For the last month or so, a large group of little shits between 13-16 or so have decided to spent their afternoons at my doorstep. They are noisy, they litter, the smoke of their joints gets in the house and disrespect my elderly blind mother. Calling the police is not really an option since by the time they arrive they are long gone.
What can I do to make them go away? I need ideas because nothing "regular" seems to work.
Maybe they'll be gone in a week or two, when their vacation ends, but I prefer to be ready if this situation persist.
The cops might lie in wait if you warn them in a advance, otherwise just photograph them and pass on the photos or spray them with a hosepipe.
Sound Bomb them if there's enough of an age difference
>>17553542
>Smoking under 21 is illegal. Yet, I'm looking for potential options.
Simply ask them to leave. Then threaten them with the police afterwards if they refuse.
How do I kill it?
I have a night out with my gf today, just the 2 of us. All is well, nothing much happened but she mentioned her ex by chance, we were talking about whatever and she mentioned that her ex knows such and such, really just a few words and nothing important / interesting.
Still, it triggered my deep paranoia. Now whatever she says and does it instantly sends me into a state of distrust, like she's cheating on me with her ex behind my back and laughing at what a fool I am.
In my paranoia state, I asked her if she'd want to go out a bit sooner just for a walk, she asked when, I said like an hour sooner or so, but she said there's a relative visiting her (she lives with her parents) and can't really come that much sooner.
BOOM! Paranoia, and now I can't stop thinking she's actually home alone and keeps it a secret from me so that she can cheat on me with her ex right before we go out together.
It kills me /adv/ how do I calm the fuck down? I'm literally shaking and there's no way to find out whether she's home alone without looking like a controlling freak.
Are you amoral? Take her phone and download a tracking app and a text logger
>>17553513
This. She'll never have to know, itll never hurt her, and youll know to a certainty if shes making a fool of you.
>>17553513
I can get pretty amoral, yes.
She's tech savvy though, far more than I am and downloading a tracking app and shit will get me busted pretty damn fast.
I need some other solution. I was thinking to show up at her place like 15 minutes earlier and say nothing, just wait in front of her apartment complex before calling her to tell her to come out.
I was thinking if she's cheating on me and can't come out sooner, then the ex will leave her place like a few minutes earlier and shit.
God damn this kills me, I ain't about this business man. But I love her so much it hurts, never mistreated her once, I care so much about her that it frightens me sometimes. I'm literally ensnared and any thought of cheating / lying sends me into a state of paranoid madness.
My boyfriend and I are in university. He made it clear recently that school is his priority and due to work load he'll only have time for me maybe an hour a day at most.
I don't think this is an exceptable amount of time together for a relationship, no dates, no sex, no cuddling. On top of that he won't move in with me so I really will only be seeing him a tiny amount for an entire year.
I feel hurt and suspect that he will use his little free time playing video games and with friends and that I'm only his girlfriend when it's convinient for HIM. This is building on other problems.
I'm managing school pretty well while seeing him every day... so is everyone around me. They all have time for girlfriends and parties with grades varying, some of them straight A's.
Am I be unreasonable? Do I have a right to demand a little more of his time?
tldr: Is an hour a day a reasonable restriction to put on your relationship if you're in school?
I worked nights for 6-10 hours and went to school full time and still had 3-4 hours to be with my then gf (now fiancé). Your boyfriend is a lazy cunt.
Also, I guess the point I wanted to make was that if you really dig someone, you can ALWAYS find a way to make it work. Saying with 100% conviction "nope, can't be done" usually means that the person isn't a priority or they're trying to phase you out.
>>17553529
Pretty much this desu
Is it wrong not to know what to do with your life? Not knowing is a big part of our lives, we don't know lots of things. Every one of us. Nobody knows why we are here, nobody knows what's gonna happen after life, nobody knows the purpose.
Never in my life I found a thing that would fullfill me, I tried a couple activities but I lost interests in those fairly quickly. Only thing that keeps me on the road is college, I'm not totally into it but it's interesting sometimes and it gives me some sort of direction. For upcoming two more years atleast...if I won't be a drop out by then.
Only thing I know is that I don't need much. I never was materialistic. I'll be happy with a work that'll pay enough for rent, food and cigarettes. It can be anything really, I'm working a part time job as a waiter and I wouldn't have any problem if I just keep this job until I get bored of it again.
What to do if you don't know what to do with your life? I feel like someone just threw me into wilderness and I'm just living from day to day unable to find a place for myself.
>>17553444
It is precisely because there is so much of life that we have no handle on that it is good to be able to take control of one small piece of it. For some that takes the form of ambition, for others pleasure, for others just movement and change.
You do have an interest and ambition - it's there in your third paragraph. You want an easy, stress-free life of modest comforts, and the freedom to change jobs or other variables as you wish. There's nothing wrong with that as a life plan.
Ur a waste. You should kill yourself.
>>17553461
Thank you anon.
>>17553589
Will probably do at some point.
Is it all in my head?
I'm in second year university after taking a gap year.
I'm doing well in school, going out with friends most nights and in a fraternity.
But I always feel like an outsider looking in whenever I'm out. I can't shake the feeling that I'm constantly being judged or scorned by the people around me even when they aren't showing it on their faces.
How can I overcome this?
>>17553396
I feel the same way, no real advice but good luck getting over it.
>>17553396
You aren't wrong. The sooner you come to terms with this fact the better. People spend their days constantly judging and assessing the people around them. There simply is no way around that.
The problem lies in you assuming that these judgements always lead to scorn. That may mean that you are being a little too harsh when you yourself judge others. Try to see the best in people OP, and maybe you'll be able to let others see the best in you.
Sounds like you could be around fake people.
Yesterday I made eye contact with some Asian girl on the street, and I guess I had a sly smile or something by accident (she was kinda hot), and she was giving me this perfectly neutral gaze. I glanced away, looked again a second later and she was still giving me this almost creepy gaze. Pic related is almost the exact facial expression. I don't know if this is good or bad. Felt like she was thinking of how to chop me up for dinner or something...thoughts? body language expert opinions?
>>17553380
It's just her resting face, none of her emotions were strong enough for her to change her expression I guess. No idea why you're so hung up over that.
>>17553380
You better sleep with the lights on for the rest of your life
>>17553380
There's a reason why China is a place where eating dog meat is acceptable.
>approach a random female during my lunch
>ask if i can sit with her
>make conversation for a little bit
>ask for number
Can anyone confirm that this is acceptable? Went to a really fucked up private highschool and now i am in college with no experience in getting numbers and asking girls out.
>>17553375
Haha it's not standard to be able to pull this off
If you get on well, have a bit of patience, sit with her a couple more times, then advance
>>17553393
This. Standard approach is that you chat a few times and if you can tell it's going well (conversation flows easily, you both laugh/smile regularly, she isn't being passive) you ask if she wants to meet for coffee sometime. Or if you're really ballsy/want to make really sure that it's a date, ask her to go on a date with you.
It's not that what you said isn't socially acceptable, lots of guys do it. But that is the reason why girls are typically weary when a guy starts a conversation with them or asks to sit with them.
>>17553393
I go to a fuckin huge uni so i probably will never see her again
Why am I unable to enjoy doing things by myself like watching movies, tv shows, playing single-player games, or watching anime? If I do these things with other people, I can focus on them and enjoy them, whether the other person(s) are talking with me or staying quiet the entire time, I feel comfortable, focused, and feel good that I did them afterwards, even discussing them and looking forward to new ones. However, if I'm doing these things alone, I get really anxious, I feel like I'm being held down, and need to get away from them. I'd need to take breaks every 10 minutes, and even within those 10 minutes I find it extremely hard to concentrate, having to rewind a movie constantly to get what was said because I'm unable to concentrate on it for the first 3 or so times.
Anyone have an idea on what is wrong with me? I'd really like to be able to enjoy things like these on my own, I'd be able to view and play a lot more, and have so much more fun.
Maybe you're an extrovert?
>>17553370
I'm a lonely person myself and I've had no friends for most of my teenage to adult. However I've noticed that I put the most hours into multiplayer games and spend most of my time talking to dudes on 4chan, I have little motivation to finish TV series, most single-player games, watch movies or anime myself. The same went for my study habits, when I had a friend in college(he dropped out of my life now) I was super motivated to do study together and made extra efforts to learning things when I did them in a group because I was helping someone else. When I study by myself I have to do certain techniques to keep myself in it.
I do find that when I can sympathize with characters I tend to be more involved in the story/game, maybe you just need to get into things that are more character driven.
Can't say I have the same issue as you. I tend to get anxious and guilty for enjoying the things as you listed when alone. I guess because I feel a social setting is productive versus on doing these thing on my own. It tends to become a bit cumbersome to maintain attention throughout. I'm more or less restless because I feel I should be doing something productive.
Then again, I'm in a really rough situation in life right now, so any form of solo enjoyment tends to eat at me.
I wish I knew how to help. I was thinking about making some sort of blog that requires me to list my experiences and thoughts about whatever movie/show I watched or game I played. I don't know, haha.
In order to get your license in the US, you need a registered vehicle. My local DMV doesn't provide one, nor does my local drivers ed. I have no other way to get there even if I had a car, because if I drove there, I'd get a ticket.
My parents won't help, and I've got no friends who would be willing to help.
I can get there on foot or by uber, but I'd still need a vehicle.
All of this is incredibly circular, and frustrating. I posted a similar thread awhile back, but I hadn't honestly exhausted all my options. At this point, I've done everything other than paying some random person on Craigslist to take me and let me use his car.
What else can I do?
Ps I live in Mississippi, if that's relevant.
Correction
*I've got no friends who are willing to help.
>>17553366
>My parents won't help, and I've got no friends who would be willing to help.
You sure about that? Have you asked?
>>17553376
To make a long story short, yes.
>girlfriend wants me to pretty much fully fulfill my gender roles/stereotypes
>I'm not very traditional, I'd say I'm a bit of a conservative so I fit the bill for most of them
>But some I just don't see as important (I don't keep my emotions in, I'm not aggressive and have a distaste for people who are confrontational, I'm somewhat sensitive, etc). and my girlfriend will get slightly annoyed/upset with me (and occasionally very upset with me) when I don't fulfill them
>but she constantly expresses a fear that I'll hold her to her gender roles and she'll just be 'another housewife stuck in the kitchen' - which I have no interest in doing
>but I do have an issue with being held to my gender roles while she's terrified of being held to hers
For example:
>My car breaks down
>I ask my buddy who's a mechanic to fix it, he's fine with it and we help each other out all the time
>She scolds me for it and tells me that a real man wouldn't rely on someone else to fix their problem
>>17553333
>a real man
Tell her she cannot define your gender like that.
You can confront her with her hypocrisy, but at the end of the day she wants to be with a different sort of man than you are and is trying to shame you into fitting some sort of mold.
I don't see a solution. You're not compatible.
Remind her that a real man wouldn't be taking any of her lip
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sZaEP51rtmg
I just got a ÂŁ1000 bonus last week at work. Long story...
What should I do with it? (knowing that I'm not trying to spend it all, I want to see if I can use that money to make more money somehow)
Head over to /biz/, they're probably more capable of helping out.
I am Dr. Bakare Tunde, the cousin of Nigerian Astronaut, Air Force Major Abacha Tunde. He was the first African in space when he made a secret flight to the Salyut 6 space station in 1979. He was on a later Soviet spaceflight, Soyuz T-16Z to the secret Soviet military space station Salyut 8T in 1989. He was stranded there in 1990 when the Soviet Union was dissolved. His other Soviet crew members returned to earth on the Soyuz T-16Z, but his place was taken up by return cargo. There have been occasional Progrez supply flights to keep him going since that time. He is in good humor, but wants to come home.
In the 14-years since he has been on the station, he has accumulated flight pay and interest amounting to almost $ 15,000,000 American Dollars. This is held in a trust at the Lagos National Savings and Trust Association. If we can obtain access to this money, we can place a down payment with the Russian Space Authorities for a Soyuz return flight to bring him back to Earth. I am told this will cost ÂŁ 1,000 English Pounds. In order to access the his trust fund we need your assistance.
>>17553302
Money can't make money at the level of ÂŁ1,000
Does the female sex drive really do the thing where it disappears if it's not used? Can you kickstart it somehow?
>>17553287
Unfortunately it does but it depends a lot on circumstances. Boredom and routine such as work and family duties suppress women's sex drive far more than men's.
>>17553303
>routine
>family duties
So... What am I supposed to do? Quit my job, abandon my family and get a sugar daddy?
In my experience it does. It fluctuates according to a whole number of influences - how confident I feel and how good I feel about my body, whether I get attention, whether there's a possibility of having sex with someone who's a good lover, how stressed and (un)healthy I am, hormones and so on.
Kickstarting seems a bit ambitious, but I find that if I actively put my mind to fantasizing more and making more sexual observations throughout the day, my sex drive increases. Same for masturbating more.
So this was about 3 months ago, there's this girl at school, let's call her Dani. I had a crush on and told a mate about her.
Long story short, he told her best friend and I've been getting weird looks from her classmates since then, while Dani did her best not to look at me.
Her best friend told me I should just go talk to her etc. Which I refused to do, since I wasn't really sure I actually wanted to.
This went on for about a month and after that Dani seemed kinda annoyed everythime she saw me, with her classmates sorta like making fun of her with 'look who's there'.
So I figured I talk to Dani and get this over with. I told Dani the entire situation is not what it seemed.
Didn't really solve anything, so a few days later early before school and the last day before summer holiday, I asked if she wanted to hang out sometime.
She made up some excuses blah blah so basically she refused. Didn't see her after that, as she wasn't in the school canteen that day.
Didn't really care about it, didn't see her for two months.
Fast forward: Yesterday, I walked into the school canteen and almost immidiatly her classmates were looking at me like I was a convicted murderer or something.
Dani wasn't there, but it did make me feel uncomfortable the way there were constantly looking at me and whispering.
I don't want anything to do with her and don't care that she rejected me, but how can I her classmates to leave me alone?
I'll likely see her and her classmates again next Friday, and don't want the same thing to happen.
I'm 19 and she's 18. We're both prolly a 7/10. Pic unrelated.
>>17553257
Tough it out. Eventually they'll get bored and leave you alone. The best course of action is not giving them more things to talk about. So don't fight with them about it, etc.
>>17553257
Don't give a fuck about what they think. Simply.
Bored people who don't have shit going for them cling on things going on for others.
>>17553296
P.S: All of you are too old for this shit.
Anybody feel like nothing they do has any value?
I'm 23 and I'm not particularly smart which is only exacerbated by my almost nonexistent self-worth. I never feel like any of my efforts towards anything have any value and I never feel comfortable unless I'm parroting or pantomiming somebody else. It's like everything I come up with is worthless in my mind and has no value, and I have no idea what I'm doing. My ex pointed this tendency of mine which only cemented it in my mind.
I can hardly even really contribute to discussions online or otherwise, and when I try to it takes me forever to articulate myself and I always find by the time I'm done that somebody else said what I wanted to shorter, sweeter, and way more coherently.
TL;DR I hate everything I do, anybody else feel the same way and if so what do you do about it
>>17553219
You just sound utterly average and there's nothing wrong with that, not stupid, not brilliant, not particularly talented nor entirely useless, right? Instead of seeing this as a handicap you should use it to give you some peace of mind. You will do just fine, but you don't have to take on the pressure of excelling either. Your life doesn't have to have value to anyone but yourself. However, what might give you some condifence is to find something you enjoy and then develop it into a life long hobby. It will give you purpose and eventually, one day, you will realise that you're actually getting good at it, which will make you feel good about yourself. Keep in mind that being average is okay. There are people smarter and better than you, sure. But there's also a ton of people who are dumber and even more useless, so you're doing just fine.
lmao that fucking cat always cracks me up
>>17553260
There is nothing worse than mediocrity. Quantitatively and qualitatively, sure, but mentally/emotionally/spiritually/whatever it's never-ending torment.
You've heard it all
>happiness is a choice
>get a hobby
>join a club
>just be yourself
>follow your passion
>live in the moment
>you need to love yourself before anyone else can
>just make a career plan and follow it
But there's nothing anyone can say to help you out.
Do you know what all us miserable hopeless losers need to hear?
kill urself?
fucking idk, it's all generic advice you listed, but there's an element of truth in each of 'em.
people just need give the steps to reach those goals. that's why it sounds dumb and cliché. and desu, don't even know what ur asking, Senpai.
Oh yes, mate, because there's one thing that works for ALL "miserable hopeless losers". All of them have the same problem. All of them want the same things. All of them have the same insecurities, fears, desires, motivations, attitude and interest. Human psychology is that simple. It's so easy that hearing one phrase can motivate and teach every unhappy bastard out there to achieve happiness.
Yes, what you posted there in greentext is cliche general advice and it works in one way or another, but don't think that following a bunch of general advice will solve all your problems and make you happy. Cliches exist for a reason, because they usually have some form of truth in them, but it doesn't mean that they are always true. Building your life on general advice like this will probably help you be better off than some sob who just stumbled blindly through life, but it won't make your life perfect, you'll still have problems, big or small. There will still be reasons to be unhappy and periods when you feel down. You yourself with or without help need to understand what your problems are and figure out how to fix them and improve your life. That's why psychologists exist and that's why the ones that are actually competent never give you generic advice like "follow your passion", but explain in detail why you feel the way you do and what you should do to improve your situation. To figure out how to solve someone's problem you need to understand that person and their problem very well. How do you expect general advice on something like this?
That's not actual advice, that's just what normalfags say to each other when they run out of motivation and need an extra push. What you need to do is figure out what your specific problems are, and then ask someone who knows a lot more about them than the average person.