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Girls:
When you say you want the aggressive guy that goes for what they want does it also mean he has to be at least an 8/10?

There's a girl that I'm interested in and she says that she's tired of white guys, she said "I've never met a white guy that is aggressive and goes for what he wants" and that she's only interested in the "darker shades" guys because apparently to her they have this trait or whatever. I think I've been pretty "aggressive" and throwing a lot of hints at tber but it seems like she isn't interested. Obviously people want more than one trait in a person but if you're going to say "aggressive" just say, "ih and you have to be at least 6'2''.

I don't know, to me, it seems like she doesn't know what she wants and I'm starting to think that I'm wasting my time. So girls, is this trait common for women? Also what do you think about the girl I'm interested in?

I've got a question that hardly merits it's own thread, so I'll ask here. 20M btw

I'm in a new relationship of 3 months, my first one ever and I'm unsure if I'm doing things right.
We're both 20, and recently she told me she's got a problem with closeness, more accurately physical closeness. Like, no French kissing and we mostly just hold hands and hug at best, and kiss rarely.
I wonder if I'm fucking up something and this is and excuse, or if that's not the case, how to overcome this fear of hers, or whatever it is.
Also, is there any general guide for dos and donts in a relationship, or do I just have to continue with this trial and error method?

Bonus question for girls
How do I into kissing?
I figure you'd tell me the best what you generally like and dislike.

Girls what is it liking having guys/bf buy you stuff? I sort of get a power trip over having the finances to actually do things.

>>17428345

...Just break up, at that point. There's no tactful way to say "I hate this, but for some reason I'm going to 'let' you keep doing it." I don't think I'd be interested in having sex with someone who felt it was an unpleasant chore

"hey fuckboy, you aren't doing it for me so make it quick, the Golden Girls reruns are about to come on"

>>17428354
This isn't with a specific guy, but sex in general.

I can't pre-emptively dump every man on the planet before we met on the grounds that penises will be involved.

>and was a kissless virgin with crippling anxiety and no confidence with women until recently
Given your track record I'd just like to point out it's entirely possible she didn't mean intimidating in a good way.

This one chick I went out with said that my vocabulary turned her on, kek

>>17428449
We'll she sucked my dick that same night

thanks. I have a receding gum line on my right side its receded on about 3 teeth. Should vitamin C help this?

I have 5 front teeth showing cavities, and another two teeth in the back that have chunks missing.

My gums are crazy bad.

Where do I start and what kind of money am I looking at spending to get this fixed?

Another tip: Drinking water during meals is good, it removes acid while you're eating. Drinking soda or orange juice (acidic) without water is bad for your teeth.

Also, acidic drinks like orange juice are a lot less harmful served cold. I would avoid any kind of "lemon tea" (hot acid) it wil ldestroy your teeth.


>>17427793
>>17427787
I'm not a dentist so I can't say how much it'll cost to fix your issues, sorry. Vitamin C does help gums but you also need to stop damaging them: stop brushing them hard, brush the gumline gently so plaque doesn't build up on them, massage high at the gumline with a finger/soft brush.

I know that teeth AND gums can heal, but I've never had a serious cavity so maybe it is best to see a dentist if it's serious.

Keep in mind many dentists are interested in profit - if you take care of your teeth you won't need a dentist, just like taking care of your body will minimize the need for doctors.

>>17426726
In psychology, they linked that to his parents and how he was treated, mostly by the mother. He must realize the reason he's being turned on and why it's bad, that's the only way he'll get out of it. But it sounds easier said than done.

>>17426920
Do you have more detailed knowledge of the psychology of this?

>>17426923
I'm not really specialized in this. But I think this is what you're describing of your friend. psychcentral.com/disorders/dependent-personality-disorder-symptoms/

In the end, better get him to face his problem in his relations, and then get a specialist. I'd say you need to avoid making an early jugement about him and what I'm showing you, there is no way for us to know if that is the problem, just make him realize how dangerous he is too himself.

>>17419822
About the other night when I said I love you at that moment. I don't mean to scare you away... I feel like its too early for me to have said it. "love" is a crazy word I can't warp my head around it right now it depends on the person and feelings. That word is really powerful I did not expect myself to say and I am not running either. I am here for the long run, I don't quit! Until you say so... I don't think it has to be felt both way too right away. When a person cares it will show. I just happen to say it in that moment thinking out loud. Its mixed feeling It feels too early on my part to have said that. I am not taking my words back because I felt something that night , I am explaining it to you. Lets take things slow, I am in no rush right now in life. Don't put too much thought in it..... I know this pressure on you it was not my intentions. I hate myself for doing that to you but I need to explain this to you ok. I like dating you, I still have a lot to know about you. I don't even know if I said it. I keep playing that moment and I don't know. But I do know things have changed between us... We both rocked each other's world for us to think about it. I don't dwell in the past like this.

Someone said I had to talk it out because its not smart to ignore the person, it doesn't solve the problem hahaha. I like to learn from life and I thank you for that and I want to learn more.

The more I think about the things you said to me, even after leaving, the more I come to realize you weren't the one for me. The more I come to see how toxic and how much of a bad influence you were in my life.

G,

I wish you remembered the good times
When you were breaking up with me, I was remembering the wonderful times we had, like that wedding weekend, we stayed in that hotel
i'd walk into the bathroom while you were doing your makeup and I'd wrap my arms around you and kiss your neck and cheeks and watch you. I remember trying to wake you up early in the morning, you weren't wanting to get up, but every time I'd nudge you, you'd open your eyes and look at me and smile, I'd kiss you, I laid there moving my hand along your arm and across your chest, our toes wrapped around each others
That's what I was thinking of, when I told you I wanted to do anything to fix our problems, when I said I wanted to put in all the effort I possibly could, I meant it
Why weren't you thinking of those same times? Why did you do this to me?
You weren't bad, people will say we broke up cause we just weren't meant or whatever, I'll find someone better, but you weren't the problem, you were perfect to me
I'm sorry, I regret everything that happened this past month, I'd do anything to change it, I love you still, and forever

he was her plan B
you're plan A

Go for it faggot, what are you stressing about? She likes you.

>>17430833
How should I go about telling her? There's more behind all of this, but if I did tell her, how should I phrase it out?

>>17430828
Alright thanks bud, that actually gave me some confidence. But like, I know I like her, but she said "I know the other guy likes me, and it would be awkward if I did go to the movies with him". Does that mean I'm instantly just a friend to her?

Sounds like you are the virgin.

>>17430686
no way she's a virgin

>>17430692
We don't live in the U. S. of A., Your promiscuity has not invaded us just yet but it won't be long.

>>17430691
To be honest all of my partners, but this one, have been older than me by a noticeable margin. Lost my virginity at 13, but it's not something to be proud of, as I had no idea what was going on. Exposure to the chans at 15 kinda twisted my view on relationships and sex. Getting laid was easy in the slums, where I grew up, and as a minor getting alcohol and drugs was as easy as going to the grocery store.
Fucked up relationships all the way until I got into university, this girl is so good, all around, that sometimes I find it hard to believe.

Hell, treat me as a a virgin if you want, cum production should be about the same.

>>17430683
It's all in your head and the only way, i know, to convince your head that it's wrong is through exposure.

>>17430683
Back page>escorts>call>?????>profit

>>17430683
pretend you are not a kissless virgin
surround yourself with people who don't know

>>17430674
As I was spiraling into something of a depression from that ordeal, I was caught by a 5"2 gem stone thatll remain nameless. We worked at the same pita pit and I swear, I know this sounds cheesy but it was like love at first sight almost, like when I saw her, she was so tiny and pretty and everything. So id try my best to get put on her work teams and shifts, so I could talk to her.
We had a break at the same time this one time and I basically asked if I could go to her house with her and she agreed, ( we had talked and joked around on our shifts before this ) So there I met her isster and her dog, it was funny because her dog and I were both basically missing an eye.

After all that we worked together less and less but did resolve to go to the movies, she had a boyfriend, and in truth I wasn’t ready for another girlfriend.
So we are sitting in the theater, its just starting to darken, and I cant remember what I said but it was something teasing and she like, kicked me? I don’t know but it was weird to me and made me blush a little , she laughed at me, we watched the movie and left.

I was forgetting all about my last relationship them roe her and I talked. Well one night, I was upset over stuff, not like crying or nothing just like damn, and she messaged saying I should come to her friends house tonight, it was just them, her and her friend ( who is a girl that identifies as a boy I guess ) So I go, and they are watching Disney but im more watching her, she looked like a child sitting in front of that small television.
Its time for bed now, and her friend sets up all these cushions and blankets on the ground and I lay down, im not gonna be weird or nothing but I will say she was acting shy around me which isn’t her at ALL. Well suddenly I feel her getting closer to me and she ends up hugging me from behind, I turn around and put my arms around her, and we start kissing and basically we fell asleep on each other for the rest of the night.

>>17430674
After that we became an item, our first date was at her house playing wii.

Basically I lived with her, I stayed at her house every night, her mom loved me, her sister was okay with me, and her dad, well I don’t care he was just a chubby drunk that never left his room anyway.

None of her parents knew I was there for many nights though so id have to wake up really early to sneak out of her house, bypass her dogs, all that, and get to school ( she was odler and already graduated )
And after school, she would still be right where I left her waiting for me, considering I got out at 12.09 she was sometimes still asleep, and id watch her and , I know it sounds to much like a movie but id just lose my mind, I couldn’t understand how one person could be so perfect.
It was sunny when we started dating, we both left pita pit, I was now a manager at Boost Mobile, she didn’t have a job but that was ok because I spoiled her.
Really we would just lay in her room I the basement, watch tv, make love ( on average about 5 – 8 times a day ) joke around, her laugh was beautiful I wish you could have heard it.

And there were moments that were to perfect to even seem real,

There was a time where a lightning storm was going on outside, it was so cool to me I remember because it was random, no rain only lightning, and my house was empty so I had her come over , and I invited my friend I train with and his girl, and we all go outside, he and his girl go off into the dark ( I lvied across from a big field and it was night time ) But me and mine just sat there in the grass, looking at each other, the blue hue of the lightning would soak so easy into her perfect pale skin and finally e kissed, and I could see the streaks of lightning dancing across my eye lids, it was beautiful.

Her house now was horrifically dirty, it was really her families fault, but I mean it was like a foreclosed home for real, there was so much trash and dog shit all over the floor upstairs you literally could not see the carpet, and they were planning to leave her father behind, which they truly had to, and they had to clean, idk why their mother insisted, but ya, I spent my entire day from 10 am to 3 am the next morning cleaning the upstairs, it was gross and my body hurt from the constant bending over, she helped but there was glass in certain places and really I just asked her to stay back. Finally towards the end my body was tired and I was just wobbly, and she walked up behind me quietly and grabbed me around my waist , and slid down the wall, she basically put me in her lap and held me. She was just talking to me, I was to tired to remember, but I fell asleep in her little arms until she realized she couldn’t carry me to the bed, and we walked and went to bed in her room,.

So I helped them move and moved in with them, they were afraid of her dad going crazy and going after them, and I was prepared to end him if he got close to them. I didn’t matter anymore to myself compared to how much she mattered to me, see I could have easily killed him hand to hand, but he would have shot me.

>>17430658
Stay the fuck away you Moorish rape baby. You southern European scum ain't welcome here. Fuck right off, Finland is for Finns. Do not taint my homeland with your foul presence.

>>17430690
How do Finns feel about Germans/Austrians?

>>17430658
I don't have any clue on what to do in that situation. Perhaps if you have the money you could stay in a hotel until you find a more permanent place to live. Good luck OP.
Sorry that you have to deal with >>17430690 being a racist shitbag.

Shave your head and move on. Seriously. The same thing happened to me.

You can't hide it, you can't pretend it isn't happening, just deal with it as best you can.

>>17430556
Kill yourself so I don't have to be lumped in with you.

>>17430556
I'm a girl with a thing for bald guys and nice physique

I don't see a problem with it, just work on bettering yourself. men were not all meant to have hair. don't get sad op. I hope you get over it. my bf is bald and I love it

>other good pirate sites

sorry senpai, as far as i'm concered pirate bay is your best bet for now.

There are mirrors of the last known image of KAT. They are almost 3 weeks old though, so if you are looking for newer releases try somewhere else.

1337x dot to

How do you know you orgasmed?

>>17430473
It's called a female wet dream, hun. Just roll with it.

>>17430476
Because I know what an orgasm feels like?

There was a sudden building feeling in my clitoris, a release, then my vag spasmed for like 30 or 40 seconds along with euphoria throughout my body.

This isn't the first time I've cum, it's the first time I've cum while asleep tho.

fuck me, faggot

>>17430452
This whole "select the images of the store front" stupid shit that 4chan has going now is absolutely ridiculous, seriously this site is a joke, if there is anyone above the age of 13 here I will stay, otherwise I am fucking off, this is a serious let down.

Before I go, can someone at least direct me to a site where people over the age of 13 post? Hopefully the people there can direct me to a site where people over the age of 16 post.