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What is this plan you talk of, grade guy?

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I post of the plan to not fuck up anymore and take ops advice to knuckle down again I promised to keep posted I'll post my grades tomorrow to see the changes if there is any I got two weeks till end of quarter

>>17635591
You know what dude, power to you. I will live vicariously through you since I passed school with the bare minimum.

Do ya know any type of skills that you can use online? Like proofreading or programming software or anything like that?

>>17635494
>go to restaurant
>ask to wash dishes
>instant job

Seriously. I've never told anyone ever that they can't wash dishes.

>>17635847
This.
>>17635494
You're going to have to start with the very basics unfortunately. Dish washer, cashier, warehouse worker, etc. I only have a high school diploma and the best entry level job I've gotten was a customer service rep making $13.50 an hour.

shameless bump

>>17635492
stop talking to your ex. stop trying to keep up with what she is doing and don't allow her to know anything about what you are doing. Shortly you will find she is seeing another guy or guys and its gonna hurt a lot worse than it does now.

Don't. Get over her get your shit together, then in a while try again. She doesn't seem to be emotionally driven on this, she seems to have a much more logical approach to things. She probably still does love you but recognizes that if you get back together so immediately the underlying issues that caused you to break up with her in the first place won't change at all so the relationship will be damaged from the very start.

If you take a break for a bit and figure out what you want to do with your life, reassess and learn more about yourself then you can both go back into the relationship on equal footing and be stronger. Try to stay in touch with her, but don't be there for her all the time (friend-zoned) and maybe consider talking to some other girls.

In a year or two, then consider trying things again when it's fresh and new again because you'll have a better shot of it working.

I have tried talking to her about it but she just says "don't worry I don't like them" pls help

BREAK UP

>>17635484
If she doesn't see the issue even with rational discussion she will never. She does this because she is trolling for more attention from these guys and one may be your replacement. All you can do is brace yourself for the inevitable

Gotta take the bad with the good mayne. I know how you feel, I've felt the same way before. But it sounds like, despite all of her bullshit, she loves you, which is more than some can say

One day, hopefully, you'll realize that you play a bigger hand in how you turn out than she did. You gotta take responsibility for yourself, young man, otherwise you'll never improve.

Get a job and move out

You know you have to be 18 to post on 4chan, right?

As long as you live under your parents' roof and live on their money, you play by their rules. Simple as that. If you're not okay with it, grow up, get a job and move out.

I don't understand. What makes you say you are being mistreated? If you were being treated fairly, what would be different? What are this girl's complaints about you?

>>17635446
You're too nice, and people mistake that for weakness. If you don't take shit off no stanklords, then people will respect you. But, you do. You take major shit from stanklords

>>17635446
are you a qt girl ?

>>17635455
>You're too nice

from the OP I really dont think so lol

This is NOT going to be easy. Have some freezing cold ice water ready and easy to get to. Whenever you think about sex, gulp that ice water, grab the keys and go for a walk for 10 mins or so. You can also prepare a walking trail beforehand.

>>17635414
>once a week
I haven't had sex in 3 years...

Why am I so pathetic?

>>17636022
>3 years
I haven't had sex in 8 years...

Why am I so pathetic?

>>17635374

Girls are like a different breed of animal. The way they think and respond are so different because the left side of their brain isn't as well-wired.

Girls want to fight. It sounds stupid, but the world we live in deprives men and women of their natural survival instincts. What's life without a little struggle?

Unless your gf finds inner peace and tranquility, she'll nag about anything that makes life not perfect.

Just get angry with her and then apologize. Girls want to be told they're right. Eventually she'll get tired of it. Soon she might get tired of you, though. If she's hot, you're walking a tightrope. If she depends on you, the just be angry with her so that you can make up any be happy again. Yin and Yang.

>>17635379
Yeah but its not just her that starts the fights, i do too, probably more than her.

Give latest example. And stay with the facts pls

All those scientific questions can be answered through google. Look at actual scientific studies and research instead of biased articles full of he said, she said.

As for the is it worth it. Well that's up to you. Why do you want to smoke? What do you hope to gain/achieve out of it? How much and how long do you plan on smoking?

The type of weed totally depends on where you live and what kind of dealer or shop you buy from as well.

In my experience I found that I functioned better if I smoked bad weed that wasn't that strong. It didn't have orange or purple hairs in it and it was full of stems and seeds.
Every time I smoked crappy weed I had this wave of energy where I needed to clean, work out, or do something productive. Smoking weed helped me lose over 100 lbs, get through college with A's and B's, make a ton of friends and get a job during college.
Smoking high end weed on the other hand, made me very drowsy, hungry and unproductive-that's it.

One con I have about smoking is that it made me not give a shit about some things. I wouldnt care if I dented my car, lost a friend or a bf. I literally only got upset when I wasn't able to smoke after a day.

In general op, I'm probably a horrible person to advise you on this because I fucked up a lot as a teenager.

But my rules kept me from actual addiction and they were given to me by a dear relative so I'll share that with you.

Nothing should be injected into your veins.
Nothing smoked in rock form.

That's it. I'd like to add that in my personal experience, I wouldn't recommend overdoing it on acid.

Additionally mushrooms should only be done in the right frame of mind with people that you know well and trust. It makes you see things about people that you may not want to.

Never ever do DMT.

Tldr: weed should be fine just don't drive on any substance.
Best of luck.

can anyone help me with some meds i can take to improve my daily life?

>>17635343
That tiny bit of hope that things might get better.

The depression is paralyzing and keeps us from actually going through with it. You should do some research on the increases of suicides as a result of taking antidepressants, I think it will answer your question

>>17635372
So the spark of hope plus the paralizing effect of depression are the causes for people not going trough with it?
What is it that snaps with people that actually do it?
Has anyone ever read a suicide note from someone that killed himself?

>>17635337
I'd also be concerned if I was you. Have you brought this up with her?

>>17635342

I know shes not fucking him or anything because we always see him together, and we live together.

I haven't brought it up to her though because I know it will start a really bad fight :/

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>>17635349
You need to communicate with her and calmly explain your point of view. If she gives you shit for it then I suggest you start preparing for plan b.

>>17635326
Relax. EVERYBODY says and does embarrassingly dumb things from time to time.

All you can do is think a bit before you speak, and never make the same dumb mistake twice.

>>17635326

I get this too.

Honestly, it's because you spend too much time on the computer. You use all of your cognition to feed your brain useless stimulation via dank memes and facebook posts and it "fills your cup" so that the smallest task causes your to spill.

Here's how you fix it.

Every morning, meditate on a routine. Drink water, eat breakfast, brush teeth, go to the gym if that's your fancy. Try to preordain as many predictable events that could happen in your daily life. If those go well, the next time something unexpected happens, your brain will be able to adjust your cognition with maximum responsiveness.

Stop getting on the computer at least 2 hours before you sleep. Preferably 4 hours. The more time your brain has to cool off before it starts its sleep cycle, the more effective your learning will be.

>>17635356
What can I do without internet? Not using my phone or even computer leaves no interesting options or options I can succeed in
also I sleep from 7 AM to 2 AM
>>17635341
Sometimes my mind freezes up

>>17635322
When do you get to the part that's stupid?

Either the two of you are legitimately bi or you're just experimenting or you're sexually confused.

In any case it is nobody's business but yours, and nobody particularly cares. Relax. Explore the adventure until it takes a clear shape and then get on with your life.

>>17635357
The problem is it'll get out now. and unfortunately i don't have the luxury to say people don't care bc if it comes to either my hometown friends or parents i'm legit gonna be shunned.

>>17635392
ya dun goofd
plain and simple
you are 99% just going through a phase

just know that itll all end soon : ^ )

>>17635310
Why aren't you travelling together?

8 months without seeing each other while travelling is something that would make most relationship fail. I'd suggest to cut it now, it'd be hard to make it work

>I know it wont change me
You say this with such confidence, but you never know what's going to happen.

>>17635310

>I know it wont change me

Thinking that its impossible for yourself to change over the course of a year just goes to show how little insight you have into your life and your current situation.

She's anticipating her life changing whereas you are actively digging your feet into the sand to try to freeze your feelings in time while your life continues and its just unrealistic.

People change. People get older. People meet new people and develop new feelings and maybe she wants to be open to the possibility. Break up with her. Do it for both of your sakes because it sounds like whether or not she meets someone on the road your relationship is kind of winding its way down as you both go your separate ways.

If you think that you can be gone for nearly a year exploring the world and then just get back together and go back to the way things were you're a fool. Let her go, man. This thing sounds done.

>>17635279
If you like them, it's better to video call soon and see if they like the real you or no.
If you're just friends, who cares if they like you physically or not.

Find the "right" angle on your webcam.

I guess you are at the point when your friend is already interested in you as a person, and it would be harder to scare them away.

it is not like you lied to them, face them