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I got a job and an apartment, but im the same as i've always been.

No gf.
Still a weeb.
Still fat.
Still a neet in heart and mind.

Yeah. When I was 19 my parents gave me enough cash to afford tickets and sent me on a journey around the world. I had to earn money for food and hotels on my own.

After coming back I changed almost everything - body language, style, got rid of acne and changed hair color and became much more confident. Then I moved out.

People here should understand that watching weird porn, being a weeb and playing vidya all night doesn't really influence your life as much as you think as long as you don't go full "wew I'm such a loser because I do these things" mindset.

I mean I'm probably bisexual, I jerk off to traps, futa, furry, femdom, play a shit ton of videogames and watch animu yet somehow I'm a healthy 26yo with a girlfriend, my own apartment and a good job.

>>17430357
>girlfriend

This is what makes the difference in mindset.

I mean, who cares what you're doing with your life as long as you enjoy it and you have a gf.

If your lifestyle repulses the kind of girls you want, you have a problem, otherwise not.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/My_Secret_Life_(memoir)

Read this man's tactics. He took the virginity of women in the Victorian era.

You dont you massive asshole

>>17430340
She's a slag anyway if she's dating a non Muslim out of marriage. Just give it some time, it's what she wants.

>>17430224
i wont do that, it sounds weird af

>>17430246
It's not like I have anything to lose. She's not in any of my friend circles, so it's not like I'll suffer some great embarrassment from this.

>>17430259
if you dont have anything to lose go for it but in a friendly way, not like "Hey i remember you from the uni and i want to stick in you the D"

I doubt he'll bring up the issue again but if he does just tell him to drop it

You're right though, your friend is absolutely full of shit.

>>17430091
You talked about her to him, he is allowed to have an opinion even if you don't like it.
Stop talking about your girlfriend to him.

>>17430091
please stop calling yourself a christian
you make the rest of us look bad

>>17430051
just buy it online
http://www.adameve.com/

>>17430052
I would but I just turned 18 at the beginning of this year and I don't have a bank account just yet. I do have a lot of cash from doing stuff around my neighborhood

>>17430051
Ask her for a gift card.

Nah honestly unless you're going to some prestigious art school or something please OP do something employable

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No dear god no. Even graphic designer which isn't great is still better. And you can be an "Illustrator" from there on

You'll learn about composing from color, from lines, from different points of view, and maybe about conveying ideas better.

Keep practicing drawing on the side. If you study art you'll have to teach about it or probably live in poverty or have a side job while you paint. Which is not entirely bad, Art will still be your hobby and maybe it's better that way? I've heard people hate their jobs of a career they used to love so eh.

Take it with a grain of salt

if you want to be a composer why would you study art instead of music theory?

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Imagine her getting fucked by someone else and realize she doesn't or hasn't ever cared about you. Allow this feeling to wash over you and let time do its thing.

>>17430024
I can't tell if you're serious?

>>17430009
Find everything that was just even a little bit negativ from her and just think about these point ruining your life with her

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(2/2) her messages have given me the impression that she doesn't want to break up with me, but she doesn't feel it's fair to me that I have to sit here basically suffering emotionally. I don't know what to do. I never cheated on her, I never liked another female, I always loved her but I don't know what to do. She thinks I cheated on her. I swear to god I'm being truthful to you guys. Anyone have any tips?

>TL;dr girlfriend thinks I was flirting with a girl on Skype when I was just trying to help her through her husbands abuse a year and a half ago and keep her kid safe. Girlfriend says I "emotionally cheated" on her. We haven't spoken in 3 months because she's been trying to get over that event. Is this relationship salvageable?

>>17429955

It's taken her 3 months to get her head clear, won't talk to you, and all you did was have conversations with people?

What was this Skype group? Why did she go through your messages?

>>17429989
Yeah I really think she overreacted which scares me. 30 year old married mother who lived in the south (I'm Canadian)

It was a gaming group. A bunch of guys from the states and she joined. And she just looked when I was in the bathroom.

>>17429535

Less people, more chance of casual encounters.

>>17429545
I need to find a romantic partner and I'm too much of a weird shit alpabet soup for normal dating sites.

Now what?

>>17429549

Download tinder for your phone aswell as the OK cupid app. Put up some pics of you doing outdoorsy/social stuff I.e. hiking, at a bar, canoeing, etc. Look happy.

Put in your bio some variation of Adventurous, like to travel and work out, tired of hookups, looking for nice girl, commitment, etc etc and you're golden.

some months ago I remember there was a thread where OP's gf asked him if he wanted to have rough sex with her, he said OK but didn't really know what he was supposed to do so when they started having sex he punched her in the gut at full force and she freaked out and ran off while calling him an asshole.

had a good laugh at that one

Interested in that too. Girlfriend wants me to be rough but not in a way that causes her pain. Mild butt slapping is okay though

Grab her by the throat, tits, ass while fucking. Put a finger or two in her mouth, play with her asshole. Hold her legs or arms firmly. Never ask anything, just do it or tell her orders.
You can talk about it later but never during.
I use tape to hold her limbs, the kind of tape that sticks only on it self. The normal one for the mouth.
Enjoy.
Ask anything.

>>17429269
nearly impossible and only time I've seen a couple tough it out was because they had small children. The wife cheated and when you were around them it was clear he was not the same guy as he was before. He was faking it best he could, the humiliation had to be like a stone on his chest.

If both people genuinely want to stay together and can forgive, then sure.

It's a steep uphill battle, though.

>>17429269
usually the cheater doesn't have the patience required to allow the betrayed partner time to work through it. They want it swept under the rug and move on as if nothing ever happened and get angry at them for making them feel bad.

>>17429236
Who cares what they think? Focus on improving yourself in any way you can, but don't do it for anyone but yourself. They are insignificant and do not affect any of your goals one bit. They are lowly cunts and probably aren't doing that well themselves. If you really want to stop feeling bad take that bad energy and put it all into self improvement.

>>17429357
This.

>>17429236
>>17429357
I have to agree with previous poster, who cares what they think. Personally I think working shitty jobs makes you a better person as you see how the other half lives, more respect for hard work, and realize not all people in shit jobs are shit people. Also don't focus or worry about a boyfriend, concentrate on yourself. When you go looking for love you tend to not find anything good, just give it time, improve oneself and you'll find someone.

It depends. If it feels right, then you're racist. If it feels like calling a beautiful person ugly, then you're not racist.

Being racist is actually okay. It's acting unfairly towards others that is shit, so when you call a person a nigger you are being a provocative little shit and you deserve whatever the consequences are.

also nice bait
sage

>>17429073
Not even trolling, to be honest. It's a legitimate question that I've had for a while.

>>17429102
okay

let me be more clear

you can have an emotional preference in race, and that is racism

you can have a logical belief that one race is better than the other, and that is also racism.

you can have one, both, or neither of these things.

if you have one, i'd consider you racist, since racism is simply the belief that one race can be better than another. whether or not this is based on logic or emotion is not necessarily in the definition far as I know.

>>17428886
Male here.
Do what I do when I was in a rut and thought no woman would ever want me (still don't, but I'm making amends to fix it now). Find someone through a medium that doesn't require physical contact, like them for personality, then get with them. A guy who isn't interested won't stay interested if he hasn't seen what you looked like for three months. He'll want something more immediate, less personality involved.
Play online games or something, I don't know.
tl;dr you need to find someone based on personality, rather than appearance, so you know they want you for you, not for the purpose of taking your virginity or because you have a hot body. Or go lesbian.

This is a self esteem problem. First you need to realize that you have much more to offer to society, and to men than your unused vagina. If you cnsciously know this, you know that your fear is irrational. The best way to deal with irrational fears is to confront them. Get to know men, and socialize with them. If you are afraid of them in real life, do it on the internet, where they pose no threat to you, and you can alway quit without any social consequence.

>>17428886
You can throw yourself at guys just don't give them the sex. Some people still go by those rules and it is their choice. You'll know if the person is right for you if you are willing to make the choice.
Really, it's not that hard to have a date or relationship without the sex. If you can't find anything in common beyond sexual desire, it probably wouldn't work out.

The reason you feel the need to be in a relationship is due to the social pressure around you. If you genuinely like somebody, feel free to go after that person. If not, then don't bother and move on with focusing on more important things.

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>>17429997
No, OP feels that way because humans were made to be in relationships. There is nothing unusual about wanting connection with another.

OP the best thing to do is to focus on yourself. That need seems to be there because you want to get something out of a relationship. If you are lonely, surround yourself with good people. If you cant find passion, do something that invigorates you. Don't dull life by giving your problems away to drugs.

>>17428621
sorry OP but desire for a relationship is literally hardcoded into your brain, your two choices in life are to be angry or lonely