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Is it anxiety attack or what? I'm a pretty chill guy but sometimes I have these thoughts man, these voices in my head. I get the idea that everyone is talking shit behind my back and that I'm actually hated in my group of friends, which I'm barely a part of (the reason I get these ideas in the first place)
Basically my best friend of 20+ years (we literally grew up together and been friend our whole damn lives) and who is the normiest guy ever, got me into his group. They're normal people but sometimes I just get this feeling that I'm not actually wanted there.
Whether that's true or not, I don't care. I enjoy my time with them.
What I want to know is, how do I get these fucking stupid ideas out of my head?
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MDMA
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I think it would be a good idea to talk to an actual mental health professional about this.
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>>17636574
https://www.youtube.com/results?search_query=negitive+thoughts
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Hi, I like to help people with problems by talking to them. However, I like to be sarcastic in responses. Got a problem? Post here, and I'll try to help.
Come around, watch me fail, or watch me be successful in helping
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Why are you such a massive faggot?
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>>17636517
>i want a (you)
here is your (you)
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>>17636516
I told my girlfriend that my ex had died of cancer when in fact I never dated anyone before her.
Shoul I come clean? is this something she could forgive me about?
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Just installed Ubuntu 14.4. 2016-10-04 18:09:21 Post No.17636508
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Just installed Ubuntu 14.4.
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Hello, /adv/
Windows user here and I just installed my first GNU based OS. What are some core programs and tips for a Linux newbie like myself that I should know?
Thanks in advance, you're all great. :)
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Do the things you do normally and whenever you encounter a problem google it
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>>17636519
That's all? If so, thanks for helping.
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Do you know the board /g/? Maybe they can help you better than /adv/
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I've been seeing this girl for four months. We keep saying we care about each other, but as she's been in school (college) this last semester she has noticeably pulled back. Now I get that shes in school, and I graduated. So she has less free time now, more things to take up her time than me.
But like, she goes from very hot (I love you so much/unconditionally/wish you were holding me) to incredibly cold. I don't believe she's cheating on me because I know she suffers very badly from anxiety and it might be hard for her to do, but of course really who knows? But I do trust her.
My thing is, we'll send jokes for like 10 minutes and I would say half the time she doesn't say she loves me back anymore. Or that she misses me back. She says it on her terms when she feels like it. I told her I wanted to take a night off from texting, and she broke down twice and texted me. Saying she really missed me and updated me to a story.
I don't know what to think. I can accept the honeymoon phase might be over this early, but does she just not care anymore? Should I start moving on? I just don't know. She's really awesome and we both really like one another, but now I just feel like she isn't as invested as I would like.
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is she 'away' at college, or do you guys still hang out once a week or what?
it sounds to me like shes just at the next obvious part of the relationship. she is human, she can't be in infatuation mode 24/7. sometimes you dont feel like saaying 'i love you too' thirty times a day. sometimes you dont feel like saying 'i miss you' thirty times a day. sometimes you're just busy.
stop relying on texting as a relationship maintanence tool, because its not. it is not a conversational tool. it is a communication tool in the most basic sense. its used to relay information, not moments, not feels. it is meant to check in, share something small, and to coordinate.
if you do not have the time to pick up the phone and talk to her directly without distraction, then why should texting be any different? do whats in front of you, and rely on your actual in person time to have your bonding.
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>>17636518
We see one another once or twice a week.
So, this all sounds normal to you? She even said something recently that she said that when I hung over, she loved it. That she wanted to hold me and keep looking up at the sky together all night. But that when she kissed me that she didn't really feel anything.
I think I'm her longest relationship she's ever had, and I don't know if that should devastate me or if it's just normal. Like she never had that infatuation phase wear off before. Like sometimes a kiss is just a kiss at a certain point, right?
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>>17636534
That's another example of her being hot and cold.
Four days ago I took her out, and she's madly in love, and texting me every single day after that. We had a sort of boring night the next time we saw one another, and now she's cold and said she didn't feel passionate during the kissing. And I'm just sitting there going, "is this normal?"
How do you know if a human scale is broken? I weighed myself this morning and this evening and there's no fucking way I've just accidentally lost 5 kg.
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Home scales actually tend to be pretty inaccurate.
Can your scale be calibrated??
Even if not, put a known weight on it to see how off it is. A gallon of water weighs 8.36 pounds.
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I went to the doctors twice between may and June, and somehow lost 3 pounds
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>>17636430
Okay. We don't have water in gallons but I guess I'll figure out something. A package of food with the weight printed on the side or something.
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How to be less sexist toward men? 2016-10-04 17:40:08 Post No.17636397
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How to be less sexist toward men?
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I'm not a tumblr feminist or whatever all, but I'm becoming more and more sexist towards men, and I wish I wasn't. Mostly because the anger/disgust is sort of exhausting.
Most of my disgust comes from the way I perceive men to feel about sex. No standards, no self control, etc etc. Obviously those things aren't strictly true, but it's very easy to confirmation-bias on those ideas all day every day. There are "good men" in my view, of course, just almost none. Which again, is inaccurate. I know it's wrong. But I feel so disgusted by men 99% of the time.
It can be little things, like reading an article about sexless marriages, where the women talk about feelings of rejection, or feeling bad about their bodies, and then men talk like fucking horny cavemen. Maybe they aren't able to articulate the complexities well because of society not allowing them to practice expressing that way but shit. Gross. Or just watching friends' boyfriends interact with them, hell, even my boyfriend. Next to zero effort, pathetic urges, etc etc.
What the fuck is this?
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>>17636397
Maybe you place too much value on sex
It's not this special thing, literally any living thing with a genitalia does it
Rabbits don't have the brain capacity for love or complex emotions, but hey, they still fuck a lot with little regard for the value of the act itself, humans, women mostly, are the only people who have any sort of sentiment toward it, and even then, not many do, and that number shrinks every year
If you dont like sexual attention that's one thing, but to me it sounds like you just need to get over it
If this doesnt help, then fuck it, hate men all you want, literally not a one on this planet will care, there are literally billions of other women available for altercation
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I'm sorry, are you saying you hate men because they think sex is more important than you do?
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>>17636470
Essentially that is what OP is saying. Move along, everyone. Nothing to see here.
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Hi,
I am 25 years old, in college and have a girlfriend.
Thing is, I have horrible confidence and self esteem.
My main problem is, that I value myself as high as I think other people (especially women) value me. I have many great friends but am constantly in need of female validation in one way or the other (i dont cheat on my gf).
I am already in therapy but maybe it would help if I tried to approach women, fail miserably and someday get a good reaction to get rid of this neediness in validation?
I am rather overweight (ever was) but my currend and past girlfriends didn't seem to have much of a problem with it. I lost much weight a few years back but it didn't help my self-esteem.
In other words, how do you - really- strengthen your own self-esteem if you have none or very little?
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Do you like how you look? I kinda the same as you OP, have alot of female best friends which i like to keep around me as a "compliment harem" of sorts (yeah i know how that sounds, but i have no other idea how to describe it...). Iam also always super flirty with them, even when iam in a relationship (wouldn't fuck them though). I just think or maybe believe that i look great. That helps me alot with my self esteem.
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>>17636392
>Girlfriend
>No self esteem or confidence
Fuck off, please.
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>>17636392
You strengthen it by doing something you love doing and doing it properly. Being passionate about it and succeeding. Thats what gives you an ego.
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Can somebody with an average or ugly face ever become attractive?
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>>17636343
If it's not the result of fatness, probably not, usually never hurts to get /fit/ though.
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>>17636356
So what can I do to get a girlfriend, short of lowering my standards to dating 1s and 2s? I'm about a 5.
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>>17636395
Talk to girls.
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I will try to make this as short as possible.
So i'm currently 19 years old and want to become successful in life.
Success for me is earning lots of money and living a happy life with my future wife that will love me, and i will love her.
My main question is, how do i get to this point?
Also another question, are playing games for entertainment fucking retarded? Right now i want to begin playing Starcraft II and i will obviously not get pro in that game. Should i start playing it because it might be fun or should i just don't bother wasting 100's or 1000's of hours. Right now all i do in my spare time is sitting home browsing 4chan, reddit, watching latest Youtube videos of my subs, skyping and playing Rainbow Six Siege with my friend. I feel like i should do something else with my time, like living my life or something? Remember i'm 19 years, aren't the 20's the time where everyone is "Living their lives"?
I also want to learn Korean, how hard will it be to learn this on my own?
If you are wondering the reason to learn the language this is the following: Kpop, Kdramas, interesting culture, Korean E-sports are great. Might want to move to Korea in the future? I guess i should start learning the language instead of doing what the paragraph above is about.
Last question: On the part about earning lots of money, i currently saved up 19K USD. What are some smart things i can do with this money to make more? I have no idea how investing works.
Please help me, any answer is appreciated.
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please, anyone?
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do you have a job or are in college or something?
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>>17636659
I'm currently working in my first job.
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Why couldn't I get the girl but he did? 2016-10-04 17:22:14 Post No.17636328
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Why couldn't I get the girl but he did?
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Some years ago, I was inlove with a girl who was older than me. We used to hang out, at the beginning she looked like she was interested in me. But after some time, she started talking about other guys, so I told her that I liked her, and that I was too young for her. We stopped talking, I was disappointed.
Today I saw her with her new boyfriend. He looks like me. He is actually younger than me. I started to wonder, how did I fuck up? Why did she reject me, but she accepted this guy who is almost myself 2.0? What did I do wrong? Is there something wrong about me? I feel very bad right now. I feel worthless. I must be retarded desu.
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You are blind. That guy is not you, but far better and more attractive every way.
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>Today I saw her with her new boyfriend. He looks like me. He is actually younger than me. I started to wonder, how did I fuck up? Why did she reject me, but she accepted this guy who is almost myself 2.0?
Do you even know he is like you or are you just assuming being of roughly your age and ethnicity means he is the same as you?
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>>17636332
I think that he is more attractive than me too. But most other people say we are almost the same. Who am I supposed to believe? Anyways, he isn't really much better.
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>have pseudo-relationship with girl for a couple of months last semester of college
>we clearly like each other hangout every day
>semester ends we go are separate ways stay in touch but clear that she is losing interest
>say fuck it and start looking for someone to fuck
>find girl and fuck but still miss original girl
>go back to school eager to hang out with her
>she only texts me when she's drunk on weekends
>finally starts texting each other two weeks ago ,I keep trying to initiate a date to hangout because she kept talking about how she missed hanging out with me
>cut fof other girl I was fucking btw
>she shows up unannounced two Saturday's ago absolutely hammered at 1 in the morning
>we fuck and go out to breakfast next morning
>things seem back to normal I'm hyped as fuck
>continue texting she claims she can never hang out despite the fact that she's a fucking social work major
>keep texting until Saturday
>I get sick of it and tell her if she never wants to hang out there's no point in texting
>she gets all cunty and texts me on some bullshit
>I ignore her until she texts me at midnight asking to hangout
>I say yeah she has the fucking balls to fucking ignore me
>finally give in and text her again last night conversation seems to be flowing
>get left on fucking read
>go check her instagram she's liking this faggy photographer's selfies and shit
holy fuck I wanna kill this bitch how do I stop thinking about her and btw if I try to unfollow her on social media she freaks out and starts texting me asking why. I see her all the time on campus so I can't really just block her on everything cuz it would be awkward af and we hang out with the same crowd. Shitty part is I'm more attractive than her and she's fucking retarded but so am I.
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BUMP faggot
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>help a girl is toying with me
>help I'm too dumb to ignore a girl toying with me
>help, i like to play games with a girl who likes to play games, BUT SHE IS WINNING D:
>help, i just want to find out how i can beat this girl at her own game
>help, im too dumb to move on and save mine AND this girls time
>meet girl
>we fuck
>basically become a couple for 10 days, amazing times together
>move apart
>constant talking/flirting on snapchat
>visit
>she wont be physical with me, not even hand holding
>get high and react very sadly when she says she wants to get to know me better before relationship
>trip continues and is okay
>leave
>she is now distant, rarely replies to messages and sometimes takes hours after opening (used to be instant) and when she does reply its short and half assed
Im really depressed over this, our relationship was great before this trip, and I feel like I fucked it all up. Should I wait it out and stop messaging her? Act like normal? Or lay my feelings out for her again now that Im sober and discuss things openly? She was right about what she said and its perfectly reasonable, but I think my initial reaction while stoned made me seem clingy and needy.
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Also worth mentioning we both just started college 2 weeks ago and live three hours apart, portland and seattle. Her ex goes to the same school and lives on the same floor in her dorm. Is there hope?
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>>17636731
>becomes distant after going to college
>her ex goes to the same school and lives on the same floor in her dorm
really makes you think
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>>17636748
Fuuuuuck I know man I know but I dont want to admit it
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ok
today, one of my colleagues did something i didn't really digest, he's the classic extroverted/exaggerator guy but also kinda shady at times (like this time)
usually we go along pretty good at work and this time i think i spotted some signs of him feeling guilty about this (serious, tried to small talk with me often)
well if this is the case, i really wanna make him soooo much uncomfortable to work with me
ideas?
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>>17636228
Do that bad thing. The REALLY bad thing. You know what I mean.
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>>17636241
he don't deserve anything major
i just wanna get the most of his sense of guilt when with me
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>>17636228
Nobody has any idea what you're talking about.
>girl in college was a oneitis
>fucked your friends and accepted their cum on her face
>except yours
>years later she has become immensely successful in a lucrative career
>now she's better than you AND you were never ever ever on her radar
>drowning in envy and beta-longing
Why live?
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Get. Over. It. Cunt.
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Yeah, what the other guy said. Stop dwelling on stupid shit and keep moving forward.
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So because she makes more money, she's a better person than you? Maybe examine that thought, and try to see why you think that way...
Senior in college right now with no clue what I'm going to do with my life.
I have a piece of shit biochemistry degree because parents convinced me to go into health. I have a 3.8 GPA and 500 hours of research and 50 hours of doctor shadowing. If I were to do it all over again, I would do comp sci 100%.
In my situation right now, I can apply to pharmacy school this year (even though I will be late for cycles). I have a 3.8 GPA, 99th percentile on the PCAT, and over 500 hours of research. Basically a shoe in to pharmacy as long as there are spots left. If I were going to do pharmacy, I will apply for a 3 year program and start working for 120k afterwards.
Or I can take a gap year and apply to med school (going to school until I'm 30-35). I will have gray hairs by the time I start making any money. I would love to break into finance/VC, but my major is irrelevant, and I don't go to an ivy.
I have a type A personality, though I'm working on fixing that. I don't ever want my salary to stagnate.
Do you have an advice for me? I'm stressing out crazy right now. I could do either pharmacy or medicine. I don't really have a preference right now.
Wish I was in high school again when I didn't have any real responsibilities. Wish people told me how shit biochemistry was 4 years ago.
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>>17636177
is the year off to study for the mcat?
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>>17636177
Do you go to Auburn? Just wondering.
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Having second thoughts is natural. But take it from an Oldfag: Stay the Course.
Might Comp Sci have been easier? Absolutly - but put in the effort to finish something you started and have done so well at. Even if you dont end up in a job utilizing your degree, the fact you finished strong will pay huge dividends in life.