Archived threads in /adv/ - Advice - 3727. page

>>17637794
you mean youre taking a gap year? its not very clear

>>17637926
No, I'm still in college

Meditate. Go volunteer. What about the world around you is falling apart? How can you fix it? Really, how can you fix it? What can you do today? Nothing? Try again. Life is iterative. Small changes build to something larger. It might seem like a drop in a bucket, but eventually the bucket will be full. Start moving in the direction that you see the biggest problem. Conquer it. Make it your mission not to let it happen.

Are you in crisis? Call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at +1 (800) 273-8255.

>>17637788
need more info,
how long you been together,
how old are both of you.
are you having sex, if yes how often, if not how often are you intimate physically ?

>>17637796
>About 6-7 months
>Both 19
>Yes, probably like once a week, just guessing

I don't want to be cucked but it might be a possibility.

>>17637796
We've been sort of distant the past couple weeks

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>resurfacing of the eating disorder I've been fighting with for nine years.
Eat yellow paint then post pics on /b/.
>2 week break
Go out of the damn city if you didn't yet. If you keep sitting there and cringing over what's overcoming you, you'll get drilled into the same situation.

As someone who works as a freelance artist, you need to take a break from art. You've been doing enough of it. It's time to do something else, for your own sanity. Relax, life your life. Enjoy yourself. This is your time to recharge your batteries. You'll be doing plenty of work later. For now, you need to focus on your physical and mental health.

Why are you even on 4chan still?

>>17637652
Bump

>>17637652
Bump

>>17637652
Bump

>>17637642
I really want one before the end of the semester

actually, you don't really need any of those things, although they will all increase your chances

the basic formula is: be attractive, interact with lots of people, express interest when an opportunity arises. Find ways to increase your value, increase the amount of women you meet, and your skill at interacting with people and it'll fall into your lap eventually.

>>17637696
For me Im hesitant to show too much interest in a girl or even a guy (not gay I mean to be friends) it seems like any time I ever put any real effort any time I really push for anything it always back fires but when I just sort of passively act nice it slowly draws people in. There are some QTS I've run into and there's this one at dodgeball club who is nice to me, gives me tips on the game, remembers my name, and we chilled on the bleachers and talked and shit, I dunno if it means anything but she gave me her raisins, yeah sure I'd like to ask her out but ive litetally never been sucessfull before by "trying hard"

>>17637628
Skydiving.

Methamphetamine. No I'm not joking.

>>17637666
Nice satan trips

Vegas? Each of you could drop a months pay on one hand of black jack. That'll get the blood pumping

>>17637617

>Wat do?
>I think I am in love with a girl in a wheelchair
>I think it is worth it


It sounds like you already have your answer.

>The thing is that nobody I know approves of this.
Do you only date everyone you know approves of or something? Do you do anything without consulting them all first?

>>17637620

So I should risk my whole family hating me and her for it?

If you really need some release, then you should try and make your own seagull-fingering VR application. Meanwhile a fake seagull cloaca may be feasible in the same way some men make fake vaginas with two sponges and a latex glove.

>>17637776
To be more clear, I'm suggesting solutions that don't involve fingering an actual seagull, since molesting animals is illegal in many States.

>>17637615
this is a fun one...
does this idea sexually excite you?

>asked for her email
??????? the fuck are you doing?? nobody uses email for communicating outside of the business world?

>>17637630
I know. Who fucking uses email for communication between friends or SO's?

It's all Text, FB, or Phone.


I even asked my Crush out, and she straight up took my phone and punched in her number....

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>>17637602
Fucking email? What are you gonna do? Send her chain letters, and coupons? Get her number you autist. Email he says, this guy.

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>>17637600
Pick a wealthy/liberal area on backpage. Even if you have to drive an hour and rent a hotel room

Luckily I live in the most liberal college town in the state and I can pick them up and after one visit I allow them to come to my house.

>don't get arrested
Police are allowed to lie, but it is illegal for them to expose themselves so before you talk to her about money asked to see her pussy/titties. If they show them they are not a cop. This is a federal law and applies to all states, not just a few. After that you can talk about money/services, never talk about it on the phone or though text. Just call her and say "where are you", do not say anything else.

>don't get killed/robbed


Again, stay in liberal cities. These places are less likely for ghettos and guns. If a guy answers the phone when you call hang up and pick another girl. Chances are he's pimping. Most girls on backpage are just single moms with no money/independent drug addicts/whores.


I've been with about 13-17 hookers from backpage and never had issue

bump for purely scientific purposes

>>17637600
I've been considering this for a while. Especially since I live in Hawaii so most of the girls are asian. I don't think I'll hook up with one otherwise.

Besides even if my future self did have a great career and money and a sexy body, still no one would want me because I'd be a wizard so why try

Too late? Dude you're 24. I'm 32. To be honest my life did not get good until I was 29.

Basically, I was more or less you, minus living with mom part. I decided shit is enough. Started running/bar training/gym and all that jazz. Basically any physical stain my body could take. Started eating like a normal human. A lot of really small portions per day. Healthy shit. Was disgusting, but made me feel good. had nothing to lose.

I did not see any results for almost a year while doing this. However, suddenly, a month after it started hitting. Lost 10 kilograms in 6 months, another 5 in the next 6. While this was happening, my mentality somehow changed. I didn't care that something I knew nothing about would be hard to learn. Started learning networking and unix based systems. Soon-after I because a Linux SysAdmin. Not a great job but pays way more than my previous one.

Started getting less antisocial. Gradually what people thought of me weighed on my mind less and less. To the point where I can talk to anyone and not be sweating bullets.

I am now happily living with a nice girl I met at work. She's pretty accepting and supportive. She is pretty skinny, not a luscious babe, but very cute nonetheless.

Dude, start doing shit. Anything.

Okay, give up. This doesn't affect anyone but you. Why do we give a fuck?

>>17637539
If your car wasn't working correctly, and I threw it off of a bridge, destroying it, would you say I have fixed the problem of it not working correctly? By definition, it is running away/ignoring/negating a problem instead of fixing it. In that way, you could call it weak.

Only if you have a terminal illness or otherwise are going to die anyway. If it's just because "wahh life is hard" then it's just plain cowardice.

>>17637539
it can only be a solution in major circumstances. Like if I knew I was going to prison for over 35 years i'd kill myself. If my kids were killed etc

every case is different its near impossible to give a 100% legit answer on if a specific case is stupid or weak. probably not stupid. weak sometimes but not stupid.

Sometimes

>>17637534
Crime? Yes. Time? No.

>>17637534
yes. however prison isn't and crime led me there. however you get away with most of it so go all out OP, YOLO

Be like Mario n rescue your princess from king koopa

>>17637564
Bruh, for real.

How do I fix this shit?

>>17637567
Tell her how you feel and see if she's willing to explore a relationship
Or
Catch her boyfriend cheating and tell her.

>>17637531
Stop fapping. Don't look at porn.
Trust me - try it at least for two weeks, and you should already see a difference.
If you don't , your right hand will (hopefully) still be there for you.

Whtever you do, don't watch porn just to try to test if u can get an erection or not, it's counter productive

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>>17637531
A few options:
>Your heart denies the girl
That's a conscience thing. If you really wanted to get along, you'd give it everything to "make her yours". In the deep down you don't want kids, and fear or regret about that idea. If you don't want your heart to get in your way then keep the foreplay long; cuddle, snuggle, spoon, start with oral sex favors then get on the real job. That's a challenge for the girl, just offer her the thing, if she really wants you she'll do it.
>Watching porn improved your expectations from sex
Compared to porn, sex is pretty straight and bland thing. If you can't get in the mood then think about getting lubes and different lingeries for you to get in the zone. May be it's because you don't see your partner "willing" and enthusiastic about it and that causes you to stuck in an awkward position.
>Lack adrenaline or stamina when time comes, or feel under stress
You're fucking too young for such thing to happen, but small amount of aphrodisiac usage and cutting down looking at porn won't hurt either. I suggest daily 20-30 min walks if you have any stress related problems. Your hormones will be more responsive if your legs start working.