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How does one move towards finding a relationship? I'm 20 and never have been in one before. I'm slowly building a social life and trying to work towards getting out daily and force me to talk to more people every day to develop my social skills, but I've never really had the experience of asking a girl out, much less going on a date.

What's your best advice for finding that girl?
(pic related, it's my face. I don't think I'm unnattractive per se.)

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hi /adv/
Someone special that was close to me for a short time ghosted me recently(no idea why). After a while of me realizing this, I, on impulse, made it so we basically cannot contact each other anymore(i regret) unless he were to really try; spoiler alert: he didnt.
I feel very hurt. He runs through my mind several times a day and this has caused me to be less motivated to do anything and more fatigued. I was already depressed and insecure(though cheerful when talking to him) but now I am severely anxious and suicidal.
I do not think that I will ever be good enough for him. It kills me to think that he does not care anymore. I try so hard to distract myself with hobbies, but the suffering comes back and I feel hopeless. I feel like he lied to me. I still care about him. I am worthless and very close to ending my life, since we all die anyway.
Anons, why did/would you ghost someone in a serious relationship?
How should I deal with it?

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>You like each other
>You wouldn't marry each other
>You don't know each other too well
>You are afraid of permanent STD's
>You hate condoms, not that they protect from STD's

Can anything be worked out here?

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Quick question for /adv/

Do women judge you by the past girls you've been with? Like if you have been with really hot girls in the past does that increase your chances or vise versa?

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I watch this kid on YouTube that has 31 subscribers. (I'm not going too name him). He's basically a filthy frank/leafy dickrider. He cracks racist jokes and shit. It's funny as hell. Am I creepy? I watch all of his videos.

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My best friend (if you could call us that) is a long-term /r9k/er, and this has come to explain why every conversation of sincere depth works its way (he does this) to the fact he isn't boning a girl he likes, nor has he recently...nor has he ever. Supposedly, this is because the world is inherently unfair towards his kind (however indescript that is), and women who /could/ be good partners to him are ruining themselves by being fat, liking things that are uncool or having unsavory personalities.

When the world isn't condemnable and evil for not having this hypothetical girl (he'll tell you it's evil because of things like the holocaust, but I'm pretty sure that's a crock of shit), he's busy loathing himself to such a degree that his positive traits get dragged through the mud, and he does this to himself.

We non-/r9k/er's poke fun at or ignore these people, but imagine coming to truly care about someone, only later to realize that they have been subject to group-brainwashing. (Some cults are relatively benign and self-inflicted by the followers long after the original creators are dead. If a cult mentality is set up to be enforced flawlessly by the followers, you don't even need anyone doing it on purpose or realizing that they are in a cult.)

It's a cult of 'virginity'. If you had sex with someone, then maybe it wasn't satisfying. If it was satisfying, then maybe you couldn't get the partner to stick around. If you get the partner to stick around, then maybe it's not one you like. It's a cult centered around the difficulty of reproduction and/or finding a 'soulmate'.

The, "I suck, you suck, we suck," mentality of these people is so disgusting that I would rather be conversing with a Neo-Nazi. At least an angry white supremacist would be able to be fucking positive for ten minutes!

I want advice from people not in the cult. If you have come here to defend /r9k/, please go back to whatever you were doing while I try to figure this out.

(continued/tldr below)

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Well, I failed my driving test again. Who else wants to talk about feeling like a raging failure?

Pic related, its a bus stop. It's probably going to be my only mode of transport from here on out.

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How do I not feel disgusted by my tits while I save up for surgery? When I go about my business all day it's always in my mind how those sloppy sacks of skin are attached to me, it's like they're melting urgggh. The texture they have is awful too because of the stretch marks.

How do I deal? It ruins my day most of the time

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Hi /adv/,

I've hit a little bit of a rough patch. I don't have anyone to talk to. I feel depressed, down and sad and I need to get through the next 8 nights (i work nights, sleep during the day until evening) in a job, that doesnt really require me to do anything (think a security guard in a graveyard)

The thing is, I need to have a beer and 4-5 shots of whiskey to get me through a night without feeling like shit.
Are there any health risks, that could occur after drinking like this every night?

Thanks for the responses

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Ask a former sperglord any thing.

I used to be like you; lost, confused, angry at women, angry at "chads", addicted to video games and convinced that the world was designed to oppress me. I decided to make some changes, force myself to get out and experience some of the rejection I spent my life trying to avoid and now I want to share what I've learned with you.

Hook ups, one night stands, fwb, relationships, or just socializing in general; I'll give you real ass advice.

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18, turns out im not cut out for the job i was hoping to have a career in.
I like computers, any viable careers that involve that?

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When girl stares at you from a considerable distance and bites her bottom lip... whats the message shes trying to get across.

I grew up into my early teens socially awkward and always looked down when i walked.
only in recent years ive had my shoulders back eyes forward abd come out of my shell. But my lack of social skills are failing me.

Alot of girls seen to be interested. The whole biting the bottom of the lip thing has become notacble as of late when making eye contact.

Do i introduce myself To these women or Are they just hungry.

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My landlord's annoyed that I'm always home.

He's from Taiwan and goes there every once in a while. His gf (both in their 60s, wife died like 6 months ago) is staying in the house for a month and then they leave for a cruise and other shit for a couple months.

I can tell he doesn't like that I'm always home. He's told me to get a gf and stuff but I'm always stressed and I don't really care about that right now. I think he just wants me to leave to have the house to the two of them, but I have no where to go. They get the house to themselves every day when I'm at work so it's not like I'm constantly home, just every night at 6. I bike to and from work and I only seem reclusive because I have no car and all my friends are work friends. He's talked to me about a few different things like drinking and stuff, too. I feel like he treats me like his sons with his asian parenting ways.

Should I talk to him about it? Is there anything to do about this besides waiting for him to leave? I don't know where the other tenant goes during the day but I wish I had places to go.

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My constant thoughts about what other people are thinking about me are pretty much destroying my life. I literally can't walk around in public or talk to people, especially women without being petrified by this phobia. When I'm laying in bed at night I realize how ridiculous this is and promise myself I'll stop letting it effect my life. Yet the next I'll do the same thing and I'll just be even more disappointed with myself. For instance, I literally can't talk to women without constantly questioning their motives. Usually I just assume women are being nice and that I'm really just annoying them.

The other day I was talking to this chick from one of my classes and was going to ask her if she'd like to study for the final with me over the weekend but I just completed froze up. I even saw her after class and the same thing happened. I'm almost certain she would have said yes because she has been having trouble in the class and I have an A yet I fucking blew it.

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I got into a coma in 2006. I'm an old fag and don't know what the fuck happened. It seems to me that the way of internet life is normal. This is weirding me the fuck out.