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Do I have to wear makeup and have fashionable clothes and haircut if I want a (good=honest and reliable) boyfriend?
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Yes, if you are a girl.
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Nah, just suck my dick and try not to make me open emotionally. Not even taking the piss really. Just leave me alone while being around kinda, that works.
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>>17550283
No, if you're a girl
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Do you ever feel bad about all the pointlessly cruel things you typed on 4chan?
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>>17550236
nope.
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>>17550236
im not really too mean to people on 4chan. i will normally only call people retarded when they themselves are being a dick.
dont know why people on 4chan are so edgy though. you can disagree with someone with out being a complete dick about it. i would honestly leave this site if there was something similar with out as many assholes but i dont know anything else. reddit is shit because of the whole karma system.
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>>17550259
> leave this site if there was something similar with out as many assholes
same here
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I was fapping to some porn and in one of the related videos I saw my fucking sister sitting there naked.
The title of the video is don't tell your brother,I lost my boner immediately and went to throw up.
How the fuck am I suppose to react to this shit?
And no I won't give you a link to fap to my sister.
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>>17550233
>And no I won't give you a link to fap to my sister.
Then what is the point of this thread? Go away.
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>>17550233
Holy shit I thought it was just softcore stuff but she has a full fucking page on Xvideo sucking cock and everything she even has a fake pornstar name I'm literally crying now.
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I don't care if you fap to it but I don't want you all looking around doxxing her and linking her to me or the rest of my family.
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>>17550233
Blackmail her.
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I'm married, but separated. Moved out of the apartment I shared with my wife 6 months ago. Things ended on a bad note.
BREAKUP SUMMARY:
We went on a camping trip with friends, had a small argument. Turned into a bigger PUBLIC argument where she started yelling and crying and I refused to escalate it beyond that. I participated in activities with others, limiting my interaction with her. After the trip, she exploded, verbally yelling, taunting me, belittling me, accusing me of emotional betrayal. She called her mom to join in and they railed on me for 7 hours. It got to the point where her mom physically poked her fingers into my chest, demanding that I beg her daughter for forgiveness.
I noped the fuck out of there and stayed with a friend. A few days later, I stayed at my brother's home. Only visited to get back my stuff and have sporadic conversations that she would quickly turn into yelling bouts.
While she isn't batshit crazy, we can't have a civil conversation without her getting angry and raising her voice. I'm sure she wanted me to apologize for ignoring her and make up, but it was a YOU-SURRENDER-FIRST type of situation for her.
We've had very little contact, most of it through email. There is no POSSIBILITY of us getting back together and we're saving up for a divorce.
MY PROBLEM:
We've both always made very little money together, but she always made much more than I did. I recently put together a small delivery business that is suddenly making ALOT OF CASH. All of it is legal and being reported as taxes. I never asked my wife FOR A DIME, despite going through financial hardships after leaving. And now I might rake in more than both of us have made in YEARS.
MY QUESTION:
Is she entitled to any of it? How can I make sure she doesn't get a SINGLE RED PENNY from this?
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>>17550228
Depends on the state you are in but in California, you'd be fucked because the court automatically assumes, despite any actual evidence you have, that you were able to create that business because your wife helped in someway whether that be by emotional support, forgoing something, etc which it equates to a 50-50 effort between you too.
However, if you're still making less or equal money to her, you might be able to get alimony from her or prevent her from getting alimony from you.
Let this be a lesson for all anons. Always get a prenup. Prenups are like contracts. No one signs a contract thinking the other person is going to fuck them down the line. The contract is there just in case someone does something stupid. If everything goes well, the contract/prenup just ends up being a useless piece of paper. If it doesn't go well, you'll be thanking god you took my advice.
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>>17550228
hide your assets, anon. liquidate and bury it in a hole if you have to. obtain proof of the date of separation. obtain proof of her hostility if you can. i do not envy you, you are in for a rough ride.
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>>17550228
Invest in a good lawyer. Best advice I can give.
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Anyone had any luck with pretending your partners flaws don't exist?
Sometimes my bf does things that upset or annoy me, and I try and explain why to him and he'll say sorry but do it again anyway. I'm starting to think the only way to avoid arguing over this stuff is for me to pretend that it doesn't bother me. It's clear he has no intentions of changing and I'm sick of trying to explain myself to him so from now on I'm just gonna do my best to smile through it all.
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>>175502153
my gf blows up over things I don't understand I did wrong and refuses to talk to me about why it made her mad and refuses to change
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>>17550920
It's probably stuff she thinks is so obvious she feels she shouldn't have to say it. Not saying she's right but try thinkig about what you could've done to offend her.
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If they don't change their behaviour, then they are not sorry, don't care and don't love you.
'Smiling through it all' is just codependency. It'll hurt you and it'll escalate into him doing more and more upsetting things.
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Would you ever continue a relationship with a girl that resorts to physical violence (throwing things/slapping you)?
Things got heate, I called my GF a bitch/cunt.
She proceeded to throw this huge glass bowl that was used to store fruit. It was about the size of a basketball if you cut it in half. She threw it towards my leg while I was sitting on my computer desk.
Tiny glass hards were all over my calves/ankle. Carpet was now filled with glass.
She then proceeds to taunt me by saying "yea, clean that up"
I haven't been the same since. I feel like I'm no longer emotionally attached to this girl.
Her excuse = "I did that so you know how I felt when you called me those words"
I feel like that's just an excuse for her lack of control.
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Dump her.
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>>17550139
beat the living fuck out of her
then tell her you did it to show her how you felt after her pathetic attempt to assert physical superiority
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Just walk away and there will be an end to the horror.
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I'm on all kinds of meds for OCD and Bipolar but they just make me even more depressed and tired. Marijuana helps to treat it better, I know because I used to smoke it. These meds literally destroy your brain but my parents won't let me try marijuana again. I wake up and sit out on my back porch every morning in a deep depression that eventually lessens as the day goes by, but I always think "I'd be happy in this moment if I could just smoke pot."
I'm 23, soon to be 24 and have $50,000 in the bank but no degree. I'm staying at home out of fear: fear I'll fail if I leave or be utterly alone (no friends currently, lost them all during manic episodes). I've always been able to make friends, but when I'm tired, slow and depressed (what these meds do to me) then I literally can't do it.
Idk what to do but I am suicidal every single day. I started a new medication 3 days ago and I feel even worse than I did during the emergency situation that brought me in, when just lighting up some pot would put in a good mood within minutes.
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How the ever loving fuck did you get 50k in the bank you ever loving faggot
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Fuck the meds, get a job and an hobby. Smoke pot with moderation, it will make you lazy. If your parents give you shit talk about being suicidal.
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> Finances
tl;dr I have 900 in expenses a month. I take home $2978 every month. I have 5 years of bills in a safety fund. I can't make myself even spend $300 on stuff I want. How do I fix this?
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Lower your expenses so that you are actually over 5 years for bills. Safety nets usually are 1 year of bills so you are kinda over. Maybe invest the excess? Any profits in investments could be justified in buying stuff?
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>>17550076
by spending it? you're asking ofr a personality shift, there is no process for this.
the best i can offer is that you create a 'plan' where you can only spend say, 300 a month on new stuff, and you go through the checlist buying what you want each month.
but you need to be willing to begin with.
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>>17550083
I'm iffy on the investing due to how my retirement accounts are always either negative for the quarter or around 1% return. My safety nets are in the 'higher' yield savings accounts (1% APY).
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Reconnecting with a girl
Is it impossible to regain a girl's interest in you if your autism scared her off? About 6 months ago i caught the oneitis for a chick i barely even knew, but my body chemistry made me feel like there was some kind of chemistry anyway. It was going great for a minute, and then my nervousness scared her off. She went from talking to me at 95mph on a daily basis to dead air at the drop of a hat, and i haven't heard from her since.
But recently she came out of the woodwork and started liking some of my instagram photos. I dm'd her the other day and she actually replied, and for a little bit she talked to me just like she did when we were talking, but then stopped.
I'm sure she just felt guilty for ignoring me and decided to pretend to be nice for a minute to make up for it, but still, this is a breakthrough. Every chick who ghosted me has always gone completely incommunicado forever, they've never said anything again after cutting their ties. So there's that.
I should probably just forget it and move on to the next, but honestly i don't want to. Dating isn't fun. Women are mostly shit and this one was the only one i kinda liked past her looks. That is fucking hard to come by.
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>>17550064
>Is it impossible to regain a girl's interest in you if your autism scared her off?
The chance is very low. Don't waste your time.
It's like standing in line for 2 years to buy a lottery ticket: dumb as hell.
My advice: keep looking for someone else. Don't act like you still like her, try to put her out of your mind.
Be friendly to her though, keep your options open. If she signals that she's into you, then sure, go ahead and ask her out (casually, as if you don't give a shit if she says yes or no).
Just think of her as a lottery ticket: might as well check to see if you won, but don't expect jack shit.
And i know that feel. Fuck dating, i wish there was a better way to find people we actually click with.
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>>17550084
I never fully got over her. I just felt like there was something there, and my stupid awkwardness turned her off. I talked to many girls since and they either rejected me or i didn't really like them.
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>>17550177
>my stupid awkwardness turned her of
You sure of that?
If you liked her and she did/said something awkward, would you stop liking her? Hell no.
Same with her. If that was enough to turn her off, she wasn't into you anyway.
This may not be the best place to discuss, but frankly I don't know where else to turn. I realize that some of you are NEETS or young in age, so I'm hoping for some responses or insight from fellow oldfags like myself.
In a nutshell, I am depressed. I am a 30 year old man with a solid, white collar career. I have a good woman who loves me, and I get paid fairly well for what I do. I do not hold much debt, aside from my cheap home mortgage.
The issue is, I fucking hate my job. I hate the industry, I hate the politics, I hate wearing a monkey suit to work everyday, I hate my rich prick of a boss. I am sick of going through the motions. The only thing that brings me joy from this career path is the paycheck.
I want out. I can't live like this anymore. I feel like I'm in Office Space - playing political games in the office, dealing with the drooling morons in that setting daily, doing multiple tasks that do not provide any real value to society as a whole. I am very small cog in a large machine whose sole purpose is to profit as much as humanely possible, at really whatever cost. What I do for 50 hours a week achieves absolutely nothing except for filling the already loaded pockets of a couple of individuals.
Where do I go bros? What do I do? I have enough of an "oh shit" fund to last a few months, that's about it. Luckily I don't have children, and my woman is pretty supportive. She just wants me to be happy.
Is it too late for me to pick up a trade? I've always wanted to be an electrician. I'm intelligent enough, and worked construction for a few years. I've always heard Journeyman and up can do pretty well.
Have any of you made a huge decision that impacted your career/finances/etc? I'd love to hear from you.
tl;dr oldfag hates his soul sucking corporate job and wants to make a big life change but is too big of a pussy to do something about it
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I hate the thought of someone living like this. I'm glad you have (what sounds like) and awesome woman that's got your back. Many aren't so lucky.
The answer?
Yes YES think about what you want and start making plans. You can ALWAYS get back into the corporate ratrace. I'm 27 and decided a year ago I was going to stop visiting NYC and move there. Why? BECAUSE. I didn't go about it like a dumbass. I paid all my debts, got additional certifications, hunted for jobs and apartments, and moved my life. Best decision ever, loving it here.
Start getting things in order now OP. Working that soulless 50 hours will feel a lot better when you're working towards getting out.
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>>17550059
Dude... literally same age, job, situation as yourself.
I know what you mean tho.
Sometimes I think about leaving my office job and taking up some sort of trade like welding. I picture myself, with some grand landscape at my back, breeze in the air, building infrastructure.
I guess my hope is one day I will make enough where I can take up a hobby and travel.
Sit tight tho...30 isnt old at all (when you hang on 4chan, you feel old)
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>>17550059
I dropped out of highschool in the final year and later on got apprenticed as a proces operator and now work at a large heavy industry plant
Best
Decision
Ever
I could never be a pencil pusher again, I like working with my hands and seeing REAL results from REAL work, even if it is sometimes dirty, dangerous or loud.
Switch to a trade, you won't regret it, and starting late is a boon as you won't be worn out as fast as those who apprenticed when they were 16
I've just about given up on life
I have guys fawning over me
a good sorce of income
a bunch of friends
and I leave my house a lot
but all I constantly think of is how much I hate my self
I have never tryed to comit suicide, and I don't think I plan on it
but it's constantly there
everything is starting to feel less and less fun
I'm losing motivation to be creative
and if I'm not forced to go out cause of work or friends I just lay in bed and convince my self I'm shit
do depression meds actually help? what should I do?
I went to therapists when I was younger and they didn't do shit, but I was also a small child.
I didn't use to be like this.
and it keeps getting worse and worse.
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Why do you hate yourself?
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>>17550050
ROASTIES OUT
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>>17550090
I'm a guy
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Do I have cause for concern?
>Huge anxiety issues
>Regularly go days or weeks without going outside or talking to anyone, agoraphobic during these times
>have one-3 day bursts of a lot of anger and energy, cannot burn it all up
>regularly unable to sleep for days then barely able to stay awake for others
>always had massive issues with sleep, bad dreams, seeing things in darkness etc
How fucked am I?
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not as fucked as some but more fucked than most
my recommendation would be to see a therapist, but I understand that this is difficult. Just know that they wouldn't be judgemental (they've seen worse) and they could really help ya out
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>>17550027
Ready for the kicker?
I'm trans. If I tell my therapist I'm worried about this or experiencing this kind of thing my treatment may be delayed and it's already been delayed as is. Really not in a position where that can wait any more :/
I'm not worried about what they think of me though, so that's a plus I guess?
inb4 don't be trans, don't transition, degeneracy, ridicule and other rubbish.
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>>17550049
Damn that sucks! My bf is trans and even though he's more or less issue-free in terms of his mental health he had to go through a lot of shit with therapists trying to delay his transition, etc., so I know how you feel. In fact, not being able to transition, and present the way you want to, could well be contributing to these issues in the first place.
It's really fucked that the systems in place for trans people with additional mental health issues are so shitty. I wish I could help you out more OP. I'd say do what you have to to transition, and take care of these other issues after that.
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Is collecting guns something prospective GFs don't like?
>i'm going to do it either way
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i dont know why any americans wouldent have a decent gun collection? im from england. if guns where legal here, i know i would at least have some.
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>>17549990
girls are not robots all running the same script. therefore each girl reacts differently. there are gun nut girls. there are girls who dont give a fuck. there are girls who dont like it but wont care. and there are girls who think guns are devil monsters.
my general pattern has been, girls see my gun (or i bring itup) they dont like it but dont put up a fuss, later forget. rinse and repeat.
i remember one girl i was seeing saw that i carried a pocket knife and shes like 'WELL I GUESS IM OKAY WITH IT AS LONG AS YOU DONT USE IT TO START FIGHTS'.
stabbed the bitch right there.
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Depends on the gf. Since you probably want to be with someone with the same interests and values as you, if some girls get weirded out by it, you don't want to be dating them anyway. Win/win.
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Hey /adv/,
>Times have been difficult lately for both my gf and I
>I have ~65 hours of work a week, financial issues, etc.
>We have been arguing frequently, but the topic is always what she is doing wrong
>I have had 6+ arguments with her in the past 2 months about things she should change
>feel bad everytime, but think it's necessary to improve our relationship
>shes starting to get really down about it all
>but I can't stop finding things wrong
>am I too stressed and overreacting, or is my girlfriend difficult
Some things i've brought up.
>Withholding the fact that her sex drive has plummeted, even after asking many times over the course of 2 months
>Snarky jokes that are impossible to tell if they're jokes
>More jokes on how easy my life is
>Getting heated and angry during a conversation very easily
>In general not communicating
We've been together for 2 years, and have worked passed most of the communication issues I had thought. We live together.
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Okay, first, let me apologize in advance fr my wall of text, but here it goes...
When you live with someone, even the smallest of things they do can become annoying to you, including their quirks, even if you love the cute things they do. And it's not necessarily because you're tired of the other person, you've clearly got a LOT on your plate, and she isn't realizing that.
It's the reason why my fiance and I argued a lot before recently. Now we're doing great but before, I was such a brat. Always complaining I never got to see him, because he went to school and work, and I just worked, so I ended up actually switching my shits to see him more and help him study for his nursing boards which was a tremendous relief for us both, I'd never let him go through anything alone, and your gf shouldn't either.
She also needs to understand that you're stressed from working so much, and needs to sit down with you and understand how her acting the way she does is really making your life hard. I don't think she understands the impact that she's having on you.
You really need to let her know, sit her down, explain that you can't have her acting like this, and if she love you, that she'll try to relax for you and be your partner, not someone trying to push you away from her.
As for the sex drive, I'm not sure anything can really be done about that. Stress will do that to people, and after you move in together, you usually both have so many other things to do that sex becomes the least important of them all, BUT...
what you can do, is discuss before hand when a good time for the both of you would be for some quality love making time. It may be hard to squeeze in, but it's very much possible, and will make the two of you feel much closer together.
Take some time off of work if you have to, for atleast a day or so, to just spend a day to relax with her and do things the two of you love doing together. Explain to your boss how much stress your under, I can assure you they will
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(sorry, last post was too long lol.)
understand where you're coming from. A happy person makes a happy employee as well. You will perform better at work and you will have a better relationship.
Just tell her how you're feeling, ask her to hear you out. You can do it, anon. My fiance and I did it, you can too.
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>>17549932
thats such a bullshit quote. they were born in a time where divorcing was not an option.
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Moderate paying jobs with just a highschool diploma?
I had bad grades and neet life for 2 years but I have leadership experience and physical ability
I have speech skills as well (improv)
I dont want to flip burgers and I dont want minimum wage
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>>17549931
define 'moderate' ?
either way there aren't many options. you could go be a waiter. tips tend to bring you above minimum wage.
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>>17549931
I make 60k at a credit card company in the AML department. And they pay shit compared to other financial institutions. You can often get your foot in the door as a contractor (AML jobs are hard to get without experience), and go from there. I'm getting my certifications soon and will be headed to another company to make way more money.
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>>17549931
look into "alorica" full time work at call center
right out of hs