So guys I work at a store as a cashier. Last tuesday some customers dropped their debit card and I picked it up and put it on a drawer in case they came back. I felt very tempted to use it and I did. I bought an Iphone 6 on amazon. The customers went back to the store the next day and picked up the card (It was a business debit card). I know I shouldn't have done it but the Iphone is already shipped and everything, I just have to go pick it up at the post office. I'm scared since I think I can get in big trouble for that. Can I get arrested??? What should I do? Please help
Hahahahahaha
>>17429670
It's not even funny. I don't know what to do. I need help. Seriously
>>17429673
If this isn't a troll, you certainly just committed a felony. Ditch the iPhone and don't say anything about this again.
Hey /adv/. I am a girl who used to never do any sports. Recently I am into jogging and swimming. How much should I aim to jog/swim per week? I want to improve the distance that I can run/swim without stopping. Also, if I run a lot, will the distance that I can swim without stopping also improve (i.e. is improving one skills correlated to improve the other)? Thanks?
>>17429599
I want to fuck that pokemon
you do as much swimming as possible because you have exactly 27 days left of summer until you get insta hypothermia
>>17429599
Running is something you should take slow getting into it.
If you feel any soreness in the ankles or legs, espeically anything sharp, then take a few days off.
Swimming is a bit more flexible.
I say do an amount (of both) that you feel comfortable sticking with. Like, if you feel like you can for sure do 3 days a week, do that.
And then add to that little by little.
Instead of getting really into it for a month and then getting bored.
I did something super disgusting and abhorrent . The worst part is a I think my friend noticed. If he tells others I'm fucked. What do I do? I tired pretending like nothing happened but it's not working.
>>17429596
Deny to the end.
Also, tell us what happened. This is annonymous.
What did you do? It might not be as big a deal as you think it is.
>>17429610
>>17429607
It's bad..so we were at a park helping kindergarteners do some activity for school. At one point It was my friend, two children and I near the edge if the park helping them with a scavenger hunt. I dont want to say why but I was kinda rubbing my penis with my hand that was in my pocket. I really didn't mean for anyone to notice and I immediately regretted it.
/adv/ please help me flirt with the cute waitress at my local cafe.
Usually I wouldn't hit on an employee of a shop/cafe while they're working but she's done some things that make me think it's fair game.
I'll greentext the situation and let you guys decide whether I'm in or she's just a flirt.
> go to a local cafe for months regularly to study and hang
> girl in question, Sarah, starts working there
> we have some awkwardly long eye contact in the first few weeks
> start to have some banter, get to know her, she's the cafe owner's sister
> around 5 years older than me, extremely pretty, I'd classify her as out of my league but I think I'm pretty harsh on myself
> the banter continues, every time I go in she goes out of her way to come over and say hi
> one day I'm talking to one of her colleagues whilst they're on a break, a cute hipster girl who's been there for ages, as I'm leaving, Sarah goes "Mark! Have you met Cassandra (the hipster girl)? She's single!"
> this threw me off completely of course, as I'm into Sarah and though maybe she was into me
> anyway, weeks pass, we continue to flirt, then one shift as I'm leaving she goes "Are you coming in tomorrow? Come in, I'm working."
> I go in, they're busy with no free tables, so I leave
> more time passes, I get Sarah's email as I ask her to fill out a survey for me (I'm a psychology student and am currently running a study)
> she emails me back "I'll do it as soon as I get a chance Mark, Sarah x"
All this has left me so confused as to whether she's interested or not. Then today, once again, as I was leaving she said "Come in this afternoon for a coffee, I'll still be here." I told her I couldn't, because I actually can't, but that I'd come in tomorrow.
Based off all this - is she into me or is she a massive flirt?
If she is into me - how should I ask her out? I have her email but it would be weird to ask her out via email. In the cafe it's always busy and intimate.
Help me please /adv/. Thanks.
She's hooking you up with that hipster girl and keeping you around so that you could run into her friend again.
>>17429617
Hipster girl only works there one day a week though and Sarah's told me to come in on days when she isn't even working, what's up with that?
>>17429634
>dating your coworker
hmm
But still, she likes being with you.
My ex started talking to me again. Added me back on IM. Txts me something every so often. We chitchatted alittle bit, but why is she doing this? We broken up a year ago. Does she want to be friends or is she just wanting me to know how great her life is?
What is she talking to you about?
Sounds like she misses you
>>17429611
we haven't talked in a year, it's just been mundane stuff like what song she likes or stuff that reminded her of me.
>>17429621
What should I say? Should I ask why she's talking to me? I still care but just barely, so it's a weird mix and I don't want to burn bridges but.. It's just not something I thought I'd have to deal with.
Hey guys. First time posting here so I'm not sure how this works. Take it easy on me I guess.
Alright, so a year ago I broke up with my girlfriend of 6 years. I was developing a depression, and when I told her about it (and that I was seeing a psychiatrist), she said it was fine and that we'd get through this together. I felt really thankful for that, but... About a week or two later, I find out she cheats on me. Tried to confront her about it, she broke up and said "You're not the same person I used to know, it's like you don't love me anymore". I felt really bad about it, but thought maybe she was just a bitch. Hurt a lot, but it was her fault, not mine.
One year after, I am still constantly thinking about her, about what happened, and I don't know what to do. On one hand I don't want to even look at her, on another hand I still love her and miss her a lot. What do I do?
>>17429543
don't use a name or yo'll get chased out of 4chan in matter of seconds.
You'll find someone like her sooner or later, and maybe then it will work out. Give yourself time. I still think about my first boyfriend (we were tgether for 4 years) and regret the breakup, but the life goes on.
>>17429548
oh sorry, didn't know about that name thingy.
It feels like she was the one and that I don't want anyone else, but on the other hand it feels like what she did was unforgivable.
>>17429548
God I hope your name isn't Michelle
Does anyone ever get a really terrible, creeping anxiety that their whole being is ridiculous? When I was young, it used to come as reflection on some silly mistake I made. As an adult, it's more of a fear that my essence or core being is a silly mkstake. This always happens in bed at night.
I know you guys are gonna bust by core being for this, so that I spill my essence all over the thread, but I would seriously like some feedback. If you experience anything like this, please reply.
Further details: my mind then goes to places like, "What if everything I'm doing is a mistake? What if I am the very silly meme and everyone I associate with a.) doesn't know, or b.) doesn't care?"
Hmm, nihilistic existential doubt is not that weird.
Your feeding into your own narrative of reinforcing low self esteem.
Yes, occasionally I feel crushing bouts of internal anxiety about my place in the world.
Everybody cares a bit generally, the social etiquette is to be polite and concerned for other peoples welfare, with good friends it's genuine, but you should recognize that it not other people's place to offer you constant social validation either.
I struggle with both the things you described, I'm 'normal' to the extent that life is stressful and I experience periods of vulnerability and depression.
Mostly that internal routine of excessively questioning all your actions is self-defeating, a little bit helps keep you in check if what your doing is reasonable to other people.
>>17429547
>this little bit of fear keeps you conscious of whether or not what you're doing is ridiculous to other people
The fear is about things outside of my control I guess. What if like, a certain facial expression I'm not consciously making is destroying 50% of my opportunities, and I just can't know? Another one would be, what if my life course looks relatively reasonable but is actually a road to ruin?
Then there are diffetences of opinion. For instance, someone might say I am helping support the economy and keeping myself happy when I buy a thing, whereas others would say my spending violated certain conditions and that I have a clear spending problem.
Just the other day, two people I knew said that a gift I bought was very selfless and sweet, whereas one other said the gesture was naive and the money spent was not optimal to my survival.
That's all open to interpretation, but the example about unknowingly making a face that say ruins 50% of dates and interviews is really horrible. That's similar to a fear of cancer (that will be detected and non-fatal). My only way to cope with a fear like that is to dismiss it before I give myself OCD.
>>17429568
"The fear is about things outside of my control I guess."
Most things in life are outside of your control, it's something everyone has to cope with.
"What if like, a certain facial expression I'm not consciously making is destroying 50% of my opportunities, and I just can't know?"
I doubt that, people look at a variety of things when decoding other people's behavior. If your having a lot of trouble decoding emotional cues you might have mild Aspergers ( not trying to put you down but that's a common problem), or your general anxiety is interfering.
"Another one would be, what if my life course looks relatively reasonable but is actually a road to ruin?"
Um you don't really know, I can tell you being slightly older your going to fail many times, it's something you just have to get progressively better at coping with.
the other things you described, it sounds like your putting an unreasonable amount of value on other peoples opinions. You can be polite and except people's feedback without being completely emotionally impacted by it.
Socially you sound like a lot of people, you don't know your place in the world or secure in your social attachments, and that feeds into anxiety and the problems with fear and emotional interpretation.
I'm really not perfect so take my advice on face value: i think you should figure out what activities make you feel most grounded in your identity. If you feel solid in what your doing it will help with some of that stress, your more likely to meet people with similar interests that you feel like you can have honest dialogues and feel less self conscious around. If you feel grounded in something like that, a lot of people's judgements and opinions will matter a lot less to you.
Hey /adv/,
So I met a girl on a dating app about two weeks ago. We don't know much about each other yet but we seem to get along pretty well. We've been texting daily. Recently she's started sending hearts/kisses as goodnight texts, which I think would be unreasonable to do at the moment because we haven't even met in person yet (for example, we could meet in person and not like each other but be fine over text).
So is it a friendly thing, or what?? Opinions please?
(Sorry for the seemingly meaningless post, I'll sage it after I get some opinions)
you met on a DATING app
the whole purpose is to get together, not to be just friends.
>>17429525
Yeah shit you're right. Sorry I'm stupid. Saging
When it comes to dating apps, generally you want to spend as little time chatting online as possible, and instead try to meet up after a small number of days. One way to get closer to meeting in person is to go from texting to calling her, to webcam-chatting on skype (dressed of course) which would make it less awkward meeting irl later
So I deleted my facebook earlier today. Have any of you anons? As addicting as it is to use I a afraid ill be back. What do you think?
I don't see any benefit to deleting my facebook, so nope. It's the only way I keep in contact with my family, and I much prefer keeping them at arm's length like that. In fact, I'm thankful for facebook, because without it I would either have to call/text them or cut them off entirely. This is a perfect middle ground for me.
Also it helps me keep in contact with old friends from high school in the same way. It's nice how we're all are friends on FB after all these years even if we don't really chill anymore.
>>17429509
You did the right thing.
Facebook promotes social exclusion and using people as a product. It promotes narcissism, and the worst kinds of social competitiveness.
It's been proven to increase depressive and anxiety symptoms.
And other than that? Do you really want a constant reminder of all the shit you did in 5 or 10 years time. For everyone to look back and see?
Congratulations, now make sure to remind everyone any time any kind of social media comes up in conversations.
Are my toes webbed or no? This is my first time posting and I would really appreciate some honesty. Thanks
Those are not webbed.
>>17429501
https://www.google.com/search?site=&tbm=isch&source=hp&biw=1280&bih=891&q=webbed+toes&oq=webbed+toes&gs_l=img.3..0l10.2611.4559.0.4679.11.11.0.0.0.0.111.799.8j2.10.0....0...1ac.1.64.img..1.10.798.vzFG_mhyegk
>found a document at work
>it's a satirical bunch of shit-talk about how negative the navy is compared to the air force
>"Delegating is a sign of weakness. If you want it done right, do it yourself."
>"If you are not worrying about work, you must not be very committed. We will find someone who is."
>"Shut your cabin door and lock it from the inside so that no one will distract you. They are just trying to reduce your productivity."
>"If you think something is dragging you down, suppress those thoughts. Drink more coffee."
>"Always attempt to do everything. You ARE responsible for it all. Perhaps you have not read thoroughly your job description."
>"Never say no to anything. It shows weakness. Never put off until tomorrow what you can do at midnight"
>"If you find yourself relaxed and your mind wandering, you are probably having a detrimental effect on [project progression]."
>"Stop thinking about your own problems. If your values change, [we] will [call you] and let you know."
Are these things supposed to be mistakes or bad or whatever? I don't feel they are. I identify with them very well. Is that why I'm unhappy? I feel like not acting this way would hurt all aspects of my life, and that I already did is the only reason my bosses have ever called me a good sailor. And at the same time, even when I don't believe that all things are my responsibility and that it's my responsibility to be perfect, everyone else makes it my responsibility.
>>17429435
You can always request a career change in the armed forces. It's quite simple if you're currently serving and some special forces even require that you have served in a different branch.
Your experience in multiple roles could be valuable for career progression but more importantly it could mean you will be happy with your life.
Think carefully on it as it's not something to do on a whim.
>>17429492
you have missed the point entirely and only reinforced my thinking that nothing can be left to a subordinate, I have to do everything myself, and yet, everything I do is automagically wrong
I don't understand what you're asking, can you put it another way?
Should I get some fake Yeezys for ~$20? I like the design but would like to avoid getting made fun of because I don't want to spend $1000 on the originals.
>>17429403
No they're meme shoes.
There are plenty similar, always get legit shoes, fake and cheap shoes can end up giving you bad health problems. I used to work in a shoe shop, I know.
Nike and Adidas has stuff like that. That material isn't exclusive to Kanye West. You just gotta wear their brand, although you might be able to get one without a logo that stands out (I did). Mine are in the mail, all black as well, although theyre tennies and not runners.
Just take the new Yeezy pictures and ask /fa/ for something similar. Thats gonna get you roasted but my point is that this stuff is not exclusive to Yeezy.
>>17429423
Those are athletic shoes and kanye memes
Nig shoe is a racist not specific term and makes me think of white and laser red jordans. Athletic casual is huge with white ppl actually.
Will make it as short as i can.
>One year ago ended my relationship, one of my longest ones so far
>It was with one guy my pack of friends knew and reasons were far too complicated to just list out
>Fast forward, it's 2000+16
>Hang out with this pack of friends
>Romantic interest in one of them
>Someone starts asking me about my relationship with that guy i broke up with
>Keeps pushing me on this topic
>I was too excited for my own good at that point and i really didn't watch what i was saying, and didn't really mind this conversation
>He asks why i broke up with him instead of trying to make up
>Really don't want to go into this, panic a little
>Because of how excited i was my mouth was faster than my mind
>I'm not even entirely sure what i exactly said, but the point was that the reason was this guy i'm currently interested in
>It was actually one of least important things in our breakup
Now i'm feeling awkward as fuck, and i know how cringy this sounded, but i really panicked there. I don't know if i should go talk to this guy about this not really being the reason at all, because i'm afraid it would simply make things even more awkward. Should i simply pretend this never happened? I'm kinda worried he might feel like a dick for doing this to my ex. Can i possibly fix this situation?
bump?
hmm, you might be fine and it's not anything crazy surprising, if he asked he was probably expecting a response.
as a rule just be careful when talking about exes, I don't think it ever goes well for anyone beyond saying you parted amiably.
You should own up to it, but you don't ever really have to bring it up again.
You can't fix stupid shit you say to people, trust me on that, most people are nice enough to not put you on the spot because basically everyone says something stupid and regrettable at some point or another without it being catastrophic, but it's part of someones macro perception of your character and rationale.
I would just act normal, everyone just want shit to feel normal.
Just be careful if you feel yourself getting carried away, hit pause, gauge your emotional state and context and the other persons response.
Don't beat yourself up over it, that;s almost worse, because then you feel like your constantly compensating unnecessarily.
If your cool with these people,
it's a drop in the bucket.
>>17429529
Yeah, i'm seeing a psychologist right now because of how easily i get carried away. The only thing i'm worried about right now is my current love interest. I'm kinda worried he mighty feel guilty because of what i said.
Trying to get into hacking and I know 4chan is all about that shit so got any tips or codes?? Like how do you just break into a major youtubers account how do you figure out the password?
Control
Alt
Delete
Lock pc
>>17429372
First you have to delete System 32.
It's the file on your computer that stops you from hacking stuff. Delete it.
So I'm getting ready to move from the middle of bumfuck nowhere to NYC in a few weeks. I'm concerned bc not only am I moving from the exact opposite of NYC, I've also only recently moved out of my self hating depressed phase of my life, so this is kind of like my blank slate and I don't want to fuck up. Like I've already been told to stop holding doors open for people or they'll think I'm trying to pull something. And I'm really anxious about having to make friends, especially since I'll know nobody and apparently it's harder to get to know people. Plus I am at a complete loss when it comes to public transportation and the "neighborhoods" and all that jazz.
tldr moving to the big apple and I have no clue what I am doing. looking for some advice about the city and about meeting people
Are you coming to NY for school or a job or something, or do you just want to "make it in the big city?"
>>17429376
College
>>17429457
what school?