How do I make myself smarter, or at least appear so? I don't think I'm actually stupid, I'm just very self concious about this. I've been told I'm smart, but then people joke around and call me dumb it really hurts for some reason. I know I'm sensitive. How should I make myself feel better besides reading, puzzles, etc?
>>17638549
just say "i dont know" every time you dont know something instead of rambling half-baked thoughts. people will think youre really smart if you do this.
>>17638549
But you know what I like a lot more than materialism? KNAWLIDGE
>>17638549
The fuck are you talking about puzzles for? Do puzzles somehow miraculously raise your IQ?
Your IQ is fixed for the most part. Make the most of what you have and you'll be fine. The more hobbies you have, the more intelligent you will seem.
Study religion, philosophy, history, and science. I recommend documentaries on these. Thousands can be found on science that are amazing, and the same goes for history. Philosophy is a bit more wishy-washy. I reccomend starting with Plato's Five Dialogues and going from there.
The thing is, don't try to seem smart, you'll come off as pretentious. Become smart for your own benefit. Discover the world around you and all of its miracles. Maybe one day you will realize you simply don't fit in anymore because normal people and their fucking kids & movie nights don't interest you and if you're unfortunate enough to land a mediocre job you'll want to off yourself for doing something so dull and boring.
Anyway, good fucking luck to you.
This school year I have been exceptionally lazy. I have 0 motivation to do anything. I know if I don't get my work done It won't look good for my career. I would like a little more than, "Stop being fucking lazy" believe it or not It's not that easy. I wish I could wake u every morning ready to get to work but I can't seem do that and everyday gets worse. Thanks in advance for advice.
Self bump
/r/ing op's pic in a decent size for a wallpaper
>>17638590
Thanks, that helped a lot
Alright /adv/, got a few questions. Long story short
>meet girl, instant matches
>catch feelings for her at a formal party we went to, my b
>a month of us talking, everything going well, texting day and night, snapchating daily, etc
>I tell her I like her one night, asked if we can try something
>she never gave me a straight forward answer, anyways, we get even more flirtier and touchier after that
>something happens, shit hits the fan
>we have a fall out, an argument, I try to fix it
>last month, we barely text, talk, we are quiet, I am getting over her
>last week we had a small dispute, she sent me this text the next afternoon
>we text a tiny bit seriously, then I haven't said shit
>an occasional snapchat to her, but all silence from her
I got word of her liking someone I know, so I feel like the argument broke her heart and she decided to move on quickly. Im kind of bugged, but I'm alright. But here's the question, is there anyway to fix our relations? I have a tiny bit of her in my head, so I'm always looking at that possibility, but now, it's quiet between us.
Here's her text she sent me. Tbh I have been a dick to her for a while, but I'm kind of mellowing out over the past month, but in a playful way.
Anyways, gauging by this text, is shit done or can I salvage?
still salvageable, sounds like she does care about you, even if just as a friend.
she's being open and honest with you, do the same for her.
at least that's what i would do.
>>17638587
There's more to our texts, I was kind of cold to her. But eh, I've been smoking and thinks about all of this. Here's a another ss of our text. I feel like all this "I care about you" she does with everyone. Anyways, here's more. Thank you for replying.
>>17638601
it just sounds to me like she's working things out within herself.
sorry, i don't have anything more useful than that. if she is really doing this "I care about you" thing with everyone, then that would suck, but i don't think you have a way to verify that, so you should give her the benefit of the doubt.
((thats what i would do anyway))
I am in desperate need of help right now. I don't know where to go to with this for immediate reactions considering I have to potentially take a drug test tomorrow at 3-4pm. I am 5'8" weigh 135lbs with body fat at around 10% Yesterday at 7:30pm getting home after I put down my cat of 10 years I was given 10mg of vallium, I am currently on probation and there is a chance I will be tested tomorrow since I'm 3 months in now and the first two months I wasn't tested, I'm guessing I'm going to be tested tomorrow. I just took an at home test and benzo's were the only thing that came up positive. I have a drink that masks urine but that's about it to help me out here. Please can anyone give me any incite as to when it should show up as negative on a test I have only taking a benzo one other time in my life over 8 months ago. Please somebody help me. Image is my kitty that passed :( I don't know where to go with these questions so I'm hoping /adv/ can help me out here :(
can you just do a lot of cardio sweating, drink lots of water. and maybe 5 beers tonight?
OP, i wish you luck. i love your cat. very cute. rip in peace OP's cat.
i love you too OP
Grill college freshman here. I know it sounds pathetic, and I'm not a basement dweller. I just really need to make friends.
A little background info is that I had 2 best friends from middle school who decided to not be my friends anymore about a month ago because I said some mean stuff about a teacher I had in high school. (he was an asshole to me but the 2 friends love him, one literally wants to fuck him)
In hindsight, they were often pretty selfish and weren't good friends anyway, but I had a lot in common with them via interests.
I live in a pretty close-minded area, so it's difficult to find people who had the same interests as me.
I feel a little picky though. I know it's cringey to say, but "normies" are sort of a turnoff to me. I made one friend so far in college who is REALLY...mainstream/basic/normie. She works at a daycare, is religious (I generally don't have a lot of respect for religious people), likes a frat boy. She's very nice, but I know I don't have enough in common with her to have a strong friendship. It's more along the lines of "we have classes together and don't want to sit by ourselves".
At the same time, the extra cringe people who don't wash their hair and are in the Anime & Gaming club at my college are also a turnoff. I considered joining the club because I dabble in anime, but a lot of people in the club went to my high school and are excessive weebs who most I have issues with. (One sent me nudes, another is the type who talks about shit she knows nothing about, one cheated on my brother)
I looked into groups on Meetup, but they seem to be focused on older people in my area.
Please help. I just really want to make some new friends. The only people I regularly talk to are a couple online friends I've known for years, my boyfriend, and my mom. I thought I'd be making friends and stuff, but I feel like I'm just becoming more and more introverted.
Ugh, I have the same problem. I feel like at this age everyone is already set in their friends groups and don't really have an interest in making new friends. I'm not ugly and I think I'm a decent person but I fell into a hole of lonerism that I can't seem to get out of, my only real friend is my bf.
>>17638525
keep looking on Meetup. The first couple i went to were definitely slightly middle-aged.
but i found one called "Social support for young adults with depression and anxiety" and its been good.
try to find ones specifically for a younger crowd?
i've been in australia for a year now, and i've only made 2 friends so far. but they are good friends, that aren't too normie and aren't too "autistic".
one of them i met thru a pokemon go walk (ha ha, i thought it would be a good way to make friends.. and i did)
and the other was through that meetup i described. she's really cool and we have more in common than i thought when i first approached her to be friends.
i know what you mean about the normies being a turn off. most people are just so.. boring.
Sounds like your problem is that you think you're too good for everyone. Normies? Who needs them? Weebs? Disgusting.
I'm gonna lose my virginity tomorrow. I need your help, /adv/.
>>17638503
what do you need help with?
>>17638561
Preparing my anus. How much lube should I use?
>>17638570
Hmm, that depends on whether or not he has dry skin.
If he does, prepare for at least a cup's worth. If it's sufficiently hydrated, just use half a cup.
Then again, this implies your boyfriend doesn't use lube. If he does, then like I said, half a cup.
Sup /adv/ i need help bad. Every day of my fucking life i have to fight off the urge to retch and puke and i dont understand it. My body just constantly feels bad, like ive been poisoned. My mind feels drunk, like im in a dreamworld. I do have heartburn and stress problems but this is pure hell. I want to die. How bad can a person feel before his body gives out for fucks sake?
Also ive been to the doctor for years and nothing has changed
>>17638483
need more history...
currently on any medications? birth control?
male or female?
age?
diet?
History of cancer in family?
do you drink heavily? binge drink?
>>17638498
23 yo male. No history of cancer. I dont really drink but my diet has been trash pretty much my whole life (yeah i know) but nothing i can do about it now. Ive had my gallbladder and appendix removed and i have the anti reflux surgery
Theres a clown outside my window with balloons im so fucking scared rn i need advice bad
Police
call the police and also start jacking off at the window
clowns are scared of penis and jizz
This is why you should have a gun. Not to sound like a redneck but If I saw a motherfucking clown outside my windows I would blast his ass to the pavement with my 12 gauge.
When making eye contact, where do you look? The bridge of the nose seems like a good place but it's very possible you'll just look like a cunt. Do you stick with one eye or switch between the two?
this is a pretty good question, and I realized I tend to look at their left eye, don't know why
>>17638395
I always look deep into their eyes. Feel weird but i prefer it.
>>17638395
black of the eyes
How should you go with flirting with a girl from a different country? She's from China and taking college here in the US. I tried flirting with her through text but she kinda backfired. She said sorry, not for me (we were texting btw). She did call me a handsome tall guy and we are planning to improve her english this weekend. She still wants to meet up and also this is our first time meeting up. I met her on Yik Yak. I'm 6'5 for those of you who are wondering and she's 5'2. Should I even try to flirt with her more and see how it goes when we first meet up, or should I move on to a different girl?
>pic semi related, kinda looks like her
Anyone?
Just ask her out on dates, wtf m8
>>17638394
Someday someone is going to invent a handheld gadget that looks a bit like a texter but that you can actually talk to people through, using your voice and words and like that.
Okay I have 3 love interests right now.
Girl #1
>Uptight Christian during High School
>Traveled around the world
>???
>Going to college now, super popular, lives in the same state but a few hours away.
>Messages me all the time, busy but still messages me. We tease each other.
>Got drunk slept with a random guy once, makes me kinda cringe but she's not drinking anymore.
>Some guy friends... Hurm... Eh.
>Got out of a 2 year abusive relationship
Girl #2
>Japanese student in America
>Super shy/blushes around me
>Looks like Karen Fukuhara
>Avoids social events, adorably can't dance
>Study addict
>Attracts creepers apparently
>Gives me life advice
>Only hangs out with girls. Seriously she doesn't hang out with boys unless they are Japanese and even then... She still prefers women friends
>Laughs at my lame jokes. Normally too busy to text.
Girl #3
>Best friend in high school
>Moved to college
>Talk off and on
>She gets emotional and runs off sometimes
>Funny, loving when in a good mood
>Not the best at speaking up, shy, good heart
>Kinky as fuck
>We talk for hours literally all night sometimes
>She flip flops with me.
>>17638376
it sounds like you're most attracted to girl #2 to me
go for her
girl #1 would be out for me because of distance and because you didn't really say anything good about her like you did for the other two
Girl 1 is out of the question due to distance and the increased possibility of getting cheated on. Girl 3 is out of the question cuz come on don't fuck up a friendship like that
>>17638398
also look at how op describes girl 2
you just know she's the one he wants us to tell him to go after
I need general advice about living and life
So my parents are kicking me out of the house for reasons I don't wish to share
I just recently graduated high school and I work at a pizza place as a delivery guy
I have to the end of the month to leave
Wtf do I do
I have only 100$ in my bank after I fixed my car
I could probaby make 600$ by the 26th or even more of I plead for more hours
Would could I do with this
How does one move out and survive on their own?
Can I have general advice on living independently?
I'd like to get a single bedroom apartment but I have no clue what rent and expenses would add up to
>>17638253
>I'd like to get a single bedroom apartment but I have no clue what rent and expenses would add up to
That's the stupidest thing you could do. You can't afford to live without roommates
>>17638257
I AM STUPID
That's why I'm asking for advice
What's something Ideal for an 18 year old that makes about 10$ an hour?
Idk how this shit works and I have no one to ask or help me
>>17638265
You have no friends or coworkers you could stay with, even as a paying boarder?
I've decided that I want to be a counselor. I think I'm pretty decent at it and I've always liked psychology. I can understand people very well even if I cannot portray my way of thinking correctly sometimes. I've helped many people out throughout the the last 4 years and never really thought about it. Friends have told me I could prolly pursue this as a career and it would do wonders for me. I help my friend out all the time and I know some people here are going to say "so you helped out a friend a few times, you think you're ready for that?"
I don't know. I like the idea of learning how people think, how people work, how social standings and situations react to one another, so I think I could potentially do this. I'm finding books on any psychology I can. Now, why a counselor and not a psychologist? I figured in comparison, I don't have to work with people who have severe mental issues that I wouldn't be able to fix. And I believe that a psychologist also gives out prescriptions as well. I don't want to give out the wrong medicine.
No I'm a guy btw. I've been asked this before. Why do people see counselors or psychologists as woman?
Also, what books would any one recommend? I'm better with audio books cause of my own ADHD, I have a very big problem with staying focused when I read. So if you know any on audio, that would be fantastic. I'm listening to 2 different books as of right now.
>>17638250
HUGE TIP old episodes of LOVELINE with adam and dr drew.
Adam is great at putting complex psyc in to lamens terms. I can't stress how great that show is for everyone not just people interested in psyc. Also buy the adam and dr. drew book guide to relationships and life.
>>17638255
Sounds interesting
You're going to have to get a degree to pursue this, reading books isn't going to cut it
Should I give up on pursuing a career as a Math professor?
I am about to graduate from a no-name state school in bumfuck nowhere with my BSc in Math. All my peers are lazy and unmotivated and my coursework overall has been much easier than what students are actual decent schools get. I am BY FAR the best Math student at my university even though my credentials aren't "best in class" standard (3.9 GPA, research experience, an internship, graduating at age 20, etc). My professors have been pushing me towards academia but the crushing realization that I am not actually that good (smart/hardworking/motivated) is starting to hit me.
Ambitious Math students at other universities take more rigorous courses (strengthens the mind and "builds character") and have the option to take more advanced courses along with a wider variety of electives (thus they are also more knowledgeable). Also "prestige" is apparently a factor when it comes to getting academic jobs.
You may say I shouldn't be comparing myself to others this way, but the academic job market is competitive, which is depressing because I have always been a person to shy away from competition.
I am starting to get really depressed and haven't even began applying for graduate school even though I am graduating this Fall. I can't get a a pleb job in industry easily because all of my experience has been academic in nature.
I have no idea what I would do if I were to stop not pursuing graduate school / professorship. I know some C++ programming but I honestly hate the idea of making apps for a company and getting no credit for the work that I do.
I feel that I am not "cut out" for academia, but at the same time I am not "stupid enough" for industry (I am talking about entry level BSc and some Master's degree jobs, not industry jobs that require a PhD).
Should I just kill myself now?
Also why not make this a general "Career/Education" thread.
re-read your post. it's full of self loathing. find someone in real life to talk to about it.
you have good grades, and possess some modicum of intelligence, figure out what you want to do with your life, and pursue it
being irrational and calling yourself awful at everything isn't how you enjoy life, it's how you end up killing yourself.
you just said you have shied away from competition your entire life but your entire post compares yourself to others.
prestige of your undergrad program means fuck all in academic job hunts. if you're good enough at math, you might as well apply to grad school. if you get a full funding package (typical for PhD programs that are at a competitive level for producing successful job searchers) then go for it. if not, then you can wallow in self pity when you graduate and find a new direction. it's not like a math BSc isn't gonna give you opportunities in other areas, like a masters program. stop being a self-pitying fuck until you get rejected from grad school.
>>17638295
My post is self loathing because I have turned into a self loathing person. I have no one to talk with this about because most people aren't in a situation similar to this. The reason why I shy away from competition is because I really hate losing, I guess I am going to have to get used to it though.
>>17638309
I honestly have been losing motivation day by day. This might be "impostor syndrome" or something but I actually do feel like I am just fooling people with how "smart" I am. I have taken IQ tests and have seen how good at solving problems students at decent schools are and I am now very well aware of how far behind I am compared to others with similar credentials.
I was scared of math in HS (avoided engineering because I thought it would be difficult) and was originally an environmental science major. At some point I dedicated myself to getting a Math minor for the challenge of it and soon found myself in love with math. Unfortunately I feel that my love is slowly dying and I am becoming more and more stressed out as I feel that I am reaching my limitations. I have even started applying to programming jobs despite knowing that I would most likely hate programming full time.
How do I rekindle my passion for my studies despite the fact that the (economic, social, and mental-health aspects of my) future seem so dim? I was in my prime when I was dumb and didn't care about anything except math, but now I worry way to much about other things (money, having a social life, having a good career, etc).
People who have a significant other:
How do you know that your partner is really into you? Or crazy about you? What are some of the things that they do that allow you to see just how important you are to them? Little or big.
Alternately, people who have broken up with a partner who didn't care about them that much, how did they show it? How did you know? Even looking back, what were the signs that you just weren't a priority?
bump. pls respond
>>17638239
the key word for females expressing to males is affection.
If a female is in to you she is constantly wanting to touch you, sit next to you, hold your hand, snuggle, sit on the same side as you even if you get a booth at a restaurant.
>>17638426
male to female the key thing is usually sex. If he is chomping at the bit to have sex with you all the time he is probably really happy and not getting it or looking for it anywhere else