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>>17640487
threesome

>>17640487
Pick Nr.1,
keep the relation with Nr.2 up if plan A fails

>>17640487
It sounds like neither. If they don't make your emotions crazy in the begininng it's usually a dull relationship that ends quickly. Wait for someone you know for sure you want

>>17640480
>but very few women take interest in getting to know me.

this is wrong. Most girls I pulled acted like I dont exist at first. Its a tactic women use not to appear attracted to you - dost ask me why they do it, its women.

>>17640480
>How do I convey "That thing" that builds that initial interest?

if you're already good looking, the only other things could be to improve your fashion and be more confident. really though, it all depends on the girl. some girls like guys that play guitar, some girls like guys that are ripped. you cant really appear interesting to every single girl but more girls will pay attention to you if you look good and act confident. the more i talk to people about women though, most guys dont know what they are doing, including myself, its just that some guys are good at taking advantage of situations.

>>17640480
Post pic of yourself.
Have and healthy mind in a healthy body and show it to the girls you talk to, market yourself well. Ask them about their interests, see if they take interest in yours, if you find something you can do together, ask her to do it with her.
Once the real date is set up, make sure your interest in her is established because it's going to be aweful to go on a date without knowing if she's interested in you. If she accepts the date while knowing you're interested in her, you can go for the kiss during the date and from this point on everything becomes easy.
Works for both IRL dates and Tinder dates.
Key point is to be marketable, if you're nothing better than any other guy there's no point for them to date you, they want the best for themselves. They want to be able to brag to their friends "my bf is this, this, this and that!" and make them jealous.

>>17640453
What's the reason for your question? The answer is, probably not much at all, but if you want clean piss, you gotta stop using drugs.

>>17640461
Forgot to add that I'm quitting weed to get a proper medical examination. Have had persisting personal problems since puberty, didn't do drugs before way into my twenties. On my tenth day sober today :)

>>17640453
Just use fake piss if its a unobserved piss test. Done it dozens of times.

>>17640444

you can't. you decided that you aren't responsible for yourself anymore. that you can't just sit down and study. anything we suggest would meet the same problem: you just wouldn't do it.

i could suggest for instance that you use a site blocker, and you would insist that you'd 'just find a way around that'.

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>>17640449
That's all I needed to hear

>>17640470

if thats your reaction than you missed the entire point.

are you some secret god's butt puppet?

>>17640433

tell him to either chill out or get out. if he makes it an argument, punish him, but dont engage in this argument.

say your final words, and tell him that if he doesn't trust or believe you, thats his problem not yours.

id take money over ignorant dude any day. chances are he'll just shut up about it if you put your foot down.

>>17640433
If he actually loved you, he would be okay with you doing this. Tell him you're not gonna stop, and if he can't accept that, tell him to get out of your life.

>>17640443
Spoken like a true woman fuck the man get the money

>>17640420
Improve yourself.

Post a picture, if you need advice on it.

>>17640420

ur own attraction shouldn't be motivation to do anything. your attraction is irrelevant. stop being so shallow.

dont get me wrong being attractive is great, but ive been on your side of the fence. i still had to work at how attractive i am, and if i posted a pic most of you would still call me some ugly manlet.

point being that no ones perfect, most people arent that attractive, and many have to work at it.

if you insist upon it, go ahead and get plastic surgery. yes it cost money, but ev erything cost something. even chads have to work out.

but how we look doesn't really matter in terms of what we do.

develop a good personality so you don't have to rely on your looks entirely.

a genuinely interesting, average looking person will have an objectively better life than a boring super model.

>>17640409
you dont want to kill yourself. you just dont know how to get out of your current life situation.

>>17640409
Because you're not convinced about it.
Killing yourself is permanent, and if you're here asking for a reason to not kill yourself, you're clearly not 100% convinced.

What's going on with you?

because if you were going to do it then you would have done so already instead of asking us

>>17640358

a 'person's type' or 'people person' has many different definitions. its really subjective. the same way that 'extroverted' and 'introverted' have become subjective despite their stricter definitions.

not being a 'people person' could simply mean you dont like large groups of people, or meeting lots of new people, etc. they could still be very happy to meet people one on one, especially those who share their interests.

its like the supposed nature of geeks not being very talkative. its not true. they just wnat to talk about stuff that 'normies' dont know much about. get a group of digimon nerds together and they wont shut up.

so even if you aren't a 'people person' if you still enjoy dating and can find someone who is comfortable sharing a similar life style, there is no harm.

99% of relationships come back to bite you in the ass. break ups are not exclusive to introverts. we all break up. its always dramatic. its how relationships work.

>>17640379
Autist

>>17640390

I am? for answering your question thoroughly?

>>17640337
That's how affairs start.
If you want to fuck each other and you're in a relationship, just stay the fuck away from each other.

>>17640344
is it really that clear cut? i'll be interacting with her on a daily basis and we've already established routines together.

she's in a 5 year relationship. i'm approaching 2 years. she and i would have to ignore a lot of voices in our head to risk anything romantic/sexual occurring. seems low risk, the reward being a good friend.

>>17640363
you'll be fucking within a month, good for you

>>17640330

start by admitting its not ruining your life, you're just being a twat.

it sounds like you take yourself too seriously in general. a lot of people do. they have to make every situation 'life ruining'. they can't fathom being late a few days on the rent without it being the end of the world.

chill. no one else will ever take you as seriously as you do, so tone yourself down.

focus on and be grateful for whats good in your life. kill the president. enjoy a sunset. enjoy your dinner. treat yourself to ice cream but dont think of it as 'i shouldnt be eating this'. savor it. savor it while looking at the stars or taking a bath.

treat yo self.

>>17640330

wait, do you HAVE cancer?

>>17640341
lol nah, i just made that up :)

>>17640320
>have a little suicidal ideation.
please talk to someone.

>>17640320
WAAAAAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA smoke WEEEEEEEEDDDDDDDDD you fagoo

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>>17640334
i've seen countless counselors. they're free at my school but the sessions are short and i'm not sure anything is ever accomplished. my life never gets better when i'm in therapy. only gets better when i decide to stop being a bitch about things and then i do.

>>17640367
i self-medicate with edibles but can't continue that forever because of drug testing. need to get this shit figured out before i get there i think.

"Start the Botulinum injections as soon as possible. It hurts but it helps make your migraine manageable. Also don't fuck Jenny again."

I honestly don't know. I have most of the same problems still at 29.

Still struggle with women. Still not sure what to do for a living.

I'd tell him to buy bitcoins. I could have been a millionaire.

>>17640266
the things you're describing are dates, to him. He is trying to get with you.

Alright so it sounds like you two have been on a few dates, but he maybe didn't frame them that way?

Either way I think it's pretty clear he's interested in you in at least some sort of way.

Okay I'm a bit worried now. It's not that I'm not interested in him in particular, but I'm just generally not interested in relationships at all. I'm pretty asexual.

I don't want to make things awkward. We're kinda living in the same accommodation.

What should I do?

>>17640177
you really fucked up & she's done a good thing by dumping you. you showed a severe lack of character.

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>>17640213
Yeah I think you are probably right.

I've been trying to make up for it but I think it's probably pointless at this point

lmao, man up, talk to her and tell her how you feel. dont be over appologistic, dont spam sorry, say it once and make sure you are changed and you can support her and make sure to tell and convince her you did.

if you didnt, you're not ready for SERIOUS relationships and imo you should drop it.

>>17640138
You need to fucking get over yourself

>>17640138
>>17640144

>>17640138
You keep dating and fucking the shit out of her until you get over your insecurities and her past. The issue that you have is that you're clinging on to that idolised image of the ideal woman. Virgin, cute, only loves you, etc. Are you into anime by any chance?

What you have to realise is that she is with you now and it is unfair to her to hold her past against her.
>she's only had one bf, fucking nothing compared to most girls
You'll get more experience down the line and if your insecurity really is such a big deal learn to take control in the relationship/bedroom if that's what you need.
You will be fine, anon.