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Not sure if the girl i am dating has lost interest or if she is busy. been dating her for a few months. was going well. for about the last week she has started to ignore my texts mid convo, and when i mention about going out she has stopped acknowledging it. not sure if i am just talking to her at a busy time because she works 5 times a week, and doesent get home until about half 7. She used to text me more or less all the time. Should i say something to her or stop trying? i cant be bothered putting in the effort if she is just fucking me about.

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>father's business got bankrupt four years ago
>five years ago he bought his $50 000 dream car on leasing, even though he should have invested into business expansion
>he never had any financial reserve
>he was personally reponsible for his fault as an engineer and the fault of his business due to his irresponsible approach
>his corporation did not have enough cash to pay for debts
>all his belogings got into foreclosure
>he can't oficially work now without having all money he makes transfered to his creditors
>he recieves state pension that does not enable him to fully cover his expenses
>eight years ago, he and my mother have left to me one investment property and the other one to my brother
>I have rented it ever since, my brother has sold it off
>now he demands to give him about 40 % of my rental income to help him, my brother did not help him, ever
>I have been helping him this way for five years
>he did not have created any financial reserve
>still can't work
>will never be able to pay off his debts
>still rides in his dream car that was assigned to my name before foreclosure
>goes on holiday two to three times a year for the money I gave him

Should I keep helping financially to my father anymore? I feel I am being totally exploited if I continue like this.

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> Do you cinsider cheating if you make out for three/four seconds with another girl and then you back off?
> First time cheating in my 24 years

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If a girl cheats on you, why would you hate her lover? What if she cheat him as well?

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Is it possible to find a job you enjoy? It seems like every job has its own shitty aspects and a lot of them are no longer enjoyable thanks to factors such as workplace politics and a shitty boss.

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My sister's 13 and is dressing like how most girls her age seem to. A kind of cutely tacky attempt at sex appeal. It really bothers my mom and dad and, since my sister and I are really close, they want me to basically get her to stop.

It is a bit much at times, how should I go about it?

I was thinking about asking her why but I know when I was trying to compensate for my masculinity at her age I didn't really know why. Should I just tell my parents to chill? I kinda feel they're being prudish and us strong arming her into an ankle length skirt will just do more harm than good.

So actually...

Should I do what my parents told me, if so how?

Or should I tell my parents to chill?

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I need help overcoming my germaphobia because I fear it's getting out of hand. I've been living with my sister and her family and I've been handed a place to sleep in (no door just a couple curtains to cover my pace). However, she has a cat and she says that she got the shots for it and I'm trying to believe her (doesn't have records but says she has "receipt" that she lost)


My sister tries to keep the cat as an indoor cat, but occasionally, her family leaves the front door open due to carelessness and the cat runs out. Yesterday, the cat left and was out for about two hours and it's the longest it's ever been out. It left today for about an hour and its paws were dirty as hell when it came back. Fast-forward to a few hours later and the cat is running around my bed. Now I'm scared to sleep in my own bed and I don't have a spare blanket nor some sheets to change the bedding.

tl;dr
How do I get over my germaphobia so it doesn't control my life and how do I rationalize being okay to sleep in my own bed?

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I dont know why but I seem to attract crazy/manipulative women but ive learnt that 5 years ago
>be with gf for over 2 years
>very manipulative and controlling but just felt as if I love her
>lately shes been secretive and even lied about being over some guys house which she admitted to
>I confronted the guy and he said nothing has happened an she was the one that initiated going to his place
>today she said she was going to pick me up so her phone is off
>an hour later she rings me saying she with her gf
what should I make of this? is she lying again?

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>edgy asshole who treats everyone like shit, even his own friends
>thinks that admitting that he's an asshole is an excuse
>will go out of his way to insult you no other reason other than you don't share his taste in anything ever
>extremely egocentric and narcissistic
>neckbeard that will scream "god isn't real" or "all fake" when religion is mentioned in any context
>will tell me that he has superior intellect or is better than me as a human being because he scored better on a test or some shit
>calls himself a cynic just because he's an asshole
>this shit happens way too often: he's listening to music at the same time as someone else and he will turn off his own music just to insult the other guy's taste in music (even tho he listens to linkin park and korn unironically lol)
Is there any way I can deal with this other than punching him in the nose? He thinks he's my friend and actually talks to me, but he's such an edgy piece of shit that every single word that comes out of his mouth makes me want to kill myself

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How can I get my full strength erections back?

Ive been fapping for years due to a long dry spell, and now with some girl and cant get hard like i used to. Im not overweight and I exercise pretty regularly. I drink and smoke quite often though and my diet is pretty crappy. I think its because all the fapping. Also, need tips on lasting longer

Thanks

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last night my gf asked me how big of a number is too big of a number, like at what point in my mind does a girl become a slut and undateable because of the # of partners

I never asked her number of partners before we started dating, so I just said the first number the came to my mind. Seven. I thought that was a pretty liberal number, but fairly realistic as well. My number is only 4.

She started crying, and when I tried to ask her what was wrong she said nothing and went and slept on the couch.

Now she is being a total bitch to me lately, so obviously it bugged her, except I know she hasn't slept with more than 7 guys, she's only had 3 boyfriends, so why is she so upset?

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Adv, I'm going to be as open about this as I can be.
I seem to be "that guy" lately and I don't know what I can do about it at the moment. I'm being ghosted by everyone. No one is replying to my calls or texts and when they do, it's way later or obviously half assed. I'm doing a lot to better for myself but the change is difficult. I'm changing my diet, my clothing to more fashionable attire and I recently got a car. I'm becoming a better person and it feels good.

Yet, my couple circles of friends seem to not be interested in talking to me much about anything. Whenever we do stuff, I'm always the one to set it up.

I guess I'm just tired of feeling like I'm not desired as a friend. Should I just try to meet new people and move on? I'm a guy in his mid twenties. I have all these friends but I feel alone.

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I feel like I'm at a breaking point here,
Been in a relationship almost 2 years with a great girl, both of us are happy and I've really developed emotionally a lot being my first real relationship. I fuck up a lot though and try to get better at communication and I feel like I have. Since we started dating my grades have dropped a bit, not alarmingly but enough to notice and this summer I've been working with friends on this amazing opportunity. Increasingly though I feel like she's making me choose between what I'm doing at school/ my career to be with her. The thing is though I feel like I'm in the wrong because I've flaked so much/ not communicated, she is needy but always there for me. I'v had this idea in my head that it is possible to work on my career and school and have a fulfilling relationship but more and more I'm afraid I'll have to make a choice and I know it's not going to be her if it's an ultimatum.
I wrote it out simplified but there's a bit more to it and it feels so shit bros, can you offer some advice?

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If you cut your arm up and put it in water to ensure that it won't dry before you bleed out, does your entire person need to be submerged in water (such as in a bathtub), or will putting the arm into a bucket do?

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I just feel as though I'm pretty worthless by any definition of the word. I don't have any real presence anywhere. My art isn't good enough to be noticed by anyone, none of my friends,not even my family ever invite me to do anything. I legit think that if I were to suddenly die tomorrow, nobody would really give a damn. Sure they'll come out of respect for the dead/death in the family and what not, but after a few days, It'll be like nothing even changed.

I can't even feel happy for any of my friends' achievements anymore. My childhood friend got married to his high school gf right after college a few months ago, and he's most likely going to be pretty damn successful in life,knowing him. Didn't even invite me to the wedding, and we've known each other since kindergarten. Sure he's moved on but I am pissed at him that his life is going just fine. Then, all my college friends are all doing amazing things, one of them even got to draw for adult swim on livestream yesterday,and while that is pretty cool, I'm just sitting here upset and jealous of him. Then a bunch of others are uploading their drawings and animations to facebook, they get like at the very least 10 likes or some shit, I post my art and I get fucking nothing. Hell, I fear that once I graduate from college, none of my friends will remember me. Not only will I be pretty fucking lonely, all the networking I've tried to do would be effectively lost.

I just want to be somebody special to somebody. I want to impact somebody's life the same way they impacted mine, but nobody cares. Like shit,dude if my life was a tv show, I'd be the background character of it all. I don't even feel like working on my art anymore, because nobody's even eager to see it.

Tl;DR: I want to be the special snowflake,but there's nothing special about me at all. I'm so painfully average and insignificant.