Am I an asshole?
>Rent private apartment with mom
>Slumlord landlord
>Had bedbugs at his home, infected our apartment
>Won't pay for extermination
>I know from past experience the onyl way to get rid of bedbugs is extermintation, mom wants to try dumb home remedies
>Looking for a room to rent, without my mom cannot make rent and will be homeless.
I plan to abandon everything I have save for my TV, video games, and computer.
I've had to do this once before years ago.
>>17423855
>with mom
Unless you're fucking her you should move out
>>17423860
My mom is disabled and lives off $700 a month.
It's not enough to rent anything here and I didn't want her homeless, but I really cannot deal with bedbugs and it would take me half a year to save for the extermination.
>>17423855
you could always NOT pay rent. even if its just for a few months to save up for a new place, but yeah the landlord should be exterminating those fuckers
I love my girlfriend very much - we've been together for seven years.
Have a female friend who I've known for a few years. She lives about two hours away and we don't see each other often at all. She's mainly my friend, but my girlfriend gets on with her when we're all there. I've always had a crush on her (the reasonable amongst you will admit that that's okay to do), but on the last time myself and my girlfriend met up with her I found when we went out separate ways I missed her so much I had a sick feeling to my stomach like I used to with my girlfriend before we lived together.
Since then I've thought about her every day and although we text a few times a week anyway I've been checking my phone and wondering what she's doing.
I don't notice any loss of desire for my girlfriend, just that my feelings for my friend have overtaken that.
I think I'm in love with her and I'm not sure what to do about it - or even what I want to do about it.
Advice please?
Sound like you're bored in your relationship because you've probably seen everything of your girlfriend you're ever likely to. The new girl seems fresh because you don't know her as well. In time she'd turn out the same and you'd move on.
>>17423851
There may be some truth in that.
My girlfriend and my friend are very similar in terms of personality and I do find that things that I can't get my girlfriend interested in etc. my friend seems really enthusiastic about. I think there will be gaps that work the other way too - but it's hard to convince myself that that means I can just stop thinking about her.
hey op are you jsut trying to convince us that having female friends is a bad thing so we'll feel good about ourselves?
if so thank you
Why is it when a white woman dates a black guy she is considered trashy but when a guy dates a black girl it is fine?
Stigma. Nothing else really, you can blame the "cuck" mentality and all the robots whining about how the bbc's are stealing their wiminz even though statistically interracial dating is still incredibly rare.
It's spite really.
probably because white women are valued much higher than black women. like theres no way id date a black female but a black guy could
Because only a dumb whore would date a guy who has a 98% probability of leaving her after getting her pregnant. Because she is 3x as likely to get physically assaulted. And because men have the tribal instinct to keep women in their tribe.
My boyfriend suffers from depression and has had a new job for about a week now. He walked out on his job today. He has had a history of spontaneously quitting his jobs after a certain amount of time (the longest he has gone was a year). I tried to talk him out of it but he was insistent about quitting. What can I do to help him? I know that when he is unemployed and looking for work he feels worse, but somehow he always resorts back to just up and quitting. What could be the reasons this happens? Anxiety? Stress?
>>17423789
sounds like he can't handle stress too well.
and that's just something he's going to have to learn how to manage better. You can't handle stress if you're babied your entire life. Get him in a position where he's forced to man the fuck up, and if he crumbles so be it. He'll be better in the long run because of it.
He's gotta grow up eventually.
It could be anything from immaturity to stress to anxiety to depression making it seem like nothing is worth it, like it tends to do. It's really hard for us to say.
Is your bf getting help and treatment for his depression?
>>17423789
Crappy upbringing most likely. How long have you been with him? To be honest Op it is never, everyour duty to fix someone like this.
I will say what I would say to anyone with a mentally disordered spouse: drop them. Girl or boy, its a red flag which cannot be fixed by normal means.
It eould be ok if he could function and hold a job but this is a very bad case where you will be wasting time helping someone who you cant. Let him go and find a functional partner.
How do I fall in love with my girlfriend again? After almost 5 years, the passion is dead, I no longer I'm in love with her, or even sexually attracted to her.
Is there any way to bring back that "flame", or its time to end it for good?
Having troubles here as well, just past the 5 year mark. We are trying different things such as going to restaurants more and going on "dates". Something else than our regular work-dinner-gaming/TV routine
Still hard to keep her flame alive though :(
I lost my flame for my girlfriend after we broke up the first time. I don't know what drove me to getting back together with her.. But, I still haven't gotten my flame re-lit.
Kissing her feels wrong, especially open mouth.
You all need to split and lose each other. For about a month or two. Then spend a day together. If the flame doesn't relight then let it go for good. That's what helped me and my bf
>tfw big sister is sickly thin and starving herself
>tfw parents worried as fuck
>she is so delusioned that she accused me plumb mom of starving herself
>tfw she is over 18 so she cant be incarcerated
Help
>>17423651
Relax. She's probably a little overweight even. Don't let tumblr ruin your sister's life.
>>17423651
Beat some sense into her
>>17423651
Tell her to visit psychiatrist. It will help her
Had a HUGE big fight with gf this weekend, we almost broke up. We made peace, saw each other yesterday, things are better, etc. However there was one thing she said during the fight I'm having trouble forgetting.
She said I was her first everything and there was "too much" love and she didn't know how to handle it. Then it went
>Me: Is this love coming from me to you or vice-versa?
>Her: From you to me
>Me: Are you saying I love you more than you love me?
>Her: There's a lack of balance, yes
I feel this is a pretty cuntish thing to say, even during a fight. How do I act around this information?
In the trash she goes.
>>17423613
you're smothering her. back off a bit. She just doesn't know how to say that. Don't do shit like saying "I'm trying to give you space" when you don't do something with her because of this. just do it.
>>17423613
She was sincere, i see no problem with this.
She is rare.
When I make friends, I always worry that they will think that I am too annoying (i am always the one initiating conversations on whatsapp) or what they actually value the friendship less than I do. Am I being too self conscious or what?
>>17423559
>Am I being too self conscious or what?
ya
>>17423589
It is almost ALWAYS me intitiaitng the conversation though. Why doesnt anyone inititate conversations with me on Whatsapp and Facebook? Why is it always me?
>>17423599
Maybe you're just boring and they don't feel inclined to start talking to you yet.
If you feel like you ALWAYS have to initiate things maybe they're not friends?
It's a two way street you know.
I met this girl in one of my classes last semester. We hit it off right away, and since March we have been unofficially dating. The only reason we didn't start openly dating is because she has told me her dad would not let her date someone who isn't Korean ( she's korean but born here in the usa). 2 weeks ago someone that knows her family saw us having dinner at a restaurant. Ever since then I have not heard from her. I drove by her house last night and saw her car there. I wanted so bad to go up to the door and knock but i did not want to get her in anymore trouble. Should I continue to seek a relationship with her or should i just forget about it. I do love her, and i know she loves me. We are both in out mid 20's and i'm latino btw if that matters.
>>17423551
Stop. Run away. Here are the facts:
Her dad told her she can't date anyone who isn't Korean
Her dad/family are supporting her, so she can't go against their wishes
She's not willing to tell her dad to fuck off and to run her own life, because she's too afraid of being a grown up and taking care of her own business.
None of the above factors make for a good partner. She's a typical Korean girl. Will do anything just so she doesn't have to go out into the world and scratch out her own living.
Flip her the metaphorical bird and move on with your life. In a handful of months she has already proven to be a nightmare. You can't try to navigate that shit across your entire lifetime. There are too many females out there who don't have fucked up families.
Immigrate to our country, but think they're too good to fuck our men?
>>17423557
you're right anon. even if we somehow we end up getting married her family will always look down on me.
Detectives of /adv/, how do you deduce which one of your room mates ate your food?
I had a very fucking significant meal saved in the fridge and now it's fucking half eaten. It's 2am and I am prepared to kick these motherfucking doors down. I've never been so insulted in my life.
Other than my 2 room mates today, there's been a plumber and a student being tutored by a room mate.
Someone ate my fucking food and I want to know who. I can't question them until tomorrow and I know they will both just play dumb.
Smell their farts to find out.
say you dipped it in the toilet or something and see who reacts
in a couple of weeks make the same dish again but modify the recipe to include a mild poison
Dear /adv/,
Am I being unreasonable? My best friend refuses to unfriend my former bully who stalked, threatened and traumatized me. She didn't know him very well, they were friendly too each other but not that close, and she hasn't seen him in over 5 years. I said she was being a shitty friend. She got really mad at me.
Am I being reasonable?
>>17423509
Unfriend him on facebook?
Yes, you're being unreasonable and making a huge deal out of absolutely nothing. What would change?
>>17423513
it makes me physically sick to see them liking each other's posts and commenting on each other's photos when I'm still in therapy for the things he did to me and the ways he tried to ruin my life
>>17423513
yes on Facebook btw
I'm with this girl for around a month now but we met a year ago and felt attraction almost instantly.
She warned me she had a major depression history lasting 10 years, with a month in the hospital 4 years ago, then she took meds that worked well. She's 25 now.
She stopped taking them 4 months ago and it went fine, but last week she started to feel deep anxiety. It was the day after she told me a lot about her past struggle, she was shaking at some point and we also had sex for the first time. It was really intense (I never felt that before) and she was close to a transe state.
Now she's back to her meds since yesterday because she couldn't sleep everytime I wasn't there and felt too much pressure. Also she stopped cold turkey and know it's a bad thing and want to do it properly this time.
She was scared to talk about this but I'm not sure why, her parents didn't support her at all with her issues and were disapointed with her all her childhood. Or it was because she knew it would hurt her just to think about it.
I told her she could speak openly to me, that part of why I love her is her sensibility and I won't lose respect.
So I'll take any advice but I have a few specific questions.
Is it good that I spend as much time as possible with her ? I live on my spare money so I'm available anytime and she knows she just have to ask and I'll be there on phone or physically.
Do I need to "push" her to talk about her feelings ? She says she doesn't want to scare me, but maybe it's because it just hurts her to do so.
Should I ask about bad experiences with other guys ? I feel there's some but I don't know if I'm supposed to know.
How do I take care of her so she knows I'm there for her but don't make her feel useless ?
I cook and clean the dishes for her when I'm at her house and check she didn't forget anything because she's often confused.
Thanks for reading.
Girls who say they suffer from depression are more common than girls who actually are. Maybe she does actually but she's most certainly playing it up to be more severe than it actually, in the event that she even has it and isn't just misattributing the common human experience.
It's most likely just vanity. Don't take it too seriously and keep going on as if it were a normal relationship. I mean, don't call her out on it or make light of it to her but don't act like you need to go out of your way to understand or accommodate her. If you do, it fuels what may be a thing of ego, and if you keep going on in your relationship and she actually does exhibit signs that affect your relationship.
Tldr don't coddle her, she's probs not the special snowflake she thinks she is and humoring her narcissism only makes it worse.
It's hard, you know? We're committed, I want to stand by her side all the time. But, when her life is shit because she's retarded and by proxy makes my life that much harder, I don't know what to do.
If I tell her to do the right thing, she doesn't listen. No matter how hard I push. She lets things go until the shit hits the fan.
I'm thinking about breaking up, but it's purely a business decision. And, that's why I'm too afraid to pull the trigger on it, because it's not what my heart wants, it's what my wallet wants.
Should I break up with her due to financial reasons?
Should I stop supporting her when she makes a bad decision and would suffer otherwise?
Should I just keep trying to help her as best I can until she gets on her two feet again?
Long story short, she ruins her own car (FUBAR), and is borrowing my car which is now also broke down (Not FUBAR). So now she's going to have to suffer, because I don't have another loaner vehicle to give, and now I have to pay to get my car fixed.
What happened to your car?
>>17423481
What other bad choices has she made?
>>17423497
Just other various dimwitted blond type of stuff.
She's not good at prioritizing.
>>17423491
Not in the shop yet, but back to back problems that I wanted to prevent by getting it in the shop when the brakes started giving her trouble.
>give beggar a dollar
>keep coming everyday like a dog
>stop giving him money but still comes daily
what do to make him fuck off?
>>17423464
you cannot. you'll have to change your route so you do not pass
>>17423464
BECOME the beggar.
>>17423510
What if he was the beggar all along
Good morning, faggots! It's that time again, another autistic weeaboo here to tell you about my plans of suicide. But we've heard it all before, so I'll keep it short and sweet. A friend said that I should make a thread on this, so that I might become mildly famous before jumping into the void. I'm going to hang myself in a forest tonight. I thank you all for the laughs. Adios.
Stream it or it didn't happen. Also, nice friends you have
>>17423444
Don't fucking do it. Come on son. That's a cowards way out. Just quit watching so much anime, trim your beard up, lose 20lbs and be the man. I mean hell man there is so much more to life.
>>17423444
Post your life story so we can get you out of your hole damnit! Hanging yourself, fuck dude keep trying to improve your life until you die trying, at least that way you won't regret it