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it´s just a bug. get over it

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holy shit nigga what is that

i grew up in nyc in the bronx but ive never seen shit like that and we had all that bullshit jesus

looks like some fucked beetle

>>17426981
I'm in Los Angeles. Do your roaches fly? These ones do, apparently.

Butt?

>>17426750
>looks good when short
how so?

also, clothes, grooming and attitude.

>>17426750
>>17426754
Yeah what's your butt like?

Also are you skinny?

If you have a butt, show it off, if you're skinny play to men's inner pedophile.

pokemon go is stupid.

randomly generated tokens on google maps

why? do you think it will make you a manchild? are you embarassed to like what you like? you are on your way to start putting up an act about someone you aren´t. that might go well for a while, but finally it will lead to disaster.
just stop trying to be more "mature and manly" than you are. also, i think it´s neat to go hunt pokemons with a guy.

it's not that fun anyway unless you play with friends or something

> no one wants to groom me and have statutory rape with me
> All I have is a loving caring bf who likes me for me, and not for pedophilic reasons
> I just want to cheat on him with a child rapist, help?

>>17426714
>immature or not crazy about me
Nope
You're the one who's immature. You don't need to become an even bigger child again, you need to grow up, and become a woman.

You just live off of people's attention. If you don't want to grow up and give content to your life, the only way to get that attention is either from inexperienced young men, who is as innocent as you were, and they will give you all the attention you want because they don't know better, or really old men who don't have opportunities anymore, and who will also give you all the attention because they know they can't do better and don't have better chances.

>>17426730
how do i give content to my life and stop living off other peoples attention?

>>17426661

It's hard to buy that there were no signs or anything leading up to this, were you guys truly happy together or just going through the motions? Why was she away for 2 months without you?

You probably saw this coming in some way, people dont just up and leave their partner of 3 years or longer when things are great back home.

>>17426694
she said she didnt feel loved by me. we had talked about it alot and she said that she loved everything else about the relationship. we pretty much never fought before she left and as far as problems go that was the only one

before she left there were absolutely no signs. i guess she wasnt truly happy though.

she went to africa to volunteer for 2 months. she said it was something she always wanted to do. i couldnt go with her because i didnt have the money but after this i think i shouldve tried to scrape something together

>>17426705

No you shouldnt have tried to do anything in hindsight, if she left you for another guy it was bound to happen sooner or later, this is who she is and you need to accept that fact. If she didnt feel loved by you thats a flaw in your relationship that you didnt meet her needs, you're just not her ideal partner, you would definitely suit a different person much better with your personality, this is how you should think about it. Some girls are extremely insecure and require a lot of reassuring and praising to keep their self esteem high, if they dont receive it from their partner they tend to look elsewhere to friends/family and when that fails to other guys.

I'm sure this new thing she has will go nowhere fast when she realises that the grass is not always greener and this new rebound/fling of hers will likely fizzle out.

>>17426624
start hanging out with other people more. stop wanting a girl "like her". every girl is different. you're still infatuated with her and the only way to get over it is see other people more (preferably girls but also guys ofc) and them less. you don't need to cut contact but prioritize others in your life more

>>17426624
you can never move on from the object of your obsession without removing yourself from them. You are the third wheel. At some point they will move on and leave you behind. You must also understand if she had really wanted you the two of you would be together but she chose him.

>>17426624
When she said she loved you, was it romantic love or loving friends and family love?
But to answer your question, hang out with other people, don't blank your friends, but you need to broaden your horizons.

it would have to be something personal. maybe try to get all family pics you can get a hold on and make a load of awesome scrapbooks. my mom had a few boxes of old pics in her attic and for her last bday i sneaked them out, organized them and made neat albums out of them. she cried when she saw them.
also, everything that you spend time with her. watch movies she used to love as a teen or kid with her. get one of those books like pic related and use the infos there to make her her fav meals, make her a playlist with her throwback music, and so on.
your most precious give is quality time and happy memories. smother her with that.

>>17426598
forgot pic. have a link instead. just an example, get something that you think is appropriate

https://www.amazon.com/My-Mom-Her-Story-Words/dp/1932319638/ref=pd_sim_14_1/157-3705292-6423166?ie=UTF8&dpID=41T3ML2tBTL&dpSrc=sims&preST=_AC_UL160_SR160%2C160_&psc=1&refRID=ADW8A8YHCS2HSVS282K4

>>17426601
also, try to find out what her favorite perfume was as a teen and get her a bottle. smells are a powerfull time machine.

>>17426575
For someone who is worried about being judged, you sound you're judging a lot too

>>17426659
How come you think I am judging a lot?

>>17426575
Why not both? If you are worried look for a club or society to attend after classes. You can meet new people there.

I get the importance of saving face but you can be discreet.

they love the feel of knowing that they just have to whisper in your ear and you´d fuck them in an instant. it´s a power thing. imagine you could just be a tad "nice" to girls and secure the possibility to fuck them whenever you want that way. you sure as hell would use that power all the time. they don´t think about following trough with it one second. just knowing they COULD is what they are after.

>>17426571
Are you sure they are flirting with you? Or that they're not attracted to you?

A lot of guys think I'm flirting with them, but when I meet someone new I am overly friendly and way to nice because I get shy.
I can't see why someone should flirt with you if they aren't attracted.

>>17426576
oh my sweet summer child. NOW BE HONEST YOU SLUT

>>17426522
>Any advice? Cheers
ask your mom for carrot cake for your 10th bday

Love is no fun unless it's mutual. Before you allow yourself to love her, makes sure she feels the same about you. Ask her out on a coffee date. A simple "Hey, want to grab a coffee with me sometime?" will do the trick. You'll most likely get an indirect answer if she isn't down. Something like "Sure! But I'm pretty busy these days".

The worst that can happen is she'll reject you. It's probably not going to be harsh. But if it were, she's not the kind of person you'd want to be dating anyway.

>>17426536
I should ask her. She actually works at a local coffee shop now when it's summer. Maybe I should go and ask her there? Would that work?

lost

yes, but its complicated.

>>17426518
complicated how?

you are her attention automat

This shit happens, man. Just dont put up with it and find someone else

>>17426509
The thing is, I'm not even giving her attention. I never initiate conversations and we haven't talked much. I'm literally not giving a fuck. I asked hee if she wanted to have lunch, she came up with a lousy excuse and I just said fuck it, let me know when you want to meet

Besides, she is fucking hot, she can literally have the attention of any guy she wants, so why would she contact someone she hasn't talked to in a month for attention? It doesn't make any sense

Feeling like an empty shell is the worst. Try some shrooms if you can. Also, just start doing stuff op. Take steps in your life towards something. Work out, start a project on something you know nothing about, just find something that you can measure progress on.

Write a list of all the things that you don't like in your life, then write a list of all the ways you can change each one.

But most of all, break your routine.

Have you tried not being a psychopath?

>>17426560
This, so much.

When I was depressed I felt nothing for 2 years. I couldn't even manage to cry when my brother killed himself.
What helped me was getting therapy, and doing things - working out, dieting, working on school stuff, learning a new language, starting to learn new things, improving my skills in artistic shit.

>>17426496
>I want a woman
>don´t know what i want

what now anon?

>>17426499
I should have been more precise: I want her but I don't know what I want from her (eg: I don't see myself in the future with this woman but I'd like it, and I'm not especially interested in sex).
My friends says it's a problem of confidence, that I don't feel like I'm good enough.

Why-is-this-board-so-slow kind of bump
Maybe it lacks a little bit of love.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=leXt4ilaPdA
Playing this one full volume in response to the thugs of my shitty neighbourhood playing rap.

>>17426476
Best solution to bullying is working out.

>I'm just wondering why people don't see when a student is struggling there are many factors to it, it's not just that he is a bad student or that he is unmotivated. It usually dives deeper, factors that go outside of school.

Usually because they just don't care. Teens and children often lack empathy and only care about themselves and people inside their little bubble. teachers probably understood your situation but couldn't really see a solution or were unable to do the extra work involved to help you.

>>17426485
(Not OP but) Except that working out isn't quite the solution, because you will get expelled or at least severely punished for using physical violence. So bullies can emotionally abuse you as much as they want, ostracize you and sabotage your group projects, but you can't hit them unless you want to be fucked over. Heck I know that the university I'm getting into, is given free reign to haze to the point of pseudo-raping the girls and singing rape songs, and the school only just decided to say "uh we might take action" after /years/ of (scathing) mass media attention. And still a lot of the students see nothing wrong with that scum behavior. I hope they fix it, because if not, I'm very likely to hurt someone, and of course I will be punished instead of the pseudo-rapist, who presumably leaves no cuts and bruises on the girl, even as they forcibly dunk her in the water

Working out helped me feel better, but it's useless for inflicting physical harm in any school setting, because bullies themselves are now reduced to forms of bullying which do not leave visible physical injuries. Working out doesn't intimidate bullies either because they know you can't hit them, so it's more important that they continue bullying the already-bullied target; if they give up, it makes them look weak and people get ideas. But working out might help if you have not been targeted yet.