deal with this? I feel so much pressure on me. I fucking hate myself like half the time because of the lack of sexual intimacy. If we don't have sex I feel like shit, if we do have sex I still feel like shit because it feels like she's doing it to make me happy.

It's just a never ending cycle.

>>17416957

Last paragraph, last sentence

>she doesn't like talking about what happened to her.

Should say >She doesn't like talking about sex because of what happened to her.

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Why can't you just be honest with her? you pussy ass vagina boy bitch queer faggot. you're insecurity is obnoxious. im surprised she only cried and didn't puke. kys

>>17416753

as long asu r not legit ugly you can dance hwoever you want and people will think its cute. even if its 'bad' people chalk it up to being quirky.

i dont even mean that in the beta mad 'GIRLS GOT IT SO EASY' way cuz im a faggot and dont care abotu that shit. its true. even if i dance bad guys just see it as fun.

but if ur unsure just sorta copy a friend. bob your knees and reload some guns

Step back, have a drink, and watch what other people do. Dances vary by club. A really trashy club might have a lot of grinding, a gothy club will have a lot of stomping, a rave-y club will have a lot of those weird hand motions like you're a waterbender.

Just see what other people do, and do that to the best of your ability.

Serious question: why do girls go to clubs?
Do they hope a 10/10 guy will just show up and pick them?

I get the sense that clubs are just full of poor 6/10 males going after 10/10 girls