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christian mingle

not if you post anime shit

Did you get divorce?

Join a meet up group based on your interests. Proceed from there.

>>17582847

I know this sounds weird, but don't go out "looking for people". Just do shit you like and meet them. Don't "try".

>>17582866
I've been on my own pretty much my whole life, so everything I like doing is solitary.

>No, it's mathematically impossible.

Pretty sure it isn't...

>>17582851
Factor in all the random variablessed and yes it it. If that was my nightly getting home from work train it would be at least improbable, but it was not. It was in fact the diametric opposite of that. It was probably the most random instance of me hoping on the subway possible. Like I was meant to be there. Supposed to be there.

>>17582872
Variables*.

>>17582823
how do i differentiate between just a friendly moment or a more romantic/sexual one?

I can think of at least three ways.
1. The traditional way: ask someone on a date, go on dates, don't fuck it up, and eventually fuck.
2. Pick up bar sluts: hit on women at the bar, ask them if they want to go back to your place, fuck
3. Hire a prostitute.
What advice are you looking? This should be obvious shit. I'm not saying it is easy, but still.

>>17582848
Getting them alone with me/hanging out with them is no problem for me. its when I've got them alone and then knowing when the right time is to go for a kiss or something that is the problem.

How do I make things sexual without flat out just pulling my cock out right away? I have no idea what to do in terms of foreplay/when to initiate the foreplay as well

Did you want some advice about anything in particular?

Get counseling for your sexual addiction bro

>>17582835
Yeah. Did anybody else experience that? I don't know what going on. I thunk it might have something to do with narcissistic abuse and CPTSD

This isn't high school. University has a lot more personal responsibility to it. Don't want to turn up to class? You don't have to. Miss a deadline? No one's going to chase you up about it. The result of this is that you have to make an effort to do the work in your own time. Showing up to class is not going to be enough, you have to do readings, make study notes and flash cards, and in general, learn how you learn.

By the way. 8:30 classes are not early. If you're finding it difficult to turn up to them, you need to get your sleeping pattern sorted.

>>17582812

Thanks for the reply!

Yeah, I've shown up to each class (and sat in the front 3 rows), but I feel like I'm not doing a good job with my readings. Normally, I review after every class by heading straight to the library and reviewing what I just learnt (+ moving things from paper to laptop), but I haven't tried making flash cards yet. I'll try that tomorrow (I'm going to sleep early today)

Back in HS, I would sleep from 11:30-6:30, so I figured that it'd be okay to sleep from 12:30-7:15, but in retrospect, I was tired back then too. I guess I'll sleep early today!

>>17582834
>moving things from paper to laptop
I did this for a few years, but I've switched to a laptop to take notes because I found that it was wasting time that I could spend doing other stuff. If you trust yourself not to get distracted in class, you could just take your laptop along with you to class to save yourself this time.

Going off that, when you read generic study tips online, don't assume that they're going to work for you. Like I said, learn how you learn. For example, when I do the whole 'study in shorter periods and take breaks more often' thing, I find I don't get anywhere, so my study schedule involves longer study periods with longer breaks.

By the way, my high school history teacher gave me this tip for doing well at university: treat it like a 9-5 job. Spend 8 hours a day working on uni stuff, and then take the rest of your time for yourself.

>>17582802
go on a third official date

>>17582805
Oh I will, but how can I incorporate those into it. These are literally my first dates ever and this chick really seems to dig me, plus she's super attractive.

>>17582802

Have you "made contact" yet? Hugged? Put you arm around her shoulders? Something like that?

>>17582718
Watch/listen comedians

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>>17582718
I think a good starting point is to just be honest and speak your mind, because that can be funny. So, stop being a nice guy and be more upfront and blunt about things. It's kind of hard to explain

Just think of a show like Seinfeld. The characters on the show aren't always trying to be funny. They just say and do things that end up being funny. They way they talk is funny.

A little sarcasm also can be great, but don't overdo it.

And you just need exposure. Watch more TV, movies, comedians, podcasts etc. Granted, some of those are shit these days, namely comedians. It's important to find the good ones, to which I can't really give an answer. And I recommend just watching Seinfeld. I've always thought that helped me be more funny

>>17582820
This.
Also, how is it to be a funny guy to you? i wasn't funny, but eventually, end up being sarcastic af in the school, and it was good. (cuz helped them with homework after telling him they were ugly/idiots/ whatever)
I won respect, make my humor better etc. Now the funny guy.
Open to share my "skills" ;)

>>17582707
I'm in the laborer union , honestly its best to meet someone or a company to put you in. Shat exactly did you do ?

get a loan open your own business digging holes or whatever.

start your own business, you're unhireable now

>>17582706
Do you know this person in real life?
Why is she in your group chat?
Have you tried blocking her?

Also a restraining order may be too much, you can call the police if she shows up or something. People like her exist everywhere.

>>17582996
I've never seen this person, no. Supposedly it's a friend of a friend. I have blocked her, but there's still the threat of her finding me in person.

>>17582706

Was the joke actually offensive? An apology might be in order.

bump 4 advice on how to open her eyes

ttt

>>17582691

1. Accept that he is her brother and regardless of what he's going through she will never give up on him.

2. Encourage her to not enable him without any anger or patronization. She realizes she's enabling him. She realizes he has a problem but she's stuck between a rock on a hard place. Thats how it always goes for people that have loved ones addicted to drugs.

Its important that she stop helping him but also important that the withdrawal of enabling is geared towards helping him treat his addiction, not just for the sake of spite.

Understand that its easy for you to call him a piece of shit and dismiss him because he isn't your brother but this is someone she's grown up with and had to go through the pain of watching his life fall apart because of drugs.

Be helpful but be sensitive.

>>17582661
For one thing, don't bother getting a girlfriend or getting into a relationship. Honestly, random hook ups and hookers are the best way to go... but honestly, getting a fleshlight is the real way to go, if I would have bought a fleshlight a couple years ago I wouldn't have even bothered getting married... pussy is great, whats attached to it is fucking awful.

Christ, why do Americans make such a big deal about losing your virginity as soon as you're 18?

>>17582749
Virgins are ridiculed in the media and real life here. It's not everywhere, but it happens often enough for virgins to get really insecure about it.

>>17582613
Change job, dump girlfriend.
Not a huge deal.

>>17582613
You don't want to die, you just don't want to live that misery. Dump the girlfriend, find another job.

If you're gonna go an hero, at least man up to do it quietly, and making sure they will find out way too late.

Suicide isn't the way to go. I don't know the whole story, but I've felt like this in two relationships.

I spent years with women, in long term relationships. I loved it, but the emotional trauma that occurred over time was depleting my sanity.

I've been single for over a year, because I was attracting toxic people. I loved the feeling of being loved, and that consistency - It's great! But sometimes, the best thing to do is what's beat for you. If this person makes you feel like suicide is your only exit, maybe she should leave. Maybe you should leave. Just cut ties all together. No need to explain this or that.

I've done this very thing. I've removed myself from people that are negative, psychic vampires and have worked on getting what I want out of life. I'm in my mid 30s now, and still not looking. A friend with benefits is nice, but here is a sign of a toxic person: They pride themselves in their sarcasm. Sarcasm is a bi-product of passive aggressive people. There is a difference between jokes and p.a. Behaviour.

Suicide is not an option worth anything to you. Live life to the fullest, even if that means ditching people you love. It's hard to do, but some people are best at a distance, in small doses, or not around at all. That is to say: I started treating them how they treat me, instead of how I wanted to be treated.

Do what is best for YOU. She can kick rocks. As for the job situation, ... well, let's focus on ridding poisonous people from your life.

Once you're single again, and doing what YOU want without explanation to a demanding fembot, you can look into other jobs. I'll keep my eye on this thread, if you'd like to chat.

Actually you are depriving yourself from being with someone who finds you beautiful.

If however you really do look like the back end of truck maybe you should find happiness in the fact they want to be with you, considerer yourself lucky and stop worrying about.

>>17582596
I find my boyfriend attractive sexually, but I don't find him handsome like a Greek good.
The point is that I don't care. That he is the best man I know and I hopelessly adore him. I want to grow old with him, I want him to be the father of my kids.
His body is the last thing I care about.
Don't let a small insecurity ruin an overall good relationship.

>>17582596
That honestly depends... are you a burden or chore to be with, or are you someone who actually adds to his life and makes him happy?

>>17582594
>anyone can get wet/aroused with someone else tugging at their genitals

and if I take my big lumberjack hands and started tugging at your genitals, would you get aroused?

you need to get a grip

>>17582612
No, I need to fucking feel like I'm aroused and not a fucking dildo.

Also if I woke up in the morning and random hands were on my dick and lights were off and someone was sucking me off that I couldn't see, probably I'd have a boner, yes, regardless of whom.

>>17582620
By "aroused" I mean "attractive" btw.