So I left my soul-sucking job so I could pursue more personal interests and go back to school.
I got a job as a bartender, but the company doesn't offer any health benefits.
I live in America where the healthcare system isn't exactly great from what I hear, but I do need some kind of coverage.
What options do I have exactly? Can I get Obamacare? How much would I expect to pay monthly, for reasonable coverage?
Any advice would help greatly. Thanks /adv/.
>>17635879
Also, I live in Texas, I think that does change some things.
>>17635879
American health care is the best in the world. It is also unbelievably expensive. People stick with jobs they hate just because they come with insurance.
This is exactly what obamacare is for. Look into it.
>>17636019
Maybe I bought into the "healthcare sucks" meme.
Do you have any insight on how Obamacare works?
I have shit credit, I don't know if that will be a problem.
Even if you are fit and can post abs in photos and shit?
>>17635867
Try good old fashioned IRC and Alamak. There are fembots out there on IRC who are real, nice and will meet a nice robot for coffee and more.
meh depends on where you are. small town tinder/ UK tinder isn't that great, but New York tinder is awesome (because girls actually use it to meet guys, rather than as a fun game/validation thing).
but going to group events/activities where you can make friends and talk to girls is always going to be better.
>>17635867
Tinder is for when you are stranded in a foreign city with no friends and want to check out the quality of local girls
I used it when I was in Sydney and Paris
Say that you were a college student that had a big crush on an international student that goes to the same college. Not some basic exotic-chasing, but a real genuine belief that you two would be great together based on somewhat circumstantial evidence (dress, mannerisms, behavior in groups).
Now say you had no classes together, no extracurriculars in common, never ran into one another at parties or social gatherings, don't know the student's major nor even if they can speak English.
How do you go about winning the heart of this international student? I'm kind of stumped. I've had a hell of a hard time gathering information (no facebook or mutual friends or anything) and I'm trying to come up with a better plan than just sitting down at the dining hall and asking her to marry me. Thoughts?
>>17635844
>you go to the dining hall
>she's sitting alone
>you ask if it's okay if you sit with her
>talk to her
>ask for her number
if you are going to the same dining hall / uni places as her just try and casually get near her. once you are in her proximity you can start a casual conversation (either being direct: hey, my name is _ i've seen you around [smile], hows it going? / making some comment about context (eg. food here is pretty good..)). then you have a few options: 1. say i'll add you on facebook or something 2. ask for her number 3. ask if she'd like to go out some time.
main thing is to be chill and friendly (smile)
>>17635844
What anime?
I don't really care about balding that much. I have a nice jaw, I'm nowhere near fat and I have a lot more going on than looks in my life. But I'm afraid my girlfriend will care. Our relationship is pretty intense and almost flawless so far, we're going to live together soon.
I've told her before that I'm 22 and starting lose a lot of hair and I'll probably be bald when I'm older. She doesn't seem to make the connection between losing hair and eventually being a bald man. I've probably not been clear enough, but I'm too cautious to be.
I don't want to risk killing my dick with finasteride, I've got my share of mental health issues already. She's reluctant to me shaving my head, but I don't really know whether she would still be physically attracted to me. Is it worth trying to keep my hair for her or rather tell her to suck it up and let it be?
I guess I'm making it a bigger deal than it is.
>>17635782
>>>/lgbt/7008004
If you don't want finasteride you can try topical alfatradiol or minoxidil.
just get bald holy shit how can people depend on pills for their entire fucking life
Just go bald, it doesn't matter that much. She probably doesn't care, and the only thing that will bother her about it is if you make it a thing and are super self conscious about it.
Stop talking about it and just let it happen. She's going to be a lot more miffed if you fuck up your dick because of some stupid insecurity.
Recently, my girlfriend started acting really weird. She was pissed 24/7 and she avoided me like the plague. One day, her big sister called and told me she started doing some heavy drugs. She also apologised for making everything worse by threatning to kill herself if she ever does this again. (her big sister is a junkie, she got into it through her). Now my Gf wont even come to campus anymore and she always lies about her whereabouts. My first girlfriend killed herself after beeing raped by her stepdad so Ive had extreme problems with girls since then. She started doing drugs a few months ago but she told me about it yesterday. Please help me, I think I can still save her. If i cant even protect the person I love most my life is worthless. Please...
lol you know how to pick 'em
ignore her, junkies are scum. find a new girl.
>>17635759
But weve been together for a while now and she only started doing it recently. I lost my best friend to drugs when I was 17. I think I can still help her.
>>17635780
you can't. don't waste your youth fucking around with junkies, they are awful people who screw everything up and rarely get better.
find yourself someone better, which is pretty easy considering how low your bar is
Need rapid advise
Im texting a girl rn. I vaguley remember asking her on a date for thursday when i was very drunk.
Think she said yes but i cant remember? how do i draw the info out?
>>17635746
she just text me asking if i was excited for thursday? could be the date but could be something else?
Should i say yes i am and just wing it? or say excited for what and risk looking like an asshole?
>>17635750
are you actually retarded?
What did you invite her to?
Heres the story, I've met someone with anxiety disorder, I was a faggot and couldn't recognize it, he got attached to me after I suggested we can move in together, he spent months dealing with my verbal threats because he couldn't work or properly talk, I made him study instead, 6h a day of math homework daily to prepare him for uni, which he said he's fucking terrified he would fail to even cross the gate
around 8 months passed and I acknowledged his loyalty and efforts, the cost was suffering the biggest guilt trip ive ever had in my life, I was suicidal for weeks, I accepted any past demands he had that ive refused, the same day I changed, I completely got rid of my toxic behavior
two months later after the change which is now, my crazy trip in guilt and feeling ive shattered any sense of "I'm a good person" because I can tell you good people don't fucking lose their mind a threaten to kick out or physically hurt the weakling suffering from disorders
~continue in next post
I face the morally questionable act of accepting something he always wanted, my determination is titanium, my core personality never allows me to go back in my word so I know if I make this real I'm never going to go back on my word, what I'm talking about is I would accept him as a dependent forever. No more work or studying, he would live under my care like a child for life, this is a serious decisions and of course a lot of people would disagree with it if not everyone
My question is what the fuck should I do? He would be infinitely grateful to escape "life". He is suicidal, he refused to live past his 20s due to feeling too incompatible with life
I'm a highly capable man, I've been raised by a former colonel and a strict mother, both all about success and such, I am known as a heartless leader in my close social circles, this was certainly a shock to some of them. Resources are no problem. I'm not underestimating the costs, just trust I can cover them easily
What is your input?
>>17635719
There is a WIDE gap between being a bully and making him totally dependent on you.
How about assuaging your guilt by using your abilities to guide him toward therapy, support groups and the like that will help him become more successfully independent?
>>17635719
are you gay ?
Hey /adv/, I have a pretty simple question.
I'm turning 21 in the next few weeks, and I’ve been thinking of hiring a prostitute for myself since I’m still a virgin.
Basically, after many failed attempts and advances on girls since I was 14 I just haven't been successful at finding a girl who would want to date me - let alone have a fling with me (even with mutual interests aside), and it has been frustrating me pretty badly coming up to 21, especially comparing my life to all my other friends who have had a slew of past partners and flings and how they're happy in their loving relationships and I don't have anyone like that.
I know that I’m not the most social person, and I know that I’m not exactly a connoisseur of seduction either, so I've been thinking of just biting the bullet and conceding the fact that I don't really have any sexual marketability and just hiring a prostitute to satiate my sexual frustrations.
What do you think I should do?
> Do it and be happier that I now have the experience?
> Don't do it and force myself through the rejections until I find someone who finds value in me?
> What do /adv/?
> Do it and be happier that I now have the experience?
Nobody feels happy after a hooker.
>>17635695
I don't know, I mean I'm hankering pretty bad at this point that a quick shag is more than enough to make me content.
Also, I probably should have clarified - it's an 'escort' at a brothel - not something like off craigslist.
>>17635701
just do it, felt good to just get it over with desu
Hey anons,
basically at my university in London I met this Chinese ethnicity Italian born girl and for halloween she wants to go trick or treating as she has never been, bearing in mind I know little about the areas of london whereabouts would be a good place to go trick or treating with her?
Isn't she too old for trick-or-treating? Find a costume party instead.
>>17635689
I would guess one of you know of a group going out together; go with them. Otherwise (I don't know anything about London or Halloween popularity) I would go walk around residential areas (not apartment buildings, like townhouses). These are likely on the periphery of the city or in otherwise unimportant / non-industrial areas.
>>17635689
is it possible to go to a cousin that has children? Let the parents off the hook for the night, get to take her with them, and demonstrate your value as a father at the same time. Girls honestly do kinda love that shit.
How do I get over the fact that every single person I studied with back in university is more successful than i'll ever be?
Most of them are either working abroad (I'm from a third world country) or another city making huge bucks while I just lost my first job ever (a dead-end job over that ) and have been a neet/shut in for near 3 months now.
I don't even know how to get a job and I'm unwilling to move out of my parents house because I've never lived by my own and just the thoughts of doing it so overwhelm me and turns me down.
I've got a lot of money from my last job, so money shouldn't be a problem for a while. But I know that being a shut in isn't an sustainable option and at some point I will run out of money and will be lost.
I just want to be inside minding my own business and the thought that everyone is looking down on me just makes more and more of a shut in.
I don't really see the point of getting a job at the moment. Money doesn't drive me, I saved every single cent that I earned and never used it for nothing, i don't see the point of "getting a job" just to keep accumulating money.
I'd like to work in a place where I can learn and progress in my career path but I don't really have the technical experience to land a job like that and I don't know anyone that would help me to get into a position that would closely resemble that.
I feel like I'm trapped in the bottom of a pit and the only way out is for someone else to help me and get me out of it. But no one even knows I'm down there or that I need help. And i fell like the more time I spend in there the harder will be for someone to be willing to help me.
what do I do?
>>17635678
My gut reaction advice is "find success yourself"
What did you major in?
It's very unlikely you'll find success sitting in your room moping on 4chan, but you may be able to find the motivation to get outside
You need a job. Not a job for money, but a job for progress. To make connections and find better jobs down the road. Do you have connections from university you can take advantage of?
It takes courage to ask for help, but you've said it yourself: it's not getting any better otherwise.
>>17635857
I'm a software the developer.
A little background on me, I was offered a job even before I graduated in a local social security company and I worked there updating old software and developing new ones there for close to 4 years. On July this year, I was let go for reasons beyond my control (nepotism).
The job itself was really mundane and stressful, the pay was ok but there was no way to doing better there. I had little to no guidance while I was working there and everything that I learned was pretty much by my own effort. There was a lot of work and only 3 developers there including me that supported over 30 custom applications. I don't really have experience working in modern developing environments, I was pretty much let out to my own luck to solve problems anyway I'd found fit.
Now, I feel like I've got 3 big problems.
1. I don't know how to look for a job.
What I mention before was my first and only job ever and I was asked if I wanted to work there rather than me looking out for it.
2. Since I studied and worked in the same city that I had always lived, I never move out of my parents house, which means that I had never lived by my own and I don't know how to handle many things that are required for someone to lived by themselves.
3. Most people that actually interest me would required me to move to other cities, where I don't know anyone and living by my own sounds like something I couldn't really handle.
I'm 26 btw,
In comparison most of my classmates pretty much left the city/country right after graduation and have done nothing but escalate professionally while I feel like I was left behind and in the same place I was before I graduated.
I guess is my own fault for conforming with such a shitty (and ungrateful) job to begin with.
I feel is too late to fix anything.
>>17635971
>3. Most people that actually interest me would required me to move to other cities, where I don't know anyone and living by my own sounds like something I couldn't really handle.
that should be
3. Most *jobs* that actually interest me would required me to move to other cities, where I don't know anyone and living by my own sounds like something I couldn't really handle.
Its been 3 weeks of me dating my girlfriend, and we offically called each other a "couple" last week. We have yet to have sex. We've intensely made out once, but she said she got "nervous" and stopped midway through.
Should i be concerned? I know a lot of couples have sex before they even consider themselves a couple. Ive gotten to the point where i want to have it. When i try and talk about it, she tells me to stop and she doesnt want to. Whenever i lean in to kiss her, (like really kiss her) and turns her head and gives a nervous laugh or something.
How should i handle this? She wont talk about it and she says she's "taking things slow". As much as i dont want to break up, because shes amazing, sex is very important to me in relationships.
Do you actually like this woman or are you just trying to have sex with her?
>>17635658
Spotted the virgin. They have been dating for 3 weeks. It's normal to have sex by then.
No need to panic yet, OP, but I hope she'll relax soon and you get to have sex. Is she a virgin by any chance? Then it will be tough.
>>17635669
No, she is not a virgin. That scares me even more.
Today I can finally see why my dad left my mum all those yrs ago.
>be 23 and move back home after uni.
> a couple of relatively minor misunderstandings occur between me and my mum over a few weeks.
>Explain to mum that when we deal with these situations i feel sometimes she unnecessarily jumps to anger/starts raising her voice / generally being a bit difficult when i'm just trying to have a reasonable calm discussion to resolve the matter.
>mum continues to raise her voice and row over the finer details of these situations for 20mins.
>row doesn't end very constructively.. no division of household chores or working boundaries set.
> an hr later and she's pretending nothing has happened..
> repeat next week.
wtf how do i deal with this? there's this weird passive agressive desire to control the running of things vs. this 'Oh, i do everything around here!' dynamic.
Oh yeah, after last weeks row she told me to 'go fuck myself' and then didn't apologise all day. Eventually she did apologise. Wtf?
well we know at least one thing your dad did that worked....
Haha yup. He noped right out of there yeah.
Has anyone else's parents sworn at them before/ been like this?
My friend is mad at me because I don't like the way he broke up with his gf. He broke up with his gf of two years, after ignoring several of her texts, fucking around with some other girl, and then finally texting her saying he's just moving on. The poor girl was depressed and worried every second and he didn't really do much. Plus, he'd lie to us about what he's doing and he just spends most of his time now hanging with the other girls and not with us, his friends. Am I in the wrong here? He says I don't understand and that I'm "judging him."
The fuck do I do? We used to be good buds and now he never invites us to do anything. He just hangs out with this chick who drinks underage all the time.
>>17635606
uh, its his fucking life OP and it was their relationship so stay out of it
>>17635615
He keeps asking me why I don't like him that much any more. If he wants to fuck himself up he can go do that but not near me
>>17635619
ok then wash your hands of the guy and stop giving a shit, sounds like you got other buddies
So I found out yesterday that my gf of about 4 months has been texting some dude from her work for a few weeks. Ive never checked her phone or anything like that before but yesterday when we were hanging out i noticed her phone went off, she got a message 'hey baby' and i couldnt ignore.
Had her open up her phone and red the log, was for the past two days (the rest had been previously deleted).
>he asks her to come over and she says she cant, she has soccer and that her bf (me) is off work (yesterday).
>He says he wishes she was there right to cuddle her and she responds 'aww goodnight hun'
>he says he's thinking of 'naughty things' and her response is 'damn baby'
Granted she never said anything explicit, and hes obviously the instigator here. She claims he talked to her alot because he is going through relationship drama with his baby mama and she was just there for him as a friend.
I just feel torn. I want to believe her, but I got cheated on real bad in my first relationship and it left me scarred for life. I fucking knew something was up, last time we had sex she said it felt weird and tried to blame it on me, but really it was because shes been talking to this dude on the down low.
I want to break up with her, but then im gonna lose her and shes just gonna go right to this dude. I confronted him last night in person at his job, he apologized, blah blah blah, I wanted to punch him but ive already been arrested before so that would just get another notch on my record. But if I break up with her Im essentially just handing this dude my gf, and that doesnt feel right either.
What do?
Confront her, but be a man about it. If you already had awkward sex then it's not like bringing it up will ruin anything because its already affecting her. Tell her you were already cheated on and she needs to make it obvious to that guy she's not interested and not pussyfoot around it trying to be nice. She needs to value being nice to you over him and do as you want, not him. If she can't do something so simple and make it clear she's not interested then you should just leave her before you get cheated on again. Relationships are a two way street of respect and loyalty.
>But if I break up with her Im essentially just handing this dude my gf, and that doesnt feel right either.
If she's a skank and cheats WITH him, she'll cheat ON him too. So he'll get what he deserves soon enough.
>>17635604
OP are you reading the same shit as I am? Cause I see a girl that has already moved on to this guy right under your nose. All you got left is not letting them both make an even bigger fool of you than they already have. Oh, he's not the problem, she is for reciprocating and if you stay you can cock block him for a while but she'll find a way.
>be me
>sitting on the bus chatting it up with mate
>elderly black gentlemen talking on his phone sits next to use
>"you should see these white retarded faggots I'm sitting next to on the bus"
>spaghetti begins
>"one look like a hippopotamus the other got a two foot kike nose"
>he looks at us
>try to laugh it off "haha that's us...."
>"Na hold on imma put you on speakerphone so you can hear just how retarded this faggots are"
>holds his cellphone up to us
>spaghetti pours like a waterfall
>"h-ha."
>silence
>"folk like this ugly fuckin goons should be exterminated"
>gets off the bus and leaves
How are you supposed to handle shit like this? It happens every couple of weeks. If I say anything he'll call me racist and everyone in the bus will whoop my ass, and ignoring it makes me feel like a complete pussy. What do?
I don't think it is wrong to avoid the argument with those people, just stay silent, as long as he doesn't do anything to you except mocking you. it is the consequences of living in this social life nowadays.
get a car
public transportation literally attracts subhumans
Say "shut the fuck up old timer."