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Growing up without your friends/Being yourself vs Being an adult 2016-10-05 16:38:54 Post No.17640063
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Growing up without your friends/Being yourself vs Being an adult
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I keep getting banned from the group of friends I hangout. A couple years ago, I got too angry over video games because I didn't understand the etiquette of competitive fighting games, but I fixed that since then. Now its that I'm too loud. I love to scream because I can't get physical with people when upset,excited or angry. Screaming funny nonsense helps relieve stress. However, I'm starting to get the feeling that they don't want me around anymore. The group is trying to socially excel themselves in life, and I never cared about that ever. A few new members of group have pointed out that I have bad social skills( bad with women, misbehave, screaming). I am a lot to handle, I am a wild man. I am at fault for my actions, but I'm starting to fell more like there dog, or problem "child". My mistakes define me more than any other action I do. I love my friends, They are the only reason why I live in this town. However, they don't like who I am, and I'm afraid to change for them because it will make me less of a person in my eye's. I would be like a dog begging for his master acceptances. I feel like my friends should just want me around. If they don't, maybe I shouldn't have friends anymore.
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Should I stay with my friends and try to behave and be more social, even if it means being living with mistakes? I just want respect from people I've been hanging out with for 6 years now...
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>>17640063
>I love to scream because I can't get physical
You've traded one problem for another.
>Screaming funny nonsense helps relieve stress
Do it in private, not public
>The group is trying to socially excel themselves in life, and I never cared about that ever.
If they have ambitions in life and you don't there isn't much you can do about it.
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>>17640063
>I am a lot to handle, I am a wild man
I'm sorry, I legit laughed in the middle of a library
You quite possibly have autism.
Screaming to relieve stress is not socially acceptable behaviour. If you look around at what other people are doing, copy them.
If you can't do this, get some help
Consider finding a group of social outcasts that will tolerate you. Make new friends.
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>>17640063
calm down
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So, I got drunk for the first time last night. I've been dating my girlfriend for about 6 months and we haven't had sex yet. Last night seemed like it was going to be the first time. I tried to turn her over and fuck from behind, she told me that was degrading and then was going to ride me but I couldn't maintain an erection. She got really upset, talking about how I didn't find her attractive, which isn't the case because I was really hard when I was on top of her. But anyway, she wouldn't talk to me for a while and then we both spent the rest of the night apologizing, me for ruining the mood and her for "overreacting". She didn't sleep well and we didn't really talk this morning. I don't even know what I'm asking, it's just hat every time I feel like things are getting serious between us and not just in a sexual way I do something wrong. I'm doing the best that I can and I constantly feel like it's not enough. It doesn't help that she frequently tells me that she doesn't think she deserves me, we're in this weird insecure loop where we both think we're not good enough for the other person and I don't know how to fix it.
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1 - Fix yourself first. No one else can do that.
2 - Tell your girlfriend to get over her insecurities. They are not attractive and do nothing to help the relationship.
3 - First sex with her has to be special. Yeah, that means in the missionary position. Once you get that under your belt from the rear can be done.
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>>17640029
How drunk were you? Possible whiskey dick?
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>>17640067
No idea, nothing to compare it to. I've had a beer or two before but this is the first time it ever had any effect.
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I met a girl on tinder 2 weeks ago and after talking for a week I went to her place and we had sex. She seems to be really into me and I like her too, but we're both at different colleges that are an hour apart. A couple nights ago she told me over text that she wanted to date me, which I totally would date her, but the distance has me unsure.
Is it worth the effort of having a long distance relationship, or should try to make this a friends with benefits type deal?
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>>17640027
It's just an hour... it's hardly an LDR.
It's, like, barely a distance.
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>>17640030
I guess I think it's a distance since I'm the only one with a car. If she wants to come over it becomes a 4 hour drive of back and forth back and forth for me.
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>>17640043
No public transport? No way to move from one town to the other?
I've been exactly in your shoes (just one car, 45 minutes apart) - we dated like that distance for 3 years and we met once during the week, and then during the weekend he came here by train and stayed over 2 days.
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Is there a way to get my room mates to clean up after themselves and do chores that doesn't involve me acting like their mom? I'm sick of doing every chore all the time.
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>>17640012
First year we moved in together my roommates didn't do shit.
After reminding them a few times, I started throwing their dirty dishes and their trash on their bed.
They got the point.
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Act like the dad that walked out on their lives.
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>>17640018
I did this with a college room mate and he requested a new room mate, kek.
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my bf lives with his single mom who broke off her marriage once she "rediscovered" herself as a lesbian. alright. thats fine.
problem is, sometimes, when Im over there, I can swear shes giving me vibes or almost hitting on me.
should I tell him even though Im afraid of making things extremely awkward/breaking off the family more?
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Girls can make shit really hard, believe me.
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what does that mean?
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>>17639991
>hould I tell him even though Im afraid of making things extremely awkward/breaking off the family more?
i wouldent recommend it. it could make him unreasonably suspicious of his mum. if you dont plan on doing anything, you have nothing to worry about. if she makes an actual move on you, then i would suggest saying something.
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College Thread: Go straight for the big name or take Community College 2016-10-05 16:11:50 Post No.17639983
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College Thread: Go straight for the big name or take Community College
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2016-10-05 16:11:50
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Hey /adv/, I never go here, but I need insight of from someone that's in college, graduated or thinking of the same idea as I.
Ok, I working to get into a big name college in my state, it's everyone who wants to do computer sciences wet dream to get into this college in my state. Now, I don't think I can ever get in, my grades aren't there compared to my peers who are looking to get into the same school are pull high A's in their AP classes.
I was chatting with a few people, saying the community college is the best idea for a freshmen. That I should take all pre-requsites of my major required by my dream college and then transfer there. Because it will less stressful, easy to keep a high GPA, and I'll leave with the least amount of debt in the end game.
Now I'm a student who doesn't have the AP scores to opt out of classes required by my dream school, is going to a community college and then transfer a good idea?
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Could you just go to a different, good college? Why is this place your wet dream? Does it really matter THAT much you go to that particular college over any others you might actually get in to?
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>>17640940
Yeah, having this college on your resume opens up a window of oppertunities for people wanting to get into the tech field because of its name and its location gives you the leg up compared to all other colleges in the state
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So I can't feel anything, not even sadness or pain and I live on a state of constant apathy. What are some things I can try to get feels.
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Drugs
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Try playing Last Of Us, Walking Dead tell tales season 1, and watching Schindler List. After that if you still don't feel anything you are a demon. Oh and go see a doctor.
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I know something that always gets me frustrated or angry is when some retard who is unwilling to learn tries to lecture me about something I am passionate or knowledgeable about.
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Family issues with my girlfriend 2016-10-05 15:47:34 Post No.17639923
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Family issues with my girlfriend
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Alright, I still have no idea what the problem is, so I am hoping for some insight from you guys.
Short story: My dad ditched us when I was 5, dad's mother suicided and dads dad left the continent. Skip 20 years till today, where I finally made contact with the rest of my family, grandpa included, and are currently trying to catch up to everything I've missed.
Cue my "Aunt". 2 years older than me, and literally lives 5 minutes away from me, and I never knew. I chat a lot with the entire side of the formerly missing family, and meet my aunt a few times a week to chat in person, because we live so close anyway.
Now my girlfriend has started to become... I am reluctant to say this, but it just comes off as extremely jealous. It is confusing the hell out of me.
She is hot, I guess, but she is still my aunt, what the fuck is the thought process that makes her think we are even REMOTELY likely to cheat on her? It makes me feel like a sister I was talking to would have caused the same issue. I mean, what the fuck.
I am so confused about this, and everything I've tried to do has failed to make my girlfriend nor act like she thinks I am cheating on her, to the point where she can shift through my clothes to smell them, checking if the scent of perfume is on them.
What can I do to convince her? We've been together for 7 years, so this isn't just "that kind of girl", she's never been jealous before.
I really need some advice on how to deal with this, because I don't want to cut off family nor my girlfriend, but I have no idea how to make her stop being jealous like this.
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This is batshit insane.
Some people, people like your girlfriend, base their entire identity off of a relationship with another person. Her whole self worth comes from being connected to you. When you had "no family" she didn't have to compete for your attention or affection. Now that you've rediscovered your roots she is starting to feel her security slip away. Now she KNOWS that she can't rationally argue that you should see or be with your family, nor can she argue that your actions are hurting her. So she has to resort to accusing you of possible infidelity.
Even it's subconscious, her actions are all about maintaining control of her relationship with you. She doesn't want to share you. This type of behavior is wrong, period. She is displaying, quite openly that she doesn't trust you in any situation.
Even if you completely broke off contact with your family she would eventually find else to be in secure about. There is no CONVINCING her, she has already made up her mind. It's impressive she kept this type of behavior at bay for 7 years.
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>>17639954
I somehow doubt this is it, if only because it has been a problem for so long. Also;
>She doesn't want to share you.
She didn't mind me going on a 2 week trip with my grandpa to the other side of the world without her, and she URGED me to go after I voiced some doubts about it (He lives in the north eastern part of Africa, and I am not good with that kind of environment.) - it is solely my aunt causing issues. Hell, we started meeting at her place for coffee, because my girlfriend didn't want her in our house.
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because the only reason people aren't attracted to their relatives are because they grow up together. Your "aunt" isn't really an aunt. It's suddenly a girl about your age that you're spending a significant amount of time with 1 on 1. You don't have that familial bond that would make this a normal cousin or aunt scenario. Your dick doesn't care that you share genes and your brain didn't develop that bit that says "whoa, no, that's out of bounds".
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I understand that with trends and whatnot that people will follow what is currently "in", but.. does that account for the recent (last year or two) upcoming and re-defining of the word "literally"?
I am 24 years old. If I speak to someone my age or around my age (think 20 - 27) I can NOT have the conversation without them saying the word up to 10 times in a single conversation. I'm sure you all know what I mean. It gets under my skin and the improper usage of the word "literally" literally bothers me :^)
>I mean I literally, like literally, did this thing and it was hilarious. He literally did this and then I did this and blah blah blah
If I speak to a young adult and they use the word more than twice I will instantly disregard the full conversation as if I was talking to a child. To me, their opinions are now invalid and worthless because I feel as if they will follow trends and aren't able to see a bigger picture. They are sheep who mindlessly follow others.
Am I wrong to think this way? That those people (sorry adv but that includes a lot of you) are childish and have no understanding of the traditional meaning of the word? Am I wrong to be bothered by it?
Let's discuss.
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It's nothing new. It's been a problem for literally (and I do mean literally) decades. Somehow people began to use the word to mean "really" and the meme spread like the ass cheeks in your photo.
It is still not accepted by serious users of the language (teachers, authors, editors, journalists) but it just won't die.
Keep up the good fight. Personally I'm still obsessing over ITS and IT'S.
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>>17639909
I like gratuituously using the word "literally". I understand the meaning of the word but I miss use it for comedic purpose or just to stress something because fuck whoever has a problem with it. I have depression and other first world problems so I sometimes just pick words that make no sense like "literally" for my own amusement.
To be honest with you I never thought "literally" would become a meme though.
Having said that, I'm not a native English speaker but I myself have a huge issue with other common errors like "then/than" and "women/woman". I don't mind "your/you're" for some reason but the others fuck my brain.
However I assume people use "literally" as a meme rather than missusing it because they don't know what it means, but I can be wrong.
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People who complain about literally are the most annoying
"literally", as opposed to "figuratively", is used to ironically preempt hyperbole, there's nothing wrong with it because it's a useful rhetorical device
just because some stupid bitch says it and doesn't realize what shes doing doesn't mean she isnt doing it
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i've been living with my girlfriend and her family for about a year now. my mom's military and ended up leaving for north carolina just as i really began to bond with my gf, and i had been bestfriends with her sister so i decided living with them couldnt hurt.
things are nice, she's really understanding, her parents are w/e about smoking weed, i'm pretty accepted as part of the family.
on the other side it's a one story house with 6 people living in it, with no one with a room to themselves. her sisters are 20 and 22 and dont have a license so i do a lot of the driving around. they dont like doing chores, so i'm often doing the dishes and the knitty gritty. at one point i remember her mom asking for one of the sisters to do the dishes and she said "okay, well im only washing my dishes why cant other people wash their own?"
my girlfriend can be pretty caring but she's the politically correct type where i have to watch what i say, and i cant watch certain things because she feels put off or weirded out by them. she does a lot of breaking down, and i'm her side when it happens but over the time its become kind of taxing.
i'm in community college and i've got 1 class left to do, but its going to take another semester, i wanted to leave this past summer but another breakdown ensued and figured 'why not stay a bit more a take a few more classes'. now i feel like i'm being roped into even more months here. i love her, but i always feel a sinking sadness when i come back here from visiting my parents. i dont live with my parents anymore but it's like i'm dealing with that much more dependence.
i want a place of my own, a life of my own, and to be able to do things when i want if i want.
i want to transfer to north carolina cc but my college only transfers to 4 years, and i've heard that it may actually set me back if my credits dont transfer.
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Call admissions or the registrar where you want to transfer, they'll tell you what credits transfer and how.
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>>17639895
You are accepting charity. Doing your share of chores (and even more than your share) is the least your own dignity and pride should allow you to get by on - and certainly without whining.
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>>17639916
of course. i don't whine at all, i pay rent, i do the chores, i do my helping part. hardly anyone else does so i feel like a maid, and in any case.
besides, thinking of it in a 'i'm indebted to you so i'll always kiss your ass no matter what' mindset makes me just want to leave more
they're lovely people, but i'm adult and this is starting to become a bit silly.
>>17639904
yeah, i just got off the phone with my transfer center about it. i just need to print out a transcript.
Hi.
I moved to a studio apartment and this is my first time ever living by myself. I am living basic from supermarket deli and fast food chains and it is just terrible.
I have an oven and a fridge at home so I would like to know how to take the best advantage out of it.
Main objectives are:
>save a lot of money
>know how to kook
>eat healthy
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>>17639888
Basic advice is:
>Cook everything from scratch
>Plan your meals
>Prepare your meals in advance
If you want more specific advice...
How's your day like, usually? What do you eat for breakfast? Do you have lunch at home or at work? Dinner? Do you ever eat out? Any allergies or foods you don't like?
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>>17639888
Google, search Amazon or look in any bookstore for titles like "Student's Cookbook", "Budget Cookbook" or "Cooking For One". There are loads of books out there.
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I'm currently trying to get a office job in marketing, business or digital marketing. The people hiring prefer young attractive women rather men. I can't get a beginner job in something I have a skillset for because boomers want to perv on their workers.
How the fuck is this legal? I just want to contribute to society.
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They hire those women because those women are perceived as easy to manipulate and pay lower than they should be.
Do you really want a job like that?
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>>17639809
I work in digital marketing, and 85% of my office, and it seems the industry (except digital sales) is male. Not sure what you're talking about, dude.
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>>17639825
Op I worked at a company that went bankrupt due to the mess ups of two women there.
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Need all the help I can get 2016-10-05 14:55:33 Post No.17639782
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Need all the help I can get
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I'm about to make one of the most nervous phone calls of my lifetime
my first cousin and I are in a very serious and romantic relationship thats been going on for nearly 3 years without letting any family member know except my mother who half-willingly want to support us.
just now one of our relatives called her and told her to not visit me at my house again. I don't know how she knows. I'm suspecting its just her paranoia or she might've saw us on the street holding hands.
theres 0% chance I'm giving up on my lover
I'm about to prepare things to say for a phone call with this relative. what should I say?
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>>17639782
why u fuckin ya cousin mane....
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>>17639782
>I don't know how she knows.
You've been romantic for three years. Your relatives would have to be pretty obtuse to not figure it out.
>I'm about to prepare things to say for a phone call with this relative.
Don't bother. They won't listen. They're probably just waiting for the opportunity to call you a sick incestuous scumbag, in fact.
They'll just have to get used to it with time.
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>>17639798
you don't always get to choose who you love
I'm not a southern redneck either, I'm chinese-canadian.
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>have 18 year old supervisor (lol) at work, am 23 but I haven't worked there as long
>sometimes drive her home without ever asking for gas money and didn't snitch when she did something completely against any kind of regulations
>one day, I was really fucking sick. My production wasn't the best. I just wanted to go home and rest. Left 30 minutes before end of shift.
>she snitches on me
WHY. I don't even know what I could have done that motivated her to do that. I feel so betrayed.
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>I don't even know what I could have done that motivated her to do that.
You left work early without permission and she had to account for it.
You are 100% in the wrong.
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her job is to snitch, your job is to work
you did your job by working and not snitching on your boss
she did her job by snitching
you have less to lose
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>>17639767
You thought she was your bro
Bitches are never your bros
Your wife wont be your bro shell be your wife
Never trust to much and always cover your ass
What happened? She used to respond to all my messages, now she rarely does and only sends curt, uncaring responses. Should I ask her if something is wrong?
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Post some pics lad, hard to analyse a relationship or conversations without anything to go on.
She might be busy, moved on, found a boyfriend that keeps her busy, emo/depressed.
Impossible to say without more information. Reaching out is never a bad thing, just don't be too pushy.
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>>17639762
Just call her or meet in person, then assess the situation based on reality, not meaningless texts.
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>>17639773
Wish I could post pics, but its mostly through snapchat. I think I will reach out, just to clear things up
>>17639804
To be honest Im afraid to call her, Im scared Id come off as pushy since Ive been the one trying to initiate recently and I feel like a call might be a bit too much.