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Just wanted to get some input from others, I'm applying for job openings and there's one at a religious institution that looks promising. The problem is, I am not religious. Not a militant atheist, but religion has just never been a part of my life. The application is asking all these questions about promoting God's love and shit like that, and I know I would feel like a fraud if I actually landed the position there based on my application BSing. I am pretty desperate for a job at this point though, so I really can't afford to be picky. What do you guys think?
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>>17548126
Grab a Bible, read it. Ask God to show you a sign of his existance. That is how I came to believe, the night I read the Bible I felt the presence of the Lord.
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>>17548126

If you really need a job, you should probably bullshit.
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If you're going to bullshit about believing in the LORD, make sure you aren't agreeing to anything you can't do. Imagine pretending to be a Christian to get a job and then one of your coworkers realizes you only know two books of the Bible.

So what is this job? Does it actually require adhering to the religion?

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How do I hook up on a low budget?
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>>17548122

You don't, unless you are really hot or have something else going for you. Seriously.
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>>17548122
https://youtu.be/eiQmwGJ0ITs
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Go to low-budget bars

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How do I cleanse my degeneracy? I'm 24. I'm a guy. I've had sex with 54 girls, had threesomes, banged a married woman, and basically have been a giant manwhore. It started when I went through two consecutive breakups with girls I genuinely thought I could marry one day. Then I just lost my shit, went through multiple rebellious phases, and fucked anything that moved, animals, cars and other men not included.


I visited my parents the other day, conservative, hardworking but loving people. Religious and have been together their whole lives. I feel...uneasy when I'm around them and I see them together. I feel that I've ran away from home and I can't find my way back. I feel like I've seen too much in life, and I'll forever be "damaged goods"

Is there any shot at redemption? Or should I keep fucking and living a life of hedonism and distract myself from a greater calling??
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You're going along with societal decay. What you're doing helps accelerate the rate of which our society will crumble, everything your ancestors worked towards will come to a ruin.

But it's likely that western society will fall anyways within our lifetimes since we might be too far gone, so fuck it. Make your choice, go against the grain and try to be a paragon to a society that will reject you for not being a hedonist? Or will you be the scum of society that will bring about it's downfall at the detriment to your fellow man?
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Stop chasing women. You're the one acting on that impulse and it's up to you to stop that. Start by increasing your standards, if you're able to have sex with any woman you meet your standards are too fucking low. If she isn't a respectable woman who you'd want to settle down with then fuck her (don't actually fuck her), she's a waste of time and she doesn't matter to you. Your standards of women should be high and you should look down on roasties, not chase after them.

Stop watching porn. If you have that shit saved to your computer delete it. Porn is degenerate.
Look into religion, even if it's not something you believe in religion provides good moral guidelines to act within.
Spend your free time focusing on productive activities. Instead of watching a show or playing vidya or browsing 4chan, go and work out, develop a skill, read a book. And not a shit book with a boring story, read something that will make you a better person. Books about philosophy, history, or books where the story holds value.

don't listen to this guy >>17548125
nihilism solves nothing. Take good hard look at yourself and ask yourself if there's room for improvement. If there is, then work hard on it. You turn into a fucking glorious human being you follow through with this.
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>>17548114
There is no redemption in here, faggot.

Welcome to the soldier side.

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I'm working in an office where the bathroom doesn't have a bin. I asked to the director why is that. He said to me that is unsanitary to leave the bin with paper and is better to throw the paper down the toilet.
My problem is that I use butt wipes and the only bin is outside the bathroom. I used them because I can clean myself better, you know, removing "residuals" if any, I reduce the probabilty of hurting myself and according to my doctor it helps so for hemorroids. So what can I do?
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Most butt wipes are flushable.
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Most people know how to wipe their ass with toilet paper, what the fuck is wrong with you? And how the fuck are you hurting yourself?

Also are you saying you put your shitty asswipes in a bin and let them stink up the place? Again, what the fuck is wrong with you?
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>>17548075
This

Or buy another brand that is ok to flush down the toilet

is losing your virginity at 16 ok?
is having sex with your partner after 9 months still to fast?
what do you do if your boyfriend plays video games and ignores you even tho he invited you over to his house?
what do you do if your boyfriend enjoys watching shitty boring youtube videos and forces you to watch with him?
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>>17548059
Come back in 3-4 years when you have actual problems and aren't just a silly girl who won't pay any heed to advice you're given anyway. If you've got to ask about such mediocre shit and can't talk to your bf about it, you're not ready for a relationship.
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don't be a degenerate and wait till marriage
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>>17548059
You fucking degenerate
Please go to church and come back when you've learned a thing or two
Or when you're not 16

>This is my ideal woman
>As long as she has a good sense of fashion, hygiene and moral compass I'm good. Humor and down to Earth doesn't hurt either.

Are my standards too high?
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No, that sounds reasonable. As long as your ideas about what those vague terms mean are realistic
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>>17548046
that depends on how you look, who you are as a person, and your social/financial status I'd say.
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>tfw when I'm the exact opposite

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How bad are trailer parks for real? I can't afford rent on a real house/apartment but I see several old mobile homes that I could outright buy and fix up and then just gotta pay lot rent for like $300/mo. I'm not a high class person, already consider myself white trash. I already drive an old pickup so why the hell not?

I'm all about "its not much, but its mine."

I mean fuck I'm 27 and still living at home. I work 40 hours a week and I want my own place.
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>>17548012
It really depends on the location.

Scout out some lots before you make a move, maybe on the weekends after 6 when you have the chance to catch sight of what it's like when your potential neighbours are home and possibly making noise.

You won't really know what the location is like until you live there a while and get a feel for it and the people; the people are the most important variable of your comfortably there.

If the area doesn't suit you, you can always hookup your mobile and move, so long as you haven't signed any agreements to stay for a specufic period of time.

If you keep to yourself, you probably won't have any trouble.
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>>17548012
Where do you work 40 hours a week and can't afford rent?

But otherwise I don't have any trailer park experience but as far as the social stigma goes I say fuck it. If you can afford it and you think you'll like it go for it. My wife and I live in a studio and it's damn cozy.
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>>17548012
>>17548049
Also, don't ever feel ashamed or bad about this decision.

If you want this, go for it.

Feeling bad and/or ashamed usually stems from what you believe other people think about you and your decisions.

It's your decision, only the opinions you give importance to matter and your opinion is just about the only one you should care for.

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I am 23 and I have no friends. My social anxiety is so bad that I have panic attacks at basic social interaction. I do have a job that has helped me. But I can only talk to people professionally.

It's getting to the point where I am to scared to leave my house.

How do I overcome this.
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>>17548008
be my gf
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Everyone has their own insecurities and problems they deal with, not just you, OP.
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>>17548008
be my bf

Hey /adv/ I'm just looking for a little bit of help.

I was just invited to my new gf's house tomorrow and she wants me to join them for dinner. They are very religious and I have never been to church in my life.

I'm somewhat afraid they will ask me to say grace, how do I politely decline?
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Also a bit more info

18/m/borderline autistic
Don't know how to talk to people
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>>17547999
what kind of church do they go to?

Just politely say your family hasn't taught you how to say grace and ask that they teach you. They will respect you for wanting to learn of their culture and religion.

But if you feel like being a dishonest faggot (which their religion doesn't approve of), just look it up online as to what their sect of religion says for grace.
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>>17547999
If you like this girl and want to impress her parents just suck it up or say out of respect her father should do it... either that or run. No swearing and if asked religious position, say dedicating yourself to a religious cause is an important decision and you are still waiting for the moment when you know you can give yourself to god (or some shit i dunno).

I want to talk to somebody about my feelings and all that shit, but don't know who. I don't have any close friends or family. Can't talk to mom 'cause she gets fucking hysterical about everything. Can't afford a therapist. People on the internet don't seem to care. I don't even know what I really need. Just writing or talking about my thoughts doesn't make me feel any better and if somebody happens to listen, their answers don't satisfy me either. I wish I could get out of my own head.
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I somewhat know that feel
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What are you feeling?
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>>17548011
Frustration, sadness and confusion mostly, at the moment.

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ok this shit again

Problem 1
i like a girl and she likes me. Shes like 10/10 imo im like a 7/10 or so, kinda fit

we are both awkward around each other but mostly normal around other people and both kinda introverts in public but wacky around friends. we have hung out a few times but nothing happened

how could i figure out how we could talk without it being so weird

Problem 2
its our junior year of high school and we can go to prom

i want to take her but I'm not really one for social things and have no idea what to expect. plus as above we can't talk to each other well.
should i figure out to talk to her or first or ask her first.

Problem 3
Im not very good at picking up signals.. how would i improve that.

also not too great at trying to understand how other people feel in the moment. i always end up realizing it after the chance is gone and beat myself up about it.
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Yo OP, gotta learn to take chances. I'm not sure if the butterflies in yer belly got you acting up, but don't forget that you have balls. Use em n show em
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>>17548027
>don't forget that you have balls. Use em n show em
Pretty much the way to go OP
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>>17548027
>Use em and show em

Yeah OP whip your balls out

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I've been in college for a week and haven't met anyone i try and go to events and shit but i usually don't talk to anyone and then i leave i eat by myself i feel so lonely all i do is eat go to class and chill/do work in my dorm
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>>17547972

>I'm very lonely at college

>I make no effort to meet people or be social
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Yo OP, learn to step outside of your comfort zone. Make an effort to communicate with other people, and don't be too hard on yourself
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>i am fortunate to go to college
>all i do there is what i am supposed to do and i'm unhappy
well damn. i don't have any advice.

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I really fucking suck at even the most basic of banter.

A few times in the past year I've had random girls try to talk to me ( "do i know you from somewhere?", "weather's nice today!", "where are you from?", etc.). I'm usually so thrown off that it takes me like 10 seconds to answer and my responses are short and so autistic they practically start running away.

I used to literally quiver in fear when talking to people, but I got over it after getting a call center job. I guess I'm not terrified of taking anymore. I still can't hold a conversation for shit though.

After fucking up a I spend days thinking about what the perfect thing to say would've been so I can "prepare" if I ever get approached like that again. Of course it never happens though. I don't even care if the conversations don't end in a date, I just want to make a girl smile.

tl:dr
I'm a virgin because I'm a turbo sperg and can't hold conversation. Is this possible to fix or should i just bust out the helium tank?
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Me too. I had a job where I had to drive around with co-workers all day long and interact with customers so after two years of that my small talk skills got slightly better. But I still suck and my mind goes blank when I should answer to strangers who spontaneously talk to me.
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Yo OP, I had once read a book 'how to communicate with confidence,' and although it didn't magicallysolve my problems, it did get me thinking and rflecting a bit - which led to self-improvement. Maybe you could also try reading books on communication. I'll be browsing this board for another hour or so, feel free tobreply with questions (don't have the book with me and don't remember much of the stuff that wasn't applicable xD)
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>>17548025
Also: I can't even talk about things I'm interested in and it's really fucking embarrassing I feel like the most boring person ever

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So I'm working one job that is just okay for now and a friend of mine recommended me to his boss for a much better job.

I got an email from said boss saying he thought I'd be a great fit and saying he wanted to schedule a time for a phone call or interview.

I replied saying I'd be delighted to talk with them and I told them when I'd be available during the weekend and next week.

Haven't heard back and I got that email on Tuesday. It is now Thursday night.

Maybe I'm just paranoid but I sent that reply very late at night because I work late at my current job. What if it got lost with the morning's batch of emails?

How long is appropriate to wait?

I really want this job, pays almost twice what I make now and at a much bigger company with better... in general everything.

I thought I might wait until Friday and send something Monday of I don't hear anything. I don't want them to forget about me. It's a competitive field.

This job would be a life changer for me.
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bumpin again
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>>17547868
Your plan as of right now is fine. As a store manager, I often don't get around to my emails for 2-4 days if I'm busy with essential stuff. Calling is always better than a second email if you can get in direct contact with them, I'd try before lunch tomorrow given the times you've stated, between 10-11am. If you can't get in contact with him, send another email early afternoon on Friday and then try another call early Monday.
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>>17548078
Okay thanks, I didn't get a phone number, only an email.

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What does it mean when your girlfriend makes an OKCupid account looking for male friends?

She told me she has no male friends (which is true) so that's why she made the account. I've never had trust issues in our relationship except for this. She told me this a little before she went in to work so I'll talk to her later about it obviously.

But for now, what do you think? She has plenty of female friends... does a female really need male friends?
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The fact that she did it without asking you is weird, but to give her the benefit of the doubt, I've messaged more than my fair share of girls who say that kind of shit on different apps, and 9/10 times they really are just looking for platonic friends (or a lady friend to join you guys).
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She's window shopping. Looking to see if there are better guys out there than you. If there aren't, then nothing will happen. If there are, well you only have yourself to blame for letting this happen with preemptive notice.

She will deny this.
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>>17547804
lol

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