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So I'm a little worried about the effects prone masturbation may have on me.
I remember I always used to do it as a kid and in my early teens, grinding against pretty much every surface you can think of (never poked my dick against stuff like some descriptions of it suggest, just rubbed through clothes while my dick was flat against my stomach). I used to do it before I could even come, maybe as early as 8 years old and I continued to do it occasionally up until earlier this week when I decided I should stop. I'm 22 now.
I did eventually start masturbating the conventional way in my teens and it's the only way I've ejaculated for a while now. I only continued the prone style as a way to work myself up faster before jacking it normally. I didn't want to come in my boxers too, y'know. I was reading about erectile dysfunction and other issues it can cause though and I'm a little worried about it, especially since it made me aware that I can't really recall having spontaneous boners for a while now and I never wake up with one any more. Do any of you guys over 20 notice that you don't get them as much any more? I'm thinking I might just not notice as I'm used to it or it doesn't happen as often past puberty anyway which is why. Thankfully, I don't have any issues with it fucking up how my dick looks like I've read about.
I can't see myself getting laid anytime soon, if at all, so not worried about lack of performance for the time being either. I'm just curious if you guys, particularly people who have also used this method, think that as long as I don't do it any more, my body will adjust and it shouldn't be something that causes problems?
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>>17548482
>I can't see myself getting laid anytime soon
neither can your body, apparently, hence its reaction.
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>>17548507
Part of why I'm asking is because I'm not sure my body is even having a reaction. It's one of those things where I read about the effects and suddenly think I'm feeling them. I don't have trouble getting an erection when I am masturbating. I'm curious whether getting random rod ons is normal for a 22 year old or if that's something that happens more in your teens.
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>>17548523
more a teen thing
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How do you know when you've found "the one"? If you're not sure, should you be honest with your partner about that uncertainty?
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>>17548478
being 'honest' about something implies that there is a certain expectation of communication.
I'm trying to find a good 'for instance' but its eluding me.
but the idea is that your girlfriend doesn't communicate every thought (and with that, every fear) that she has to you. and you do not do the same. you are not expected to.
if you love her, and you tell her you love her, then you are being honest. if she ever asks 'wehre do you see us going' and you say 'WERE OBVIOUSLY GOING TO BE TOGEHTER FOREVER' that might not be 'being honest'. but until then you are just two people exploring your relationsihp to see what arises.
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>>17548489
that being said, there is no 'the one'. if you want to claim there is, why? if ur atheist it makes no sense, and even in most religions there is no such thing as religious destiny, so why do you think there is any sense of 'the one'?
and if you meant it in philisophical terms, there would be no way of knowing, so the question is moot.
you simply do what oyu want, when you are comfortable doing it, with the people you have at the time. ur not missing out on destiny if you leave a girl cuz you arent sure. the idea that destiny revolves around who you share a bed with is a silly concept when you think about why that would matter.
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>>17548478
For me it's when you find someone for whom a desire to grow and nurture a loving a relationsip is mutual between you and them.
I don't have a massive checklist of things I need. I know what to look for when a woman has that true desire to be with me, I've learned what it looks like as I see other women show it off for guys they are attracted to.
It doesn't mean I won't try to date or be proactive but I don't waste time with women who don't care to make it work out.
Hey /adv/ I was wondering if any of you had any advice to a new college student such as habits to keep or ways to study different classes. Any advice would be helpful, thanks.
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>>17548447
Just Google search exactly that.
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>>17548447
Read the top answers.
https://www.quora.com/How-do-top-students-study
Quora is the best place to find answers because it's not at all uncommon to see someone like a CEO or doctor giving advice like this.
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>>17548462
Thanks this page has some great advice.
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Hello, it's one of my first times creating a thread in 4chan.
I have a really demanding parent and I don't know how to deal with it. I have to come home with good grades (Like 85/100 or better), I have to focus on my studies and everything.
I can't! I keep on playing and playing in the god damn pc. I also need to stop using it, I'm too addicted to social networks and video games. My sight is really bad, also my spine and neck are bad too so I started taking some medicines and treatments...
I really want to study and focus. I really do, but I can't just stop using the pc. The cellphone is also a problem.
What can I do? Please help
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>>17548443
Let it go...
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work on homework in a public setting away from your or other computers (like the library)
find a study group
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>>17548499
Actually, I'm not that free. I'm not allowed to go outside alone or with a small group
I feel suffocated being all day in home without being able to move my legs
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A few days ago there was this mystery guy I met that tried to talk to me at school but obviously got shy and embarrassed all together then did a 180 and left.
TODAY, the same guy came and sat right next to me in the cafeteria. I was on my laptop and he was on his phone but occasionally he would glance at me, it was a pretty noticeable glance that I was able to time precisely and look directly at him when he did it. We ended up talking about games but then a mystery girl appeared!
A mystery girl familiar to him him! It's one of those situations where I can't tell if she's his girlfriend (maybe even married), sister or best friend. I just automatically assumed girlfriend because they left for class together but I haven't seen them do anything couple-like.
A lot later, I'm still in the same spot but random people took the seats around me. Mystery guy came back, stared in my general direction, stood around for a little (like he was waiting to see if anyone would move), then went and sat a short distance away.
Occasionally, I would look over my laptop and see him glancing. He didn't come over when people left the seats though.
I had to go do something for a club I'm in, so I went to do that and when I came back, Mystery Guy was seated next to where I was seated. I sat next to him and another dude and we had a conversation over majors then Mystery girl appeared again.
I conversed with the mysterious pair and we start talking about computers. Mystery guy said he bought mystery girl a new computer (hence why I thought she was wifey). After that they left together again, once again not in a couple like way, just a very familiar way.
What do you guys think of the situation?
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>>17548401
I'd guess wife. Why don't, ya know, ask him?
It wouldn't have been awkward if you'd just have asked "who's your friend?" the first or second time you talked to him.
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>>17548415
That's the thing it was always pretty awkward talking to him, he'd be super flustered and really nice. He always looked at me like he wanted to talk but was holding back. So I kind of just left it alone?
I know I'll definitely find out for sure as the semester progresses, probably as early as next week. I just wanted a general heads up.
The glances are throwing me off, he's good looking, seems like a sweet and gentle person -_- but if he has a wife why???
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So, recently I've been hanging around two women and I want to make a move,but the problem is I don't know which one I should go after. Keep in mind, I'm a fat, (5' 10" 212 lbs) kissless, virgin who has never done anything like this before. As for if they're interested in me, girl 2 definitely is, girl 1 I think is.
Girl 1:
>THICC AF, like in a great way
>Blonde hair, blue eyes
>Dutch Afrikaans
>Erudite af, both her and I are near the top in our respective classes
>When we flirt, it's a very aggressive(?) kind of flirting. IE playful insults and whatnot
Girl 2:
>VERY skinny, probably 100 lbs and she's 5' 6", she's still curvy though
>Brown hair and blue eyes
>Very cute, crooked teeth, almost childish
>Our flirting is...? I make her laugh A LOT, except we don't really flirt that much. She does do childish things to get my attention. IE throwing papers, poking me when I'm not looking and acting like nothing happened, etc.
Both of them disagree with me politically. So, that's a thing. I just don't know what either of them see in me.
I thought I would have more time to decide, but one of the girls has invited me to something that has a high chance of leading to something going down. BONUS INFORMATION, I talked to some of girl 2's acquaintances and apparently her and her family life is crazy, like not in a good way. Girl 1's father is dead and her mother is some sorta hippy music teacher.
What do?
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>>17548393
>IE throwing papers
how old u son?
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>>17548412
I'm sure it's not intentional, friend, but please delete this pic; you are on a blue board.
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>tfw receding hairline at 22
It's not too bad but it's definitely noticeable when i pull my bangs back, should I look into any sort of treatment or am I fucked? I have good genes (dad and both grandparents have a lot of hair) so will it just stop where it's at? I'm pretty concerned because I have a babbyface/can't really grow facial hair so if I go bald I'll look like a weird fuck
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Shave it
Get cut
Channel the Jason Statham look
I went bald in my teens, this worked for me
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>>17548352
It's not at that point where i'm full damage control, I just see the signs and want to know if there's anything I can do to combat it. Plus man I know what you mean but trust me, I would not look good bald. I have the face of a 16 year old.
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how do i stop NEETing my shit up?
is there a book or something that can help me get some motivation to find a career or something else?
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>>17548337
"how to win friends and influence people"
its literally the guidebook. you can tell from the title. doesnt even require thought.
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>>17548342
>"how to win friends and influence people"
Thought it was trash. More so than other self help books.
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Hey /adv/, here's the situation.
I've been with my wife for just almost 6 years, and been smoking weed recreationally for more than twice that. My wife has smoked (rarely) in the past, but doesn't anymore. But she never had a problem with my usage, until recently. She's told me a few times now that she's worried about my drug use and that she thinks I might have a substance abuse problem.
I know that people who suffer from addiction issues often are incapable of seeing their own situation clealy, but I do not have a substance abuse problem. I take great care to smoke responsibly; I never smoke when I might have to drive, never when I have work the next day, never when I'm upset or stressed about something, and never before our son (almost 3 y.o.) goes to bed. I smoke maybe 2-3 times a month, and a 1/4-oz lasts me well over a year, maybe a year and a half. I know that I'm not abusing it.
But here's the thing, I don't think she's being manipulative or gaslighting me. She was in a long-term relationship with a hardcore alcoholic before she and I met, and it's made her extremely sensitive to these issues. So... what do? How can I talk to her in a way that's respectful of what she's gone through but also not just agreeing with her?
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That's tough, man. I love weed and will go through phases where I'm literally stoned from morning till night, and the only reason they're phases is due to monetary issues. You could call me a staunch marijuana advocate. That being said, I'm single with no children.
Does she sound like she's being unreasonable? Sure. But is it something to ruin a marriage over? No.
It sounds like you're responsible with your usage, but from what you're saying it doesn't seem like that matters - she's made her decision that it's bad. If she can't see that you're handling your usage well and if it's going to be a source of problems, I'd say drop the weed.
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So what's she observing recently that has made her suddenly believe this is a problem? Are there problems in other areas?
She may also be looking for a way out.
Since it's not a big deal, I'd just go cold turkey and prove her otherwise. If you can't, well, maybe she's on to something.
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>>17548297
>been smoking weed recreationally for more than [12 years]
>I do not have a substance abuse problem.
Yes, you do.
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How does one obtain a tomboy girlfriend?
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>>17548289
u mean a lesbian? r u 1?
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>>17548289
Approach them. Strike up a conversation. Near the end, ask them out. When one of them says yes, stop.
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>>17548293
>approach them
How
>Strike up a conversation
How
>ask them out
How
I'm 19, and I've known I want to transition gender since I was 14, but my parents have always been farther right than the nazis. I still live with them because I'm too afraid of failure to move out on my own. I only have a few friends and the only reason I haven't gone an hero yet is because of the Internet. I question if there's even any hope for me yet.
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>>17548260
How come people like you didn't exist 100 years ago?
Anyway OP get a job and manage yourself. Until then you wont be able to do much but when you get tjere it will be worth it and you will be able to do whatever the fuck you want.
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Remember that after you cut your dick off, nothing will get better. All your problems will still be here with the new added problems brought on by surgery and social shit. You'll likely join some gay lgbt commune that will treat you shitty.
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>>17548260
>my parents don't want me taking hormones, putting women's clothes and cutting of my dick
>they are basically nazis
kys
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>be hungry
>don't have time to eat
>get time to eat
>too sick to eat
What do?
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>>17548226
Drink juice and or a protien shake.
At the very least you have no reason to drink water.
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>>17548226
Eat anyway.
I'm not eating due to lazyness and it feels wrong. I'm also dropping weight, which i don't have.
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force yourself to eat, then when you're full eat a little bit more
it'll force your stomach to expand, if you do it enough times it'll permanently increase your stomach capacity so you'll be able to eat more and gain weight very easily
that's what you wanted, right?
How did I do?
https://youtu.be/o1NGIoTPSN4
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>>17548208
lame.
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>>17548225
Anything I could fix?
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>>17548228
Sure, be funny next time.
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There is some impulsiveness. I keep getting an urge to tell someone I love them, before the first date. I'm not even sure about them, and know that this feeling is not exactly what she would refer to as 'love.' Still, the words "I love you!" keep popping in my head.
Pic fucking gay
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for anyone who sucks at inferences, I am looking for feedback and advice on this, please
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>>17548158
Inexperience
Not every happy feeling is love
t. experienced the same thing
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>>17548163
>Inexperience
I have been in love before. Maybe I haven't been happy before. Things have recently started looking up, aside from the date.
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I'm only 19 but I already feel like I have so many regrets.
I'm insecure about so many things and every time I try to fix one I end up focusing on how much of a compromise what I'm doing is and then I feel like a failure and start to focus on my other insecurities too. For the past 3-4 years I've just felt like a failure in life.
Today I was feeling really positive about starting college again so I can get back on track to going to university next year but already I'm slipping back into feeling the same way again. Feelings of self doubt are creeping in
>What if screw up
>What if this happens
>how did I end up in this situation in the first place
>I'm a failure
>I've wasted my life
>This tinnitus is driving me insane
>Why am I so short
>Why am I so ugly
>Why am I so skinny
>Why am I so awkward
>Why am I so bad with people
>Why am I always so sad
I just hate being me so much. I don't always remember being like this, I used to be so happy all the time and my future looked so bright. I just want to be happy and feel fulfilled in life but I just feel like that's impossible for me and the way I am. I don't know what to do anymore, I really don't want to die but I'm just so unhappy and I don't want to feel like this anymore. Please help me.
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>Please help me
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Start focusing on positives instead of negatives.
Can't think of positives? Do some soul searching.
Really can't think of positives? Soul searching will have led you to what you need to improve. Work hard and consistently on things you can improve, and accept things that you can't improve on.
Be strict with yourself - really make good efforts through good means
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anon,your life has just begun,please dont feel like you wasted it all.even if you screw up,theres more than enough time to fix it! try to list what you dont like about your current situation,like you did here,and ways to change it.for example,being awkward and bad with people can be fixed trough socializing,and about being too skinny,you can work out.
i know its not possible to change everything overnight,but start with just one thing,like working out,you dont have to do a full routine,just running for a bit everyday or doing,say,10 push ups a day helps!its way better than nothing,and with time you can add to it :)
sorry if thats no help,but im cheering for you mate.