Friday was my first night drinking after a sober month, so I go out to my normal club to socialise and catch up with everyone
Qt girl who I've had drunk chats with a few times comes up
"Hey Anon, I haven't seen you in ages, are you and your lady still together?"
"Nah we broke up about a week ago"
She sits on my lap and shit
Chat for a bit then say "I gotta head off, work tomorrow. But I'm going to be going really hard tomorrow to make up for lost time, want to drop some pills with me?"
"I'd love to"
Meet her out Saturday night, I take 3 because I'm a dickhead and forgot how low my tolerance would be after none for a month
We get separated because we were both fucked, but she messages me asking to go to another club
I can't figure out how Facebook works and my hands were shaking like crazy, and I end up accidentally spamming a bunch of love heart emojis, but she thinks it's cute
Here's where shit goes south
My two housemates are engaged, and the dude is out of town for the weekend
I get a call from him saying to get to the nearest bridge and call the police immediately because his fiancé was about to kill herself
I immediately leave the club and start sprinting, calling the cops on the way
Qt calls me because she can't type either, and I explain the situation, kind of in hysterics
Housemate wasn't at the bridge so I keep running until I get home
She's there, and I sit and hold her for a couple of hours until the attack passed and I put her to bed
Im still fucked out of my mind and want to keep dancing, so I get a taxi back to the club
Just as I get there Qt messages me
"Sorry just saw my ex and I can't handle being anywhere around him right now, so I'm heading home"
I decide to keep drinking for a bit, black out and wake up in a carpark
Stumble home, sleep all day and message Qt apologising that shit got out of hand
She said it was fine and she still had a good night but seemed kind of distant and I'm worried I scared her off
What do?
>>17584041
I don't think you fucked up at all, you helped your housemate with his woman. Good on you man.
shes on a come down off those diddlers you gave her. I wouldnt feel like talking much either
This night illustrates how stupid your drug abuse is, and how there are much more important things going on in life than a woman you have a crush on
You did the right thing considering the circumstances. Now, get your shit together. You will not find lasting love with a woman who sits in laps at parties and casually takes drugs. If you are only trying to hit and quit then proceed but stop being a retard sooner than later
Hi /adv/,
I am trying to get into lucid dreaming again. Never had any major success with it.
Do you have advice or technics, programs or meditation technics that helped you with remembering your dreams or getting lucid?
>inb4 Diary, Reality checks, close your eyes and count untill you dream
>>17584015
Sleep on your back. You are guaranteed to get sleep paralysis most times you sleep on your back, but it gives you more vivid dreams and more chances to lucid dream.
>>17584027
the only time I was able to fell asleep in bed is when my child was born at home and laid on my chest.
That said, any tips on how to resist the desire to roll to one side? I kinda get nervous when lying on my back for to long, that is counterproductive when falling asleep. Thanks for the advice tho, I'll try it.
>>17584050
Fall asleep on your back in a bed you mean?
As for tips, I extend my arms past my head when I lay on my back, then just let them relax. This works better I find with two pillows. It's the only way I can sleep on my back these days. Used to be able to sleep mummy style with arms crossing my chest. I'd say with confidence 90% of the time I've done this I remember all my one or more dreams that night. I'd also say that a lot of the time I get sleep paralysis which isn't fucking fun at all, so watch out.
My face is in terrible shape. Bit of acne, blackheads and these skin coloured bumps. Acne was probably genetic as my older sister got hit by it aswell, and after a few years of antibiotics it almost disappeared but she has few scars. She had it worse, but she didnt have any blackheads or the other things. Any advice on getting rid of all them?
I would go to a dermatologist. if you can't see a dermatologist, at least see your regular doc. and if they give you any pills or creams, look them up to see what the potential adverse effects are before taking them. I know some people have had great success with accutane and others have gotten some nasty effects from it.
Cut out all' junk good from your diet. Drink only water and eat a mediterranea diet. The acne Will dissapear and you wont bè putting money in the pharmakikes claws...Win Win.
>>17584002
Was on meds from dermatologist for a few months. Nothing changed.
>>17584062
Im not eating any junk food nor drink sweet drinks or anything. My food is mostly homecooked, although it may be too rich in fat. Im also drinking around 2l of water daily. I might give this diet a shot but not sure if I can really afford eating fish too often.
G'day my beloved sick fucks. I come with a question. But before that question must come the story.
Like all good stories, this one is about a girl. An ex girlfriend. A RECENT ex girlfriend.
We'll call her Christine. It's not even close to her real name, but I'd rather people not know I was posting this. Call me paranoid. Hell, that's part of the problem.
I wronged her. That much is abundantly clear. We were together nearly three years, and in that time I neglected her something fierce, preferring to stay in my room at my parents place and stare at the internet (For reference, I'm now twenty-fucking-three).
And she loved me yet.
I was suspicious, mistrustful and self-loathing. I was hard to love at the best of times, and a misery to be around at the worst.
And she loved me yet.
I'm an introvert who gets by on humour, and she's an extrovert beginning to come out of her shell. Thinking that day by day I was less and less the focus of her life drove me crazy, even though I knew it wasn't healthy for her or for me.
And she loved me yet.
About 3 months into our relationship, I said something a bit too flirty to an old-flame-turned-old-friend, and gave her a hug that might have gone on a little too long. I meant it as a compliment-she'd lost a lot of weight and looked genuinely happy. The flame has a very different recollection. And, of course, paranoid and shameful bastard that I am, I went into full damage control and swore her to secrecy.
She's Christine's best friend now. They get on super-well.
And after we had a fight, she told Christine everything. AND showed her my paranoid meltdown on facebook.
And that was the last straw.
>>17583962
I cried. I cried like I haven't cried since I was a toddler, big heaving sobs and howls like a dying animal. She was calm. A few tears since she'd never seen that kind of emotion from me, but calm. And adamant that yes, she knew that I'd fix myself, and that I'd make somebody happy someday, but that she didn't want to be in that relationship anymore.
It's been nearly a month now. In that time I've gotten a job, gone back to the gym and started seeing a shrink for what turns out to be a pretty fucking serious problem.
So. I want her back. I'm happy to be patient, I don't care if she takes other lovers during that time, I simply don't care. But it's been nearly a month and after all that time and all that trying to convince myself that maybe she was right...I want her regardless.
So. If the problem with the relationship was you, does fixing your problems get you in with a shot?
You're not getting her back, and even if by some magic you did, nothing would change. You can do anything but make someone love you. Best thing for you to do is to forget about her - block all social media, hide/throw away the gifts/pictures.
Do new things and challenge yourself, every step deeper outside your comfort zone is a step away from the pain. I too was dumped after ~3 years and felt confused and lost at the start, this advice worked for me. It's been a month and I've met such a wonderful girl that I can't believe I am alive right now.
>>17584133
IDK man. I tend to believe that people can change. And, hell, the process of dealing with my issues entails getting over her.
What I'm saying is that, even if/once I'm over her, she's still a very good choice.
Out of curiosity- do you say I'll never get her back because exes never get back together or because what I did is unforgivable?
Want to test my IQ, as in a real score test.
I've been looking for online IQ test websites, but i still havent managed to find such. Any suggestions?
>>17583918
You do know that the whole idea of IQ tests was discredited decades ago, don't you?
A brief history: they were invented over 100 years ago on the theory that some basic math and logic questions were a measure of general intelligence, largely as an excuse to label some people retarded and institutionalize them.
But by the 1950s it was evident that all the tests really measured was your ability to take tests. (You know that some people are better at test-taking than others, and that talent led to high IQ scores, not any general intelligence.)
For a while after, the tests were still used, because there seemed to be some correlation between high scores and doing well in school and college. And then someone pointed out that doing well in school and college was largely a matter of being good at taking tests.
An IQ test measures nothing but your skill at taking IQ tests. No school, college, employer, etc. uses them.
>>17583918
>>17583955
Anon is right; Even a theoretically perfect IQ test only measures your ability to run a mental system quickly and effectively.
>>17583918
There's no such thing as an online IQ test. Real IQ tests involve doing a lot of different things with a psychologist administering it. You can't get enough data from multiple choice shit.
Before me, she was single for a year, only ever had little 1 or 2 week relationships. I come along, boom 6 months together, treated her like a princess, her first kiss and sexual partner, improved her self esteem too. But she broke up with me because she was a pretty insecure person, and got into these moods sometimes where she felt she wasn't good enough or felt everything was falling apart and ended things with me. But we'd get back together a few hours later or the next day.
After the 4th time I was just like, this can't keep happening I'm finding it exhausting (and maybe because I was exhausted the attraction fell). She told me how sorry she was, how bad she feels and how she's lucky to have a guy like me in her life etc. But what does she do? Get with someone else, it just felt like she was running away at this point. After we argued, we had the following conversation;
>Me: sorry for how I've been acting recently, I was still holding onto the past we once had, but I think I've lost feelings for you because of all the problems, but I hope you find someone who loves you through all your personal flaws and everything else as I did.
>Her: Thank you, does that mean we can still be friends?
>Me: Nah, I can't lie to myself and pretend to be friends, maybe in the future
>Her: How long will that be?
>Me: Who knows, but if you really need someone to talk to let me know
>Her: okay thank you, I'm gonna miss you
>Me: I'm gonna miss you too
>Her: can I tell you something
>Her: I still regret losing you, and I still have some feelings for you, but right now I think this is for the best, I love you, talk whatever xx
At this point I was going full no contact, so she can realise just how much she misses me, and how hard it's going to be finding a replacement etc. I plan on going to the local fun-fare with 2 friends and this other girl on Friday, she found out about this and this morning, I wake up to this;
>>17583909
>CONTINUED
>>Her: I just wanna say one thing..I heard you're meeting a girl at some point and taking her to the fare, if I'm honest I hope she lasts for you. I'm sorry for everything I've done to you and I hope she treats you 100 times better than I did because that's what you deserve. When I heard this it broke my heart but like you said its time to move on and yeah its hard, I hope she's perfect for you and don't you ever change in anyway and i mean it x
What do I do?
>broken up repeatedly
Stopped reading there. Don't look back OP, just bounce. It fucking sucks, oh my god it sucks to abandon your first love, but you have to. Everybody more or less has had to.
>>17583909
you keep posting the same OP over and over and over again
I'm heading out to a midnight movie viewing with this girl i've been on a few dates with, but I have no clue if she'e actually into me or not. When we go on a date/text we get along pretty well, but she's really shy and won't talk to anyone (myself included during classes.
On our way back from the movie, I was planning on asking her something along the lines of what she thought of our relationship so that I can just have her tell me straight up whether she's into me or not.
Does anyone have any advice on how I should word it or another plan? I don't want to fuck this up.
asking her straight up might be a little awkward of a situation. if your looking for something easier, and you don't mind showing her you like her, just make it really clear your into her thoughout the date. either physically, or by what your saying. after that, leave the ball in her court and see if she responds. it can be tough to wait it out, but if she wants you she will make it know, especially after she is assured you like her.
Just be honest with her. To be honest, I'm in a similar situation but he isn't talking. And I'm shy, so it's hard for me to bring up the subject. I would test the waters by touching her shoulder, brushing her hair out of her face, etc. See how she reacts. If she's comfortable with you getting close, then have that conversAtion.
On the walk back just give her a little kiss on the cheek and say you want to see her a lot more.
Then at school go up and talk to her, don't wait for a shy person to make the first move.
PIC RELATED
Hello
Today is my birthday, and my sister ( a lot more popular on fb than me, she is a well knowned singer where i live ) posted a fb status to wish me a good day.
I don t live with her, i live with my father
My father responds to this status. He said " happy birthday XXXX" in comments with this pic of this expensive piano he bought me ( for my birthday, and also bc im a music student )
I found it really really pretentious and cringing, like we just see the brand , and its obviously to show other people on fb what i got , what he offered me.
I asked him to delete this comment
Am i right or wrong ? Please i m lost
your tripping on nothing, stop being a cray cray woman.
>>17583890
So you think i was wrong ?
He's your dad. I wouldn't analyze it so much. He loves you and wants to show everyone he does. But then again, he's your pops and you know him best.
I am 29-old man, Japanese.
I learned English in high school, but I could hardly understand.
In Internet, many website written in English.
So, I want to be able to read English.
But, study started, it become fed up in 3 days.
How can I continue to study?
(This sentence, I am writing to use the Google translation.)
>>17583872
honestly the easiest way is practice with someone who already speaks english or read a book written in english with an audiobook also in english so you could hear how the words are pronounced. Many words in the english language aren't pronounced the way they are spelled.
If you can read english, try children's books, then move on to those oriented towards adults.
eigo no terebi bangumi o miru zo. chikaku ni jugyo o arimasuka?
Does anyone else have the urge to leave everything behind and escape somewhere very far.
I almost everyday think about this and plan it.
When i sometimes tell someone about this they think i'm crazy. And i think they are dumb.
Is it just me hating my life or is this normal?
>>17583856
I want to be among the first space colonist so I can have a chance at reproduction.
Sounds awesome to start everything over. I need a new wife.
>>17583856
No, it's doable and has been done.
The problem is: how do you know/ensure you wouldn't mess it up there as well?
Genetics is everything, you unconscious faggots.
"Like father, like son".
"It runs in the family".
"You're just like your grandpa".
"You genetically inherited this defect from your great great grandmother"
Genetics dont make you be a disgusting slob, clean up your desk Anon.
>>17583846
>>17584409
Genetics are part of the story, but how you live your life, the environment you were raised in, are massively important factors too
What you need to learn is that how you live your life changes your genetics. Genetics are not immutable.
So essentially you should stop worrying about genetics, stop using it as an excuse, and focus on living the best life you possibly can (which means having as many children as you possibly can, since that's your biological purpose)
I've had only 3 girlfriends in my life. The first of which ended up leaving me to go out being a whore at clubs after turning 18. It was a 4 year relationship and she cheated on me. My second, turned 21, and started partying, then broke up with me after 3 years, and proceeded to fuck a man upstairs the same night after doing so, when I had no other place to stay. My third, cheated on me 4 times, once with my manager at work, and 3 times with her ex/"best friend" then proceeded to say she wanted to make us work and was sorry, I agreed to try to move past it all, then the following week she just slowly stopped talking to me. She's now happily dating her ex that she cheated on me with 3 times, moving up at her work place getting better positions, while I have been reduced to losing my apartment, my job, my license, my cars ability to be inspected, I'm now living with my mother, unable to sleep every night, I got another job, but its an hour walk, and my lower back has me almost in tears in pain from walking an hour every day to work, in attempt to get my license back and my car going. I have no internet, nor cable. I'm using my phone that only has 5gbs of data to post this. No friends that are willing to help, or able to. I barely know anyone where I live. In essence, I feel alone, and every night I just feel dead and emotionless inside. Tonight it has been at its worse, and I have been having multiple suicidal thoughts. And I feel talking to someone over messenger as I've done multiple times won't help, I'm in want of human contact from someone my age that will listen, and be there for me but no one will listen.
I just needed to get all this out, but if anyone has any advice, it'd be nice.
My mother is on SSI for a bad lower back, and barely can afford rent. I'm at a loss, and really don't know what to do. And I'm not going to lie, people are probably just going to say that I'm looking for attention, but I figured I'd give this a go.
Tl;dr but have you ever entertained the thought that there was more to your breakups than the women being whores?
>>17583853
Of course, however I never cheated on any of them though, yet they all have cheated on me? When asked why they did, I just get a "idk why I did" or "I just felt it wasn't meant to be" but if thats the case, then why not break up with me instead of emotionally scaring me first?
Well I guess I'll let this sink to the bottom after this, thanks anyway /ADV/
Hi all,
Is downloading torrent files illegal, or is it dependent on the content downloaded?
I just got off Apple Support that viewed my desktop for quality assurance purposes, and they may have recorded a shot of torrent text files in one of my folders, though it doesn't show exactly what was downloaded, just the websites text files.
I'm worried if it's illegal they may send such screenshots to my government police and I'll be penalized.
Thanks a lot.
>>17583824
yep you're fucked, this is what you get for choosing apple
torrent depends on what you downloaded, because it's your responsibility to check that you don't download something with copyright. what makes it far worse then is the seeding, because you help to provide something illegal.
>>17583832
So as long as the file didn't include any copyright information in what was shown, there is no proof that it was a copyrighted file, right?
I downloaded 1 file from pirate bay, and this is what appeared in my finder (what apple must have seen), different text files from several sites I've never visited:
>just walk up and talk to her :^)
What are you even supposed to say? How do you just start a conversation out of nowhere?
context clues anon
if shes eating something, ask if you could join her or offer to buy her a drink. If shes working on something, ask her what shes working on, if she has headphones in, ask what she listens to
etc. point being ask about her
>>17583666
nice devil trips.
as for what to say, context helps. if ur in line at a restaurant just say
>do you know wahts good herE? I've tried XX btu im thinking of YY'
comment on her answer. book stores are easy cuz you ask about the book, say you're new to the genre and not sure where to start.
>>17583666
It's just a meme. You're not supposed to do that. Especially looking like you do with your abysmal social skills
What's the best way to waste time? I'm not talking a few hours I'm talking days at a time. How do I make them go by super fast without getting wasted?
I am a NEET, nothing to do in life.
There's something I'm looking forward to a few months from now nothing else I'm looking forward to.
How do I make that come sooner? Or, how do I not die of boredom while waiting for it? I'm open for any suggestions except getting drunk. Or doing drugs.
I've got no job to go to
>>17583661
you cant really control the flow of time itself, even at its best it can move really slow, but you wont mind cuz its going so well.
ur in a loop ive only ever felt when i ahd brain damage. id go to wokr, and then id wait for that to be over so i can get home. then be waiting for that to beover so i could go to wkor the next day. horrible cycle. glad to be healthy again.
my life is dominated by projects. productivity makes people feel fulfilled and wokring on a project you like will make it fun in a new way. take something you do enjoy and reverse engineer it.
its the difference between playing video games and designing them.
watching movies and filming one.
reading a book and writing one
listening to a podcast and making one.
asking for advice, and giving some.
Honestly the best time waster I have found is working. Get some job. Spend time with friends too.
>>17583688
What if I'm not willing to do either of those