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>do some people seriously expect "sorry" to fix everything they've done just so they can feel better about their shitty behavior?
Yes, some people do expect this bullshit.

>>17585414
I can only second this. Still, it is possible to forgive someone and yet think they are meaningless cunts you don't want in your life. If you are B it sounds like you actually still care about A instead of being indifferent.

Just for the record; Having done real wrong to people who matter in my life myself I have to say that it all begins with a sorry. I'm still friends with the people I've wronged previously and there have been no repeat offences from my side. Every now people have done me wrong as well, I've forgiven them as well. Sometimes it's not about the "sorry" but about the fact that you can't even get to display that you're apologetic or your regret without starting at the point where you apologize.

Not that it sounds like A in this case actually cared about any of that shit. The A should just have accepted that forgiveness could not be given here and walked away without throwing shit around, which is the important part in this situation.

>>17585455
good guess! i *am* B!

A is just some stranger off reddit who got pissed off because i called him out for being a misogynist with shitty beliefs like being dangerously pro-life.

for example, he said that i get off to baby murder (his exact words) but quickly edited that so he wouldn't look like a psychopath. = i wish that i screencapped it, HE SAID A LOT MORE THAN THAT TOO and treated me like i was inhuman for being pro-choice. damn.

i'm also sexist (against men) according to him because i think only women should be responsible for abortion and that men can't force women to be pregnant just so they (guys) can have a kid. truly fucked up. not that i'm saying sexism against men isn't real, but way to fucking hate women and treat them like baby-making murderers, you fuck-up.

i don't give a shit about him at all and i will never forgive him for his poor attempts at harassing me. he can rot in hell for all i care.

who the fuck tries to sic /b/ on someone who argued with them on reddit anyway? fucking jesus.

>>17585292

interaciton is not a test. whatever shes going to think, shes going to think.

act authentically, or lose yourself entirely.

Just tell her that your'e a retard, she'll probably understand

>>17585301
You don't understand. I haven't talked to people for years. I have absolutely zero social skills

ask her how her weekend was what her hobbys are and sometimes later get a little bit touchy like hands and shoulder

>>17585286
Does it really works like that? It seems to me extremely stupid to touch someone. Is it really normal?

not OP here but how do i go about doing same thing without face turning into a fucking tomato, im not shy its just im not used to talking to people and i get embarrassed when talking to girls.

>Diet? Exercise? Supplements?
yes, dick supps are basically just flour+generic viagra + caffeine though

Try a cockring

What about hypnosis or NLP? Pretty sure you can download NLP stuff for sexual performance as well as the usual public speaking phobia etc stuff. You just listen to it on your phone and if you're suggestible enough it takes root.

>>17585256
How old are you? Also, if this is your first relationship you really need to think about the future for a second. Which is why I asked your age.

If you can't stand him, then it's time to break up and cut your losses.

>>17585256
give him a chance to enjoy his life and fuck off.

>>17585268


I'm 24. I was kinda sheltered and matured socially slower than everyone else.


And I mean idk, like I just don't think I like him a lot as a person and if I was around him 24/7 i don't think I would like him anymore. I like who he is when he puts in effort, but he only
Does that if I barely
See him. If we lived together I'd probably get sick of him quick . I'm scared to break up with him

>>17585233

you cant sue anyone. you signed the contract knowing about this (or at least having the resources to know abotu this, ur fault for not reading).

do what everyone else does, lie.

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>>17585233
It's 60 hours.

Why is this a big deal?

>>17585233

Is community service the only way to get credit? My college has a similar requirement (200 hours over 4 years) and you can earn those by going to presentations, donating shit to charity, reviewing selected books, etc.

>>17585216
Allergies or a cold?

>>17585216
Drinking tea makes that worse you mong

>>17585216
Shove a pipette down your throat and suck the phlegm out

Were they both single while they were friends with you? Maybe they liked you romantically, but got boyfriends and moved on. If this is the case, then I'd recommend that you become more sensitive to other's intentions.

>>17585798
They were both single and still are I think maybe one has a boyfriend but idk

You're 21, this will change over time. It's highly unlikely you'll meet the person you're happy to spend the rest of your life with at that age.

>>17585196

i love how you try to sound mature, and then say

>at the ripe age of 21, i have already decided that we are going to be together until we die
you're 21 and no longer sexually attracted to him, its a matter of time before one of you pulls the plug on the relationship.

you can be attracted to people for more than... what, you've been dating 7 months?

>>17585212
>>17585213
we've been in a relationship since 2012 and we just click on so many levels. i suppose it's hard to find a honest companion who's there til the bitter end with you, but that's exactly what we've found in each other.
giving it up just because the initial attraction is gone is bullshit imho.

>>17585192

life is what you make of it. you cannot really choose what comes your way but you can choose how you react to it, and most importantly, which way you go.

there are people who work at mc donalds and know they will be there for at least three yeras who are having the best time of their life. there are people who only need to work there for a summer who come here and complain about wanting to kill themselves because of the job itself.

they'll be the same age, same happy home life, but one is destroyed by the concept of wokring in fast food.

depression is more commonly a teen thing. rush of hormones, new concepts, etc. they want to feel victimized. the problem is that we've started to coddle these people instead of pushing them to face reality, so the 'edgy teen phase' is starting to push into the twenties.

growing up is more or less accepting that the world is not perfect, but that you can still do what you want to do, more or less.

>>17585192
Yes.
And for every generation except this one, self-reported happiness went up every decade from the 20's to the 60's.
For the millennials though, self-reported happiness has gone down from the teens through the 20's. The best guess is that they were so protected from the bad parts of life that they had no idea how tough it really was at times. Going to college and getting jobs was a brutal awakening.
Still, as they get it figured out, it is expected that their happiness will increase in their 30's, just like previous cohorts.

Hang in there, it gets better once you have some direction..school , job , travel . I had drink a lot through my 20s , and I don't reccomend that at all . Go to school

>>17585165

if he can afford to live with you he can afford to live in a similar situation soemwhere else. you can tell him its not working and give him thirty or sixty or ninety days notice so he has time to find a REAL place, not a last minute one.

you coudl also create a chore chart and hold him to it. you could have a more serious conversation as opposed to a casual one.

but if i had to guess you'll insist that none of this would work.

Just tell him you'll hike up the rent to compensate for his lack of responsibility are participation for household goods and services. It's not fair to you to pay for his own household items and labor over his messes when he's the one old enough to take care of that himself.

>>17585165
You cant physically force him to change, only kick him out.

"I'm sorry for your loss"

Don't bring up the subject, they usually don't want to talk about it. If the situation calls for it tell him you're sorry for his loss, but don't insist on it.
If they do want to talk about it listen to them. There's not much for you to say, but sometimes just having someone listen to you in your moments of grief may make it feel better.

Other than that it depends. Different things would make different people feel better, that's why we cannot give you advice on what exactly to say or not to say. Since you're not sure yourself I suggest keeping talk about it to a minimum.

>>17585143
It will all be OK, i see ghosts sometimes dw about it.

Well, after giving it two or three weeks for us tor randomly run into each other, I messaged her.

Took 25 hrs from my message to reply, but I think it went decent enough

I don't know if I actually saw her today, or if it was just someone very similar to her.

Who ever it was, we locked eyes for a few seconds in passing

It's comforting to know you'll never look at him and think "Damn he's hot". He could still slim down, but nothing will fix that face, hair or skin of his. And you know what? You like to boast about not caring about looks but you're just as vain as the next person, take no offense. One day, when the fire flickers, you'll wish you could say that about your husband.
This was your PSA, because I know exactly how this feels.

Ya don't let it play on the road.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=k3RNkBPKsbU

>>17585022
Don't treat it like a child.
Actually make sure you have time for it and attentions to give it.
You're committing for 10+ years.

>>17585027
I am aware of this. I don't have to work a lot. Maybe an hour a day at max. I just want to have a little buddy with me since I'm pretty lonely. Do you have some do's and dont's?

>>17584975
She'll just live off the money you'll earn with your fantastic job.

>>17584991
I would have no problem with that if I had any idea that a "fantastic job" was something in my future at all. I want her desperately to be able to pursue her passion, but I want us to be financially strong together because it is the most realistic model. Us working decently well-paying jobs together instead of just one person doing something that is obscenely well-paying, that is.

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>>17584975
So ur gf wants to help create the welfare state and keep us down, making aure we working class people never rise up and make anything of ourselves, suckling away at the government like a tit.

Both of you can get fucked.